My husband and my mother in law are on the side, what should I do

Updated on society 2024-05-08
25 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    I'm the same as you, people are different, it's not that you can repay how much you work hard, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been so difficult, it's not that there are no good, it's very little, my husband also stands with his mother-in-law, it's like this, don't be wronged, or let's ** together.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    In fact, the biggest problem is that you don't have a job now, your mother-in-law feels that your husband supports you, and you should do housework, before I gave birth to a baby, my mother-in-law also had this idea, but fortunately I didn't say it in person, and then the baby came out to work when he was older, you first came out to work to try, after all, women can't stay at home all the time, money is the right to speak, really.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    Your husband has always shed the blood of her family, so it is understandable to stand over there, love and family affection are equally important in the eyes of men, so you can only get more love from your husband if you handle the relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law well, but the question is to ask: do you still love your husband? If you don't know the answer, move out first, if you think about him every day, then you still love, then you have to make up your mind to deal with your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    Actually, you don't want a divorce at all.

    said that he was divorced, but he didn't want to do it in his heart, so the child used it as an excuse not to leave.

    Do you think it's really good for your child?

    There are also no specific examples, who knows what the situation is.

    It may be that you are doing a good job, but they all want to twist you away, otherwise you really can't stand it, so your husband doesn't help.

    So if you ask like that, no one can come up with a solution.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    There is no way to do this, and instead of doing it against, it is better to retreat into advance.

    You can take a look at a post on Sohu called "A high-IQ daughter-in-law meets a high-IQ mother-in-law", which is very instructive. (Sorry, the name of the article may be different, you can search for it.) It's quite long.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very sensitive, and if you don't handle it well, life will be difficult, so you have to find a good way to solve the problems between you.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    If I were Wan Feng. I would definitely advise you to divorce.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    The conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a very thorny problem faced by many families. The most important person who can solve the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the husband, on the one hand, the mother, on the other hand, the wife, the husband does the work of both parties in the middle, there is no barrier to communication, and it is not anything to solve the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. But if both parties want to be satisfied, skill and strategy are required.

    It is unfair and irrational to protect only one side.

    The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel, the husband always stands on the side of the mother-in-law regardless of right or wrong, and appears to be filial, but in fact, there is nothing to praise, regardless of right and wrong, at best it is a kind of foolishness. Foolish filial piety is actually the greatest unfilial piety. Sometimes, your excessive favoritism will exacerbate the conflict between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

    This is the greatest harm to the wife. It is a woman's sorrow to meet such a husband. Over time, there will be emotional rifts between couples, and there will also be marital failures.

    It is a man's friendship that will directly destroy his own happiness and will also destroy your marriage.

    Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel, no matter whether the husband is right or wrong, always stand on the side of the mother-in-law. The two women you love the most, if you choose your mother, what situation would you put your wife in? What status does a wife have, and how can she be based in this family?

    When a woman is wronged, her husband doesn't care about it, which makes it worse. I really don't know if such a man is stupid or ignorant. Of course, a woman does not ask her husband to favor herself and snub her mother-in-law, but to heat her mother and cool her wife, and her mother's feelings are also very important, but your wife's mood also needs you to calm down.

    Husbands, husbands, and daughters-in-law all want you to have a fair and rational attitude. Hurting a woman is your loss. Even if you can't hurt either side with mud, that's the attitude a man should have.

    If a man can endure great inconvenience and comfort his wife, even if he is under great pressure from his mother, he can comfort his wife, cast peaches, repay Qiong, how will his wife love you. Of course, mothers and men should also try their best to comfort them, and there is no suspicion between mother and son. A few kind words from you will make Mom extinguish the anger in her heart.

    In this way, getting the love of two women can eliminate the contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and enhance each other's feelings. In this way you are the happiest man. On the contrary, if you can't handle the conflict between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law well, and your friendship is the biggest fuse, then the wife will have huge pressure and huge grievances, and there will be no place to release.

    Until one day you can't hold on, that is, the day your marriage ends. Therefore, if a man chooses the frontier in the conflict between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and always stands on the side of his mother-in-law, such a marriage will sooner or later collapse due to the stupidity of the man and will be difficult to maintain.

    A man, filial piety is right, but it must not be foolish. Mothers need love, wives need care more, and balance must be done. This is the wisdom of men!

    For the harmony of your family, for the happiness of your marriage, take out the wisdom of a man and go around happily between mom and wife.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    I think you need to have a good discussion with your husband about this issue, and be sure to express your attitude firmly, so that your husband really realizes that you are very angry.

  10. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    You should take the initiative to talk to your husband, if he is still so insistent, you can choose to divorce, and everyone will have nothing to live on.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    I think it takes three people to communicate and untie each other's problems and knots, so that there will be no more family conflicts.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    If he has always been on the side of his mother-in-law, he always does not look at a husband like you, and he has no responsibility to persuade you to choose divorce, it is better to be alone.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    I think you must try your best to draw your husband to your side, because you are living with your husband, not your mother-in-law, and your husband loves you.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-27

    If your husband is on your mother-in-law's side every time you quarrel, then at this time you have to consider whether to continue your life. This kind of man doesn't know how to feel sorry for people, and he won't understand people.

  15. Anonymous users2024-01-26

    Your husband is a mom boy, and he doesn't have any opinions, they don't treat you as a family at all, so you should get a divorce quickly.

  16. Anonymous users2024-01-25

    Then you should have a showdown with your husband, why do you always not defend yourself after every conflict, which makes you feel a relationship crisis.

  17. Anonymous users2024-01-24

    When you quarrel with your mother-in-law and your husband is on your mother-in-law's side, you can take the following measures to deal with it:

    1.Stay calm and avoid arguments. First of all, stay calm and don't be swayed by emotions, so that you can deal with problems better.

    2.Understand the situation and find out why. It is necessary to understand the specific reasons for the quarrel and see what caused the conflict.

    3.Seek a proper solution to the problem. Once you understand the reason for the fight, you can try to find a proper way to solve the problem, such as communicating with your mother-in-law to find a compromise solution.

    4.Seek outside help. If you can't solve the problem through communication and compromise, consider seeking outside help, such as a family counselor or psychologist.

    5.Maintain your own agency independence. No matter what the situation, you must maintain your independence and do not rely on the support of your husband or mother-in-law to resolve conflicts.

    6.Cultivate your own emotional intelligence. We must learn to control our emotions and improve our emotional intelligence, so that we can better deal with family conflicts.

    In conclusion, dealing with family conflicts requires patience and wisdom, and it requires continuous learning and growth in order to better cope with various situations.

  18. Anonymous users2024-01-23

    He has rich listening experience and is good at marriage, family, and interpersonal communication. The teacher has already seen your problem, and there is a conflict with your husband, and your mother-in-law is always on her husband's side, and her mother-in-law is her husband's mother, so she must be on her husband's side. Such a mother-in-law is very protective of her son, so I think you always feel that there is a mother-in-law between your husband and you when you get along with your husband.

    It is a husband and wife relationship with the husband, and then the two of them try to get the relationship harmonious, and then discuss with the husband whether they can live alone with the husband in the same place, not with the mother-in-law, if there is such a possibility, it is the best. If you have been living in your mother's house, it is not a long-term solution, so it is too far away from your husband and you can't see each other every day, which will not affect the intimacy between you. What exactly do you want to say?

    Can you tell the teacher about it? This will also give you a specific understanding of your situation and help you solve the problem.

    What should I do if my mother-in-law always sides with my husband after having a conflict with my husband? I don't want to live with my mother-in-law at my parents' house, so how can I tell my husband.

    The teacher has already seen your problem, and there is a conflict with your husband, and your mother-in-law is always on her husband's side, and her mother-in-law is her husband's mother, so she must be on her husband's side. Such a mother-in-law is very protective of her son, so I think you always feel that there is a mother-in-law between your husband and you when you get along with your husband. It is a husband and wife relationship with the husband, and then the two of them try to get the relationship harmonious, and then discuss with the husband whether they can live alone with the husband in the same place, not with the mother-in-law, if there is such a possibility, it is the best.

    If you have been living in your mother's house, it is not a long-term solution, so it is too far away from your husband and you can't see each other every day, which will not affect the intimacy between you. What exactly do you want to say? Can you tell the teacher about it?

    This will also give you a specific understanding of your situation and help you solve the problem.

    I just don't want to live with my mother-in-law, my mother-in-law is just my husband's son, I don't want to say anything.

    Well, there will be a lot of troubles when living with my mother-in-law, my mother-in-law only has one son from her husband, so does he have other daughters? Is my father-in-law still there?

    Every time the two of us had a little conflict, my mother-in-law scolded me, and my husband had no daughter.

    My father-in-law is still there. I have to communicate with my husband like this at my mother's house, and I don't want to live with my mother-in-law.

    I also have two children who can't get married.

    Well, every time there is a conflict, my mother-in-law scolds you, it's really wronged, you tell your husband directly, your husband thinks you hate your mother-in-law, it's really difficult, is there a suitable reason, and let your husband accept it.

    My mother-in-law just doesn't look down on me, and my husband can't be separated from his mother.

    Well, have you considered other plans, such as having your mother-in-law live near your house instead of living together?

    How did your husband deal with the current situation?

  19. Anonymous users2024-01-22

    At this time, you should let your husband discover the true face of her mother-in-law, and under normal circumstances, it is best not to have too much contact with such a mother-in-law, and try to stay away from such people, which will not do you any good.

  20. Anonymous users2024-01-21

    At this time, you must communicate with your mother-in-law and husband, and don't have too much intersection with your mother-in-law, don't offend each other, and choose to live separately.

  21. Anonymous users2024-01-20

    Mother-in-law is completely different in front of her husband and in front of you, I can understand that she is one in front of her husband, and she is another person to you when her husband is away, is that so?

    Some mothers-in-law do do very strange on the surface, when the son is there, she behaves diligently everywhere, and she is super good to her daughter-in-law, and as soon as her son walks on the front foot, he immediately changes his face, there are two ways to this situation, you can first mention it to your husband to see if your husband believes you.

    Or when you go to work normally and don't go to work one day, let your husband see your mother-in-law's attitude that she thinks he is not at home, or when your mother-in-law deliberately makes things difficult for you, you inadvertently take your mobile phone to record it, show your husband at the appropriate time, let your husband understand the reason for the matter, and let your husband come forward to solve it!

  22. Anonymous users2024-01-19

    The best way is to stay away from such a scheming person, you can't get along with him, he can't really treat you as a family, it's better to stay away from him and make your life simpler, which is also good.

  23. Anonymous users2024-01-18

    As an old man, this situation is very scary, but such an old man is real, so don't worry too much, you can talk about this topic directly with your husband.

  24. Anonymous users2024-01-17

    You should tell your husband the truth of the matter, and hope that your husband can solve this matter for himself, and you can get a good result.

  25. Anonymous users2024-01-16

    Summary. Wait a moment and type slowly.

    What should I do if my mother-in-law always sides with my husband after having a conflict with my husband? I don't want to live with my mother-in-law at my parents' house, so how can I tell my husband.

    Wait a moment and type slowly.

    Your question is indeed tricky. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law contradict husband and wife. The first focus is on repairing the relationship with her husband.

    Mother-in-law is now normal on her husband's side. The second is to protect her marriage and not to have a fight with her mother-in-law. Don't have any arguments with your mother-in-law.

    At critical moments, whether or not to support your marriage, her words are very important. The third move is bad, just tell your husband that you can live alone. This is a reasonable request to suggest.

    Not excessive. But to make the reason sufficient, it is not to ignore the elderly, but to have the boundaries of a small family. 1. Living with your mother-in-law is not a long-term solution.

    Mother and daughter are also prone to conflicts, let alone mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. 2. Separate the benefits of the relationship. Once there is a contradiction, it is difficult to fix it.

    3. If you separate the same filial piety to the elderly, there will be no friction, and the relationship will be better. 4 Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are separated, you don't suppress yourself anymore, and your mood is better. Otherwise, you're going to be depressed.

    Tianji Yutian's face is not good and unhappy, which also affects the family atmosphere. It's not good for my mother-in-law either.

    I guess you're going to be depressed.

    Then I have to communicate with my husband like this, my mother-in-law has a child with my husband, 1

    I have two children, I'm at my mother's house, and there's no way I'm going to live with my mother-in-law anyway.

    Are you rural or urban? Does my mother-in-law have a house.

    If my husband and my mother-in-law don't separate, then we can only divorce.

    Rural We live together and don't have a house, so how can we separate? There are no conditions for points.

    So what to do, we can move out, I just won't tell my husband, I've done a lot of things like you. The elderly in rural areas do not have a house, so they can only live together. Or you go to the city to take your children to study, work, rent a house.

    My husband doesn't agree to separate from his mother-in-law, I'm not asking you that I have to say this so that he can be separated from his mother-in-law.

    1. Without economic conditions, it is useless to say anything. Not calling for spring is his different source Kaiyi. Is it to let the old man go to **? The total number of uncracked eggplants can make him a reputation as an unfilial son in the village?

    The premise of separation is that there are proper arrangements for the elderly. Otherwise, nothing to talk about. Talking about it also worsens the relationship between husband and wife.

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