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The most important thing is to treat both parents the same, and treat the other parent's parents as your own parents, just don't take care of each parent!
Don't just care about one parent, just like some men are stronger, women listen to men, and forget their parents after marriage, just be good to the man's parents, not to say that they are good to the man's parents, no matter what, you can't forget your biological parents, even if you are married, you still have to take care of your parents, otherwise they should be sad.
There are also women who are more powerful, and men listen to their daughters-in-law for everything, and after getting married, they are good to their mother-in-law, but not to their own mother. This is not right, the son-in-law should please the mother-in-law, and the daughter-in-law should also coax the mother-in-law, but they must take into account the parents of both parties, don't just take care of one side and forget the other!
And usually buy things for them, it is best to buy two copies of the same at once, so that both parents are very happy. And the husband and wife discuss everything and understand each other!
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Full respect and equal treatment.
Throughout the Internet and life, there are too many families that have caused conflicts due to the issue of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. After seeing other people's examples, although I dare not say that my husband and I have handled this problem properly, it is basically harmonious and stable.
First of all, I will fully respect each other's parents. It is not easy to raise a child, since I can sympathize with my mother's hardships, of course, I must also treat others with myself and understand the difficulties of my husband and parents. Of course, respect cannot completely avoid conflicts, when I have a conflict with my in-laws, I will first communicate with my husband privately to convince others.
After convincing my husband, he came forward to communicate with his parents, after all, parents still love their son more and are relatively more receptive to persuasion.
Secondly, I will treat my parents the same. I will take the initiative to remember my in-laws' birthdays and preferences, and take the initiative to greet them during the New Year's holidays and buy items for them. This is not to say that I forgot my parents, on the contrary, because I am generous and filial to my in-laws, my husband will also be grateful to me, and I will also respect and be filial to my parents.
The most important thing to get along with each other's parents is to obey each other's hearts first. I don't agree with blindly pleasing each other, and I don't agree with being too lazy to save face, and slandering each other's parents in front of my spouse, because the strange in-laws are preceded by a cowardly husband.
People's hearts are flesh and blood, and mutual respect is the long-term way. In the same way, also set an example for the next generation, after all, who is not old yet.
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How couples treat each other's parents is a philosophical question. Personally, I think couples should treat each other's parents as their own parents, but not as their own parents. To put it simply, you should be considerate and caring for each other's parents as you would your own parents. But they can't ask for each other's parents like they ask for their own parents; You can't be coquettish to each other's parents like you are spoiled with your own parents.
To put it simply, treat each other's parents as if they were your own parents, and treat them as outsiders.
My next-door neighbors are a young couple. The wife often shush her mother-in-law and ask for warmth, and in this regard, everyone thinks that she is very competent. However, her mother-in-law often complained to outsiders, saying that her daughter-in-law was not sensible at all and often treated herself as a servant.
Everyone was very puzzled, and later learned from her mother-in-law that his wife often threw the changed clothes directly into the wash basin for her mother-in-law to help wash them; My mother-in-law didn't wash cleanly, and she would keep complaining. In this state, in fact, he completely treats his mother-in-law as his own mother. Of course, your mother will tolerate your bad habits and will help you work unconditionally, but your mother-in-law will not do this.
Therefore, we should treat each other's parents as if they were our own parents and as if we were outsiders.
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When you marry into your husband's family, in fact, your father-in-law and mother-in-law have already recognized you, you just need to take the initiative to help your mother-in-law do some housework in your daily life! For example, when eating, take the initiative to help next to your mother-in-law, or directly say mother-in-law, you rest, I will cook today's meal. Or help your mother-in-law to wash the dishes when washing the dishes, in fact, as long as you are diligent at home, and the mother-in-law and father-in-law actually love the daughter-in-law very much.
And you usually buy more clothes in life! For your mother-in-law and father-in-law, you don't need to buy it regularly, as long as you and your husband go shopping, your father-in-law and mother-in-law will think that you are a very sensible daughter-in-law. As long as you use snacks for the two elders in your usual life, if you usually work outside, you can call them a few more ** at night.
Chat more with them, because the elderly are the most afraid of loneliness. And you can tell how they're doing when you talk to them! <>
You have to know that if you do something with your heart, you can do it well. I wish you and your family a good relationship.
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If you want the other party to treat your parents with a very good attitude, then you should also have a very good attitude towards each other's parents, and you must be filial to each other's parents to understand each other's parents, in life, if you encounter any difficulties, you must give timely help, this is the right way to treat each other's parents.
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I've always respected my mother-in-law, I don't know if my mother-in-law thinks I'm honest or what, sometimes I always speak to me in a tone of lessons, which makes me very uncomfortable and doesn't feel respected, the only thing you are qualified to teach is your son, not me, you can't bear it, you don't need to endure it, you can't listen to it! Now it's unpleasant for anyone to talk, and I don't want to pay attention to her.
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I will do to them as they do to me.
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Why do you ask such a question: First, I didn't think about it, Second, I didn't play enough, Third, You're not good enough for me, and Fourth, I don't want to get married yet.
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First, emotionally: respect our parents and understand their mentality that they still teach us as their own children. Because, no matter how old you are in front of others and how high your position is, on a psychological level, you are still their child.
Second, in life: it is not a bad thing to accept the care of your parents once in a while. At least your existence makes the life of your aging parents more meaningful and fulfilling.
Third, cognitively: understand and accept the differences between ourselves and our parents, and understand that because of the different backgrounds of the times, they may not give us what we want. We can dismiss some of their views, but we don't have to reject and hurt them with a cold attitude.
The so-called: harmony and difference, in order to create a more harmonious environment. Fourth, in terms of communication and expression:
Learn to respect your own feelings and needs and express them from an objective standpoint. A person as a person as a life in itself, whether it is your views or your emotions, deserves to be respected. You don't have to suppress some of your parents' negative emotions, and you don't have to feel guilty.
Because, you know, there are no perfect parents in this world, just as you are not a perfect child.
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Parents for a lifetimeIt's not easyEverything is for the sake of the child, for himselfWhat to eatWhat to wear, don't care, just careThe child is not full of food, and the clothes are not warm, parents still have a place in life. , the parents are gone, and there is only a way back in life.
I remember when I was a kid, I had an older brother, and my brother was more than ten years older than me, and he left me when he was nineteen, and I was only six years old at that time, and I didn't know how to leave at that timeWhat it means, I asked my parents several times, my brother went to **, and at that time my mother was justSilent tears, Dad and I said"My brother went far, far away, and he would be there to watch me and protect me".At that time, I was ignorant, until I was older, I didn't understand that my brother left me forever, he became a little star in the sky looking at me, because of my brother's departure, my parents gave me all their love, I was afraid to melt in my mouth, I was afraid to fall off in my hands, I grew up day by day in the care of my parents, because of my parents' pampering, I became a little willful, disobedient and ignorant, the most annoying thing was my mother's nagging, I couldn't wait to run away from home, until the first time I worked, At that time, my first day of work, my mother sent me out of the door, when I got off work, I saw my mother looking at the intersection from afar, picking me up and going home, my father had already come home from work early, and made a table of meals waiting for me, at that moment my eyes were moist, and I hugged my parents for a long time and was silent, when I paid my salary for the first time,For the first timeI bought a gift for each of my parentsSeeing the happy appearance of my parents and holding the gifts, I burst into tearsI smiled happily.
The son wants to be filial and does not treat his relativesDon't regret it when you lose it, treat your parents like your parents treated you when you were a child, we were children when we were children, and our parents were also children when they were old, and our parents held us to teach us when we were youngLittle by little, learn to walk, parents should support their parents when they are oldTake a little step, parents when we were youngA little bit teaches us to speak, tirelessly, parents when they are oldLittle by little, listen to what your parents say, Maybe the parents are not expressing clearly, maybe the parents are no longer talking in the way, please don't worry, give your parents a little more time, filial piety first, please treat your parents well, so that your parents have a happy, worry-free old age.
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Usually listen carefully to your parents, don't cause them trouble, and let your parents worry less! You can help your parents do some housework, experience the hard work and hardship of your parents, and when your parents are tired and sad, help your parents beat their shoulders, say some comforting and happy words, and listen to your parents.
Care for them, help them within the scope of their ability, and give back to them.
These are the things we should be doing as children. Everyone has a time when they are old, and they should treat it well. Only if you treat your parents well, will your children and grandchildren follow your example and treat you well.
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In fact, I think that when we as children treat our parents, we should definitely treat them seriously with our sincerity and filial piety, and seriously honor our parents, which is also an obligation that we should fulfill as children.
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Our parents give us all kinds of care, we can't turn a blind eye, or even be impatient, we should leave our parents who know how to be patient and tolerant. aqui te amo。
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You should know how to treat your parents. Gratitude. They raised us for life.
We should repay filial piety to them well. Now there are inevitably some bumps in life. Some contradictions arise.
But we must. Got it. They are the ones who raised us.
So. Be tolerant. Filial piety to them is the most basic thing for us to be children.
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Parents should be respected, understood, cared for, and filial piety. Here are some specific suggestions:
Respect parents: Respect your parents' personality, living habits, hobbies, etc., and don't criticize or blame them easily.
Understand your parents: Understand your parents' situation and mood, and don't lose your temper easily or doubt them.
Caring for parents: Caring for their physical health, emotional needs, and quality of life, and giving them help and support as much as possible.
Filial piety to parents: to meet the living needs of parents as much as possible, constantly improve their ability and quality, and strive for better living conditions for parents.
Maintain family affection: No matter what shortcomings or faults your parents have, you must maintain family affection, communicate with them with sincerity and language, and do not cut off relationships easily.
In short, the treatment of parents should be based on filial piety, based on respect, understanding and love, and with the goal of maintaining family affection. Only in this way can we establish a harmonious and welcoming atmosphere in the family and make our parents feel our care and love.
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I think people have different ideas at every age, the older you are, you may understand your parents better, you may often lose your temper with your parents when you are young, but when you are older, you will feel more of your parents' kindness to you.
I think it's okay, if you treat your parents very filial, very respectful and respectful, it means that this person is a person who knows how to be grateful, and is also a person who respects friends and elders very much, and treats others kindly.
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