I m struggling with relationships in college, please

It is very difficult for people in a dormitory in a university to have the same aspirations, and they are generally different. Respect other people's ambitions or ideas, and at the same time absorb their strengths, and don't be too stubborn about your own ambitions, and after a few years you will feel that your current ideas are a bit naïve. Of course, what you have to insist on is still to persevere, and the support of your classmates is actually quite unnecessary, just respect.

I feel that too, because everyone's life background before meeting is different, creating differences between people, remember *** said about the relationship between countries: seek common ground while reserving differences. It feels like the same should be true between people.

A classmate in my dormitory is always unsociable (6-person dormitory), there are many reasons, we also try to solve it, but the effect is not good, but overall I am relatively satisfied with this dormitory, not easy to meet, as long as the other party does not have unforgivable big mistakes, faults, are tolerable. After all, it is necessary to accompany each other for 3 or 4 years.

Extend others, in order to make people adapt to you, people are social animals, don't blindly emphasize personal aspirations and habits, children are not fish, and the joy of knowing fish? Therefore, comparing the heart to the heart, you may not understand others, but you cannot oppose others.

It's normal to adapt to it I'm a sophomore this year I don't think it's a problem at all You do your thing It's none of your business what others do If you only find friends like you How boring it is Thinking won't progress Conquering others is also quite enjoyable.

At the beginning of college, it was not easy to get along with people with different personality backgrounds. Most people experience interpersonal problems. If you don't know which city you are in, you can try to go to the school's counseling room for help.

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The so-called "different ways do not conspire with each other" and the so-called like-minded people to find friends who have on the same pot.

<> have their own good friends.

I think it's normal for the complexity of interpersonal relationships in universities, because universities are like a small society, and each of us is in it, as long as we can find our own positioning and goals, we will also determine the circle and network around us. Whether the relationship is complicated or not depends on your own choice.

Handle the relationship with roommates.

It's complicated when you're exploring.

If you have the courage to explore and want to get some exercise opportunities and honors in college, then you should make more friends and make friends, complete the tasks assigned by the teacher and deal with them flexibly, take the initiative to strive for every opportunity and take it seriously, and not rush forward when looking at things, you should think twice and make reasonable decisions. In such an environment, sometimes you will encounter more difficult problems, such as your good friend and you compete for an honor at the same time, whether you will trust each other and compete fairly without reservation, or everyone has their own little Jiujiu in their hearts, although it is not a big thing, but too many such things will still hurt feelings, there are many problems and complex, and the people facing it are also very wide, so every step has to ask yourself whether you can accept the results and whether you are willing to crawl in such an environment. Of course, in the process, we will gain a lot of friendships, get a lot of resources, and then get more growth opportunities and a bigger stage, but behind the glamorous that others can't see, we will also make a lot of efforts and sacrifices.

When you're a Buddha, it's simple.

There is also a kind of Buddhist character who answers the Lord and me, I just want to take the exam and not fail the subject, choose what I choose, and forget it if I can't choose, and then do some things I like in the four years of college, and graduate in a proper manner. So in my circle, I feel very satisfied with a few friends who eat together, drink milk tea and chat. Occasionally, when I hear from other students that I don't know about some complicated things, I will feel that there are still a little waves under this calm surface.

However, Buddhism does get some opportunities for training, and the problems are a little shallow, but for myself, it can be regarded as a simple happiness.

In short, each step of our journey depends on our own choices, and what path you choose determines the complexity of interpersonal relationships, but each path is wonderful, don't care about the eyes of others, just move forward towards what you want in your heart.

The interpersonal relationship of college students is mainly manifested in the following aspects:

1. Respect others. Only if you respect others, will you win the respect of others, abide by the rules and regulations of the dormitory, do not litter, do not read books and play games at night, you must learn to empathize, and you can't force others to do what you can't do. 2.

Learn to communicate. It is inevitable that there will be contradictions and misunderstandings under the same roof, so don't give up communication and communication because of the contradictions and misunderstandings of the great family, and regard each other as enemies, which can only make the contradictions more intense and cause unnecessary harm. In the face of contradictions and misunderstandings, we should take the initiative to communicate, exchange, and reconcile, and don't let misunderstandings block the friendship between classmates.

3. Group activities. Only in this way can we better understand ourselves and others, eliminate misunderstandings between each other, and strengthen mutual understanding and trust. Learn to appreciate and praise others, words of praise will bring happiness to the person being praised, cause positive emotional reactions, emotions are contagious, good mood will be transmitted to the people around you, happiness can dissolve the deadlock of interpersonal relationships, so that the dormitory relationship becomes harmonious.

How have you changed after a few years of working compared to when you first started? First of all, my heart is getting stronger and stronger. Do things and become not afraid of making a fool of yourself.

I think that's a good change. At the beginning of graduation, whether it was in the office or going to the construction site, I was always embarrassed to ask questions on the spot. Because what I think in my heart is what I want to express, and I know it, but I can't let others think that I don't know anything.

Even if you don't understand, you have to pretend to understand it very well, otherwise you will feel ugly. Now I have seen it, it's not a normal thing. Especially when I was in the office, I went to the construction site to calculate the drawings, and it was normal to not understand it when I was on site.

Ask what you need to ask. Even the most mentally retarded questions. No one will laugh at you.

In fact, the people on the construction site are almost the best group to communicate, as long as you ask whether it is an old construction worker or a young formwork, the worker will tell you endlessly, and you have not understood the words, they will want to tell you in detail, and even take the trouble to run down in person. Tell you what's going on? I never saw a look of contempt and contempt for me on their faces.

These people are really a huge knowledge base, and of course, you say politely, a comrade who smokes a cigarette or something is better than reading half a book.

In addition, the biggest change is that I face and accept my own shortcomings, instead of Liang Zhao reluctantly changing himself in order to pursue a certain goal, pretending that others are much less than before, and exaggerated. Live more and more realistically, understand the difference between lofty and ambitious, and have a much deeper understanding of people than before, and don't care too much, or completely ignore others. Calligraphy that understands that career is not everything.

A happy life is the result of a balance of many aspects. No longer superstitious authority, try to think for yourself, realize that all contradictions are conflicts of interest, or misunderstandings. Therefore, learn to seek common ground while reserving differences, and broaden others, so learn to seek common ground while reserving differences, and be lenient with others.

In addition, there is a change in the morning of thinking and laughing, that is, when I was in college, my life could not be said to be luxurious or particularly good, but it was still very moisturized, and I often went shopping and went out to eat big meals. This is a very ordinary life, after coming out to work for a few years, I find that my life has become more and more contrasting, I have earned money, but it is not as good as school life, I used to be my parents' money, and I don't worry about running out of money at all. Now in addition to monthly rent, water, electricity, transportation, and food, there is basically no money left.

So I know how to live well.