Should my boyfriend, who is worse than me in terms of appearance, education and economic conditions,

I think we can be together, true love is a reason for you to be together, as long as you really love each other, I think you can ignore these conditions, and although he is now although these conditions are worse than you, but I think it may not be in the future, in case he does business in the future, it is not the same, the existing economic conditions of education and appearance, and whether he can succeed in the future I don't think it has anything to do with half a dime.

Of course, now you are better than him, it may make him a little pressure, but I don't think the impact will be great, the appearance is actually only a few years, and when you are older, this can be completely ignored, if you have a degree, in fact, the relationship is not particularly big, in addition to going to a big company, other general jobs I think as long as the education is not too low, there will not be much difference, and if you open a store or do business, there is really no half-dime relationship with education, and now the big bosses, many of them are graduated from primary school, and their education is very low, But it still works. The economic conditions of the family, may be a more influential point, first of all, I think the most feeling about this should be your parents, your parents should not want to find a family conditions worse than the woman, but it is not easy to say, if your boyfriend is enough to please your parents I think the problem will be much smaller, and it mainly depends on you, if you are very persistent, many times to persuade your parents, I think your parents have nothing to say, the most important thing in marriage is love.

I think you really want to be together, then be together, financially or something, in fact, you can work together to make up for it, if you are very realistic and don't have great expectations for your boyfriend, then it's better to give up, because the conditions are much worse now. But it's hard to say anything in the future, and my advice is to just like it.

<>First of all, I feel that appearance is not the standard for judging a person's quality or badness, and now there are very handsome people who are not doing their jobs, as long as they can take them out. If you really think about it, then looks are not a big problem.

Second, academic qualifications are not equal. Then it depends on how big the difference between the two of you is in terms of your academic qualifications, and if it is not too big, it is not a problem. But if there is a huge difference in academic qualifications, then the worldview values of the two people will be different, and the two people will not even find a common topic when chatting.

My friend's ex-boyfriend, graduated from secondary school, she went to college, she talked to him about the books she had read, but he didn't know what those books were about, and then said 666. Because the difference in academic qualifications is too great, many times we can't talk together. I don't know how to quarrel when I quarrel.

In the end, the economic conditions are worse than yours, which mainly depends on whether your boyfriend is self-motivated, and the so-called self-motivation is not just talking. I asked my dad, what if the boyfriend I found was ugly? My dad said, "What's wrong with the ugliness, you see that it's better now, and it's okay to cause trouble for his son, just be self-motivated."

Therefore, parents don't necessarily value each other's family, but only whether the man is good for you and whether he has a plan for his future.

That's the pros and cons, it's up to you to decide whether you want to be together or not. If you really like it, then you don't have to think about it so much.

If your boyfriend is good at school, at work, at work, and within the family, but just doesn't have money. Then what you will endure in the future may be to work with him. During this period, you will have to suffer some deterioration in the quality of life, the most important of which is the comparison between colleagues, friends, and classmates.

The former is not difficult, the latter is painful. Maybe you will find that some conditions are not as good as yours because you married better and then lived better than you, this comparison is the most painful, it will make you feel that you are sacrificing yourself or even reducing the dimension to achieve this marriage, if his struggle in the future brings you happiness, then you will affirm your original vision, feel that you made the right choice at the beginning; If, on the contrary, the pain will exponentially come back to you over time.

If you are surrounded by good boys now, and you are interested in it, it is better to give up your boyfriend as soon as possible, and maybe your parents will agree (not that your family is greedy for wealth and wealth, but just parents, not asking for how rich and noble your children are, but only seeking peace and joy and not suffering from poverty and lowishness). In short, this is a difficult and quantifiable choice. All that everyone can see is the current situation, and the future is unpredictable, and they can only evaluate what they have experienced or seen to speculate on the possibility of the future.

The other party's education does not mean that the ability is strong or weak, if the other party has great potential and has a plan for the future and life, it is not impossible to be together. But you also have to do your best, and it may be hard to struggle in the future. If you don't have this kind of psychological preparation, then forget it, because life is all firewood, rice, oil and salt, if you don't love each other deeply enough, and your ability to resist pressure is not strong enough, it will be easy to cause conflicts because you are not rich.

In my own example, I think I'm more resilient to pressure. I'm not in good condition either. Life was not so exquisite, but we ourselves worked hard to make a down payment after marriage.

My parents-in-law are too old to help anything, we all rely on ourselves for everything, and I never thought that the elderly would help, after all, they have worked hard to raise and give a good education, which is considered to be responsible. Although it is not so easy to buy a house by myself, we have a good relationship, so I think I am willing to live such a life with him, and I also think that I am quite happy, because everything is done by myself. You can't just get married if you think someone is good, maybe one day he won't be so good to you?

It depends on how you feel for each other. I think the master's degree has come out, and it has more or less some ability, but it hasn't exploded yet. Think more about whether you can solve each other's problems with buying a house, instead of hoping for help from your family.

Money is important, and so is ability.

Indeed, many women think this way in their hearts, but in reality, there are always times when they don't meet such a person, but just with a person who is inferior to themselves in all aspects.

In this regard, some women love when they love, they don't think so much, they will only go well with each other, but there are always some women who, after being together, will still be very entangled, not knowing whether to continue forever, or even get married.

I will feel that the other party's conditions are not as good as my own, I am afraid that I will drag myself down, and I will think that I can find a better one, and I don't have to do it.

After all, marriage is a big deal, and as a woman, you will think about it more, which is actually normal.

In the face of such a situation, whether to continue or not cannot be generalized, it still depends on the specific situation.

It depends on whether you are comfortable with each other.

When a person's conditions are not as good as yours, such as education, family background, work, etc., you will choose to be with him, there must be a reason, which means that there are still things that attract you in him.

Now that you have chosen him, when considering whether you want to go on forever, you might as well feel how you feel in terms of communication with each other and in getting along with each other on weekdays.

If you find that you are often not on the same channel, your thoughts are not at the same level at all, even the quarrel is that no one can understand anyone, and it is just very painful to be together, then of course, you have no need to continue this relationship.

Two people who are not at the same frequency as each other, no matter what you chose to start for, in the years to come, the contradictions between you will only get bigger and bigger, and it is really difficult to have a good result.

And if you say that although you seem to have some differences in some hard conditions, you always have a tacit understanding in chat and daily life, and you feel very comfortable, this relationship is actually worth continuing.

To live with a person, the conditions are very important, and more importantly, it is true that they can really get along with each other and get along happily.

Being able to be so happy together has already outdone too much, and it has already shown that you are really suitable.

Recently, in Zhihu, I met two questions about "giving up my boyfriend".

First question:

Second question:

is also a low education, and the same is a very good person, if nothing else, these two boyfriends who are "in the same trouble" also have to find a new partner.

I don't know if those male compatriots with low education and single will feel trembling after reading these two questions?

Maybe they didn't really understand the deep meaning behind their parents' sentence "If you don't study hard, you will regret it later" more than ten years ago:

Not only is it difficult to find a job without a degree, but it is also difficult to find a partner.

Of course, there is no need to worry too much if you don't have a degree, just like many companies pay more attention to ability than education, many girls also value ability more than education, and complaining about the other party's low education often means that the other party's social ability is weak.

Someone asked me what kind of boys girls liked, and I said four words to him: excellent character and learning.

"Quality" is soft power, your character girls have to like it, your girls have to like it, and the interests of the two people have to be like; "Learning" is hard power, you can't say that you love to learn and recognize you, you have to have good grades, which is the embodiment of personal social ability;

It is said that the ideal love for most girls is like this:

For a walk-and-go trip, I brought a men's ticket and a men's ticket with a silver ticket.

But it is difficult for us to really find a boy who is "excellent in character and learning" in our lives, and even if we do, others may not necessarily look down on you; Therefore, most girls will find a balance between "quality" and "learning", find an average, and as long as the score is passed, they are willing to be together.

I have a young couple with a medium income, but both of them are optimistic and cheerful, they can talk, they are happy everywhere they go, and this is a good balance.

For example, there is a big girl next to him, with a strong personality and strong earning ability, he found a little boy who loves to cook and clean up housework, this boy can give her the warmth of home, and both of them are very satisfied, which is a good balance.

For example, a little girl next to her is funny, works in kindergarten, the salary is not high, she usually likes to wear makeup, buy clothes, and fiddle with gadgets at home, she found a big boy, decisive, and has a strong sense of dedication, these two people are also very happy, this is a good balance.

We have heard many cases of "honest people" being abandoned, which is officially due to their "weak character and learning", weak social ability, and too low balance point.

In the second question above, the boyfriend who started the business was overshadowed in front of his friends in the Water Conservancy Bureau, and this question is also very understandable, for a girl who loves beauty, wearing a dress in winter, this dress should not only keep warm, but more importantly, it should look good; If it doesn't look good, many people would rather choose a thin and good-looking dress than this thick and ugly dress;

Just like there was a takeaway brother before, he was very diligent, with a monthly income of more than 10,000 yuan, which was higher than many people around him and higher than her girlfriend, but his girlfriend was not satisfied with his career;

It's a matter of personal preference, and there's nothing to blame.

If you really care so much, then you have to learn to let go. Because the current state is like this, it is an immutable fact.

If it's true love, these are not problems, and we can work together.

This question can only be decided by yourself, and outsiders do not praise it.

The key depends on what you want, and you can consider your boyfriend's potential abilities.

It depends on whether your conditions are good.

I advise you not to abandon him now, for he is miserable enough.

Don't hurt a person easily, because maybe he will change because of it.

Parted. There will definitely be a generation gap between 10 years of age, and you are all nearly 20 years old.

It may be good at first, but over time it can be unpleasant.

Ask yourself, if two people are equally good to you, equally touching you, equally loving you, and their looks are also in line with your criteria for choosing a mate, and you also have a good impression of them, one has a solid family and the other has a poor family, which one will you choose? Here's the answer.

It's not all, at least I'm not, I personally still prefer character, at least I have to hurt myself. It is believed that not all women are the same as those who are snobbish.

It depends on what kind of life you like, if the conditions are poor, you must need to share the joys and sorrows, sometimes you can't compare with your imitation classmates, but at least it should be really good to you, and if you work together, you can still live a good life.

So I think it's most important for my boyfriend to be self-motivated.

If it's true love, you won't care if life is good or bad.

If it's not love, then break up!

The most important thing depends on what you think, and it doesn't matter to others, if you are a good girl, then separate from your boyfriend as soon as possible, or you will be very embarrassed! If you like him very much, he also likes you, and you have your own opinions, then do what you want to do, don't let yourself regret it.

If you really loved him enough and didn't hesitate to give up everything to be with him, you wouldn't be asking questions here. Your question indicates that you are mentally doubtful about his feelings and are not firm enough. What he can bring to you is not what you want.

Instead of compromising and finding many reasons to convince you to be with him, it is better to give up early and find another person who can truly bring you material and spiritual happiness. Otherwise, you will regret it sooner or later. Although love is as important as bread, you can't be happy in love if you don't have enough to eat.