How can we be happy without pain, and when we experience pain, we can be happier?

Happiness is just a personal feeling, depending on how you see it. Some people feel that having a significant other is very happy, some people feel that being alive is a kind of happiness, and some people feel that being free is a kind of happiness. Sometimes you can feel the existence of happiness when you look up at the clear sky, close your eyes, take a deep breath, smile, and relax.

The definition of happiness is very broad, and it is not necessary to have love to be happy.

When we encounter difficulties, we must not retreat, but also face the difficulties, only in this way can we break through ourselves, and we can also make ourselves stronger and better enough.

There are too many pains and misfortunes in life, if we want to make ourselves strong, then we can't be defeated by the pain and misfortunes, we should persevere, stand up, and continue to meet tomorrow.

Change your mentality, make yourself positive and optimistic, and let yourself face some things bravely.

I think first of all, I must realize that it is normal for me to suffer and frustrate in life, and only by solving these problems well can we live a better life.

1. Pain helps us identify happiness.

If you've always felt happy, you won't think of it as happiness. You need to experience pain so that it can help us recognize happiness and be grateful for it.

2. Alleviating pain can increase happiness.

Pain is not pleasant, but it is blissful to relieve it. Studies have shown that when pain is far away, your happiness increases dramatically higher than when you had never experienced it.

3. Pain contributes to the formation of social connections.

If you have the same pain as the other person in your life, it will be easier for the two of you to build a relationship because pain can promote transference, which is essential for social connection. The connections triggered by pain can even strengthen relationships. In the aftermath of a natural disaster, volunteers usually gather to lend a helping hand, as they have all experienced pain and witnessed a disaster.

4. Pain gives you a reason to reward yourself.

Pain does not need to be deliberately pursued, in the process of your pursuit of greater happiness, you will definitely experience greater suffering, and when you achieve greater happiness, you will recall that the pain you experienced at the beginning is actually sweet.

Life is like this, first bitter and then sweet, if you want to be happier, it is best to reflect the pain first!

The so-called pain and happiness are actually accidents.

Something to be expected, that's called deserved.

Something unexpected, worse than you expected, that's pain;It's better than you expected, that's called happiness.

The unexpected, or accidental, is something that is out of your control, not your own problem. Of course, it can also be understood as your problem, because your abilities are relatively limited, thus allowing yourself to fall into unpredictability.

As the Great Demon King, then, his ability is very powerful, and for him, there is no so-called pain and happiness, because it is all in his control.

As a mortal, in the face of pain, we can only sum up experience;In the face of happiness, then enjoy it to the fullest. Other than that, all the entanglements and complaints are helpless and meaningless.

Happiness and pain are equal, and to choose happiness is to learn to endure pain.

The feeling of love, always feel very sweet at the beginning, always feel that there is one more person to accompany you, one more person to help you share, you are finally no longer lonely, at least one person thinks about you, loves you, no matter what you do, as long as you can be together, it is good, but slowly, as you get to know each other more deeply, you begin to find each other's shortcomings, so problems occur one after another, you begin to annoy, Tired, even wanting to escape, the six realms of reincarnation are full of suffering, either suffering becomes suffering, either becoming suffering or practicing suffering, especially in the era of the end of the Dharma, it is inseparable from suffering. Although all life is unwilling to accept suffering, whether they want it or not, all life has to face suffering, and no one can escape it.

There is no way to face suffering, so we desire happiness and fear it. Even animals are the same - they all hope that the unpleasant things will pass sooner rather than later, and happiness will come soon. In such anticipation, my life passed like this.

From what angle should we look at it, isn't there also joy in suffering?

"Happiness is the realization of the harmony of various desires", then, pain, is the fact of anti-desire.

Lowering the requirements to the lower limit, I found the world to be very cute. It can be seen that happiness is easy without luxury.

Happiness does not necessarily mean laughing, and if you laugh, it is not the same: smile, laugh, laugh, cover your mouth, laugh crazy, laugh hideously, laugh hideously, ......Pain, generally crying, of course, crying is not the same: silent tears, sobbing, whimpering, howling and crying, ......

Neither crying nor laughing is moot, because laughter may attract jealousy, and crying is not helpful or helpful.

Some happiness is self-satisfaction, and some pain is self-inflicted.

The self-satisfied do not covet happiness, and the cynical endure and despise pain.

Some happiness is self-absorption, and some pain is self-torturism.

Everyone envies your happiness, and you will feel happier; Everyone will pity your pain, and you will feel more pain.

Some happiness is the plundering of the happiness of others, the bloody satisfaction of domination and possessiveness – and it is for this reason that some suffering is the pain of suffering from barbaric plunder.

Happiness is enjoyment, pain is suffering.

Unexpected gains are happy because of surprises, and unexpected losses are painful because of frustration.

Happiness is due to gain and satisfaction, and suffering is due to loss and not to be gained.

Some happiness should obviously be happy, and some pain clearly shouldn't.

The happiness that can be shared is true happiness, and the pain that can be sympathized with is real suffering.

Those who lose their temper because of happiness will soon have suffering, and those who have made up their minds because of suffering will eventually be happy.

Happiness should not be drowned, and pain should be extricated.

Those who do not demand happiness are often happy, and those who are demanding happiness are often miserable - As the old saying goes, "There is no greater misfortune than discontentment." ”

The pursuit does not necessarily lead to happiness, but the pursuit itself is a kind of happiness; Waiting for the rabbit will not get pain, but it will be painful because it can't be obtained.

If you don't cherish happiness, you won't stay happy for a long time, and if you don't face up to it, you will suffer for a long time.

Unhappiness is not the same as suffering, but not suffering is happiness.

Some happiness has been discovered by oneself, and may not be regretted later; There was some pain that I didn't realize, but I was very happy afterwards.

Happiness and pain are two very broad terms, which seem to be far apart, but in fact they are very close, sometimes just one step away, a thought difference.

Often people in happiness do not know blessings, do not hesitate to be blessed, lose blessed, and in pain people cherish blessed, understand blessed, keep blessed, blessed.

Everyone yearns for a happy life, wants to be happy, and needs the love of others.

However, many people just feel unhappy, unhappy, and even tired and miserable.

Why? It's actually very simple, I have a way to get happiness, joy, and pain here.

Happiness = first of all what you give to others + how much you care about others.

At the same time, you also get the respect that others have for you.

Happiness = happiness + respect for you.

Pain = Hope that others will pay for you first + hope that others will care for you and take care of you.

However what you get is certainly not as good as you think, so you suffer.

"Others" here refers to loved ones, friends, colleagues, everyone around you.

How you give to others and how you care about others depends on your education level + your upbringing + your IQ.

Maybe you're stupid, the method isn't very good, others don't appreciate it, but at least you're happy enough to be enough.

When you yearn for happiness:

Man: No force, no silence, no coldness.

Women: No tears, no complaints, no quarrels.

Otherwise, pain will take you away from happiness with a higher acceleration.

After going abroad, I thought about it a lot, and when I calmed down, I understood a lot of things and became much sober...

I miss my grandfather very much, and the days with him are my happiest times, and I will always remember them. In my heart, he is so great, selfless dedication, never talk about returns, my grandfather's teachings have made me useful for life, is my most valuable wealth.

I will not compare what I have gained or what I have missing, but I will think about what I should have done...

I like that kind of natural emotion, natural outpouring, which makes people feel very relaxed, happy, very down-to-earth, enough.