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It is impossible to make up for the generation gap, and it is impossible for us to manage other people's things from birth to the present.
The gap depends on what the gap is, if it is a difference in height and age, this is naturally irreparable. Education, culture, etc., it's almost impossible to make up for it, it's impossible to go to college again in order to fall in love, and it's not something you can read if you want to. Family background, connections, this is a matter decided by the fathers, and it must not be able to make up for it.
In addition to these gaps, are there any important gaps, no, so the gap cannot be bridged.
But as long as everyone is willing to accept it, no matter what generation gap or gap, it is not a problem. Sister Milk Tea and Brother Qiang Dong are the best proof of this.
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Generation gap definition. People of different ages have different circles of life, different things and people they come into contact with, so their thinking methods and behaviors are also different. If this disparity is not improved and allowed to widen, an invisible wall will form between the two generations, and misunderstandings will easily arise.
This is what is called generational gap in psychology, to paraphrase a modern language, the so-called "generation gap".
The phenomenon of generation gap, there will be a generation gap in the age difference of ten or twenty years, but now, in the fast-paced 21st century, there will be a "gap" with a difference of three years. It is the so-called: "three-year-old generation gap".
Settle. Learn to communicate, how to communicate? Mainly do the following:
Acceptance: After careful analysis and thinking, after clarifying the opinions and attitudes of the other party, accept the correct and reasonable parts of the other party and give up their own prejudices.
Integration: Young people can learn from the old people, and the old people can learn new ideas from the young people, and the two can complement each other's strengths and weaknesses to merge into a more perfect solution.
Compromise: For the different ideas and opinions of two generations, a compromise can be reached, and the interests of both sides can be taken into account on the basis of making some concessions on both sides.
Coexistence: If one's actions do not harm the interests of the other party, and the differences of opinion between the two parties do not involve issues of principle, they can hold their own opinions and do not interfere with each other.
Shelving: On issues of principle, the two sides have different views, and they should not be pointed at Mai Mang, so as to make their faces red and hurt their peace. You can put the problem on hold for the time being, wait and see how it develops, and wait for the opportunity to solve it later.
Hope it works for you.
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Yes, but it's long enough to wait until you're old enough.
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We grew up in very different environments from our parents, and different environments influence people's perspectives and perceptions. As we grow up and have our own ideas and opinions, we gradually create a generation gap with our parents.
The generation gap, simply put, is the mental distance caused by the ideological gap between people of different age levels. It's like a ravine, separating people from generation to generation. In fact, the generation gap is very normal, with the progress of the times and the speed of change is getting faster and faster, the generation gap no longer only exists with each generation, between the same generation, although the age difference is very small, or the growth environment is different, there will be a modern gap.
The quarrels between us and our parents over small things are actually only the surface of the generation gap, and they are far from the essence of the generation gap. The nature of the generation gap is the difference between us and our parents in terms of outlook on life, worldview, and values.
The friction and unhappiness caused by the generation gap are not the fault of either party, but the different growth environments, experiences and ways of dealing with the world affect a person's growth. It shapes a person's outlook on life, values, and worldview.
The generation gap is not an occasional disagreement, not a youthful rebellion or an over-secretion of hormones. It is the collision and friction between a person and the worldview of others after he has a formed understanding of the world. It is an inevitable phenomenon of rapid progress.
Therefore, in the face of the generation gap, we must understand it correctly, respect the inconsistency between us and our parents, and not blame it. At the same time, you can also try to communicate and exchange, so that parents can also slowly respect and tolerate the ideas and opinions of the younger generation. Only in this way, living under the same roof, can the friction and annoyance caused by the generation gap be reduced as much as possible.
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Between the older generation and the younger generation, no matter when, the generation gap exists objectively and is not subject to human will. The older generation and the younger generation have experienced different times and environments, different tempering and training in life, different education and edification, and different family roles they play, so there are differences in the way of thinking, value scale, living habits, and behavioral concepts, and conflicts and collisions will inevitably occur in getting along.
The times are developing, and people's lifestyles, working methods, and communication methods are constantly changing. The learning ability of the older generation is gradually declining and the adaptability is gradually weakened, while the younger generation is relatively at the forefront of the development of the times and has stronger learning and adaptability. The faster the development of the times, the more obvious this difference will be, and the generation gap will tend to widen.
Only by facing up to the generation gap can we have the basis for the correct response. After making an effort to make the ditch as shallow and narrow as possible.
2. Bridge communication.
The generation gap is not an abyss, not an insurmountable chasm. There are few major issues of right and wrong between generations, not necessarily who is right and who is wrong, and there are often misunderstandings and incomprehensions. The older and younger are on either side of the ditch.
Chickens and dogs smell each other, old and dead do not get along, lack of confiding, lack of listening, will only make more and more misunderstandings and grudges deeper and deeper.
I don't agree with the idea of "bridging the generation gap". Not to mention that the generation gap is not necessarily negative and derogatory, its objectivity determines that it cannot be filled or erased. The smart way is to face the objectively existing "ditch", build a bridge of communication, and build a channel for information and emotional interaction.
There is a bridge in the ditch, it depends on whether you can walk through it or not.
The communication between the elders and the juniors can be discussed directly in the face of problems, or they can be in the daily chat and "family cooking". Communication is an interaction, and the value is "initiative". It can be the initiative of the older generation, or the initiative of the juniors.
This interactive process makes ideological understandings tend to be consistent, emotions tend to merge, and misunderstandings can be eliminated.
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It can be avoided. If you look for an earlier problem, there is no generation gap. For example, talk about the history of the family three generations ago.
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Personally, I don't think the generation gap is an occasional disagreement; The generation gap is not the rebellion of youth or the excessive secretion of hormones; The generation gap is the collision and friction between a person and other people's worldview after they have a preliminary understanding of the world. The only way out is to seek common ground while reserving differences - under the same roof, how easy it is to seek common ground while reserving differences.
Quarrels over trivial matters are only the appearance of the generation gap, far from the essence of the generation gap. The essence lies in the difference in outlook on life, worldview, and values.
When I discover the essence of life's little things, I am suddenly so powerless: the generation gap is not an occasional disagreement; The generation gap is not the rebellion of youth or the excessive secretion of hormones;
The generation gap is the collision and friction between a person and other people's worldview after they have a preliminary understanding of the world. The only way out is to seek common ground while reserving differences - under the same roof, how easy it is to seek common ground while reserving differences.
I know they truly love me and give for me; I love them too. But we weren't destined to be one of the same people. I'm not a copy of them, I'm so different from them, I don't know whether to be happy or sad.
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Recently, I've been thinking about the generation gap between myself and my mother-in-law.
There is a saying that there is a generation gap every three years, and the age difference between me and my mother-in-law is a full 9 generations.
Therefore, this must not mention the problem of getting along with the elderly, and when getting along with the elderly, it is necessary to popularize many things that are commonly used by modern young people, such as Internet taxis.
Because I was afraid that when I gave birth, I would not be able to take a taxi by myself because of an accident, so I tried to teach my mother-in-law to take a taxi many times. For young people, no matter how simple the taxi software is, the elderly have to teach it countless times to learn, but even if they learn it, they will immediately forget how to use it next time. At that time, I was a little desperate to teach, and when I went home, I preached to my husband about it, and in the process, the biggest problem was that my mother-in-law became unconfident.
My mother-in-law has been living in her hometown since she was young, and she lives as a housewife from her early 20s to her 60s, and her usual life is to grow vegetables and cook. After living with me, the scariest thing that made me feel was cooking a meal for two hours and stir-frying three dishes. Two or three times a day, I go to the market or supermarket to buy groceries, wash a few clothes, and the day goes by.
This kind of life makes me feel terrible.
And because of the monotony of life, she will be involved in the details of my husband and me's life and her desires. A little tissue or a small note in our pocket, she could dig it out and ask what it was. In life, my husband and I were originally very aggressive, because of her pervasive involvement, I felt a great sense of being invaded, and this kind of unfreedom made me miss my previous single life.
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