How do you view your relationship with your colleagues? Is it really impossible to have friends?

There must be friends between colleagues, many people believe that there are no real friends between colleagues, because you are colleagues, there must be competition, interests, these overlapping relationships as the background, it is indeed difficult to make friends in the workplace, but this statement is too absolute, after all, whether you can communicate with friends requires a lot of external factors, is to meet but not to seek. Many people in the workplace believe that if you have a heart-to-heart with a colleague, you are likely to become a colleague, and whether you can become a real friend depends on whether your three views are consistent.

Trust between people is not nothing, depending on what things and under what circumstances. The relationship between colleagues is complex and unfathomable, there is an inexplicable relationship between colleagues, you say something that happens to be connected with other people, or from other places, so that the unlucky one is yourself. Besides, colleagues are generally at odds with each other, because they need to be promoted, competitors are colleagues, and colleagues with powerful relationships can speak to their hearts?

Therefore, there are no close friends among colleagues, just ordinary colleagues.

No matter what unit you work in, do you want to have a close friend with your colleagues? It's a very difficult thing to do. There is competition for positions and power among colleagues, and many people may say that this is hypocritical, but this is also an indisputable fact.

What you say to your colleagues today, other colleagues will know tomorrow, this is a complex interpersonal relationship.

There are a lot of facts that have been verified in real life. Some colleagues look at good friends and confidants who have a very good relationship with you and talk about everything, but in fact, they are all superficial phenomena, and the distance between the heart and you is not ordinarily far. There are some things that you can't say in front of your colleagues, you will sell you here and there, or you have already dug a pit, so that you can't get out of the pit when you fall into it.

As the saying goes, "things gather like people and people divide into groups", which is vividly reflected in the workplace. People who are scheming must be surrounded by selfish people, and kind-hearted people are mostly loyal and generous people. A kind-hearted person can be happy for a friend when he sees his progress, and he can kindly remind him when he sees the mistakes of others, while a selfish person must not see that others are better than him, and wish that others would make mistakes to make him more outstanding.

Most of the friends between colleagues are kind people.

I don't think it's that it's hard to make friends after work, but that as we grow in experience, we are able to distinguish between what is a real friend and what is worth interacting with. If you really meet like-minded people, I think it is still necessary to make deep friends, as the saying goes: a thousand gold is easy to get, but a confidant is hard to find!

For example, a colleague I knew in my previous unit still keeps in touch often, chatting about trivial matters in life, encouraging and helping each other.

In the workplace, it is inevitable to interact with colleagues, whether it is communication with the same department, or work with other departments, in this process, colleagues with better relationships will be more efficient, because the two sides have more understanding, and problems will be solved more smoothly, so making friends at work is more conducive to the development of their own work.

Everyone and colleagues get along with each other for the longest time, eight hours at work day and night, the joys, sorrows and sorrows in the workplace experience, every moment that touches each other will be firmly remembered in the mind, every work tacit cooperation in the heart, countless times of heart collision can promote each other's heart.

Of course, there is a friendship between colleagues.

Provided that there is no competition between you.

In a department, especially when there are many things, the leaders have a clear division of labor, unite as one, and call for spring without drawing cakes. Colleagues are busy, and helping each other will create a happy atmosphere.

A department is relatively idle, and if there is no clear division of labor among leaders, they can avoid things when they encounter them, pass the buck to each other, and may have opinions on each other.

But the free time is long, and the office wants to be silent about the impossible and the banquet, unless it is a person with a particularly lonely personality.

There will be communication with each other. This kind of communication will also enhance the relationship between each other, of course, if you face some interests or unwilling to undertake work, you will also gently push and pull each other.

Of course, it's okay for colleagues to be ordinary friends, but if you want to treat colleagues as bosom friends, it's not right. On a unit, the pie is so big, and there is more or less competition of interests between them.

The laws of the dark forest always apply.

4 reasons why I wouldn't treat a colleague as a friend and not recommend it:

1.It seems that the close workplace relationship is actually vulnerable, and once you leave, the modern workplace will be broken on the spot, and there is a clear view that everyone has tacitly grasped.

That is, after leaving the company, there is an opportunity to cut off contact with colleagues in the company. Even if there is, at most it is just complaining about work, and it is rare to continue to keep in touch with former colleagues because of good feelings. Leaving a job means not having contact with a former colleague.

Therefore, even if the relationship was good before, the relationship will quickly fade when you no longer sit in the same office and work. And as time passed, they gradually became no longer estranged, and since then they have become strangers who are familiar with each other's mobile phones, but will not be contacted again.

2.Cooperation between colleagues, the strengths and weaknesses of each other's personalities are exposed, it is difficult to admire each other, and the feelings of friends or family will definitely be cooperated between the company and different jobs.

In the process of cooperation, what kind of person the other party is, we generally know it once we contact it. We can also sensitively capture the weaknesses in the other party's personality, and some of their shortcomings will often add some difficulties and obstacles to our own work.

Therefore, when the cooperation is over, it is difficult for us to have a good impression of someone who has increased our workload, and it is difficult for us to become good friends with them. And even if we meet a lot of people with strong abilities in the workplace, it is difficult for us to become real friends with them.

On the one hand, those who are stronger generally do not like to make friends with people who are not as good as them, and on the other hand, those who are in a weak position do not like to take the initiative too much to approach those who are more capable.

Therefore, because of this delicate relationship, it is difficult to produce real friendships in the workplace.

3.Iron company, flowing staff, leaders treat employees, will not inject feelings, only look at the results of their work as the company's leaders, must have worked in the company for a lot of time, they are used to seeing colleagues, subordinates come and go, used to see their own well-trained people, in the blink of an eye to leave the job.

Perhaps they have been hurt, and they no longer have feelings for their colleagues, but simply see them as people working together in the same place. Therefore, even if the leader is usually very good to you, once there is a problem at work, he will turn his face and deny people.

And if you do your job well, he will be kind to you again. In short, whether it is laughter or anger, it is just a tool and means for leaders to work, which is very realistic and ruthless.

4.Between people, the relationship is too close, it is easy to let yourself get hurt, you can maintain a good relationship with colleagues, but you must grasp the proportion, do not get too close. is too close, and some of his personal affairs are known, and even his economic situation and weaknesses are too exposed to the other party.

Or, be unscrupulous, dare to say anything to your colleagues, in case you encounter any situation one day, and the other party chooses to hurt you, it will not be good.

No matter how good the relationship with colleagues is, you can't treat your colleagues as friends, and don't tell your colleagues about your privacy in the workplace, which will affect your image or interests. It is true that too much self-exposure will indeed cause certain risks to yourself, for example, if you do a side hustle outside the company, it is a violation of the company's rules and regulations, so if this information is disclosed to other colleagues, some people may report the situation to the leader out of jealousy, resulting in punishment. Never treat a colleague as a relative, there is only cooperation between colleagues, nothing else, even if the two of you are good.

Sometimes when you tell him the truth, he will turn his head and talk to others, or if you discuss other issues, discuss boss issues, discuss salary issues, he will turn his head and transmit it to others, and finally to the ears of the leader.

It's not because of the relationship between colleagues that they will have bad intentions, conscience depends on perception, based on the facts of what happened, not set by roles, there is no difference between good and evil, and the confusion is not two Zheng has no heart, but will rely on one thought. As long as it is a person, don't lose your conscience when you use thousands of roles, your conscience is gone, and all emotional foundations will be zero. In short, whether colleagues want to be friends or enemies depends on your heart, listen to bad people to be bad people, and listen to gentlemen to be gentlemen.

A person who does not have the correct three views, does not respect others, does not abide by moral and social norms, and does what he does is also a villain.

Where there are people, there are rivers and lakes, the workplace is so big, just do your job seriously, work hard to improve yourself, climb higher positions, make more money, friends are sad and sad when the emotional sustenance, is lonely when you rely on, is the same three views, make you feel comfortable people, not some intrigue in the workplace, will you guard against him will steal your creativity, occupy your position, rob your report, with defense, or friends? Since work, the first thing you have to learn is not to be friends with colleagues, because those who hide grinding to be friends with colleagues often do not end well. You naively think that shouting about the acceptance will have a pure friendship landing on you and your colleagues, and behind the naivety will be the stabbing he will give you.

Some people believe that colleagues should not be considered friends because they believe that doing so will be detrimental to career development and workplace efficiency. There is some truth to this view, but not all cases apply. Here are five examples:

Competitive relationships: In some workplaces, there is fierce competition between co-workers. If you see a colleague as a friend, it can affect an individual's career development.

Because in competition, individuals may be hesitant to take certain actions, such as rejecting a colleague's request or reporting a problem to a superior.

Integration of private and professional life: Seeing a colleague as a friend can lead to a convergence of private and professional life. If too much personal information is shared between colleagues or is too close, this can interfere with productivity and focus in the workplace.

Completion of work tasks: In some cases, close collaboration between colleagues is required to complete tasks. If you treat a colleague as a mere coworker, it can lead to miscommunication or difficulty working together.

Conversely, if colleagues are seen as friends, better trust and relationships may be built that will facilitate the completion of work tasks.

Bullying and discrimination in the workplace: In some workplaces, there may be bullying and discrimination among colleagues. If an individual sees a colleague as a friend, they may ignore these issues, causing harm to other employees' careers.

Differences in personal values: There may be differences in personal values among colleagues. If you see your colleagues as friends, you may overlook these differences, and in some cases, they can lead to disharmony in the workplace.

To sum up, treating a colleague as a friend is not always the right thing to do. However, in situations such as tasks that require close collaboration, avoiding bullying and discrimination, and building good relationships in the workplace, it can be beneficial to treat colleagues as friends. Therefore, it is necessary to judge whether or not to treat a colleague as a friend on a case-by-case basis.

In my eyes, a friend is a friend, a good friend is a good friend, and a colleague is a colleague.

Locally, if the person is really good (this good means that he is relatively comfortable in doing and speaking), then the person can be considered a friend, but whether they can be good friends is debatable.

If it's a foreign country, I think it's also a missed person. However, most of them can be regarded as ordinary and old things, and people who chat relatively close or have something to talk about in private can be called friends.

You need to maintain a certain social distance from colleagues, and it should also be noted that although colleagues can become friends, this probability is relatively low, and workplace and life are different after all. The workplace is built on the bond of work, the core of the social sphere is the working relationship, and the core of the private sphere is the intimate relationship. This situation is often difficult to break, and it takes a lot of time and emotional costs to break it.

After all, the interests of colleagues will be greater, because everyone's goal is Zheng Qiling's interests. However, it is relatively simple to have friends, and if you want your career to be smoother, it is best to maintain a certain social distance from your colleagues.