Why do I pay so much but get hurt so deeply, please 3Q

It is precisely because you have given a lot that you feel so deeply hurt, on the contrary, you have not given much, and you will not feel sad if you lose!

Trouble, thanks!

Since we have chosen love, we must treat it sincerely, cherish it, support him when he (she) is in difficulty, encourage him or her when he (she) is happy, and comfort him (her) when he (she) is happy. Rather than ignoring its existence when you have it, only to regret it only after you lose it. To love someone is to make him (her) happy forever, to be his (her) eternal safe haven, to protect him (her), even if it is the slightest harm.

Truly loving someone is not as simple as we think, an affectionate hug, a deep kiss, an unchanging vow, a ...... that will not fadeAll this is tasteless, dark and dull in the face of true love. The most important thing to love a person is to respect his (her) own independent time and space, let him (her) devote his (she) energy to the struggle for his ideal career, and urge him (her) to make full use of the time at his or her disposal, help each other in the short space with each other, support each other, share weal and woe, contribute to each other's ideal cause, and strive for a better future together! You may not think it will be like when you have it, but when you lose it, you will know what heartache is.

Most people get used to doing something or accepting someone's feelings for a few days, but one day when you stop what you have done and accept from people, you feel as if something is missing. Actually, nothing is missing, it's just that you're starting to get used to that life, that feeling. Therefore, when you lose him (her), you will think that he (she) is valuable, if you cherish him (her) at the beginning, he (her) will not leave you now.

Friends, cherish what you have now, don't wait until everything is gone from you, all you have left is regret and self-blame.

1. Stop loss in time.

Long pain is better than short pain, so if you can't feel the other party's love, you should cut off this relationship in time. Many people are very easy to lose themselves when they fall in love, some love fades away when they talk, some people break up when they walk, when two people are together, they love each other very much, but in the end, one person left first. Whether it is marriage or love, there is a certain shelf life, and it is very appropriate for a normal love period not to exceed three years and two years.

If you don't feel the love of the other party in a relationship, it may be because the relationship is not managed with heart, so the love will disappear.

2. Learn to operate.

Let each other become unbalanced, if only one party always pays, the other party keeps asking for the person who pays, and if he can't get a response to the seller, he will also choose to give up. Whether in a relationship or in a marriage, we must learn to respect each other's opinions, learn to communicate more, and take the initiative to express our ideas. In fact, two people will put a lot of feelings into falling in love, and the two hearts will slowly get closer, but with the passage of time in Liang Nian, after the sweet period has passed, it is difficult to find the original feeling.

Everyone knows that in a relationship, you can see the other person's love for you in some insignificant things.

3. Create surprises.

A sense of ritual is also needed in life.

Yes, you can choose to give each other some practical and meaningful small gifts on anniversaries. These ritual gifts are needed at all times as a debugging agent, and when you don't feel the other person's love, you can choose to hug and kiss or pick a gift that the other person likes to give to the other person. If you blindly pay but don't feel the other party's love, you should stop the loss in time, otherwise you will be very easily hurt.

What is love? The meaning of love is very broad and can be friendship, family affection, love, ......Perhaps the most interesting thing for people is love, right? Then I might as well talk about love.

Love is the most beautiful word, how many people are struggling to pursue it, sometimes people regard love as more important than life. But what is love? How many people truly have eternal love?

How many people have been searching for it all their lives? Love may be the feeling of love at first sight, love may be the feeling when you make a promise, and love may be the ......feeling of life and deathLove is a topic that can't be talked about endlessly. When you fall in love with someone, your heart is panicked and uneasy, you don't know how the other person feels, and you have to hide your feelings because you are a reserved person.

Maybe the root of your love is a shadow in your heart, you put on a dream clothes for him, you are intoxicated in the illusion of the dream and do not want to wake up, wandering and tossing for a long time, when you know the other party's feelings, everything has been light, because you have stepped out of his shadow, his coat is no longer gorgeous, the love you hold has lost its luster, and your life has been injected with gray since then. When I don't have the experience of loving others, I think, "It's a pleasure to love others."

When I was loved, I thought, "What a blessing to be loved!" But whether it is to love or be loved, it is so sad, because people's hearts are always so unpredictable, and desires are always so things, for her, they can only pass by.

Nothing can penetrate deep into her heart. Like a decadent and gloomy flower, with a gesture of despair but looking up at an innocent face, smiling at all cruelty and humiliation. The deep dark green color is without tears.

Such a flower that blooms forever in the dark does not believe in tears, and is destined to be lonely for a lifetime. Often, in a crowded crowd, I feel the extension, sound, smell of many strangers, chaotic and noisy. And when you are quiet and then look and listen, you can feel incombinable, with love and being loved, there will be a struggle in the whirlpool of feelings, and with love and being loved, there will be more entanglements in the emotional world.

The wrong car of loving and being loved, the incomprehension of loving and being loved, the restriction of loving and being loved, the helpless ...... of loving and being lovedIn the vast land, for a person who is disappointed in the world and has no love in his heart, isn't it the same to **? Forever walking on the road, all love, all of a sudden, you will find that there is nothing here. Empty and silent.

There are many people who have no soul. I live a mediocre life, I have no purpose, I don't know why I want to live, and I never think about what I live for. There may be more and more such people in this world.

He was always looking for someone who felt the same way he or she did. Even if it is far away, even if it is crowded, he may feel the loneliness of the blank, and then know that the same alien as himself is not far away and feels each other with him.

We will complain about our lover when our energy is very low and our mood is low, and the other party's behavior, whether good or bad, will inexplicably provoke us to get angry, lose our temper, and complain about why they make their love so tired and so hard. When we come to our senses, we regret why we behaved so badly, so immature, but we don't know why we are like this, and we hate ourselves for being out of control. Think about yourself or the friends around you, in your love life, although saying:

I love him very much, and I am willing to love with my heart and give unconditionally. But why did the results all become ugly and unkind, leading to physical and mental exhaustion, and love so hard? If we give too much unconditionally, we will be called stupid, and if we give too little, we will be said to be calculating.

In fact, only by living independently and with self-respect can we have the strength and ability to love and give. Powerful love always starts with self-love, so that love has a lot of space, at least to release one's emotional shackles in love. Many times, what we love is not love itself, but only the shackles in the relationship, which promotes the pathology of self-attachment.

Ask yourself, when you give for someone, do you want to get something in the relationship? What is your starting point? Is it to satisfy your own desires?

For example, if you feel that you have given a lot of affection to your lover, and you only ask your lover to spend more time with you, but the other party can't do it, and you feel that you have paid more than you, will you want to break up? Is that the right thing to do? Is it too selfish, not considerate and tolerant enough?

At this point, you should check whether you are giving only for the sake of desire, because they are not with you and make you scared and bored? If you only think about these things, it proves that your efforts are really just a desire to reciprocate, hoping to fill the void of your fear of loneliness through the feeling of being with someone. Then think about it, can't he be with you more?

What is he up to? This is the most important meaning of love: to cultivate yourself by getting along with each other, to grow yourself, and not to indulge in any more.

Some girls are very dependent and want to be accompanied by someone to give flowers and gifts. If you can transcend these desires, love will be elevated, become pure, self-considerate, and have a clear conscience, even if the other person eventually wants to break up due to various incidents, your love is still great and precious, because you have grown through love.

Try to love someone. Giving may not necessarily be rewarded; If you don't give, you won't get anything, and don't expect miracles.

Man is lonely, and the only way to alleviate the pain it causes is to accept it calmly. If you haven't experienced it, you'll never understand these truths, but it's good to hear them. It can not be beautiful, it can not be cute, it can not be gentle, but it must be honest and kind.

Love all that is good, praise and enjoy the beauty that they bring. When difficulties come, face them with a smile and solve them with wisdom.

Have the courage to admit the mistakes you have made and take responsibility for them. Never give a friend who has betrayed you a second chance to betray. No matter who you are, you have your own limits.

Especially trust. Know how to listen to the advice of others. What others say is remembered in the head, but what is said by oneself is kept in the heart.

In fact, there are many things that will always be understood after experiencing it, how to protect yourself after the emotional pain, how to persist and give up in a timely manner after being stupid, and we slowly understand ourselves in the gain and loss, and there are many things in the world that can only be seen clearly in the past.

Your contribution is just to give to a person who doesn't cherish feelings or doesn't take you seriously, this kind of person doesn't understand feelings, you don't want to be too sad, and you should see each other and things clearly when you pay in the future.

The main problem lies in his attitude towards you.

Vitamin A-Action (ACT).

Any self-care action is good medicine: go to play ball, go to dance, go to the mountains and the beach to shout, go to the dog, go to the park to bask in the sun, go to the movies. Many people use rituals to complete psychological mourning, such as burning old letters, and such farewell acts have a healing effect.

Vitamin B - Believe

Falling out of love is most afraid of drilling the horns, especially settling old accounts, regretting not being at the beginning, and its simplicity is really useless. Think of the golden words of the love saints:""I am fortunate to have it, but I am not killed"、"If you have loved before, why should you have it"、"If love is held in the hand, it kills this lovebird"，"The past is gone, and the future can be chased"……Collect the good memories and draw an end to this karma with blessings.

Vitamin C - Communicate

Broken love is most afraid of self-withdrawal, closure, and imprisoning yourself in a sad and lonely castle. Find someone to say, write it yourself, tell your heart online and netizens, and have an outlet for your emotions, otherwise you will break the embankment. However, because I am afraid that it will be more sad or"The ugliness of the heart should not be publicized", afraid of other people's jokes, simply shut up, but I don't know that saying it is a kind of **, and it can be said that it means that you can face it calmly psychologically.

Vitamin D-distract

There are many ways to get out of your mood, leave the sad to travel, listen to the paragraph, read a book, pray, or transfer love, to help those stray dogs who need love, to care for the elderly and children around ......Young people most often use the Internet, TV, and chat to transfer.

Vitamin E-extract

Falling out of love is most afraid of rigid thinking, completely losing the ability to reflect or find meaning in pain, introspection is not to count whose fault it is, but to objectively evaluate the growth and learning of both parties after loss, and can be used as a reference for the next relationship.

Vitamin F - Fitness

Falling out of love is the most fearful"Abusing one's own body", binge eating and drinking, and even borrowing alcohol and medicine to kill their sorrows. Every day, you should find ways to exercise yourself, aerobic dance, swimming, jogging, and strengthen your heart and lung function; Do yoga and pilates to improve their softness; Lifting weights, sit-ups, and push-ups to maintain muscular endurance allow the body to release Endorphin and accelerate recovery.

Face it bravely, kid.