Are mothers in law and father in law just as good to their daughters and daughters in law?

The old man has the following views on this issue.

Most people will think that their in-laws are not as good to their daughters and daughters-in-law, and they will give many detailed and vivid examples, and the old man does not deny it.

Why does this situation occur, some people will say that one is their own and the other is later, which is not the same, so why are some good daughters-in-law stronger than their daughters, the reason is that feelings are cultivated, and they are mutual and two-way. A good mother-in-law meets a good daughter-in-law, and the mother and son are like mother and daughter. The main thing is that both parties to the relationship should be reasonable, abide by the basic moral norms, emotional feelings, righteousness and righteousness, and influence each other to achieve the goal of harmony.

The old man is a farmer, and the current situation in the countryside is that the daughter is the one who marries, the water that is spilled, and the in-law is the family. And the daughter-in-law is married from the family. The daughter-in-law has to bear the main responsibilities of the family, working in the fields, taking care of the housework, giving birth to children, taking care of the elderly, etc., and the tasks are quite heavy.

In the countryside, all the old people with brains will treat their daughters-in-law as their daughters.

is different, her daughter is her protégé, her own child, and she has grown up with her since she was a child, so her feelings are closer than that of her daughter-in-law. And the daughter-in-law was brought up by someone else after the son married to the family. Just for the sake of pulling and reproducing.

Judging by the abundance of facts in the actual lives of my friends around me, this is basically impossible. Although the starting point of most elderly people is to love the next generation and hope that the next generation will be happy, they will still have partiality towards their own flesh and blood, but to different degrees. Sometimes it can be manifested in the trivial things of life, and sometimes it is revealed when it encounters big things.

Of course it's different, one is biological, the other is foreign, and the daughter-in-law says that if it's ugly, it's an outsider, and no matter how intimate she is, she won't treat it as her own daughter.

The feelings are mutual, you are good to him, he is good to you. Mother-in-law used to be a daughter-in-law, and now the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in society is almost the same as that between mother and daughter.

Hehe, you don't seem to be a person living on Earth.

Do you still need to ask about this? Are your mom and dad just as good to you as they are to your husband?

You can see this gap for yourself!

Different families have different answers.

There are many reasons why a father-in-law is better than a mother-in-law to a daughter-in-law. First of all, in traditional families, men are often considered to be the heads of the family, while women are the supporters of the family. To a certain extent, this social perception of facing men exacerbates the tension between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and makes mothers-in-law emphasize their authority and status more.

Men, on the other hand, have long been indoctrinated with a sense of respect and protection for women. Therefore, for daughters-in-law, fathers-in-law may pay more attention and take care of them.

Further, fathers-in-law usually pay more attention to family unity and harmony. They may devote more time and energy to maintaining the stability and prosperity of their family. This kind of attention and care makes the daughter-in-law feel more respected and appreciated, so she will show more respect and gratitude to her father-in-law.

It can be said that the attitudes and ways of fathers-in-law and mothers-in-law towards their daughters-in-law are different, but this does not mean that one of them is better. On the contrary, we should understand and be considerate of each other's circumstances, and uphold a kind attitude to build a harmonious family relationship. For daughters-in-law, they should also learn to adapt to and respect the lifestyle and cultural habits of their in-laws in order to establish a harmonious family atmosphere.

Generally speaking, in the family relationship, the relationship between the father-in-law and the daughter-in-law is better, mainly the relationship between the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law is particularly difficult to get along with, mainly in the family relationship, men basically have no messy things, and women are different, because women, especially older women, are nosy, nagging, and young people are reluctant to listen, so it is easy to have conflicts after a long time.

However, there are also many daughters-in-law who have a very good relationship with their mother-in-law.

I used to have a colleague who had the same relationship with her parents-in-law as her own biological parents, and her parents-in-law treated her like a daughter. If there is anything delicious, her father-in-law and mother-in-law are reluctant to eat it, so they keep it for her, and she lived with her father-in-law at that time.

I remember once she told me that I said the wrong thing today, because it was before the Spring Festival, and her parents-in-law were busy preparing all kinds of New Year's goods, and she didn't care about anything at home, so he said casually: I am so looking forward to the New Year, there are delicious food and new clothes to wear during the New Year, and the New Year is really good. At this time, her father-in-law took over the conversation:

Of course you're looking forward to the Chinese New Year, so you don't have to worry about anything. He also realized that this sentence was inappropriate at that time, so he immediately took over the conversation and said: Didn't I meet a good father-in-law and mother-in-law in Yinling, so I am so happy.

In a word, it amused my parents-in-law.

I am particularly envious of such a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship, the reason why their relationship is so harmonious is also the result of mutual tolerance and mutual understanding between the two parties. I really hope that the relationship between parents-in-law and daughter-in-law in all families can be harmonious and harmonious.

If my in-laws and daughter-in-law get along well, they are very harmonious, and to be honest, my in-laws have not done the most chilling things, but have done things that have touched me a lot. For example:

1. Buy daily necessities in advance.

During the pregnancy of the mother, many elders are afraid that their vision will not match, so they will let the mother prepare daily necessities by herself. If your in-laws have bought you diapers, sleeping bags, quilts and home clothes for your baby's confinement in advance, then you must thank your attentive in-laws. With these daily necessities, Bao Ma will be very worry-free during confinement.

Let's take the sleeping bag as an example, babies are very afraid of heat when they sleep at night, like to kick the quilt, and are prone to colds and fevers. Xingzheng Zao prepares a cotton comfortable sleeping bag in advance, which can absorb a lot of sweat when the baby sleeps, make him sleep more soundly, and also prevent the baby from getting cold.

2. Do not participate in the life of parents.

Many old people will treat their daughter-in-law as an outsider, and when the daughter-in-law quarrels with her son, she will always think that her son is right and the daughter-in-law is unreasonable. In fact, the reason for many family disagreements is because there is an unreasonable in-law, if they are oriented to their son for a long time, it will not only lead to the deterioration of their relationship between husband and wife, but also make the daughter-in-law feel that she has no sense of existence in this family. Therefore, whether many families are happy or not, the reason for a number of points depends on whether their in-laws are reasonable.

When a husband and wife quarrel, the in-laws do not interfere or intervene, which is to contribute to the harmony of the family.

If the daughter-in-law happens to be a good-tempered bag, their displeasure will be more obvious. It could be a personality issue or an unhealthy state of mind.

It may be that the ideology of two generations is not the same. After all, the mother-in-law and the daughter-in-law are two generations of people, and the ideas between them must be different, and there is a generation gap in thinking, so the mother-in-law may not understand some of the things that the daughter-in-law does, and the daughter-in-law cannot understand the mother-in-law of Douwei.

The attitude of the in-laws towards their daughters-in-law is largely influenced by their sons. If the son disrespects and does not feel sorry for his daughter-in-law, then the parents will also follow suit, despise or even "bully" their daughter-in-law.

I am currently in my life, in addition to my husband being good to me, my in-laws are also very good to me, usually taking very good care of my life for him to do three meals a day, and letting me do housework, so my family is very happy, sharing, what I am, let my in-laws be good to me.

Keep in mind the needs of your parents-in-law.

The needs of the older generation must be different from ours. You have to keep the needs of your in-laws in mind, and sometimes you can meet their needs and the other person will be very happy! For example, if your parents-in-law want to travel to Beijing, you should find an opportunity to take them to an old man!

As the old man reminisces about the past, be a devout listener.

Life was difficult for my parents-in-law's generation. Every time they tell a story, you should be a devout listener, lamenting the hardships of life with the words of your parents-in-law's reminiscences. The father-in-law and mother-in-law want to talk, and the daughter-in-law loves to listen to the past.

Treat your parents-in-law as your own children.

In fact, like your parents-in-law and children, you need to spend more time with them. You can talk to them more, just like your parents. In the process, you can improve your understanding of each other.

It is common to affirm the idea of parents-in-law.

In fact, like many grandparents, parents-in-law also have a certain patriarchal mentality. Bird silver.

When I was pregnant, my grandparents said that boys and girls were the same. At this time, you can say, parents, you only have one son, it is normal to want a grandson, I understand your feelings, although there are several sisters who have a son, you still want your own grandchild. Then talk to your mother-in-law:

No one can say that boys and girls are born.

Empathy has a strange effect in getting along with each other, thinking from the other person's position and perspective, not understanding will become understanding, and understanding will not contradict.

Summary. Why does a mother-in-law treat her daughter and daughter-in-law so differently? A:

The mother-in-law feels that her relationship with her daughter is a family relationship where "blood is thicker than water", so she can naturally have no scruples; But no matter how good the relationship with his daughter-in-law is, he is not as good as the relationship with his daughter, of course, he will be wary in his heart. The relationship between mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, and daughter wants to truly achieve a harmonious unity.

Why does a mother-in-law treat her daughter and daughter-in-law so differently? Answer: My mother-in-law feels that her relationship with her daughter is a family relationship where "blood is thicker than water", so she can naturally have no scruples; But no matter how good the relationship with his daughter-in-law is, he is not as good as the relationship with his daughter, of course, he will be wary in his heart.

The relationship between mother-in-law, daughter-in-law, and daughter wants to truly achieve a harmonious unity.

Can you add, I don't quite understand it.

Why can't mother-in-law and daughter-in-law live in peace? A: I think the most fundamental reason is probably because there is a big difference in thinking between the two generations.

The mother-in-law's thinking is more conservative, believing that a girl, as a daughter-in-law, should follow three virtues, teach her children, and serve her elders; As a new generation of women's daughters-in-law, they feel that they have to take on both housework and financial pressure, and hope that they will be in peacetime.