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Friend: There is a natural lack of innate closeness between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, so mother-in-law and daughter-in-law still need to be a little polite. To maintain a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is necessary to be both like mother and daughter, and the daughter-in-law should treat her mother-in-law as well as a filial mother, but she should not be as open-mouthed to her mother-in-law as she is to her mother; The mother-in-law should feel as sorry for her daughter-in-law as she does for her daughter, and she cannot be as careless and reprimanded as she is for her daughter.
In this way, each other can understand more and have less contradictions. Some mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law who know how to get along like this have a more harmonious relationship with their mother-in-law. The daughter-in-law and mother-in-law need to have enough time to run in with each other.
As a daughter-in-law, since she has entered this house, she is the family, and she should try to respect her mother-in-law, do more housework, and chat with her mother-in-law more... Try to seek common ground while reserving small differences, and don't have to fight too much about whether I'm right or wrong... Even if the mother-in-law is more verbose, the younger generation should try to tolerate it, and the family and everything is prosperous.
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Personally, I think that a mother-in-law who can handle things will treat her daughter and daughter-in-law equally. But people can't avoid having a selfish side, and deep down they still care about their daughters because of their blood and bones. This is also human nature!
However, meeting a good daughter-in-law may be superior to her daughter in every way. Maybe she will also favor her daughter-in-law, just like does her mother-in-law prefer her son or daughter-in-law? There is no conclusive conclusion, it is appropriate for people to have a normal heart, and it is good to have a normal heart, and the harmony is near, and the adversity is easy to be far.
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Absolutely. But it's not biological, no matter how hard you try, it's in vain.
Even if the mother-in-law is very much like a good daughter-in-law to the ground.
When facing a son, daughter, and daughter-in-law, there will be unnatural partiality.
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Personally, I think it's okay, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who are as close as mother and daughter exist, but this is not gratuitous, but mostly with a purpose
When it comes to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, many people will think that the relationship is very bad, some mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are cold, and some mother-in-law and daughter-in-law even fight, if you go deep and feel that there is no right or wrong, the reason for this, in addition to the generation gap, is that she broke the family pattern and took away the son's love for his mother.
Every time I think of the relationship between my mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I always think of my mother and grandmother, when I was young, my mother may be immature, and my grandmother has many shortcomings.
Personally, I think that people interact with each other, especially between people who are not related by blood, there will be reactions, how you treat her, she will also give you feedback, there can be no one in this world who has been suffering, unless she is really stupid.
When it comes to the general relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, I personally think that the vast majority of people still belong to a relatively bland relationship, my department leader always said that her mother-in-law was very good to her before giving birth to a son, and after giving birth to a son, it was not so good, and her father-in-law and mother-in-law were a bit patriarchal, if she gave birth to a daughter at that time, it is likely that she will be more wronged, and every time she talks about it, she is grateful to have this son to give her a higher status.
I did encounter an example of a daughter-in-law who was close to treating her as a daughter, one of my best female friends told me that her mother-in-law is a woman with great taste and cultivation, different from the average old lady, and she lives a very delicate life, but even so she will often come to cook for her, especially good to her and her husband, and often give her stewed soup during the confinement period, and buy her all kinds of gifts after giving birth to a child in order to reward her, among which I am very envious is to buy her an iphone 12promax, good guy, sending tens of thousands of things at every turn, it's really amazing
I have to say that she is also very grateful to her mother-in-law, because her mother-in-law treats her as her own, and she will think of her mother-in-law in many places, buy gifts for her mother-in-law, be filial to her in-laws, be more attentive to her husband, and do not care about hardship, forming a virtuous circle.
In fact, without a husband, there is no such a good relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, in other words, there is a reason why mother-in-law is so good to her, in this world, only parents are selfless love for us, and other people give you more or less love for a reason, just as the mother-in-law is good to you for you to be better and more loving to her son, give her grandchildren, granddaughters and so on, although they have a certain reason in their hearts, but still want to give them a thumbs up, EQ and IQ are the best among mothers-in-law, only good to daughter-in-law, can be a win-win situation
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Yes. Why can't I say it, because everyone knows that when mothers and daughters get along with each other in life, they are more casual, because of the existence of blood relations, they don't care too much about each other's deep or shallow words. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are different, no matter how good the relationship is, it is not a mother and daughter, so you need to be more "polite" when getting along, this politeness is not false, but respect.
Many mothers-in-law often complain and are helpless, they treat their daughter-in-law very well, just like their own daughter, how can they still make their daughter-in-law dissatisfied? In fact, this is precisely because the mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law too much as her own daughter. In fact, this relationship can be illustrated by the difference between each of us towards family and friends.
I'm sure you've often said that we always give the best to the outside and the worst to the family. Yes, this is because, when we get along with people outside, we will be polite, because they will not be tolerant and accommodating like relatives, so we should be polite. And because the family is a family, this relationship will always exist no matter what, so we seem to rely on this relationship that will not change and let ourselves be unscrupulous, but unconsciously it will inevitably hurt the family.
The same is true when it comes back to the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. When a mother gets along with her daughter, no matter what she says, her daughter will ignore some attitude issues because she knows that her mother is doing it for her own good. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are different, they were originally two strange women, and it was because of the same man that they became family members, and it takes a certain amount of time to change from mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to family members.
Therefore, the mother-in-law cannot express herself to her daughter-in-law like her own daughter, but must treat her daughter-in-law with more politeness like an outsider. Therefore, when we say that the mother-in-law cannot treat her daughter-in-law like her own daughter, we are not referring to the emotion, but to the way of getting along, and it is precisely the way of getting along that is an important reason to determine whether the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is harmonious. Therefore, we suggest that the mother-in-law emotionally treat her daughter-in-law as her own daughter, and when getting along, she should be more polite as if she were an outsider, so that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can respect each other as guests.
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It is impossible for the mother-in-law to treat her daughter-in-law as a daughter, because the two of them are not related by blood, nor do they live together, so the relationship must not become like a mother and daughter, many people will be curious, why the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law always get along badly, and there are often various contradictions, that is because the two of them do not have any blood relationship, they have not lived together since childhood, they just became a family because of a marriage, so their relationship must not be as close as the mother-in-law and daughter.
In fact, I think this kind of relationship is also very good, even if the mother-in-law understands her daughter-in-law, she should not treat her daughter-in-law as a daughter, because once the relationship between the two becomes more intimate, the other party will become unscrupulous, and will do some excessive things, so the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law get along, just get along with ordinary relatives, as long as the two sides do not have contradictions, there is no need to be so close, and the old man always wants to discipline each other after getting along with each other. I want to say some suggestions to the other party, but the other party may not accept it, so the mother-in-law doesn't need to treat her daughter-in-law like a daughter, she just needs the daughter-in-law and son to live well, and there is no need to ask too much.
Even if the daughter-in-law is good to her mother-in-law, it is impossible for the mother-in-law to treat her daughter-in-law as her own daughter, because the two have no blood relationship, and the daughter-in-law no longer runs around since she was a child, and has grown up around, so the relationship between the two of them cannot become a young man like the mother-in-law and her daughter, and I also think that the mother-in-law does not need to be so close to the daughter-in-law, the two sides only need to live in harmony, and keep some distance appropriately, so that both parties will feel very relaxed, if they always ask each other to give themselves something, is to discipline each other, those two people will live a very tired life, and there will be a lot of contradictions, which is not conducive to the harmony of family relations at all, so whether it is a mother-in-law or a daughter-in-law, when getting along, it is best to maintain a certain sense of distance, which is good for both parties.
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A mother-in-law must not treat her daughter-in-law as a daughter. This is an indisputable fact. Therefore, as a daughter-in-law, you must know soberly.
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Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read, and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have been difficult to get along with since ancient times! But there are no absolutes in everything, there are mother-in-laws and daughters-in-law who make a lot of trouble, mother-in-law and daughters-in-law who get along like friends, there are mother-in-laws and daughters-in-law who respect each other like "ice", and there must also be mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who get along well and treat their daughter-in-law as a daughter.
This kind of getting along well, usually the daughter-in-law is more filial and well-behaved, and the elderly are also very open-minded, they can think about each other, know how to respect each other, and can tolerate each other, so that they can get along harmoniously.
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Some mothers-in-law with a good personality will treat their daughter-in-law as a daughter, but some mothers-in-law with a bad personality will never treat their daughter-in-law as their daughter for the rest of their lives.
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Generally, no. This is because the mother-in-law is not the mother-in-law of the daughter-in-law after all, and the two are not related by blood, so it is difficult for the mother-in-law to treat the daughter-in-law as a daughter.
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It is impossible for a mother-in-law to treat her daughter-in-law as a daughter, even if a mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law well, it is impossible to treat her like a biological daughter, otherwise it is easy to be dissatisfied with her daughter-in-law.
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You see if this mother-in-law is a sensible mother-in-law, if the mother-in-law is really sensible, there are many people who treat their daughter-in-law as a daughter.
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No, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law means that no matter how good the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is, it will not change. The mother-in-law treats her daughter-in-law as a daughter because she has a good family and understands the difficulties of girls, and wants her children to live happily. Work together to maintain family harmony and live happily.
Although the identity will not change, love can be transferred, and love is distributed to the daughter-in-law. As the saying goes, a good family harmony must definitely have an emotionally stable, happy and happy hostess. It is conducive to the happiness of the family and the happy growth of the children.
Spiritual abundance.
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For some mothers-in-law, no matter how much they usually treat their daughter-in-law and daughter equally, they seem to treat their daughter-in-law as their own daughter, but there is still a certain difference in nature. 's daughter is related to herself, of course, she is unreservedly good. But the daughter-in-law is different, to be realistic, the daughter-in-law does not have a very close connection with herself, and the only connection is her son, which is destined to be far away from her attitude towards her daughter-in-law.
Especially after having a child, the original harmonious relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is easy to break, and then you can recognize your mother-in-law's true attitude towards herself.
After having a child, the conflict between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will gradually deepen and be difficult to reconcile.
If it is her own daughter who has a child, then the mother-in-law must be busy taking care of her before and after, and not letting her daughter suffer a little sin, it can be said that she pays wholeheartedly without any complaints. But the treatment of daughter-in-law is different, some mothers-in-law think that they have no obligation to take care of their daughter-in-law, even if the daughter-in-law takes care of her when she gives birth to a child and is confined, there will be a feeling that she has lost.
What's more, after the child is born, some hidden contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will slowly emerge and will deepen day by day. Whether it is taking care of children on a daily basis or educating children, it is difficult to be without friction. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will also change.
After all, the daughter-in-law is not her biological daughter, and it is not so easy to solve the conflict between them. Therefore, no matter how close a mother-in-law is to her daughter-in-law, she is not as good as her own daughter.
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In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, few mothers-in-law can treat their daughter-in-law as if they were their own daughters. After all, he is not his own child, and he still has scruples in terms of emotional expression and daily ways of getting along. It's good to get along.
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In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, mother-in-law can treat her daughter-in-law as her own daughter, and some mothers-in-law are better and more sincere to their daughter-in-law than their daughter.
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I don't think it's possible.
The daughters born to themselves are not necessarily loved.
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People's hearts are flesh and blood, comparing hearts to hearts, it is impossible for you to be good to her and want to change her for being very good to you, and there is a daughter who is related to her by blood, blood is thicker than water, and her emotions that have been with her for decades are difficult to cross, so the mother-in-law can treat her daughter-in-law as her own daughter, after all, if you are not with his son, it has nothing to do with her.
If, according to what you said, if the mother-in-law dislikes the daughter-in-law, then the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law had better live separately, live separately, and go to see the mother-in-law during the New Year's holiday.
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