The future mother in law doesn t like me. What should I do if my in laws don t want to see me in the

Updated on pet 2024-05-12
4 answers
  1. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    1. As long as he is sincere to you and you love each other, nothing else matters.

    2. Her attitude towards you is just to let you retreat, your husband is marrying you as a wife, not marrying your family, so it is not a problem that your mother's home is not far away.

    3. You are living with him, not with his mother, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is a legacy of thousands of years in China, you have not been spared, and you don't have to worry about it.

    I hope you can overcome the difficulties and wish you happiness.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    Although I can't help you solve the problem, I think you're so pitiful Actually, your love is the most important thing! The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will slowly get better!

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Why does it have to be satisfying?! Just satisfy yourself, and be with the person you love is enough. If he doesn't treat you well because his mother doesn't agree, he separates, which means that he is not worthy of love.

    The current elders do not have so much quality and education, if you can completely please them, it means that you are also a cup from the old society. If you meet a good mother-in-law, you are lucky, and if you meet a bad mother-in-law, it is normal. In the future, your children will also have a gap and a generation gap with you, which is normal.

    So the important thing is to see if you are compatible with him or not, and whether you are happy or not. If you are entangled in the problem of pleasing your mother-in-law, you may lose your lover, and the gains outweigh the losses! So what should be done is to have a clear conscience.

    It's better not to go back, save the entertainment! Now the main thing is to consider what kind of person your boyfriend is, whether he is worthy of your love, whether he has the ability and courage to protect you, this time is the most important, don't delay your time!!

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    First, if the man's parents disagree, it means that they don't fancy you, and if you want to enter into marriage, you will inevitably be very tired and have to bear a lot of grievances.

    First of all, if the man's parents don't take a fancy to you, the road you want to get their approval in the early stage will be quite difficult, not to mention that you need to try your best to please, but you have to be careful to behave.

    In addition, you will always worry about whether your boyfriend will turn against him, whether he will not persevere and choose to give up, this kind of psychological process is also quite tiring.

    Then, even if you get a good result, the two families start to sit down and talk about marriage. Anyone who has ever been married knows that getting married is a very cumbersome thing.

    Because the man's parents didn't fancy you in the first place, this process will be somewhat reluctant, and they will inevitably behave very arbitrarily in the bride price and some marriage customs.

    And at this time, you can only choose to swallow the grievances in your stomach, because you know in your heart that it is not easy to get this step, and instinct will make you compromise again and again, and even let your parents be wronged because of this.

    Second, your future in-laws will not treat you as a family just because you are already married.

    You have to understand that the person who didn't want to see you at the beginning will always be unwelcome, unless she suddenly changes her sex or you have a fundamental change of heart, so that he has to change his opinion of you.

    Even if the parents-in-law don't want to see their son-in-law again, once their daughter gets married, they will make a 180-degree turn to treat this son-in-law, just to make him treat his daughter better.

    But the in-laws are different, the daughter-in-law they don't want to see marries in, even if they give birth to children for their family, it won't make them change their outlook, and they will even be even more unwelcome, thinking that they are the daughter-in-law who is in a hurry.

    Third, the long-term absence of the in-laws will affect the relationship between the couple.

    At the beginning, the husband will be more or less partial to his daughter-in-law, after all, the newlywed Yan'er still has freshness and feelings, and they will feel distressed when they see their daughter-in-law wronged, and they will help their daughter-in-law say a few fair words.

    But as time grows, they will get used to this way of getting along, and even feel that it is nothing, and the daughter-in-law will be somewhat aggrieved by her mother-in-law's cold words for a long time, and the husband is becoming more and more indifferent, the couple is easy to complain and quarrel often because of this, and after a long time, they will have a dislike for each other.

    The husband feels that the daughter-in-law is ignorant, hypocritical, and more and more noisy, and the daughter-in-law feels that her husband no longer protects her and no longer loves her, and it is likely that the two will go further and further.

    If you are unfortunate and you meet an in-law who does not want to see you, don't be afraid, don't be in a hurry to show goodwill, and don't be in a hurry to escape.

    Let's take a look at your future husband's attitude, see if he loves you enough, see if he has enough ability and emotional intelligence to mediate the conflict between his mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and see if he is unswervingly determined to marry you.

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