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In fact, my mother-in-law will eat her daughter-in-law's vinegar, she has raised her son for so many years, and the treasure in her hand will leave her to spend her life with other women, and I will feel bad when I put it on me, they are all women, and you will understand the little bit of jealousy. I think your husband is very sensible, knows that you have been wronged, and cares for you, which is very good, if your husband stands up to help your mother-in-law speak at this time, do you have the intention of committing suicide? It is said that the mother-in-law is treated as a mother, and it is simple to say, but the key is that the mother-in-law does not treat the daughter-in-law as a daughter.
Even so, you have to be generous, your mother-in-law can still accompany you for a few years, and you and your husband will be old when you are old, so as long as your husband loves you and loves you, then don't care about your mother-in-law, even if you are unhappy, don't show it, occasionally ask your mother-in-law what she likes to eat, cook a few meals she loves, don't say how wronged she is in front of her husband, say how hard her mother-in-law is, after this word reaches her mother-in-law's ears, her mother-in-law can like you as a sensible daughter-in-law from the bottom of her heart.
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My mother-in-law is an elderly person, and her thinking may be different from yours. But your mother-in-law is kind to you, so you can tolerate it. I think my mother-in-law is very good. You're good too.
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Looking at people always has to be divided into two, and no matter how good people are, they have shortcomings. Your husband is really enviable for you to be good to you. It's all up to the husband, don't worry about the mother-in-law. You are more tolerant, mouth dessert, be diligent, and slowly it will be fine.
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Hello, the premise of a happy family marriage, in addition to marrying a good man, you must also meet a good mother-in-law.
In real life, there are many daughters-in-law and children who marry into their mother-in-law's family, Sheng guessed that he could have an extra mother, but he didn't expect that his mother-in-law would not regard himself as a family member at all.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along happily, and family life can be more relaxed. If there is such a mother-in-law who does not regard herself as a family, it is undoubtedly a very chilling thing for women.
People's hearts are mutual, courtesies are still exchanged, mother-in-law has a mother-in-law, treat her daughter-in-law well, and her daughter-in-law will be a good daughter-in-law. It's easy to marry a good husband, but it's hard to meet a good mother-in-law.
In fact, there are still good mothers-in-law, but compared to bad mothers-in-law, it is relatively rare.
Women hope that they can meet a good mother-in-law, but what does a good mother-in-law look like? Mother-in-law can do this for you, it can be seen that she is a good mother-in-law, and women must know how to be grateful.
First, it can help you with housework and take care of the children.
Young people live under great pressure and are busy earning money to support their families every day, so many daughters-in-law have handed over the task of taking care of their children to their mothers-in-law.
But some mothers-in-law are not willing to take care of the baby at all, so many women are dissatisfied with their mother-in-law because they don't help them take care of their children when they need it most.
A good mother-in-law is one who can support her daughter-in-law when she needs her most. They understand that the mother-in-law is not only helping the daughter-in-law, but also helping the son.
Good mothers-in-law have a common characteristic, that is, they concentrate on taking care of their children, and never have a sad face all day long, shouting that they want to go back to their hometown. Since you are willing to come to help with the child, don't always show that you are suffering in front of your son and daughter-in-law.
The heart of man is flesh, and if thou wilt be true to me, I will do thee tenfold. The mother-in-law helps her daughter-in-law take care of the children within her ability, and I believe that the daughter-in-law will definitely take care of her mother-in-law in her old age.
Second, I can treat you as a member of my family.
Every daughter-in-law always wants to treat her mother-in-law as her own mother, but as everyone knows, some mothers-in-law will always be just mothers-in-law, and he will not treat you as a family member.
When it comes to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, women who are daughters-in-law often complain that their mother-in-law does not treat them as a family. Indeed, in real life, there are not many mothers-in-law who regard their daughters-in-law as outsiders.
The smart mother-in-law understands that after her son gets married, she should not interfere in the life of the young couple. But some mothers-in-law always feel that their daughter-in-law is an outsider, and they do everything possible to make their sons guard against their daughters-in-law, as small as checking their mobile phones and as big as the family's money, so they aggravate family conflicts.
Among the many conflicts between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the most common is that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law regard each other as outsiders, resulting in rejection and differential treatment.
Good luck.
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Whether the mother-in-law is good or not depends on these three points1. Take a look at whether your mother-in-law takes good care of you during the confinement period, such as taking care of your mother-in-law during the confinement period, especially taking care of yourself during the confinement, which means that the mother-in-law is very sensible. On the contrary, if the daughter-in-law feels very aggrieved during the confinement period and cries at every turn, or the mother-in-law usually only cares about the children and does not ask herself about the confinement, the daughter-in-law will complain in her heart.
2. If you are nervous about money, but you haven't told your mother-in-law, and then your mother-in-law is naturally and generous to give you financial assistance, which shows that your mother-in-law is really good to her daughter-in-law, and this kind of mother-in-law is also very worthy of the respect of your daughter-in-law. If the mother-in-law has savings in hand, but the son and daughter-in-law are financially strapped and do not give a penny, then this kind of mother-in-law is very selfish.
3. Look at your husband's attitude, because from her husband's side, you can understand whether her mother-in-law said bad things about Chang Chanchen in front of her husband, and if she said bad things, her husband's attitude towards herself would be very cold. On the contrary, if the mother-in-law has never said bad things about her daughter-in-law, the key is to say good things about her daughter-in-law in front of outsiders, then this kind of mother-in-law is also worth getting along with.
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Yes, I was fortunate enough to meet a warm-hearted and kind mother-in-law. I have been married for more than 20 years and have lived with my mother-in-law for more than 20 years. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very harmonious. From my mother-in-law, I summed up the characteristics of a good mother-in-law.
1. Don't worry about daily trivial matters, be more tolerant, don't be confused about things at home, and discuss more.
The mother-in-law is middle-aged and widowed and is raising three children alone. You can imagine the hardships. My mother-in-law is a vegetarian all year round, and she doesn't cook meat when she usually cooks. But we don't need to be like her, we can change the pot to cook the meat, or buy it and eat it at home.
As for what to eat in life, when to eat, what to buy and other daily chores, as long as you like it, you never limit each other. When it comes to educating children, my mother-in-law knows that the old way of education is not fully adapted to the current era, and she often respects our opinions.
My mother-in-law rarely takes care of the housework, she is very relaxed and we feel at ease. In major matters, such as buying a house, my mother-in-law is more experienced than us, and will put forward opinions and suggestions to help within her ability.
In March 2016, my father fell ill in the middle of the night, and I was so distraught that I couldn't do anything but be anxious and helpless. My mother-in-law didn't say a word to help me contact the car to go home, pack my things, and tell my husband what to do. When I was pregnant, giving birth, confined, and most in need of help when my family encountered major events, my mother-in-law always extended a helping hand without hesitation, and I will always remember my mother-in-law's love for her.
When it comes to big events, my mother-in-law is the pillar of our family.
2. Don't compare, don't talk about the shortcomings of your family in front of outsiders, and don't participate in the shortcomings of other people's parents.
Mother-in-law often says: Happiness is not about having everything, let alone comparison. Contentment and joy are happiness.
Mother-in-law said that people don't need too much material in this life, and a healthy body and a simple life are more important. So she rarely compares herself to others. There are also neighbors who brag in front of their mother-in-law about how filial their son and daughter-in-law are and how smart their grandson is, and the mother-in-law always laughs at it.
If the neighbor complains to the mother-in-law that the daughter-in-law is not sensible, the mother-in-law will persuade her: the times are different, and it is easy for young people nowadays to go to work without noticing, to see the face of the boss, the old man should be more considerate, etc., often the neighbors come to complain and return in peace. My mother-in-law is very kind to others, not to mention our family, she is still very warm and caring.
It's the blessing of my life.
It is also possible to bring a child to your mother-in-law, you give up your job to take the child unnecessary, if the financial conditions allow, you can invite an aunt to the house to take you yourself can often see his growth, and then you can send him to the nursery, and then go to kindergarten, preschool, school, etc. Mother-in-law will also exchange knowledge with her when she takes you, and often go home to see. FYI!
After all, it's not your own mother, you can only be filial like your own mother, you can't call like your own mother, or communicate more, such as understanding what she needs, please her, after all, life still has to live, take harmony as the precious, be a generous woman. Besides, if she finds fault with you, see if what she says makes sense, if it's really unreasonable, it's a matter of her personal cultivation, you can't be angry with her, you can ignore her or refute her, explain the reason with her, and be a rational woman. Sometimes you should also think from the other person's point of view, don't always put your thoughts against her, maybe what she said is more reasonable than you... >>>More
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