A person s revenge psychology, how to look at revenge psychology

Revenge is hurting others and hurting oneself at the same time! Why be so careful? Take a step back, the sea and the sky are wide!

Betrayal shows that you don't love you anymore, so why feel sorry for this kind of person.

You should cherish your feelings, find better girls, and create your own happiness.

You should be glad that you are only friends and not married, otherwise, wouldn't it hurt even more?

Everyone is angry, and they lose their minds.

Go out for a walk and see the outside world, and you can regulate your mood.

You find that you really shouldn't, pay attention to that.

Forget about the things that don't go well in life. In the future, we must live well, people do not live all their lives, they live very smoothly, but strive to live comfortably. Killing is useless.

In the future, it's better to find someone who is good for you than anything else.

Go find a girl who loves you and you love, people are short, think more about beautiful things.

Heart Garden] cares for the soul, healthy companion [Rose] [Rose] Good morning sharing [Sun] [Sun].

Revenge psychology: Revenge psychology is due to the fact that an individual's behavior has caused a certain degree of damage to the interests of others, so those whose interests are damaged will find ways to retaliate against those who hurt him. In fact, revenge psychology is a kind of self-defense and protection mechanism.

The self-defense mechanism was first proposed by Sigmund Freud, and then his daughter Anna Freud systematically studied and refined it. "Everyone, whether normal or neurotic, uses defense mechanisms to varying degrees in some of their words and actions," she stressed.

The defense mechanism arises from the strong will of life, which is an evolutionary advantage strategy. The so-called survival of the fittest, those weak strategies are gradually eliminated and replaced by these advantageous strategies, so we inherit these instincts inherited from our ancestors in our bones.

We all use psychological defense mechanisms in our daily lives, and revenge psychology is also one of the defense mechanisms, a stress state that we cannot escape. However, if an individual is too obsessed with revenge and enters an extreme or generalized state, it is not conducive to interpersonal communication, and will also cause certain physical or psychological harm to others, and ultimately harm others and themselves. As a modern society, we must not allow the revenge mentality to expand unchecked, but we must also control it appropriately.

As stated in the theory of positive emotion expansion construction, positive emotions give us creativity and allow us to look at the people and things around us with an open eye, while negative emotions make us extremely sensitive and make negative evaluations of people and things around us, so we can't let this negative emotion of revenge erode our hearts. We want to control this defense mechanism. One of the ways to control is to tolerate the other person and use tolerance to alleviate hatred.

Treat others with a tolerant heart, so that our interpersonal relationships are more harmonious [loving] [loving].

I've had a similar compensatory behavior myself.

First of all, for a boy born in the 80s like me, Transformers are the favorite toys of our generation when they were young, but when I was young, Transformers often cost dozens or even hundreds of yuan, which is almost equivalent to a month's salary of my parents, although at that time my father gritted his teeth and spent dozens of yuan to buy me a dinosaur Transformers toy, but deep down in my heart I was more eager to get a set of combination Transformers, and this set of combination Transformers at that time required more than 200 yuan, It was equivalent to a month's salary for my dad and a half, and apparently my dad couldn't meet my excessive demand.

Secondly, when I became an adult, I had the ability to make my own money, I found that my childhood favorite Transformers toys are still on sale, which gives me the possibility of satisfying childhood dreams and regrets, although the current set of combination Transformers toys ** is already more than 2000 yuan, equivalent to 1 3 of my monthly salary, but I still gritted my teeth and chose a set of Hercules combination Transformers that I liked most in my childhood, which can be regarded as a compensation for the unfulfilled dreams of my childhood.

Recall in our minds, and then find the root cause of the retaliatory compensatory behavior we are exhibiting today, and that's when the injured child comes to mind. We have to try to recall the mood at that time, and then use our current self to talk to our original self and tell the "child": "You have grown up, you don't need to get a sense of security through external objects, and when you grow up, you can become the ** of your sense of security."

In addition to this, we can also modify this retaliatory compensatory mentality a little, so that it not only does not bother us, but can be used by us to help us improve ourselves.

Why didn't a person take action if he had a strong vindictive mentality and had the opportunity to take revenge on others?

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Someone has a strong sense of revenge, but there are several reasons why they don't take action. They recognize that retaliatory action can lead to more problems and consequences, including legal problems, loss of social reputation, broken relationships, etc. Because of this, they chose to endure or give up revenge in order to avoid further trouble.

They have a certain sense of morality and realize that revenge is wrong and violates moral and ethical principles. They choose to be forgiving and understanding rather than retaliate. Sometimes, retaliation can lead to putting oneself in danger or being harmed.

To protect themselves, they choose to avoid or refrain from retaliation. After a period of sober reflection, they realized that revenge would not solve the problem, but would only deepen hatred and contradictions. They choose to solve the problem through other means, such as dialogue, mediation or compromise.