Uncontrollable longing for a long place, what should I do?

Friend, have you had any setbacks lately?

It can be seen that your pain is caused by the accumulation of emotions.

You can't hear the sound of the phone call itself, the other party can't see you, it's not worth crying, you know, is it because you can't get together with him, or because you've been sad lately?

If so, try to face your own difficulties. Ask yourself, "Why am I sad?" How long have I been sad? How should I deal with it? ”

Are you afraid that he will worry about you, so you didn't tell him that you cried? In fact, both sides should be considerate of each other and share difficulties. So, tell him about your difficulties, it's good for you and for him.

You can find a good friend to talk to and talk about your feelings.

You didn't tell me much about your situation, so I can't say anything. However, you can think about some realistic ways to put yourself in a good mood.

If there is, for example, you can be with him soon. Then look at the present positively and live positively.

If not, then crying will be fine for you. However, take yourself together and remain strong in the midst of pain. If you are willing, and you work hard, you will do it.

I will send you a sentence of Su Shi's words, I hope it will help you:

People have joys and sorrows, and the moon is cloudy and sunny, and this matter is difficult to complete.

I hope that people will last a long time, and they will be together for thousands of miles.

I can especially understand the mood of the landlord. I don't know what to say, and in fact there is no solution (if you love each other, you have to stay together, and it is cruel not to be able to stay together), only silently bless the landlord.

It is recommended that the landlord read a few **, which are not very long, one is Yang Jiang's "Bath", and the other is the foreign "Dream of the Covered Bridge", to see what kind of suffering and pain others have experienced for missing. I used to burst into tears when I read it.

In a few years, you will find that there is actually sweetness in this longing. Not everyone has enjoyed the pain of longing.

My husband is also a soldier, and we always have days when we can't see each other. Personally, I don't think there's any need to hide anything because of distance. There is no need to hide your feelings either.

1.If it is just because of the tears of missing I think it is unlikely, there may be other grievances, I personally think it is necessary to learn to communicate and let him know. Many couples let their relationship lose in distance, just because they forgot to communicate.

You don't have the strength to bear everything you imagined, and he may not be as weak as you think, he can't bear anything, he also has what he needs to bear, and he is the man you can rely on in the future, right?

2.As a family member of a soldier, you have to learn to wait. This is something that has been thought of from the beginning.

But waiting is not to wash your face with tears, but to learn how to have your own time. Women are not subordinate to men, and even if they are in love, they should still have their own space. Have your own way to spend your time happily.

Chat with friends, go shopping, read books, play sports.

3.I don't remember what I saw in **, many people like the soldier's clothes very much, but she doesn't know the price she has to pay as a family member. Waiting is just one of them.

I don't know if you've figured it out. I'm just a girlfriend now, what should I do if I get married in the future? Are you going to keep suppressing yourself like this?

Be sure to think about it.

If you want him, tell him directly, why don't you say it? Why can't you let him know?

Long-distance relationships. It's really hard to get through, when I thought of him, I sent him a message, as long as I thought about him, I sent him a message, although he couldn't reply to me in time. But I know it's enough for him to see, to see my joys and sorrows, to see me thinking about him.

I'm at school and he's at work. So I never expected him to be able to talk to me in time.

In fact, when you really love someone, you can't help but think about him. If you want to do something that you don't want him, keep yourself busy, and hang out with your friends more often. At least that's what you won't be thinking about him all the time.

But if you really miss him and can't restrain yourself, go find him. After all, I lacked his company in the first place to cause the breakup.

A long-distance relationship is difficult, but don't want to hold your phone 24 hours a day just because it's a long-distance relationship, you can think about him, but don't spend a day thinking about him, and work hard for each other's future.

The first situation is because you know that both sides are working silently to get better and have a future. So I don't want to bother him, understand his hard work, and at the same time leave a certain amount of space for each other. Knowing how to exercise restraint, keeping a clear mind, enriching yourself in your spare time, and doing what you are willing to do is also a manifestation of "loving yourself".

Of course, it is also possible that the second situation is that you are afraid of being hurt, you are afraid of being disappointed, you are afraid that you will not get a response when you express your thoughts, or that you will not be taken as seriously as you think, and you will not dare to devote yourself to a relationship in order to maintain decency. Therefore, "even if you miss it, you don't get in touch" has become a self-protection mechanism as a matter of course, as long as you put the expectation value.

and a reduced desire to share, which can alleviate the pain of not getting the desired response.

Long-distance relationships are indeed difficult to maintain many times, if you can find a way to end the long-distance relationship, maybe after working hard to end the long-distance relationship, and then two people can really contact and face, each other's feelings will be much better.

I think that at this time, I can go to my partner's city to accompany him for a few days, so that I can relieve my longing and increase the relationship between two people.

I think you can try to communicate with each other in the way of ** chat, now the network is so developed, in addition to not being able to meet, there are many other ways to communicate, if you can't do it, find a way to meet on your day off.

Let the other party have to give up something, only then will the relationship between the two people continue, and there will be a good result, so that the two people will eventually form a family.