Will there be parents who are afraid of their biological children?

I was afraid of my parents, I don't know why my parents were afraid of me, they were very polite to me, they hated this feeling, they were making up for them, but what they did didn't change them, they didn't want to buy things, they didn't want to give money, they were very uncomfortable.

Super scared, raising a girl, worrying about everything, there are too many things to be afraid of in this society now.

The scariest thing、Being a parent doesn't require any exams。 Tiger poison does not eat children, but not all parents will think about their children.

Yes, my mother is patriarchal, I don't have a chance to go to college, her son took the exam three times, was admitted to the junior college, her son didn't buy a computer in college, and after graduation, he bought a computer to play games, in order to play games conveniently, he didn't live in the dormitory, rented a house, and asked his mother for no money. Later, when I fell in love and got married, the two of them came forward when they got married, and the parents were solely responsible for the rest. After getting married, she went to work, got pregnant and gave birth to a child, and her parents had to take care of her, and her daughter-in-law was still picky, and the money for giving birth to a child was not enough, so her parents paid for it, and finally bought a house, and her parents paid for it.

There is a conflict between the mother and the daughter-in-law, the mother cries to her son, and the son is annoyed and disgusted. Later, the mother took the baby back to her hometown and raised the child for them.

Now his grades are not satisfactory, and I am afraid that he will not be able to support himself in the future.

I have a friend who has a very bad relationship with her husband, often quarrels, and is depressed after giving birth, and is afraid to hug her when she sees her child.

In some things, maybe what you think of as childish children, they often say things that you don't expect. You and your wife have a bad relationship, they always quarrel, they don't care about the feelings of the children, one day, you quarrel again, you go and ask the children, I want to divorce, what do you think, you think he will cry and will say that mom and dad don't separate. Then, what I didn't expect was that he said, just leave, the marriage is yours, not mine.

If a child doesn't look like a child, or doesn't act like a child, you will, be afraid.

Some time before weaning the child, extreme fear of him. Afraid to see him, I always feel that the child is like a big leech, and I can't pull it off when I suck it on my body. After weaning, he didn't adapt for a while, and he bit me like a little wolf.

It was a nightmare for me to have children in those days. But now it's okay, the child has become a handsome and good baby.

Sometimes, we have to admit that not all parents love their children. And the birth of a child is not because the parents love each other. Why?

Passing on the family lineage, raising children to prevent old age, these concepts may gradually become less serious (some families are still very heavy), and because "they should be born". Having a child becomes, the product of a family's development to a certain moment "should". What about after giving birth?

Experienced people will find that parents give up too much "pleasure" to their children. Taking care of children requires giving up one's desires, pleasures, etc., which is not easy. Many times, there is anger here.

Abuse is the transfer of unbearable emotions to children. If there is a problem with the personality traits of the caregiver, it must be the child who suffers. Why?

Children are the weakest. In a family system, the weakest person must be the one who suffers the most from the whole family.

There is no energy of love. Feelings can be cultivated, they can be cultivated from an early age, the sage said that everyone needs love, the more contact will be love, people are very sensitive and intelligent, pay love to get love, there is a reward for paying, so you have to be good to your daughter, just like a good friend. I love pets seems to go beyond loving people, raising children is like having pets, you love pets, pets will love you, you love children, children will love you, and create a positive cycle from your own life.

People want to do good deeds, the original intention is good, raising children is also a value, raising an excellent child with knowledge, people have feelings, time will give people feelings, people also love excellent children more, let the child become excellent You will love more and more. Feelings must be cultivated, the more they are established, the stronger they become, and they reap love by giving love. We're all the same, I'm Dink.

My parents are the ones who have been lacking love since childhood. Those who lack love should find a partner with a lot of love, and those who lack love should have the courage to give love, and those who lack love should give.

In fact, I have indeed heard similar words, and some people in the circle of relatives and friends will say this, most of which describe elderly parents who are afraid of their sons and daughters-in-law. I understand that fear is more of a worry, worried that my son and daughter-in-law will not give me a good face, and that I am worried that I will be angry when I need them to take care of me in the future. Such old people often try their best to please their children, and even hand over all economic power, and then they have nothing to see an even more ugly face.

There you have it! Parents will be afraid that their biological children will not care about them when they are old, so they will be like sons in front of them. And it is estimated that there are many more.

I guess it's love. Or are elderly parents afraid that their children will not see them? However, it is quite scary for the child to suddenly open his eyes and look at me when he is sleeping at night, and I have watched a lot of major horror movies.

In the middle of the night, it's not good to coax for 3 hours, lie down for 5 minutes and start crying again, toss all the way until dawn, and get through one night, but it's always like this, can you not be afraid, can you not be afraid. My daughter is only 10 days old, and the fact that she doesn't sleep is enough to make me feel fear, fear, despair.

As a parent of a child, I know that the fear of a child is that adults keep yelling at their children when the problem is not going to be. In fact, it is the violence of parents that children resist, not learning.

What children fear most should be the undignified suppression of parents and teachers who do wrong things, because this will hurt children's self-esteem a lot.

I didn't know what my child was most afraid of, but I knew that I was also a factor in my child's fear, so I decided to change the situation.

What children fear most is that their parents quarrel or fight in front of their children, which can lead to a particularly insecure situation.

1. Affect children's sense of security.

What does security mean for a child?

Understanding Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory shows that security and survival are the most basic needs of human beings. Without security, in many cases it is impossible to survive.

If a primitive man loses a safe place to live, he may be attacked by wild beasts, which poses a threat to his survival.

For children, they are not yet able to survive on their own during the long formative years, and are completely dependent on their parents (or other caregivers) for food and living conditions.

If the food is sufficient, the environment is harmonious and warm, and the children's survival is not threatened, they will be very relaxed and establish a good sense of security in the quiet of the years.

Once there is conflict and contradiction in the environment, the child will be sensitive to catch it, and instinctively produce anxious and uneasy emotions, because unstable factors may destroy the comfort of the environment, as well as stable food**, and the sense of security will be affected.

Children often pay attention to their parents' interactions and use this as a basis for judging whether the home environment is safe.

So, a sense of security is the number one priority for children, and it means whether they can survive or not.

If we are insecure for a long time, the consequences are also unbearable for our parents.

Psychologists believe that psychological abnormalities and even serious mental illnesses that occur in adulthood are related to a lack of security. The establishment of a sense of security is 80% completed in the preschool age, and the younger the child, the more we should pay attention to his sense of security.

Because many parents don't know how to educate their children, they develop fear.

The first is because they have a shallow level of knowledge, the second is because they don't have good patience, the third is that they can't communicate well with their children, and the fourth is because they always think they are the best.

Because parents now attach great importance to education. But there is no rational approach to education. I am afraid of misleading my child. So there is fear.

This is because parents now attach great importance to their children's education, and they are also afraid that some of their choices will delay the development of their children, and there are many examples of family education failures, so parents have some fears in parenting.

Parents always compare other people's children with their own. If your own children settle down, there will be panic and think that it is not normal. We should follow the laws of our children's growth.

In fact, it is because many parents do not make their children better no matter how many methods they try, so there is a fear psychology.