I am too busy at work to accompany my mother, can I send my parents to a nursing home?

If it's me, I will never be, the older a person is, the more he loves home, even if there is nothing at home, it is better than being outside, this is the concept of the elderly, and he is busy and has no time to accompany him, he can also play once every two days** or something. Generally, those who put their parents in nursing homes are people who are afraid of trouble, who doesn't want to have children and grandchildren, and who doesn't want to enjoy the joy of family. In their old age, they want to be like children, and they want to be comfortable.

It should be said that the current nursing home is not so mature and not as free as imagined, and you need to say hello when you go out and come in the nursing home. You give money to others to take care of their parents, but others just take your money restrictively so that they can't go out, and most of the time they spend walking around in that yard. And not all people in nursing homes are normal.

There are some families whose parents have Alzheimer's disease or are mentally ill, which is much more complicated than we think. Therefore, it is best to ask clearly on the spot, and even if you ask others, you may not be telling the truth, after all, it is also a kind of business.

There was an old man in our village who had no sons or daughters, and the state sent him to a nursing home, but he himself secretly ran back, or at night, and he said that the people there were all people with problems in their heads, and he didn't want to stay there. Although there is food and shelter, but there is no freedom at all, and there is a time limit for eating and everything, so he is very unaccustomed to it, he would rather stay in his own small house, pick up a little garbage in the village every day, buy some money, and no longer want to go back. Although we don't know what he went through, it is sure that it is indeed not good to be there, otherwise how could an old man think of sneaking out.

Isn't it often said that a gold nest and a silver nest are not as good as their own kennels? This statement is also very true, you can stay in your own place comfortably. It is recommended that you do not put the elderly in nursing homes unless you have to.

Think about an old man who doesn't know anyone there, and who doesn't have familiar friends, who just has unfamiliar faces and impersonal systems, which old man can stand the constraints of others. Therefore, many elderly people will get depression after living in nursing homes for a long time, and our parents have raised us so much, how much time and experience have been spent on us, can we repay them in this way? So no matter how busy we are, we have to give them a home in their old age, and it's a big deal to install a monitor in the living room of the elderly's home, so that you can check the time when he goes out and gets up at any time, and then go home to see them when he has time, which is also very good and relatively economical in terms of economy.

Don't spend time taking care of the elderly, still ask for the opinion of the elderly, forcibly send to a nursing home, my father said in advance, wait for you, wait for you, you don't send me to the nursing head home, I'm talking about Dad, you can rest assured, I won't give you a nursing home. I want my dad to take care of my kids. He treats him when he is old.

I take care of my dad, I have a package, I have a bag. I have a bag. I have three plastic trees.

I had three medications in the morning. Sometimes I've been waiting for me, I've been waiting for me. No harm, careful, careless, left neighbor, I am a great filial son.

I couldn't find anyone like me in the neighborhood. Unfortunately, I stayed for a few days and I didn't eat and I would send it to the hospital for two months. After walking.

So the family doesn't have time to take care of the elderly, but you have to think about your child and you will find a way to solve it. Waiting for your old, you will take care of you and let your parents take care of your parents.

Hire a service person, find a service person from a housekeeping company to take care of the elderly, pay the pension and deposit costs of the elderly, if the money is not enough, if you can't do this, you have to sell the old man's house, rent the old man, the old man, such a house is a more comfortable way for the old man. According to the current form of the family, looking for neighbors of neighbors, the elderly are inherited by neighbors after death. You can also use a mortgage on your home on a bank loan to hire a caregiver to see the elderly.

Because you are not capable of taking care of the elderly, do not think about inheriting the inheritance of the elderly, this is the truth of the fish and bear pause.

You can find a community for family pensions. For example, there are many communities in Tianjin, such as three meals a day, which are still very low. The elderly are immediately called to the service, carry out various housekeeping services, and promote to the hearts of the elderly to the small park, help the elderly to participate in recreational activities, also have a hospitable service location, and so on.

The service is free and the charges are lower than the market. You can adjust the old man's house to such a neighborhood and address your concerns.

It's better to go to a nursing home, it's really not okay to ask someone to take care of it.

Admission Instructions and Requirements:

1. The elderly are voluntarily admitted to the hospital. If you are discharged from the hospital, you and your family members must apply for discharge, and your children and the whole family agree to be discharged.

2. The elderly residents and their family guardians shall submit a copy of their ID cards and a hepatitis B test sheet for the elderly, indicating that there is no mental illness or infectious disease. The guardian of the elderly and the hospital shall sign an application form and two copies of the agreement.

3. Patients with mental illness and infectious diseases are not allowed to stay.

4. The hospital provides **, bed sheets, and pillowcases. The elderly need to bring their own daily necessities such as quilts, pillows, basins, towels, water cups, soap, and a change of clothes in all seasons. Please refrain from bringing any other items into the nursing home.

5. The elderly are not allowed to bring electrical appliances into the nursing home. If it is really necessary, it can only be brought in and used with the consent of the hospital, and all expenses (including electricity bills) will be borne by the family.

Choose a nursing home, recommend a happy home. Shenzhen Qianhai Life Happy Home is a high-end elderly care community with "medical care and elderly care", and is also one of the 12 major livelihood projects in Shenzhen. The living rooms in the community fully consider the living habits of the elderly, and adopt age-appropriate and barrier-free design to provide a safe living environment for the elderly in short-term care.

In addition, the community also has a chess and card room, a calligraphy and painting room, a handicraft room, an audio-visual room, etc., with various activities and novel forms, so that the elderly can have fun in old age.

If this is the case, ask a nanny to take care of it, otherwise it will be really difficult, either resign and take care of your father, or you can only ask a nanny to take care of it, otherwise there is nothing you can do.

If that's the case, then I think you can hire a babysitter for your father, so that you can take care of him during the day when you are at work, and you can spend more time with him at night.

Babysitter, please. Many elderly people are reluctant to go to nursing homes for the elderly, feeling too indifferent, and can help him hire a nanny to take care of his daily life.

In fact, this choice is also more correct, because the living conditions in the nursing home are still relatively good, and the elderly can also be given more company in the nursing home, which is safer than letting him be at home.

I think that even if we don't have time to take care of our parents, we shouldn't send our parents to a nursing home, this behavior is very immoral, it is completely an unfilial behavior, and we should take time out to take care of our parents.

If you don't have time to take care of your parents, sending them to a nursing home is actually a better option. Although there are people in nursing homes who take care of the elderly's food and clothing, the elderly can still feel lonely, so you should visit them often.

The life of our parents. Most of my generation of parents met on blind dates。There is no emotional basis, but the divorce rate is very low.

They don't feel very good about each other, but they think that having children should give them their own lives. Therefore, even if their personalities are different, even if their marriage has long since died in name, they are still willing to insensitively persist in order to give their children a complete family. I think we've all heard parents say things like "if it's not for the kids" and "it's all for the kids".

Be. Many of us have grown up sacrificing the happiness of our parents。Our parents work hard and earn money not to buy themselves a new dress, but to give their children a better life and send them to the best schools. They don't talk about love together.

They talk about children the most. When their children grow up, their grandchildren. When grandchildren grow up, they will also grow old.

At this time, they are useless to us, should we send him to a nursing home?

Their life and ours for 5 to 10 years. They spend their lives living for their children. When we were kids, we were dirty.

They don't think we're dirty, and even if you pull stinky, she has to watch for a long time to see if there are roundworms. When you can't eat, she feeds you bite by bite. She always helps you when you can't walk.

She'd rather not eat herself than starve you. She feeds you like a bird, raises you, and even your children.

With her whole life. Now they are old and have become children。They may need you to take care of them for 5 to 10 years.

Therefore, we thought that the sanatorium was good, that I was busy with my work and was not allowed, that I wanted to pursue my dreams, that I also had my own life, that I also had children, and for all these reasons I wanted to be cut off by the owner, send her to the sanatorium, bring some money to deliver.

Sometimes, I really wish my parents' love wasn't so great。The great man completely forgot about himself. I don't know what other people think about sending their parents to a nursing home, but I've always had a disagreement.

Because nursing homes can give a lot of convenience to the elderly, the only thing they can't give is love and love. In addition, several parents really want to go to a nursing home.

Once your parents know that you don't want to stay with him until death but intend to send him to a nursing home, his heart should be sad and helpless. This is undoubtedly the greatest emotional hurt to parents.

They gave birth to us and raised us. We take care of them when they are old. It's the best feedback and love.

The above is a personal opinion.

"Filial piety comes first", the traditional concept of "raising children and preventing old age" of the Chinese nation for thousands of years, sending parents to nursing homes is a great rebellion against filial piety, and parents can only enjoy the joy of family life when they live with their children.

In fact, on this issue, we should first ask ourselves, are you really busy, so busy that you don't have any time to take care of your parents. For elderly parents, do you really want to take on the responsibility of support, or do you have some resistance and shirk in your heart? If you really want to take care of it and really don't have the time, then sending your parents to a nursing home is also a reasonable choice.

But when deciding to send our parents to a nursing home, we must discuss calmly with our parents, and we must not force them, because some parents are very reluctant to do so, and we must patiently explain to them the truth of the matter, and I believe that parents will also understand the feelings of their children.

Another point we must do is that when our parents are old, whether they are living at home or in a nursing home, we as children should always send our filial piety and patience in a timely manner, and care for them carefully and carefully, just like they cared for us when we were children.

It is mainly from the perspective of oneself and the thoughts of one's parents. If you think that you can take care of your parents' retirement life, then you can not send them to a nursing home. But this will make you more stressed, time shorter, and busy.

Because after all, when you are old, you are very particular about food and housing. You have to spend a lot of time preparing the ingredients. This may not be attainable for the average person.

Most people will probably choose. Nursing home or hire a babysitter. Hire someone to take care of your parents' lives, and you can visit your parents at your leisure.

It's convenient, and you're also secure for your parents' lives. Sending to a nursing home is not necessarily a bad thing, there are other people in the nursing home, they are the same age. They can find some common topics in it, and they don't feel lonely.

They can also do what they love. It may not be so unbearable after going to a nursing home. Nowadays the elderly have their own ideas, they may not say that they want to go to a nursing home, they may not say that they want you to take care of them, they sometimes have their own old age.

They can arrange themselves. Able to take care of their own food and daily life. It doesn't need you to care too much.

Of course, if you want to send it to a nursing home, let's take it personally. I work in the city, and my elderly mother lives alone in the country. The old man is old, and there will always be some problems in his body, so he complains to us about the two heads in three days, and we also have a headache.

I also thought about picking her up to live with us, but it was not realistic, first, the floor was too high and inconvenient; secondly, the elderly are not used to life in the city; The third is the generation gap, even if it is a mother and daughter, living under the same roof all the year round, there will always be some friction, plus the old man's personality is relatively strong, everything has to be managed, and it will inevitably be unpleasant after a long time. So sending a nursing home has become the best choice.

The nursing home is full of old people who are about the same age as her, and everyone is together and has endless topics to talk about. Besides, the attitude of the staff is good, they ask for warmth all day long, three hot meals are prepared every day, and the elderly live comfortably, and they will never be as sad as before: what is the use of raising children.

The elderly are in a better mood, and their physical condition is naturally better, so we just need to go shopping for something every weekend to visit, which is naturally a relief for us who are busy with work.

Sending the elderly to nursing homes is not that children are shirking the responsibility of providing for the elderly, but an inevitable trend in the general environment. Imagine, when people reach middle age, they are old, they are young, and they have heavy work pressure, and it is really difficult for children to take care of the overall situation!