My boyfriend has a bad temper, do I still want to marry him?

Updated on psychology 2024-05-14
13 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    Definitely not! As the old saying goes, the country is easy to change, but the nature is difficult to change. A person's temper is basically difficult to change, if your boyfriend is really as bad as you say, it's better not to marry, and even you know that he has a bad temper.

    I'm sure he'll lose his temper with you, too. What if he can't change it after he gets married? No, so it's better not to get married.

    If you are married to him now, what should you do if he still has a bad temper after marriage, after all, we can't be 100% sure that we can get rid of his bad temper, and marriage is a big deal, if your parents know that your boyfriend has a bad temper, they won't let you marry, do you want to think that he will still have a bad temper after getting married, and he will lose his temper and quarrel with you all day long, can you stand such a marriage? It's definitely not going to work, you have to get divorced if you get married like this. So you have to think about it yourself!

    You must choose the best when you get married, and the marriage is not the same as the ancient one before, you can choose another boyfriend by yourself, and you don't have to be with him, and your separation from him is completely caused by his stinky temper. And what reason should you not pursue a better marriage partner! <>

    Also, after getting married, what should you do if your boyfriend's stinky temper hits your parents? Do you want to let the parents who gave birth to you and raise you suffer the temper of an outsider? And what those relatives and friends say, so to speak, marriage is not a trivial matter, let alone your own business.

    And if your boyfriend's bad temper upsets your family, an unblessed marriage like this won't be a good marriage. So you have to think about it carefully.

    You can try to think about your life after you get married, so I can only give you one advice on whether to get married or not, make a decision or make your own decision. Wishing you happiness and happiness!

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Your boyfriend has a bad temper, so it is recommended that you carefully consider whether you can continue to develop. The most fearful thing is that the other party is grumpy and then beats his wife after marriage, if he is grumpy, you can try to appease him, if you can't achieve effective results, or even beat you, I hope you can make a good decision.

    My sister has a boyfriend, and he is also a grumpy type, and he gets angry and scolds at every turn. My sister couldn't stand it anymore and complained to me many times. I said to her, if the man beats you, don't be reluctant, you must leave immediately.

    Men who can commit domestic violence are not good men, and they will not love their wives and children. I also tried to tell my sister to change her boyfriend, and the two of them should try to talk peacefully and not too loudly. If you are dissatisfied, you can tolerate it if you can, but if you can't bear it too much, you must say it immediately, and you must speak with wisdom, and you can't say it directly, so that the grumpy side may burn his temper to the highest point, and then the two of you will continue to quarrel.

    Since you are dating on the premise of marriage, you must consider your married life, and if a man cannot change his temper for you, please choose to leave. If he tries to change, please stay and continue to support him.

    Now my sister's boyfriend has changed his bad temper for her, and he is no longer angry because of some trivial things, when a person is angry, immediately give him a glass of water, or your personality will immediately soften, so that you can avoid more unnecessary noise.

    Of course, there must be a limit to a person's patience, and it cannot be unconditionally forbearing. That way, your boyfriend will feel that even if he loses his temper with you, he will put up with me, so I don't need to change.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Everyone has a bad mood, and they must need a way to vent their feelings, so it is understandable that your friend is in a bad mood, but if he always loses his temper, it means that he may not be able to choose the right way and then vent his emotions.

    Your boyfriend has always lost his temper, but you need to explain in advance what kind of tantrum your boyfriend has? Whether he loses his temper at others, or at you, over one thing, or when he is angry, he pulls out a lot of things.

    What is the state of a tantrum throw? If you ignore others or start throwing things and swearing, I think it's understandable if your boyfriend's tantrum is more subtle.

    Because when everyone is in a bad mood and has a depressed feeling in their hearts, they should choose an appropriate way to eliminate their bad mood.

    It's okay to choose this way appropriately, but if your boyfriend's choice of venting is to throw things and swear, which is a very irritable way, you need to think about it again!

    Because this shows that he is not very able to control his emotions very well, if you marry such a person, you may be unhappy in your life in the future.

    Now that the two of you are together, he may not lose his temper with you, but after getting married, it's just a life, there are a lot of trivial things, if you lose your temper with him easily, it's easy to lose your temper with you, and you may have a hard time.

    If you can't accept it, you can choose a proper separation, which is also a good proof to yourself, don't be too wronged yourself.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    You have to think that marriage is a lifelong thing, and he has a bad temper with you now, are you looking forward to a change in his temper after marriage? It's impossible, and his bad temper has become his liking.

    Losing his temper with you now becomes the norm of life after marriage, and if you can't stand it now, don't marry him unless he is willing to change his temper for you.

    But about temper, this is innate, there is no way to change it, even if he can restrain his temper, but there is no guarantee that he will restrain it for a lifetime, and when it comes to old age and menopause, that time is the most terrible.

    Your boyfriend's temper represents his character, and you can also see what your future life will be like, you will quarrel in the future because of many things that are not in agreement, and no matter how deep your feelings are, you can't withstand a long quarrel.

    But no one will accommodate each other in marriage for a lifetime, you are not superhuman, and you have your own joys, sorrows, and sorrows. What you need is a man who loves you, a gentle man will bring you a lot of happiness, emotions can infect others, and you must be sad when your boyfriend's bad temper explodes.

    Life is short, don't love a person who makes you sad, the joy of life comes from the family, you will have children in the future, and the children will also be infected by the father, and develop a bad temper, do you think your future children will be like your husband? Genes are great, and you can't marry him in order for your future children to grow up in a loving family everywhere.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    I think you have to think carefully, even if he has a bad temper, see if he will lose his temper with you for a little thing, if so, it is better to continue to test him, after all, marriage is a lifelong event.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    Then it depends on whether you can tolerate his temper or if he is willing to change for you.

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Inclusion can be chosen, but it must be principled. No matter how gentle a person is, he also has his own temper, and if you provoke him, he will also be very angry. But some people have a bad temper and are impatient with many people and things.

    There will be some hidden dangers when your boyfriend has a bad temper and gets married, and if he always quarrels with you after you get married, your life will not be easy. If you really love him, you have to find a way to restrain his temper, so that you can still be together. So how to deal with a bad-tempered boyfriend, let's take a look.

    1. Know how to tolerate but not forbear. Boyfriend is short-tempered, as a lover is naturally more tolerant, lovers can not only see each other's advantages, appreciate the advantages, but can not tolerate each other's shortcomings, can not tolerate the natural quarrels, but tolerance is not equal to forbearance.

    Forbearance will make you uncomfortable, sooner or later there will be a day when you can't bear it, you can't bear it, forbearance is an uncomfortable accumulation, and if you can't bear it, it's time to break up, so you have to improve your self-cultivation, tolerate him, see more of his advantages, and stare less at his shortcomings, but not forgive him.

    2. Communicate when he is in a good mood. When he doesn't lose his temper, find an opportunity to communicate with him more, his temper is difficult to change, so he can't change it, but he can try to learn to restrain himself, don't lose his temper at every turn, a man's frequent tantrum is a sign of immaturity, and frequent tantrums are very hurtful, and it is not good for the body.

    3. Know how to go step by step. You can keep a diary to record the reasons and processes of his irritability and tantrums, and sort it out every week to see what things are easy to make him explode and lose control of his emotions, do not touch his anger switch, reduce the causes of his attacks, and prevent problems before they happen. (You can also place your diary next to the toilet bowl and knock on the side.)

    Observe carefully to see what kind of attitude, who or himself is the most effective deterrent to his temper tantrum when he is in a state of anger.

    4. Be principled. Domestic violence will never be tolerated, and some people will blindly accommodate each other even if they encounter domestic violence, which will only make the problem more and more serious. You must know that if you hit the first time, you will have a second and third time.

    Therefore, as soon as there is domestic violence, you have to leave for a period of time, you can go to your mother's house for a few days or force the other party to write a letter of guarantee. If it is serious, it will be dealt with by divorce.

    If you can't accept it yourself, then leave, since you are entangled, you must be inseparable from him, so you have to find a way to help him change his temper and slowly smooth his temper.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    If a girl meets a guy who is very angry in love, then it is better for the girl not to marry the boy.

    Falling in love is the first stage of marriage. Generally speaking, only two people who have gone through a long enough love process will go to the palace of marriage. If there are many problems between two people in the process of falling in love that cannot be solved, then the two people are destined to be unable to stay together until they grow old.

    If a girl meets a boy who is very temperamental, then she must think carefully about the various situations she will encounter after getting married before getting married.

    1. Marrying a guy who always loses his temper will not be happy.

    Obviously, a boy who always loves to lose his temper can't control his emotions. This kind of person is often more impulsive and irritable, if the girl in the process of getting along with this kind of tantrum boy, do something that makes the boy feel unsatisfactory, then the boy may lose his temper, and in serious cases, the boy may also have some violence towards the girl. Getting along with such a boy will only feel like a year, and it will be very tormenting.

    2. Marrying a guy who always throws tantrums will affect your children.

    In the process of children's growth, the father is a very important role, and the influence on the child is very far-reaching. If your child's father often vents his emotions at home, then your child will also learn this way of venting his emotions from your husband, so that he will also become irritable and manic, which is definitely very detrimental to the child's development. I don't think there is a mother who wants to see a child who throws a lot of tantrums.

    3. Boys who lose their temper often don't have a good enough attitude towards your family

    Although you are a very close person to your boyfriend, your family and friends are not really that close to him. If your boyfriend isn't good enough for you, then he will definitely be bad for your family as well. If your boyfriend doesn't get along well with your family, you'll also have a hard time.

    And your family will also worry about whether you are being bullied by your boyfriend.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    I think if he always loses his temper in love, then you don't want to consider marrying him, the temper will be even bigger after marriage, and you will be unbearable, so stop the loss in time as soon as possible.

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    In this way, you can still consider marrying him, there is no tantrum, probably because he is relatively young and not very mature, and after marriage, his boyfriend will change his attitude and will not always lose his temper.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    No, if the other person often loses his temper with himself in his life, it means that the other person is not a particularly reliable person, and living with such a person may expose you to a lot of bullying, and you should think twice.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    No. It can be seen that this boy is very irresponsible, can't tolerate your temper, and will often lose his temper with you, such a man should not marry him.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    Such a man is not suitable for marriage, because your boyfriend has a particularly bad temper, and after getting married, he may be more irritable, and he is likely to commit domestic violence against you.

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