After having a conflict with someone, I m afraid of coming into contact with someone

I was also very traumatized psychologically, and until now I still avoid it, not wanting others to mention it to me, and never thinking about it myself. If someone accidentally brings it up, I'm quick to change the subject; If you suddenly remember, you should quickly fill your brain with something else. To put it bluntly, it's an escape.

However, escaping does not solve the problem. In fact, your problem is better to solve, go to the roommate who has had a conflict with you, turn enemies into friends, even if you can't, no matter who is right or wrong, you have to explain the problem clearly, so that you don't have to bear the psychological burden.

Be bold in contact with others, no one will discriminate against you, the so-called "being isolated and left out in the cold" is just an excuse for us to avoid others. Bravely walk out of the darkness in your heart.

The skin is too thin.

A lot of people are very communicative, why?

He's probably just finished arguing with you this minute. The next minute, I'll come over and ask you what you're eating for lunch.

They don't care what other people think.

In fact, sometimes the puppets give themselves too many shackles.

I feel that I have done something, and others care about it, and I will have an opinion about the couple.

Actually, sometimes that's not the case. They may have forgotten about it a long time ago, or they didn't even care about it.

It's the puppets themselves who put a trap on themselves.

Be relaxed, thick-skinned, and don't care about some things.

You have to be proactive, and interpersonal relationships in society are essential.

Sometimes you have to learn to be humble and learn to apologize. From now on. Do everything well, take others seriously, and don't be afraid of isolation or ridicule. Stick to your outlook on life, and I'm sure you'll develop a strong will and temperament. Others will naturally be attracted to you.

Discuss your views with others or communicate them in a humorous way, and you will quickly integrate into society.

As long as you take the initiative to communicate with others.

I have it too. I don't know, maybe I'm shy. It is still being corrected.

But later, I also watched the Internet and said, why do you care about other people's eyes, are others really looking at you, or are you psychological? Are you so attention-grabbing, don't overthink it ... Do what you want.

People don't know you, and you care what they do. ？

Relax, it's not a big deal, participate in more exercise, find things you like to do, communicate more with others about some questions that interest you, it's really not good, ask a psychologist, I wish you a speedy recovery.

I can understand your feelings, in fact, if we are very afraid of conflicts with others, but we are not confident in ourselves, we are afraid of the problems that conflicts bring us, we do not have the confidence to deal with these problems, and after these conflicts occur, we will have a lot of negative emotions, such as fear, fear, worry, etc., so you think that others are in a bad mood, it will bring us conflicts, this kind of thinking is also very normal.

Faced with this situation, how to crack it? to develop your self-confidence. Regardless of whether there is a conflict or not, we must understand that other people's feelings have nothing to do with us, we must learn to cultivate our own self-confidence, when faced with conflicts and contradictions, we must learn to defend our rights and interests and refute them, of course, I do not recommend that you fight with the other party, I just hope that you can fight back in order to protect yourself. When we are afraid of conflict with others, look at our current emotions, if this happens, what will happen, we can tell ourselves, how should I be, or I stick to my principles, the other party violates the boundary, maybe what kind of reaction I should make, this needs to be aware and judge by yourself.

, learn to separate topics. Other people's mood is someone else's business, we can't control other people's mood, we can only control our own mood, so you say that others are in a bad mood, in fact, it has nothing to do with us, so we don't have to worry about others being in a bad mood, if others express anger to us, we can also fight back in the same way, because this is a manifestation of the other party's violation of our bottom line. to develop independent thinking and judgment. When there is a conflict, we must learn to think about why we have conflicts, what are the causes, and what the problems are, find out the root of the problem, and then analyze the problem and find out the solution to resolve the conflict, the conflict itself is not the problem, how to solve the conflict is the fundamental problem, so see it, see yourself again, and learn to analyze and think.

In general, we all have to cultivate our own self-confidence, not afraid of conflict, and not resistant to conflict, because people are different, where there are people, there will be rivers and lakes, so there will definitely be contradictions and problems, see yourself, be aware of problems, and believe in yourself!

Relax your mentality, don't care too much about other people's emotions, change the way you speak, don't deliberately suppress yourself, and let go of your mentality.

In the process of getting along with other people, you must pay attention to the way you express yourself, don't say whatever you want to say, and try to observe the other person's expression, don't say something that hurts the other party, in addition to this, you should also insist on yourself, even if it annoys the other party, it doesn't matter, we should focus on ourselves in life, and don't be wronged by ourselves for the sake of others.

Don't have such thoughts, adjust your mentality, don't put too much pressure on yourself, be yourself, love yourself more, and don't care too much about what others think.

I think you're first and foremost a kind person and don't like to argue with people. You have to change two things psychologically. 1.

You have to change your attitude of "calming things down" in everything, because good people are also people who have the right to express their opinions; 2.It is also necessary to change the idea that "theory with others = contradictions". It's not an unseemly thing to have contradictions, there are not even two identical leaves in the world, let alone people?

So, learn from our ***, the "survival of common differences" proposed at the Bandung Conference. Also, from your description, I deduce that your eloquence should not be very good, you care a lot about what others say about you, and you are relatively lazy, lazy to use your mouth and brain. In this way, over time, your language function will deteriorate, and you will put everything on hold. And psychology also has a bottom line, and it will be very dangerous when it reaches a certain level.

To sum up, you have to try to do this: Tell yourself that I want to be the master of my own thoughts, whether others agree or not, I say that I am worthy of myself and the other party, because I don't want to hide anything from you, and I express my true thoughts to you.

Thank you for the trouble to adopt!

This is a habit of self-preservation, maybe you have been hurt, so you will be afraid of the contradictions in your relationship with others, in fact, there is nothing to be afraid of, learn to go with your heart.

Psychoanalysis: Hello, subject.

After reading your description, you say that you are afraid of conflict with others, that you are worried that others will be in a bad mood, etc. It seems that you are not confident and can understand your feelings.

I can understand your feelings, in fact, if we are very afraid of conflicts with others, but we are not confident in ourselves, we are afraid of the problems that conflicts bring us, we do not have the confidence to deal with these problems, and after these conflicts occur, we will have a lot of negative emotions, such as fear, fear, worry, etc., so you think that others are in a bad mood, it will bring us conflicts, this kind of thinking is also very normal.

Faced with this situation, how to crack it? to develop your self-confidence. Regardless of whether there is a conflict or not, we must understand that other people's feelings have nothing to do with us, we must learn to cultivate our own self-confidence, when faced with conflicts and contradictions, I must learn to defend our rights and interests and refute them, of course, I do not recommend that you fight with the other party, but I hope you can fight back in order to protect yourself.

When we are afraid of conflict with others, look at our current emotions, if this happens, what will happen, we can tell ourselves, how should I be, or I stick to my principles, the other party violates the boundary, maybe what kind of reaction I should make, this needs to be aware and judge by yourself. , learn to separate topics. Other people's mood is someone else's business, we can't control other people's mood, we can only control our own mood, so you say that others are in a bad mood, in fact, this has nothing to do with us, so we don't have to worry about others being in a bad mood, if others express anger to us, we can also fight back in the same way, because this is the other party's violation of our bottom line.

to develop independent thinking and judgment. When there is a conflict, we must learn to think about why we have conflicts, what are the causes, and what the problems are, find out the root of the problem, and then analyze the problem, find out the solution to solve the conflict, the conflict itself is not the problem, how to solve the conflict is the fundamental problem, so see it, see yourself, learn to analyze and think.

In general, we all have to cultivate our own self-confidence, not afraid of conflict, and not resistant to conflict, because people are different, where there are people, there will be rivers and lakes, so there will definitely be contradictions and problems, see yourself, be aware of problems, and believe in yourself!

Hope mine is helpful to you.

Hello, subject After reading your description, you said that you are afraid of having conflicts with others, worrying that others will be in a bad mood, and so on. It seems that you are not confident and can understand your feelings. I can understand your feelings, in fact, if we are very afraid of conflicts with others, but we are not confident in ourselves, we are afraid of the problems that conflicts bring us, we do not have the confidence to deal with these problems, and after these conflicts occur, we will have a lot of negative emotions, such as fear, fear, worry, etc., so you think that others are in a bad mood, it will bring us conflicts, this kind of thinking is also very normal.

Faced with this situation, how to crack it? to develop your self-confidence. Regardless of whether there is a conflict or not, we must understand that other people's feelings have nothing to do with us, we must learn to cultivate our own self-confidence, when faced with conflicts and contradictions, we must learn to defend our rights and interests and refute them, of course, I do not recommend that you fight with the other party, I just hope that you can fight back in order to protect yourself.

When we are afraid of conflict with others, look at our current emotions, if this happens, what will happen, we can tell ourselves, how should I be, or I stick to my principles, the other party violates the boundary, maybe what kind of reaction I should make, this needs to be aware and judge by yourself. Wild eggplant, learn to separate topics. Other people's mood is someone else's business, we can't control other people's mood, we can only control our own mood, so you say that others are in a bad mood, in fact, it has nothing to do with us, so we don't have to worry about others being in a bad mood, if others express anger to us, we can also fight back in the same way, because this is a manifestation of the other party's violation of our bottom line.

to develop independent thinking and judgment. When there is a conflict, we must learn to think about why we have conflicts, what are the causes, and what the problems are, find out the root of the problem, and then analyze the problem and find out the solution to resolve the conflict, the conflict itself is not the problem, how to solve the conflict is the fundamental problem, so see it, see yourself again, and learn to analyze and think. In general, we all have to cultivate our own self-confidence, not afraid of conflict, nor resistant to conflict, because people are inherently different, where there are people, there will be rivers and lakes, so there will definitely be contradictions and problems, see yourself, be aware of problems, believe in yourself I hope mine will help you.

Hello subject! I'm July. After reading your description, I have a certain understanding of the question you want to ask, and here, I will also give you a hug of the four-dimensional space.

The problem you mentioned in your description, in my opinion, is that you care too much about the feelings and thoughts of others. Therefore, many times you will ignore your thoughts and feelings. This may have something to do with the family environment in which you grew up, because you may have lived in an environment where you have been a good child since you were a child, and you can't make random requests or make others angry, but you have to try to show that you are a good child and a child, because only in this way will your parents like you more.

In fact, it is also a great thing for you to be aware of your own problems at the moment, because from now on, there will definitely be some changes that will happen to you, so give yourself some time and energy, and slowly change. At this point, I have also summarized some ways to help you alleviate the current situation, I hope it can help you to a certain extent. 1) You are very important, don't grieve your own thoughts and feelings a lot of times, and put other people's thoughts and feelings in the first place, know that you are the most important, so your thoughts and feelings are also the first.

2) Don't be afraid of contradictions or conflicts with others, because it is normal to have contradictions and conflicts, and don't be too afraid of contradictions and conflicts, because sometimes the more you are afraid of contradictions and conflicts, the more often contradictions and conflicts will occur. 3) Do what you should do, and leave the rest to time, because you have already done what you should do, so, for you, whether there is a good result, this is not something you can decide. 4) Face up to your true thoughts in your heart, and don't suppress your true thoughts and feelings too much, but express your true thoughts and feelings more.

5) The courage to be hated and the courage to be happy are two very good books, pushed to you, if you have time, you can read and read, I believe it will give you a different harvest?. The world and I love you? Best wishes?