How to form a broad and unobtrusive character?

How not to care.

1.Look at the world with another eye, not everyone in this world is very smooth, just look at how you solve it, for example, you were hit by someone when you were walking, others apologized to you, sometimes you still feel very angry, but you didn't expect that the person who hit you was actually more uncomfortable than you, or think about the sentence "Happy is also a day, unhappy is also a day, why not be happy every day".

2.If you think that you are in a bad mood, you will be in a bad mood, then you don't need to think about it, if you still want to, then keep yourself busy, let yourself have no time to think about it, let yourself live every minute to the fullest, and then don't fall in love with the bed after waking up in the morning, get up when you wake up, get busy, open the window, breathe in the fresh morning air, relax your whole body, and let yourself imagine a happy little angel ......

3.Choose a place with fresh air, quiet surroundings, soft light, undisturbed and free movement, and take a position that you feel comfortable in, standing, sitting or lying down.

4.Move some large joints and muscles of the body, the speed should be even and slow when doing it, and the action does not need to have a certain format, as long as you feel the joints let go and the muscles relax.

5.Take a deep breath, inhale slowly and exhale slowly, saying "relax" in your mind whenever you exhale.

6.Focus your attention on some everyday objects. For example, look at a flower, a little candlelight, or anything soft and beautiful, and look closely at its subtleties. Light some spices and inhale the aroma of it.

7.Close your eyes and try to imagine some tranquil and beautiful scenes, such as blue waters, golden sandy beaches, white clouds, mountains and water.

8.Do activities that you enjoy that have nothing to do with the specific things at hand. For example, swimming, taking a hot bath, shopping, listening, watching TV, etc.

9.Life is easy, life is easy, life is not easy. Don't worry, there are a lot of people in this society who are almost like you, but they are all living happily, not everyone can succeed, as long as you work hard to treat everything, take life seriously, as long as you take every day seriously, no matter how your life is, I believe it is wonderful.

Don't forget your original intention, you can correct your attitude, and ask yourself if you will continue to do the same thing if there is no interference from the external environment; Recognize the essence, you can avoid traps, improve work efficiency, jump out of the inherent environment, new angles and new understanding; Identifying the purpose can eliminate irrelevant emotional interference, think about the anger, chagrin, depression, and joy of the moment, does it help to achieve the goal? However, what I said at the beginning is that this is a way to deal with things, not an interpersonal skills, after all, being a person still requires a combination of sensibility and reason, crying, laughing, fighting, loving and hating, and sometimes helping you make friends with people who don't care.

It's not easy to be an atmospheric person. It is important to internalize the books you read, not just to get a degree and eat together. I think the quality education that China is proposing now is very good, if you have a child to teach him to share with others, and also teach him to be considerate of others, learn to love himself, and then love others.

Then, we must have a normal heart and think of others with a kind heart.

To be generous, we must first understand our own dark side, deeply analyze ourselves, and understand ourselves, so that we can improve our outlook on life! Such as: I am jealous!

Once because of jealousy will produce a great sense of inferiority, with jealousy often see friends showing off my first feeling will be disgusted, lost a lot of friends, and will fall into a circle of regret, these years I hate my own character, hate my own ungenerous! Begin to pursue a new level of thought!

Live a little generously, not only good to others, but also good to yourself, I enjoy it super much, when something happens or meets some people, others are scolding and criticizing, I can do not hate or hate, when this mentality occurs, it is necessary to divide a person into two situations of thinking, sometimes hating a person is often out of selfishness unilateral thinking, why not consider looking at the other party's situation, when looking at people or things in two, you will maintain a neutral attitude, and slowly open your mind to ......There are too many unsatisfactory things in life, everyone has their own grievances and sorrows in life, think about it: except for life and death, which thing in the world is not idle and trivial......Live for yourself.

Appreciating the conversation of others will improve our eloquence; Appreciating the generosity of others will broaden our hearts; Appreciating the kindness of others purifies our hearts. Appreciating others is actually less critical and more trusting; A little more enthusiasm, a little less indifference; A little more looking up, a little less disdain. The more appreciation, the fewer contradictions and misunderstandings, and the closer the distance between people.

The home environment is very important, as is the ability to balance and regulate oneself. When I was in college, I was scolded by a girl in the same dormitory for buying a pair of pants for 200 yuan, and I was told "really rich" for eating KFC. Actually, first, the conditions of my family are not very good; Second, I never "show" anything, I only say it when people ask me.

But I was not understood, why? This classmate's family is in a mountainous area, the conditions are average, and she probably has some low self-esteem, but I admire her very much, she studies very well and works hard, so I think it is a very remarkable thing to earn her future with hard work, and I also understand her difficulty. But when we worked together, she always asked me to "treat", and moral kidnapping made me have to help her on the grounds of "good relationship".

I can't accept that my sincerity and kindness should be cynicized and used all the time. Maybe she doesn't want to do that either, but I really think it's hard to get along with someone who cares about everything. This may have nothing to do with character, but is caused by personal experience.

I will talk about my own views, how to form, to take a long-term view, many times you will find that the more you care, the more you can't get, don't care about paying, remember that as long as you pay, there will be a return (this return is not necessarily the immediate benefits), set goals, talk less and do more, be aggressive, try your best to help others, don't be greedy for cheap, don't gossip about others behind your back, and have great love in your heart. You're halfway there. The most important thing is that you have to accept to do more than others but have no return, that is, ordinary people say that you have suffered a loss, and it is the key to accept the loss but not care, this is not stupid, this is a kind of wisdom, do things positively, do not pursue returns, you are absolutely successful.

Whatever the person who cares about you says to you is for your own good, whether the expression is acceptable to you or not, you have to try to understand the meaning of other people's words, but don't think too much nonsense, you have to know what the original intention of others is to say this, and what she wants you to do? If you want to become an atmospheric person, the key is whether you can accept what others say, but it does not mean that you should be stunned, you have to accept what is good and bad, we have to learn to make trade-offs, the atmosphere is not to be a good person, I will not be careful with you when you give me advice, but carefully consider whether you are right, whether I should really change, should change, I try to change, don't put on a shelf and say that my temper is like this, my temper can be changed children. If this person touches your bottom line, please seriously refuse and resolutely stay away.

Some calculations in life may also make your mood unhappy every day, so in your heart, I may mean that you are more concerned about some things or more attentive, maybe you pay a lot and can't get some results, maybe because of someone else's words you will think about it for many days, in fact, this should not be at all. When we are faced with this situation, we try to say that we do not think about unhappy things and do not be slaves to our emotions.

So sometimes when we are faced with this situation, we have to get some understanding of some of our behaviors, and even have to tolerate the behaviors of others.

Everyone has their own temper, everyone can be different, there are kind, treacherous, magnificent, heroic, of course, there are also stingy, calculating. As the saying goes: the nature of the country is easy to change, how to change its own temper?

For example, if we are stingy and have a hobby of care, how can we do it?

1. Broaden your horizons.

One of the most important reasons for our stinginess is that the pattern is not big enough, that is, we have become a "frog at the bottom of the well", and we like to look at everything with our own thoughts and ideas, and we can't see the essence behind everything, which leads to our lack of atmosphere!

2. Make friends.

There is a good saying: those who are close to Zhu are red and those who are close to ink are black, and the environment you are in actually determines your character and way of dealing with the world in a large part of the situation. So, if you want to make a change, you can grab it and make some bold friends, but you must remember:

There is a degree to everything. It can't be too heroic, then it will be a squander!

3. Try to change yourself.

No matter how much you say and do, it's not as good as being practical – try to do it. If we know our own bad problems, we should try to change them as much as possible, only in this way can we have the possibility of change, rather than just stopping at the point of talking.

4. Read more books and read bags, and change yourself from knowledge.

When you realize that you are not good, it is actually a kind of self-improvement. Personally, I suggest that you should take advantage of reading some books that are too sexual, or some books on psychology that expand our landscape, so that you can understand more truths, and only by knowing the disadvantages of your personality can you understand the meaning of change.

When we are finally able to change our petty personality, scheming will no longer be part of our emotions, and you will be able to really open your heart and feel a sense of joy and happiness that you have never felt before. A good personality is also very important for our communication, and there will only be more and more friends!

If you want to change your calculating personality, you can change it as long as you let your pattern improve. Generally, people who are calculating always like to consider things from their own point of view, and the first thing they think of when they encounter things is whether they have suffered losses and whether their interests have been lost. I don't think about the overall situation at all, so I always think about it.

First, learn to take the initiative to shareSecond, we must learn to take the initiative to take some responsibilitiesThird, we must learn to give up some of our vested interests

Money can change this character! The source of stinginess is poverty, caused by lack of money, only enough money can change this character, and if you have enough things, who cares.

For a person's petty personality can be changed, which requires us to have different experiences, some positive energy to stimulate our hearts, to try to make ourselves broad-minded, not to put some small things in our hearts.

Earn more money, read more, improve your knowledge, especially in psychology, analyze the deep-seated reasons for your pettiness, and consciously change yourself.

Personally, I think that the more things I have experienced and the more things I have seen, maybe these personalities of people will change. However, there may be some people who have this kind of character in their bones.

I think it's just about slowly changing yourself, making your mentality better, and knowing that the money you need to spend must be spent.

These zodiac signs are Leo, Aries, Capricorn, Sagittarius, Taurus, and especially Taurus people, who are particularly generous and do not take things seriously.

Gemini, Capricorn, Cancer, Aries, Sagittarius, tolerant and generous, do not take care of themselves, and will not be petty.

Leo, Capricorn, Libra, Aries, Gemini; Among them, Leo and Libra are optimistic and positive, not careful, and very tolerant of people and things.

Gemini, Capricorn, Cancer, Aries, Sagittarius, tolerant, generous, uncaring and not stingy.

Yes, such a person will take his own interests too seriously, will be used by others, and may be ruined by some things.

For example, if someone cheats this kind of person of a very valuable thing, this person must be very distressed, and will definitely find a way to get it back, and it will be very irrational to think about the problem when he wants to recover his previous lost interests, ** will let this person take out something else (the value is smaller than before) to replace the previous loss, and so on, it will fall deeper and deeper.

This truth seems very simple, and it is also a method used by many ** now, but the psychology of the deceived person at that time was not calm.

Being too concerned about one's own gains and losses can sometimes lead to the loss of material things, and sometimes the loss of other things.

It's not that you don't care about the damage to your own interests, but you should be calm and think clearly about the stakes before and after.