Extremely helpless emotion! Confused and ask for help!

Is this called love?

I hope you will calmly analyze the matter between you, from the moment you realize it, are you in a good mood? Do you really think she's right for you? Even if she came out of the countryside, I think it would have deteriorated.

I feel that your love is like child's play, she is very powerful, how can there be primitive people from the countryside, and it is too much to use a private car to pick up and drop off to and from work. No wonder your parents can't get used to it.

True love is given to each other, and it is also given to each other. She doesn't covet your material possessions, she only cares about the other party. Today you buy a house, she comes back and reconciles with you, tomorrow you buy a car, she will be better to you, and once you lose, she runs faster than anyone else.

Remember, your lover will not go up or down for you. But at least not so powerful. It is advisable to analyze the pros and cons of your time with her. You still have a long way to go, you must see it before you act.

Let's analyze it first: First, do you love her? Does she love you? The more you love her, the more you tolerate her.

Second, love is a test of each other. Divide and merge, she may be testing your sincerity? If you suspect that she is squeamish, greedy for money, and stepping on two boats, it is better to wait for her to break up again and tell her clearly:

You don't have to call me anymore, we're all over, this is what you want and what I want.

This friend, I don't know your specific emotional entanglements, but I still advise you, be kind to yourself, think about your parents, there is nothing you can't get by! Hope it helps

What a man can never get is the best! Dude, cherish the people in front of you! Don't wait for the future to be hateful!

I don't think you can even talk about liking her if you don't love her, so let's wait.

After all, the relationship will return to the flat, after getting married, you are picky about what she wears, she is not a girl anymore, she wants to dress up, she thinks about her future life. Let's put yourself in their shoes

It's good to get used to it. When you get used to her care. You can't live without her either.

She's a standard good wife and mother, and you're not grown up yet.

One day he ignores you, and you know how important she is! Cherish the person in front of you, or you can leave her for a while and try it out and see who thinks of whom more!

People you don't like will not be happy no matter how hard you force them to be together, you still want to get married, you either cherish her, or leave her and don't hurt her.

You don't just like those women who are glamorous on the outside, maybe it's vanity, calm down, and you will find that the person you love is around.

As far as you are concerned, as a man, I feel that you can't hang yourself from a tree without such a woman, she may have changed her mind, or just find someone, and this person can bring her some comfort, but once it involves love, she may let go, and she doesn't want to talk about marriage with you at all. Brothers are not as good as short-term pain, loving someone needs to be sincere, but loving someone requires the joint efforts of both parties, otherwise sooner or later they will be separated. Think about it rationally for yourself.

Forget about the past, it's important to seize the present, love him well, such a girl is good to you, be content, two people are fate together. Cherish her well.

One; Because you have been hurt, you say that you are afraid. In any case, the past is an indelible mark for everyone. Let them be memories. Now is the time to give yourself a fresh start. Believe that you will have a happy future.

Two; You're a face-loving person. And she is indeed a very frugal person. She thought about the future.

She starts planning for the future now. If you still mind that much. You can save a piece of money for her to buy a dress.

Then take her to buy it. Finally, I want to say that it looks good.

Three; It's not easy to meet a good girl now. Don't give up on today because of the past. She's all about you.

You have to treat her with your heart. Anyway, what she did to you. You do whatever you want to her.

Anyway, it's destined to get married. You know that she is different from the previous three, why don't you dare to release your love?

I'm glad that some women have left you.

She is too good to you and not suitable for you because you don't cherish it, and as a result, you hurt her and fooled yourself.

Marriage and love can not be equated, when you are looking for milk powder for your son every day, will you still want to be romantic, if your salary is more than 1,000 a month and roses are one yuan, will you buy 9999 flowers for her to find that moment of romance, remember that the knot defeats love.

Any boy will experience the washing of love and love before he gradually becomes a man. And all the innocent and romantic feelings will gradually transform into the seasoning of real life such as firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea in the process, it can be said that if you are not her now, but any of the first three, you will still be what you are now.

After reading a lot of your words, in fact, I also like a person, but the distance between them is very far, but I still choose to like it.

You are an online dating, and it is true that there are many cases that prove that there are very few people who become partners, but it does not mean that there are none.

You like her, she likes you, that's enough, sometimes, calmness is also a bridge, give each other a little more time, there will definitely be misses, there will definitely be discomfort, I hope you can give each other a little more time.

After all, there is an illusory element in the Internet, so don't lose your mind when you are in love. I also wish lovers to become married!

I think it's better to be separated for a period of time if the relationship between two people develops too quickly, but if you really love each other, you won't be in contact with each other for so long, and if two people don't contact each other for too long, then it means that the other party has a problem.

If it were me, I would go straight to her.

1. Your character is formed because your growth process is too smooth, too smooth, too calm, too single, you don't have to worry about most things, and the education you receive should be better, so that you will not be too ambitious, and then you will idealize many things, including your life, ideals, etc., and then the requirements for everything are high, in fact, this is not what perfectionism is, this is just one of the characters due to environmental influences, this kind of character is not only you, If you look closely, you will see that there are many such people around you, but there are some differences in the way they express themselves.

2. It doesn't matter if you fall in love or not, everyone's lifestyle is different, many men don't start their first love until they are thirty years old, but because people are more mature, they make more accurate choices, so they live a happier life.

3. The reason why you have an 'abnormal' feeling is because your 'face' is troublesome, as you said above, your current life should not be very regular, which means that you are still a little 'floating', and you are not 'old' enough. And you don't have any goals or ideals that you want to achieve for the time being, so you seem to be a bit 'idle' right now, so you have the heart to think about your own 'normal' problem.

4. Finding the perfect partner is every man's dream, not the patent of the 'perfectionist' you say, everyone wants to be better. You should have been influenced by some kind of idea to produce the standard of a 'perfect woman': for example, your mother or father told you how a woman should be when she was a child, or you have met a certain girl and you don't know very well, she has given you a certain 'moment' and become perfect because you don't understand, etc.

In short, you should 'settle' for a while, first 'reluctantly' accept a relationship (or several) with a girl you feel a little bit about, and it won't be long before you change. Now you should have more contact with people with different personalities, learn more about society, and then become a little more 'realistic' yourself, and get rid of your idealization is fundamental!!

It feels like it's all a lie.

What's mine is always mine, it's always going to be when it's supposed to be, and it's all fake.

These are all things to be fought for on your own.

Why do you always see the shortcomings of others?

You say that you have the right girl among your friends because they go to a club, and you don't think it's good, why don't you think so, if I get along with them, they don't go to the club for me.

That's not fine.

Why do you only see their past, aren't you also venting, can't they?

You don't like the world, you think the world is hypocritical.

But what can you do?

In fact, it is perfectionism that is at work, in other words, spiritual cleanliness.

It's true that today's girls don't want to be as traditional as they used to be, and can be very casual and presumptuous, but that's not exactly the case.

The ideal girl may not exist in reality, so it is still necessary to adjust the psychology appropriately.

It's not that you're sick or thinking too much, but there's no need to do that.

It's very simple, change yourself appropriately, accept reality, and can't find Lin Daiyu in your dreams, at least Xue Baochai in reality.

The ideal is not perfect, and the reality may not be a bright feeling.

In addition, it's not too late to fall in love at the age of 23, and my husband didn't start talking until he was 25 years old, and it went very well.

Indeed, there are quite a few similar situations in real life. Although 23 years old is not very old, but once people are over 20 years old and have not even talked about a formal love, it is inevitable that there will be this kind of emotion in your heart. On the other hand, I also have a little bit of requirements for the object, after all, I am young and I don't want my love to be like just going through the motions.

It's a very ambivalent mentality, but I don't know how to solve it.

Feelings are a very laborious thing, and having thoughts in this area can also be very distracting.

In this case, everyone is suitable for different methods, but I think the general way is to pay attention to the ...... of the girls around youIt may not be exactly the same as you think, but there will always be a more suitable one.

Find a girl who you think is good, but don't look for a girl with a temperament that you can't stand at all, try to date ......Maybe you will find that the other party is really good (a girl, really in love will change a lot), maybe it really becomes!

It doesn't matter if it doesn't work, after all, the possibility of first love being the other half is very ......Only those who have been in love know how to cherish others! The next girl might just be your destiny!

Why do you keep meeting those nightclub girls? Do your friends say they like to spend all day in nightclubs?

Not every girl goes to a nightclub, and there are a lot of simple girls, but you don't meet them.

You can change the environment and meet different people.

You say you're 23 years old, male.

Are you in a hurry? You said that you studied abroad, which is a good opportunity to further your education.

If you can't meet your ideal girl now, you can put your energy into studying first.

Feelings really depend on fate. If you don't have fate, you won't meet, and if you meet, you have to fight for it.

So everything is natural, you don't have to look too seriously, and you don't have to have too much psychological pressure.

Make it easy for yourself and everything will be fine.

You're still very young. Is it a problem with your circle, why do women go to nightclubs? I haven't been abroad, in China, there are many people who don't think it's crazy not to go to nightclubs, I'm older than you, and the post-90s generation really doesn't know much, but I believe there are still people who are not so crazy.

Feelings are something that depends on feelings, and if you don't feel anything, you don't need to talk about it.

In fact, people need to adapt slowly when they enter society, and some personalities must be changed.

I believe that fate will come when it should come.

First of all, I want to say that you are only 23 years old, and I don't know if you are out of society? Now whether there is or not, the most important thing is that you don't get too entangled in love, because our life is not just about love, let it be, you are not too old.

Also, you can try to live and work in new places and develop your new circle of friends, not everyone is like the friends you make now, so there are still many ways to keep yourself from dwelling on this.

You think a lot, don't put those perfectionisms on your back, it will put more pressure on yourself. Realize your emotional blankness and take the initiative to improve it. If you can't be in a hurry to fall in love, make some friends of the opposite sex, talk to them about your mood, and slowly ease.

Girls don't all go to nightclubs, there are girls who don't go to nightclubs, love always starts with friends, don't worry, go make more friends first.

I don't think there's anything wrong with you, you're only twenty-three years old and still very young, what's there to worry about, it's not that you're not normal in your heart so you don't have a girlfriend, the main problem is because you like clean girls, don't like girls who are too messy, and it just so happens that you don't have the type you like around you, I support your behavior, which shows that you have high requirements for feelings, it shows that you are a serious person about feelings, and you don't want to follow the crowd, and now there are too few boys like you, so it will seem that you are more different, But again, I affirm that you are normal, you are a good boy, but I would suggest that you make more friends and jump out of your circle of friends, so that you will give yourself more opportunities to meet other girls, so that you can find her in your heart.