Can an ex be an ex only? What is the ex

I don't think so.

The reason for the breakup is very critical, because some reasons for the breakup can be talked about and discussed, but some reasons are directly sentenced to death for your feelings as soon as they happen, and no matter how much you rescue them in the future, you can't save them.

Many people just broke up and wanted to redeem it, but not only did they not recover, but they also got a completely blocked result, because both of you didn't come out in the first stage.

The mood swing period is just a week after the breakup, at this time many people's emotions are violently fluctuating, IQ and EQ are completely off the line, in this case, anger, sadness or resentment is full of everyone's emotions, the most unsuitable for recovery.

Even when some people say that they want to redeem at this time, they may not be in a state of clear consideration: he is just anxious and sad to the extreme.

At this time, you don't rush to say that you are in a hurry, because you don't know what the problem is, and you don't want to understand whether the two of you are really suitable to continue walking, and what to do if a similar situation arises again.

Even if you think clearly, the other party may not be able to treat it calmly, at this time the other party is also in sadness and anger, you break up on the front foot and the back foot will come to redeem, which will only make the other party feel that you are very irresponsible for the relationship.

During the emotional relaxation period, even if the other person was emotional in the past, it will slowly subside now, or rather:

Even if the other party broke up with you with disappointment and sadness, she will gradually recall the bits and pieces of your other past events.

So, when the other person calms down, she will start to remember what you used to be: at this time, positive things will also be involved, and she will also inadvertently remember the good life you once had.

This is a good time to redeem ourselves, we can test the other party's attitude first, and you need to send a serious message to the other party to apologize.

Note that the purpose of this news is only to apologize, not to talk about reunion. Seriously reflect on your past mistakes, sincerely apologize to the other party, indicate that you will correct them in the future, and thank her for the time she has accompanied you.

After seeing this message, she will realize that you have begun to reflect on your mistakes and have a particularly good attitude. Gradually, she will change her attitude towards you, and she will not be disgusted when she thinks of you.

It depends, I ask you: do you want to redeem it?

Don't think about what other people say, and don't think about what your relationship is like now, you ask yourself in your heart, if you want to redeem it, then the ex may come back to you.

There are thoughts before actions, and if you don't even dare to think about it, your ex can only be your ex.

Redemption is never easy, and in the process you may encounter cold eyes, you may encounter indifference, and you may not even know when you will see the results of these things you do, even if it is just a small response. But what I want to tell you is that if you are afraid of hardship, tiredness, or failure, you should not think about redeeming it.

There's a saying in The Little Prince that if you want to tame someone, you have to risk shedding tears. Then the same goes for redemption, if you want to redeem someone, you have to risk losing him.

Only those who do not forget their original intentions can enjoy the beauty of redemption.

Okay, you're sure you want to redeem it, but you don't have the right way, then I'm going to teach you how to act now.

1.Let them know that we can still be friends even after a breakup.

You may have heard the saying that after separation, we are neither lovers nor friends, but please believe that as adults, deep down, we still hope to be friends.

You may also feel that after a breakup, he is ruthless, in fact, how can two people who have loved each other really be ruthless. The indifference on the surface is just to hide the deep affection in his heart.

So you have to show him that I admit that I've done a lot of wrong things and can't be forgiven by you, but I still hope that I can continue to be friends with you Showing your attitude to him is actually planting a seed of hope in his heart. Let them know that you care about them.

Of course, don't forget to show them that you don't interfere with their life, but when they need help or talk to each other, contact them to show your attitude, and they will feel in their hearts that you are actually a good person.

It is important to remember that you are not a couple right now, and the frequency of contact and the content of what you say should be appropriate and not entangled.

Yes, an ex can only be an ex.

I don't think I can break up and still be friends. Not being friends after a breakup is just a minimum of respect and understanding for feelings. Because of your sentence of being friends, you gave the other party hope again, and made him reject a girl who is more suitable for him than you in order to be with you again.

Therefore, your practice of remembering each other is an extremely irresponsible attitude, whether it is a man or a woman, if you want the other party to have a good time when you break up, just be a stranger, and bless each other as strangers who pay attention to each other.

Not being able to be friends after a breakup is the basis for starting a new relationship. Just imagine, when you keep breaking ties with your ex, do you think you still have the heart to take care of other people? You put your mind on the memories of that past relationship, and you can't get out of it, trying to find a time to reconcile.

But you forget that the reason why you broke up is because you get along with each other and make each other tired, so, for your sake and each other, don't take the initiative to contact each other anymore, and look at the people around you who are suitable for you.

Breaking up is a painful process, just like a scar on the body, it is necessary to go through a process to grow a new **, if you don't want it to continue because of the pain of the recovery period, then the scar will always be a scar, and there will be no new things to grow. The same is true of the relationship, let yourself learn to grow in the relationship after breaking up, remember the good of the other party and start a new life without the other party.

The essence of a breakup is the transformation of private boundaries, which are the norms and restrictions used to define "how others should treat you". Whether two people are lovers, friends, or something else is actually determined by the boundary. The boundaries between lovers are close and thin, and even to a certain extent merge with each other; And the boundaries between friends will be harder, and the distance from each other will be greater.

So after a breakup, you can't be friends anymore, and your ex can only be your ex.

Two people have truly loved each other, and love is really hard to disappear, but this is actually an idea that I have from my own point of view, whether it is difficult to disappear, I think people are different, and everyone's situation is different.

Then when he really wants to break up because he doesn't love you anymore, and refuses to get back together. But you still love it, and after you weigh it comprehensively, you think that he is a very good person you don't want to let go, so of course you have to try your best to redeem it.

Some people may think that he doesn't love me anymore, so how can I get it back?!

We know that emotions change. He also went from not loving to loving at the beginning, so now, why can't he change from not loving to loving again? Anything is possible.

So how can I make him fall in love with you again?!

First of all, think about how he fell in love with you in the first place, and you touched him. Was it your gentleness and kindness that touched him, or your independent mind that attracted him, and so on. So in the process of falling in love, do you still have these shining points as you did at the beginning.

If your sparkle has long since been wiped out, then make them shine again.

Secondly, on the basis of the original shining point, you also have to add the places where you can attract him. For example, learn how to dress up and make yourself elegant and sophisticated; Learning a new skill that will be refreshing to him after the Avengers; Another example is that if he likes photography, you can learn it too, and if he likes oil painting, you can also learn it. In the future, the two of them can learn from each other and increase the chance of meeting.

As the saying goes, if you are in full bloom, the breeze will come. There is still a certain amount of truth, try to make yourself better, even if you don't win him back in the end, you will definitely gain unexpected scenery if you become excellent.

Actually, the answer is not necessarily. Because some people can successfully redeem their ex, then the ex can also be the current one; There are also some people who have failed to redeem them, so the real predecessor can only be the predecessor.

Many people say that redemption is not "the revival of old feelings, and the mistakes of the past will be repeated in the end", then they should not have heard of it: "Lost and regained know how to cherish more." “

In a previous issue of "Wonderful Story", Cai Kangyong said that he saw a survey that many people's last partners were actually their exes.

This is actually too normal, because we are not born with love, but in the process of getting along, we learn it little by little.

At the beginning, everyone was the treasure in the palm of their parents' hands, and they were used to being self-centered, so it was normal for two people to fall in love together, cause some problems and friction, and willfully propose to break up.

Moreover, when you are young, it is easy to feel that breaking up is not a big deal. There are two-legged men everywhere on the street, could you not find a better one than you?! It's just that after a while, I found out that there are indeed a lot of good ones, but I just don't like it.

At this time, it is also a very beautiful thing for two people to reunite under the traction of love, and to discover the importance of each other and cherish each other more.

But in real life, it's often not so good or smooth. The most frequent situation arises: you want to get back together, and he doesn't.

At this time, if you can let go of it, the two places will rejoice, and it will also be a good ending. The bad thing is that feelings are often not controlled by the intellect.

Probably, the whole world tells you, forget it, let it go, but you just can't let it go. At such times, there are two attitudes.

One is that there is a grave in my heart that is not dead, neither strive for it, but also do not actively start a new life, I strongly disagree with this attitude, happiness is sometimes in your own hands, even you don't work hard to fight for it, do you really expect the world to smash a big pie?

There is also a kind of active struggle to redeem, even if I fail in the end, then at least I have worked hard without regrets, when you are completely dead to a person, you can start your new life without distraction. Otherwise, you can't go forward or retreat, isn't that wasting your youth in vain? Youth is so short, please fight quickly!

This is divided into two situations, first, you still have feelings for each other, then well, you continue to be together and move towards marriage; Second, you no longer have feelings for each other, only memories of the past, then you can only be the most familiar strangers.

I think that after a breakup, you can't really be friends without guilt, after all, you have experienced so many sweet or painful things before, every time you meet, you will unconsciously remember, when you have your own new love, the two of you will be mentioned by your respective lovers from time to time, and then cause unprovoked quarrels.

If there is still love between you, then boldly go to marriage. In marriage, mutual respect comes first. There are many sweet moments in life that need to be shared slowly, and there are many difficult times that we need to bear together.

But if you don't have any feelings between you, let each other go, don't be in touch. Since there is no reason for the two of you to be together, meeting again will only be embarrassing again and again, not only hurting the two of you, but the people around the two of you will also be sad because of the two of you, which is a bit more than worth the loss.

An ex is an ex, and an ex can only be considered an ex. Don't have too much yearning for each other because two people have been together, this is useless and unnecessary, I think it's better to do it simply in love, if you like it, be together, don't contact if you don't like it, it's just a waste of each other's time to have too much involvement.

Yes, the ex is the ex because there is a problem between you, and even getting back together will not end well, so it can only be the ex.

No, the ex can also be the current one, which requires your emotional foundation and realistic material to determine your relationship.

Not necessarily, if you still love each other and still want to continue with each other, you can get back together and become the current one.

前任, pronounced qían rèn, is a Chinese word that means that the same person has held different positions in succession and is called the predecessor of the current position; The same position is successively held by different persons, and the incumbent before the successor is referred to as the predecessor.

1.[predecessor] A person who has been replaced by someone else in his or her previous position.

Predecessor**. 2.[ex] A person who previously occupied a position or position.

Derivation. 1.Song Zhouxuan's "Qingbo Farewell Chronicles" volume: "It is a matter of suing A's predecessor for embezzlement of ink, and it is a prison sentence." "Yuan History: Election Chronicle IV": "According to the previous month and day of the sudden promotion, except for one test, the remaining month and the day of the subsequent month are promoted according to the quasi-determined capital. ”

2.The same position is successively held by different persons, and the incumbent before the successor is referred to as the predecessor.

Qing Zhaolian "Xiaoting Miscellaneous Records: Tang Wenzheng": "Guo said: 'Xiu is so greedy and cruel, for the sake of the desire of the predecessor to raise the army.

Guo Moruo's "Anyway, Before and After" Part 1: "It turns out that the former superintendent already knew that he was gone, and the students must ask the successor to cancel our reprimand."

Generally for us public, the ex who broke up will basically not be in contact again, after all, it is difficult to get along better when it coincides, and it will be more embarrassing, but for some people who are still in love, they may still want to contact their ex after the breakup, what should we do in this situation?

Learn to analyze the motivation for contacting your ex.

No matter what, the ex is the ex, and you don't have any relationship after the breakup, you have to rationally analyze the reason for contacting the ex, whether it is because of the lingering relationship or other reasons.