Why are Chinese children inseparable from their parents?

There is a problem with the overall education, parents pay attention to grades for their children's education, life, quality and other education is almost zero, children rely on nature, do not know how to be grateful, do not know how to give back, and when they become adults, they are still bold and bold to gnaw at the old people, not to mention the younger children.

A big reason for this problem is because of education with Chinese characteristics, children will not be independent in school or daily learning, can not get actual exercise, exams are okay, but the real self-care ability is not good enough, parents are too doting on their children, afraid that their children will suffer, most of the children are arranged in their growth, there is no ability to think independently and there is room to play, therefore, children also rely on others to command, arrangement, habits are guided, independent ability is not enough, so not only children, parents are also willing to guard their children, and they do not want their children to leave themselves.

It depends on the difference of each family, and the landlord may see more inseparable from his parents. China is so big, it's complicated. Some parents feel that they have not had a good life since childhood, and although they are successful because of this, such parents will spoil their children more.

Children are more pampered, in short, pampered childhood is not good for the future. That's kind of a personal understanding, hehe.

The living environment is determined. Parents are more spoiled by their children.

I see that Australian children don't come back much after leaving home, and I still sigh that China has family affection.

Because adults can't do without children.

It is Chinese parents who cannot do without their children.

Originates from Chinese traditions. Cultural differences. In addition, most of them are only children now. So parents are more pampered.

Because Chinese parents are too spoiled to their children, and their children's ability to live independently is too poor.

Children cannot do without their parents, and parents cannot do without their children.

Because adults can't let go of children, so.

Traditional notions of education have a relationship.

Accustomed to clothes to reach out for food to open their mouths, the inertia of the Chinese is due to it, and there are no good habits.

Because Chinese parents are too great.

Children are the hope of parents.

Just look at the parents who are studying with their children at college and find out why!

In children's education, the role of mothers has always been "loving mothers", and love and concern for children are the factors that most "torture" mothers' feelings. Taotao's mother always said that she suffered a lot of sins in ten months of pregnancy, morning sickness, taboos, etc., which made her uncomfortable in every way, and the little life she gave birth to with her life, of course, she would love and protect it for the rest of her life. Since Tao Tao was born, Tao Tao's mother has been fond of Tao Tao in various ways, such as playing with her children, buying her children all kinds of things that other people's children have, etc., sometimes Tao Tao's father can't stand it, but he is helpless.

Taotao's mother also said that she can't do without her children.

There is always a fear that the child will be hurt if he leaves him. In the eyes of parents, no matter how old a child is, he will always be a child. Brush is about three years old this year, and the children of his age are all in kindergarten, and there is almost no one to play with the brush during the day.

So the brush told his mother that he was going to kindergarten, and there were many children in the kindergarten, and someone played with him. But the brush mother is afraid that the brush will be bullied in the kindergarten, and usually sees on the mobile phone that all kinds of kindergarten teachers treat the child very badly, and are afraid that the brush will also be hurt, so she repeatedly pushed back the date of the brush to go to kindergarten. Usually the brush father also persuaded it, but the brush mother just thought that the brush was still small and there was no way to protect herself.

So, what should mothers do to deal with separation anxiety with their children?

1. Adapt to the separation situation in advance. This not only allows the child to adapt to the emotions of separation, but also is an exercise for the mother. For example, mothers don't go anywhere with their children.

Ning Ning is the mother of two babies, although she is a full-time wife, but when dealing with some extra things, she can not take the child without it, and after calming the child's emotions, she will hand the child over to her mother-in-law or husband to take care of, she thinks that this can make the child adapt to separation anxiety. Once Ning Ning went back to her hometown to deal with things, it was inconvenient to take the child, she secretly left after the child was asleep, and then she didn't worry about the child, so she specially called ** at night to ask, and heard the child's father say that the child cried for a while, saying that the mother would come back, so it was a lot quieter.

2. Be hospitable to the development of children. Children should be treated as "little adults", and children have accumulated a certain amount of social experience at home and when playing games with children, and their social activities after leaving their parents are the improvement and reinforcement of children's experience.

3. It's okay to love your children, but don't rely too much on them. Many mothers are more dependent on their children than others, because their children stay with themselves for the longest time, which makes the mothers and their children have the deepest feelings, so many mothers regard their children as their dependence, and naturally they can't do without their children.

When the child is small, it needs more mother's attention and love, and at this time, the child cannot do without the mother, and the child needs the mother's care in order to grow better. When the child grows up and can take care of himself independently, it becomes a mother who can't do without the child. As the mother grows older, her social skills and self-care skills have deteriorated, and she slowly hopes that her children can spend more time with her.

Children must be inseparable from their parents, and parents are reluctant to leave their children, the two are complementary to each other, unless children grow up to have their own jobs and families, there is less place where parents may be needed.

I think sometimes the mother can't do without the child, it's not that the child can't do without the mother, the mother is always worried about the child, always thinks that the child can't do some things well, so she worries about all kinds of things, so sometimes the parents can't do without the child.

As a parent, sometimes I feel that my child is my most intimate little padded jacket, but there are also times when I feel that my child is particularly troublesome, especially when I am waiting to be fed, I can't wait to escape from this "little devil" who was born to collect debts from me. When I really escaped, I felt that the child was not by my side, and my heart felt like I was very empty, and I wanted to miss it very much. The feelings of parents for their children are such a contradictory existence, but after all, all troubles are short-lived, and the joy that those children bring to them is eternal.

As long as the child grows up, we as parents will be relaxed, especially full-time mothers, this idea is even stronger. Children's food, clothing, housing and transportation need to be arranged by one hand. When it's cold, you have to dress him:

If he is dirty, wash his face and bathe him; There are so many trivial things in life, which makes my mother feel physically and mentally exhausted. Finally, when the child sleeps, the mother has to get up and clean up the house, toys, and chores. However, as the baby continues to grow, he will find that he begins to learn to eat and walk by himself, and gradually becomes less dependent on himself as he did when he was a newborn.

At first, I will feel that the child has become well-behaved and sensible, and I can finally relax. Suddenly, one day, the child made a basin of water in advance, brought it to him, and said, "Mother, you have worked hard, from now on, let me tear down the shed to protect you."

At this moment, I was already in tears, and at this moment, I am very happy to realize that my child has grown up, and he already knows how to give back at such a young age. Therefore, cherish the time spent with children, and the companionship of parents is indispensable in the process of children's growth. However, there really is no child in the world who is inseparable from their parents, but rather parents, when their children leave their own side and go to a farther place to study and develop, they always recall those times together.

First of all, it is important to understand that in traditional Chinese culture, children are an important pillar of marriage and family. Especially in rural areas, parents often rely on their children for support and care as they age. In such cases, sons are often seen as better placed to provide family support and security.

Second, because the idea of male superiority and inferiority of women still persists in traditional Chinese thought, sons are seen as more important male representatives in the family, while daughters are often expected to move to their husbands' family life after marriage. As a result, many fathers-in-law and mothers-in-law will tacitly believe that sons should play a more important role in the family, and should stay with their parents and take care of their lives.

In addition, in the family culture of Zhongchang Minlim, parents tend to have very high expectations of their children, and sons are often seen as more responsible and able to take care of the family. In this case, many parents-in-law will think that since the son plays a more important role in the family, he should remain close to his parents in order to take better care of their lives.

Finally, in Chinese family culture, the importance and bonds of family are often seen as very important. As a result, parents-in-law often believe that sending their sons away from their parents will cause damage to the family. In such cases, many parents-in-law will believe that keeping their sons in the family will better maintain family ties and ties, making the family more stable and united.

In conclusion, in Chinese culture, sons have always been seen as important pillars of the family, while daughters are often expected to leave the family after marriage. As a result, many parents-in-law will default to the belief that the son should stay in the family, take care of the parents' lives, and contribute to family unity and stability.