How can you prove that your self control is missing?

Every night I habitually stay up late, every time I set an alarm clock for myself and say that I must go to bed before 12:00, after setting an alarm clock for 12:00, every time I see that the alarm clock is about to go off, I will turn it off in a hurry, because I am particularly afraid that the sound of this alarm clock will come out, which is a warning to me, and then continue to stay up late with peace of mind.

I have set many benchmarks for myself, and I have made up my mind to do it well, such as going to bed before half past ten at night, spending an hour a day to go to the gym, and reading a book a month, but later I found that my self-control is very poor, and I can even say that I have been missing, and there is nothing that can be done according to the schedule.

For every obstacle to be overcome, willpower is inseparable; In the face of each execution, we rely on the strength of our hearts. In fact, willpower is not a trait that is born with it or cannot be changed, it is a skill that can be cultivated and developed. Here are a few things you can do to help boost your willpower.

1. Be proactive Proactive willpower allows you to overcome inertia and focus on the future. When you encounter resistance, imagine your own happiness after overcoming it; By actively engaging in concrete practices to achieve your goals, you can:

If I lose control when I'm arguing with someone, and I do it, it proves that my self-control is missing, and it's really to the point where it's very, very serious. If it really reaches this point, then I have to pick up my self-control again, otherwise my life will bring more trouble.

As long as it's not three or four o'clock in the morning, I can basically send me a message in seconds.

For no other reason, I can't put down my phone, and I feel that after leaving for a while, I will miss a lot of important news, so I keep looking at my phone.

I'd love to get rid of this and not be dominated by my phone, but three minutes seems to be my limit.

I stay up until more than 1:00 every night, and I can't get used to it if I don't play with my mobile phone. If you don't play with your phone for a day, it's like losing something and life has no meaning. Sleeping, not knowing self-control, not waking yourself up without an alarm clock. Life is dominated by mobile phones, and I am basically accompanied by mobile phones every day.

Self-control is a skill that you should possess as a person, especially for a successful person. For example, now I always tell myself to study, how much to learn today, how much to learn tomorrow, but after a week, I have not achieved it at all, and time has been wasted, while the classmates next to me are improving little by little.

I think there are several reasons for the lack of self-control:

1. Greed. In fact, we are born with no self-control, and our self-control is slowly cultivated little by little. However, everyone's self-control ability is also different, for people with extreme lack of self-control, I think the first thing is the greed in the heart, for what they want or want to do, not like people with strong self-control to strive for, or reasonably allocate time to do what they want to do.

And people who lack self-control often want to get something or do what they want to do no matter what. For example, if a person who lacks self-control wants to brush Tik Tok during work, he will definitely do it regardless of whether he has important work in hand or not. Therefore, human greed is terrible.

The so-called contented people are always happy, and people still have to learn to be content and know what is insufficient, rather than blindly not being satisfied.

2. Laziness. In a way, laziness is also a type of greed. But I list it separately precisely because of its serious harmfulness.

What is laziness? When I wake up in the morning, I don't want to get up, I don't want to do what I can do, I don't want to do what I can do with a small movement, but I don't even want to stretch out ......my handIn fact, we can think about it, there are too many times when we are very lazy in our daily life, such as garbage must be piled up until it can no longer be piled up before we are willing to throw it away, we must be lazy for a while or even longer when we wake up in the morning, and we feel tired and give up ...... after walking a few steps to exerciseIf it weren't for laziness, how would we be where we are today?

3. Avoidance. It is difficult for us to face up to ourselves, especially when we see that others are better than ourselves, and our choice is often to escape. It is more said to be an escape, but it is more a kind of self-abandonment.

When we are inferior to others in a certain field, most of us choose not to study hard and catch up with each other, but often because the other party is better and make us feel inferior, because of inferiority, we choose to escape, choose to abandon ourselves. However, we have to understand that you can't always be the best in the world, know your own shortcomings and then slowly improve, instead of escaping your own flaws, then there is no self-control at all. Sanmao once said a sentence:

No one can abandon you unless you abandon yourself. ”

The best way to solve poor self-control is to do it now!

In life, there are often people who plan to plan things and go, and always feel that the idea is not perfect, the time is not ripe, and the result is delayed again and again, and everything is wasted. In fact, even the best idea can be flawed, and even a very ordinary plan, if you are sure to execute it and try to do it well, is much better than not starting at all. The situation has to be opened up by action, and it is likely that the opportunity will never be waited for, or the opportunity is fleeting, and there are many passive people who have been mediocre all their lives, because they must wait until everything is 100% favorable and foolproof to do it.

Of course, we must strive for perfection, but nothing in this world is absolutely perfect or close to perfect. Wait until all the conditions are sufficient to do it, and you can only wait forever. If the matter is still to be done, it will be done immediately.

You're not ready, it's gone.

How to overcome poor self-control and help you take action!

1.The procrastinator always wants to finish things in one go, but he doesn't think that a journey of a thousand miles must start with a single step. Therefore, the goals you set should be clear and specific, and break down the required actions into a few small steps that are not difficult to do.

2.If possible, make it a habit to do it right away and don't think twice about it.

3.Once you're up and running, it's a good idea to have some energy for other plans, such as writing letters to friends and family you haven't been in touch with for a long time. It's much easier than having to plan everything from scratch.

4.When you finish a boring or unpleasant job, reward yourself by doing something you enjoy.

5.Take "freedom action": first determine how much time you want to spend on routine work each day, so the rest is free time.

Then think of that time as if it could be used to do the rest of the work. When you take time to do other work, after half an hour, you record or review the results as a way to reward your efforts. Since it is an action within free time, it is called "free action".

The biggest enemy of success is to procrastinate and wait for tomorrow.

1) Mobilize rational emotions to calm yourself down.

When you can't stop feeling like throwing a tantrum, be sure to force yourself to calm down, then analyze the reasons for the tantrum, and then try to look at things from a positive perspective. For example, if someone is always discussing you and saying that you have a problem, then you should think about whether you have this problem before refuting it.

So that you don't get angry.

2) Divert attention and relieve impulses.

When you are emotionally impulsive, you shift your attention a bit, and it only takes a few minutes for a person's impulsive emotions to calm down, but if they are not effectively controlled and diverted within those minutes, they become more intense. So, when you feel like you can't help but get angry, take a conscious shift or do something else, such as watching TV, listening to a song, running, etc., to distract yourself and relieve your anger.

After people have completed self-control, they will lose control of their emotions, just as dieters will be unhappy after refusing delicious food. Self-control is actually the process of blocking what you want to do and what you want, and when your desires are thwarted, negative emotions will arise. Most people don't realize this, but they are always affected by it unconsciously.

Therefore, we must control our emotions, and when we encounter negative emotions, we must believe that we can overcome them, fight them with positive emotions, and vent them in corresponding ways, so that the dark clouds that linger in our hearts can be dispersed as soon as possible.

Strengthen your body and keep exercising.

We need to engrave self-control as a goal in our minds and make it a habit. Because physical training can improve thinking ability, in turn, training thinking ability can also promote the development of body functions and organs. When we consistently engage in physical exercise with clear goals, our control is also enhanced.

I believe that there is no self-control, and control measures should be taken from both subjective and objective aspects to treat the symptoms.

1. On the subjective side, the first step is to make a big plan (i.e., goals) and measures to implement, focusing on how to monitor and how to punish if the plan is not completed. That is, to think big. The second thing to do is to start small.

You can start to implement some small projects with little difficulty, and gradually develop self-control habits and improve self-control ability. Once again, it is necessary to conscientiously implement self-punishment when it is not completed, so that we can make up our minds and turn over a new leaf.

2 On the objective side, a supervisor should be selected who can strictly implement the implementation of the plan. to help and push yourself to execute the plan. Otherwise, the punishment will be strictly enforced, putting pressure on yourself.

I believe that with subjective efforts and objective supervision, self-control can be improved relatively quickly.

In this case, you can find a partner to help you control yourself, and when you make mistakes, let him remind you, and after a long time, you may pay attention.

Set yourself a schedule.

It must be completed on time.

If you can't finish it, you will punish yourself for running a lap.

1.What causes you to have poor self-control? It may be a character flaw, unclear goals, or easy to indulge.

It may also be that you are too rigid in the rules and lack of thinking, which will lead you to blindly live according to other people's rules and ignore your own needs. Whatever the reason, we must first find out. Why are you not disciplined enough?

What are the factors that affect self-discipline? Assess your own flaws and the impact of others on you. Are you too pandering to others and not pleasing yourself?

Do you always compromise for others and ignore your own will?

2.Talk to yourself and try to convince yourself of self-discipline For those who like to pander to others, it's important to recognize this. If you rely on other people's instructions and lack a sense of autonomy, it will be difficult to really improve self-control.

Do you think you're a loser deep down? Self-discipline is only possible by clearing these baseless negative thoughts. If you can't solve this problem with cognitive behavioral analysis yourself, you need to consult an expert.

3.Pinpoint the direction of self-discipline. Confirm what you want to improve self-discipline and life? Learn? Or to accomplish a goal?

You also need to adjust yourself to remind yourself at all times.