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There is something wrong with their parents, their thinking is deeply influenced by the feudal ideas of the old society, but it is difficult to get them to change that deep-rooted thinking, it is useless to condemn them, it is better to find a way to convince them. Of course, we should also have our own thoughts.
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There is no need to condemn, after all, they still gave birth to those children for so many years.
If you are obedient, it depends on whether you want to listen to it or not, and if you think it is not suitable, you will not listen, and it will not hurt to listen to it.
It's so big, it's time to make your own decisions.
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Do you have a crush on one of their four daughters? Can't get 50,000 yuan?
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No matter how wrong your parents are, they always give birth to you and raise your parents. It's really bitter to think about parents. I gave birth to 4 and I had to help my 2 sons build houses and marry off my daughters.
I have to help take care of my grandson and grandson, and when the children grow up, they don't have to take care of them, and they are too old to walk!
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This is a clear patriarchal phenomenon. It is not fair that there is such a problem in rural areas.
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Find a good husband, forget it after getting married, what kind of world. If the son is good to his daughter, he can also consider it, but if it is not good, the hair is gone. Beware of thunder. Pity these daughters!!
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When we were children, we grew up little by little under the protection of our parents, and our parents endured a lot for us when we were young. We never thought about what they were going through. Until we grow up and have our own thoughts and understandings; It wasn't until we started to experience life on our own that we felt that life was really hard, and it was really not easy for parents.
When I graduated and came out to work and live alone, I began to feel more and more that life was difficult, and it was really not easy for my parents. In the first twenty years, it was really cultivated by their hard work.
As the saying goes: if you don't raise children, you don't know the kindness of your parents. Many people only understand the good intentions of their parents after they have children.
It was only in the first year of work after graduation that I felt that it was too difficult to earn money, and I realized the difficulty of my parents.
So as long as I have money, I will buy clothes for my parents or something.
After I got married, I had a mortgage, and my parents never used my money. It's not easy to say that we just got by. Now they can all make money.
Later, when you have a child, the child grows older and bigger, and there are more places to use money. Mom and Dad don't even give him money. Let me keep the flowers for the kids.
It is estimated that parents all over the world think about their children like this!
I have four brothers and sisters, and they all go to school. And my parents are ordinary farmers. In our time, girls were not required to go to school, and they said that they would marry in the future.
Reading is also reading for nothing. (I was still poor at that time), but my dad was stunned that I finished secondary school. In 97, the per capita income was only a few hundred yuan a month.
My father farmed in the summer and worked in the winter, so he was not idle, my brother finished college, and so did my brother, I studied secondary school.
Now think about what a powerful idea dad had for us to read. Fortunately, we also passed the test. Now mom and dad can enjoy themselves. But we can never repay the kindness of our parents!
I deeply understand the difficulty of parents. I can only double my filial piety to the two of them in the future.
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Life is not easy, and being a parent is even harder. In today's society, the role of "parent" is under tremendous pressure. If you want to earn money to support your family, you must learn to get along with your children.
Staying up late every day to accompany the child to do homework, taking the child to tutoring classes early in the morning on weekends, saying good things to the teacher for the child's grades, and everything is for him to have a good future.
When you are very young, you are the heart and soul of your parents, and you are the deepest concern of your parents. When you were a child, you loved to cry, and a cry in the middle of the night made your sleeping parents instantly get up in the bed to see if you were hungry and if you wanted to go to the toilet.
Parents who work during the day will be angry all day, and they will take care of you at night. When you're older, you learn to walk, you learn to talk, you learn to run. And these are all things that parents learn only after impatient teaching.
They are in front of you, like a kindergarten teacher, talking with overlapping words, eating, and drinking. Just to make you happy and make you laugh.
We grew up and had to go to kindergarten, elementary school, middle school, and university. In this way, we have a lot less contact with our parents, we are sensible, but we leave the arms of our parents, and we often go to our parents to quarrel during adolescence, which breaks our parents' hearts. Seeing my mother's tears, my heart was like a knife.
After college, do you return to your hometown to stay with your parents, or do you want to pursue a career abroad? Your parents are old, and so are you. They certainly don't want to delay your future and let you pursue the life you want. Even if they miss you, they won't tell you.
I can't be happy if I can only see you. This time tends to be short-lived, and separation is long-lasting. When you grow up, have your own career, and have your own life, it is impossible to spend a long time with your parents. In fact, there is another kind of companionship, called "dependence".
The mission of "dependence" is to accompany and "let parents in the world have something to rely on". It is an intelligent voice companion system developed by Lanchuang Technology based on the pain points of the elderly and children for three years, and is based on functions such as one-click**, health management, intelligent escort, and social interaction for the elderly.
I don't have time to go home, "she" accompanies her parents! Take her home.
Don't let your parents ......grow old aloneFilial piety in time, no regrets!
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<>There are some things that are difficult for you to experience without growing up, and I am very grateful for the hard work of my parents over the years. It wasn't until you got married and had children that you realized that it was not easy to take care of children, but you didn't know that you also slowly came through from that stage.
When I was a child, my consciousness was often very vague, and mischievous things were normal. The older generation of people are not naughty, this child is not of great use, and there have been all kinds of bits and pieces of the past, and the parents have added a lot of troubles and some shame.
The usual mentality of parents is to hope that their sons will become dragons and their daughters will become phoenixes. When you are young, you will have a little problem more or less, and it is your parents who stand by your side unconditionally to take care of you.
My parents were in the curtain business and couldn't cope with all kinds of customers. Some customers clearly say that what they say is unreasonable, but they still have to smile at it, this is the reality of life.
When your parents were educating you when they were young, they may not have done it in the right way. Getting back to the point, it's all for your own good, and when Ni grew up, she gradually dreamed of agreeing with her parents' ideas.
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The first time I realized it was when I was in college, one day, my dad came out of nowhere and stayed in the school hotel for a few days, I thought he was on a business trip and came to see me by the way, but we ate together every day, and I didn't see him go out to run errands. When I was leaving, I said that I missed me, so I wanted to come and see, nothing else. At that time, I felt a little panicked inexplicably, my parents were no longer in the prime of life, but I had not grown up yet."
Dad used to rush to drink when he was out socializing, and every glass of wine was a battlefield, and he would never touch the wine when he came home. I don't drink when I go out to eat now, but whenever I come home from vacation, I have to drink two cups with me every meal, and I feel happy drinking each glass."
I saw them sitting on the couch and pulling each other's gray hair."
My mom held the photo album and told me stories about when we were kids, and when my dad stood on the platform to see me off, they started talking to me cautiously, and they all thought how time was so fast."
Mom loves to do needlework, but when she needs my help to thread the needle."
My dad used to tell us stories about how he chased my mom when he was younger, what happened after they got married, and the story of me and my sister when we were young."
These tearful little details all show that the parents are really old, and they used to always want to grow up and go out, but now they just want to go back to accompany them. I wish we could make money faster than our parents age, so that we could spend more time with them. If you have time, spend more time with your parents.
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Hello, happy with your question. Being a parent is not easy instantly, and I have the following opinion:
1.When I saw my parents with gray temples and saved money just to save money for their children.
2.Parents send their children on a long journey to school, insisting on waiting for the car to leave before slowly leaving.
3.Parents who are reluctant to eat want to keep what they want to keep for their children until everything is broken.
4.When parents report good news but not bad news, and when they are sick and do not hide from their children, they endure independently.
5.Parents are old, presbyopia, can't see the items clearly, when the drug instructions.
6.As the saying goes, the tree wants to be quiet but the wind does not stop, the child wants to raise but does not wait, it is not easy to be a parent, I am afraid that it can only be experienced when children become parents.
It is recommended that children often go home to see, accompany their parents, accompany their parents to do more health management activities, and take them out to travel and see the great rivers and mountains of the motherland when they have time.
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It is not easy to be a parent, have children, educate children, and raise children.
1. It is not easy to conceive in October. At the beginning of the 80's, our new unit was busy with infrastructure construction, paving gravel roads, and backfilling earth, and I was a few months pregnant at that time, and I was still carrying baskets and digging for soil. When I got home from work, my whole body was aching and I couldn't sleep at night.
2. It's not easy to have a baby. After entering the hospital, the obstetrician and gynecologist told me: "Normal, be patient."
I can bear the stomach pain the first day, but the next day, the pain is ah, the bones of the whole body seem to fall apart, and the doctor does not give oxytocin: "It is best to give birth to yourself"! Finally, I waited until the morning of the third day to give birth.
3. It is not easy to breastfeed during lactation. Whether it is day or night, the baby needs to change diapers and breastfeed at any time, and the mother lacks sleep the most, and she has to persevere. At that time, I was on 56 days of maternity leave, and my health was a little weak, but I still insisted on going to work.
One night I was napping from breastfeeding, and the baby in my arms almost let go and scared me.
Raising children knows the kindness of their parents. Thanksgiving, no need to be reminded by others, and siblings take turns to accompany their elderly parents when they have free time. Usually greet frequently, buy the medicine and food that parents need online, and express the affection of green leaves for the roots.
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Every moment is not easy!
First of all, when you are immersed in hard work.
When I was a child, my parents always worked in the fields, sweating wet clothes, and still working hard under the scorching sun.
When you have gray hair.
Every time I go back, I look at the gray hairs on my parents' hair, only to find that they are old, and the years have left traces on them!
When the face is full of wrinkles and vicissitudes of life.
The moment I noticed the wrinkles on my parents' faces, I suddenly felt very sore in my heart. At that moment, I suddenly felt that life was too difficult, and at the same time, I felt powerless as a child. I found that my parents were hunchbacked, and I found that my parents were always giving to my children.
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Parents are their children's first teachers. Although there is no need for vocational certification for the lifelong profession of parents, there are many places to learn. If you want to cultivate an excellent child, you must lead by example and become an excellent parent first.
So what makes a good parent?
Be a good role model.
Children always learn the most from their parents. Children, especially young children, will more or less think that their respectful parents are always right. They think that parents are always smart and powerful – basically not making bad decisions.
So do what you can to build this ideal image. Before you want to lose your temper or get angry in front of your children, think about the role models you are giving them. What character do you want to educate the children to form, you have to do it yourself first
Respect, friendliness, honesty, kindness, tolerance, and more.
Spend more time with your children.
When you have children, your most important task is to keep them healthy – to keep them well fed, clothed, and housed. You have to work non-stop to do this for your child while fulfilling a myriad of other responsibilities. But when all these requirements are done, you must take the time to understand the children themselves.
Never lose sight of the fact that between your family and work, family should always come first.
Learn to care for your child.
It is said that caring for children rather than pampering children is because children are pampered by every parent of their own, but there must be a degree, pampering children may develop into doting, and spoiling children is extremely detrimental to the growth of children, so that children can grow up healthily by caring for children at ordinary times.
Able to understand children.
As the saying goes: long live understanding. People want others to understand them.
Children want their parents to understand them. If a child does something that is not satisfactory to us, we make a fuss, get angry, thunder and lightning. Doing so will only cause the child to complain and create a gap between us and us.
We need to trust them and persuade them by being calm and discussing. We need to learn to empathize with our children and think about what they think and feel. We must know that today's children are not only satisfied with the material gifts of their parents, they also need our communication, but also need our understanding, and we must use practical actions to let children know that we understand him.
Progress with your child.
A child is born with a pure blank sheet of paper, and can write the most beautiful words and draw the most beautiful pictures. It depends on how we write and draw as parents. In order to make this painting well, we need to strengthen learning, learn to enrich ourselves, learn to educate children, learn to become a role model for children, learn to not be abandoned by the times, and strive to be a learning parent who grasps the pulse of the times and can make progress together with children.
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