Is it appropriate to be called on a blind date by your family at the age of 22?

Recently, I heard a news about a brother who has a good relationship with me, but he is only 22 years old, and the elders in the family have begun to rush to introduce him to a blind date, which makes me really cry and laugh.

I basically grew up with this brother, and I know his character well, and he will communicate with me about anything, and now that I have grown up, our attitude towards life and work methods will occasionally exchange opinions with each other, so I am a person who resolutely voted against him for "being forced" to go on a blind date.

22 years old, 1.85 meters tall, standard figure, facial features are also exquisite, no bad hobbies, have their own social circle, work is in the stage of struggle, have their own goals to speak of, and can be regarded as a person who does not worry about his girlfriend.

But not long ago, a relative of the family said that he wanted to introduce him to an object, 19 years old, graduated from junior high school, or a child who grew up with his grandparents, my brother heard it, and directly refused, I didn't expect this relative to call ** to his mother, alas, why bother?

The profession of matchmaker was indeed a very popular profession many years ago, but in this era, freedom of love, freedom of marriage, especially for young people, I don't like the so-called "parents' order matchmaker", I don't object to people who always like to introduce people, but I think at least people should help others when others have needs to find you, which is also the best of both worlds.

At the age of 22, in the great time of struggle, don't spend all your energy on improving love. Regarding the balance of this matter, my attitude has always been: if you talk about a girlfriend, it is completely acceptable to practice love while working, but if you don't have a girlfriend, then simply work hard for a few years, and leave the matter of marriage to fate.

I have always believed that married life is a part of life, but it should not be the whole of life. Everyone has their own path in life.

No matter how people other than ourselves make suggestions, when we feel that there is a need, we can refer to it, but if we have our own firm determination, the opinions of others we can use appropriately to test our own behavior, but in this flashy era, may each of us live up to the world and live our own life.

Nowadays, the word blind date is always mentioned repeatedly. Around me, there are a group of young girls who are urged by their elders to go on blind dates.

A few days ago, her niece, who had only returned from studying in the United States for half a year, was also urged by her mother to find a boyfriend, but the 23-year-old didn't want to look for it.

Last night, I got off work and went for a walk with my colleague, 22 years old, who has been working in our caregiving for almost a year. In the second half of her senior year, she came to take care of the internship and went to work directly after graduation. She is a very motivated girl, thinking about going to graduate school next year, and then falling in love when the work is arranged.

However, she went to her godmother's house on weekends, and her godmother always introduced her to boys, and she didn't know what to do. The worst thing was to come home for the Chinese New Year, and she said that her parents especially wanted her to bring her boyfriend back.

The mood of parents is understandable.

In fact, it's not that they don't want to fall in love, it's just that the environment affects the scope of their involvement. Like my niece, who is now taking the civil service exam everywhere, has been preparing for the exam at home, how can I have the opportunity to contact with the opposite sex, the male classmates I knew in the past have long been familiar with the relationship, and the possibility of becoming a couple is almost none, if there is a spark, it will not be so many years to wait. Students who have a bad relationship are afraid that they will have no contact for a long time, let alone have a chance.

My colleague was a little annoyed by this as well. She is now working in custody, but it is just a transitional period, and she has to find a stable job before she has the heart to fall in love. From another point of view, she really lacks opportunities, the care is full of female teachers, and the rest are primary school students, and there are no conditions to socialize with boys of the same age.

Nowadays, the social scope of real life has narrowed. With the advent of the Internet era, we can understand the world without leaving home, so "stay-at-home" has become the daily life of most people. Otaku is synonymous with many young people in this era.

In the face of otaku and otaku, anxious parents will always think of using blind dates to solve their children's marriages.

However, blind dates also create a gap between children and parents. On the one hand, he is urging a blind date, and on the other hand, he disdains it.

Children between the ages of 22 and 30 should be urged to marry or go on a blind date?

I thought, if it were me, I should choose to wait before the age of 30, and after the age of 30, I should go to Zhang Luo Zhang Luo. Because I'm a boy in my family, it's okay to be late. But if it's a girl, it's better to be able to do it sooner.

Don't doubt that your parents' intentions are for your own good, they are really afraid that you will not find a match.

In real life, parents always think about much more things than their children, they will think about the future for their children, they will arrange the road for their children, and they will also many hearts that children can't think of.

Your parents arrange for you to go on a blind date, which has nothing to do with your age, but with how they feel about you. Although you are just 20 years old, your usual impression of your parents must not be very good, and your parents will arrange a blind date for you at this age, hoping that you can find a suitable partner.

This is because your parents are really worried that you will not find a partner and will be lonely in your later life, which will not only make them regretful, but also make your future life very bumpy.

Don't doubt your parents' intentions, their intentions are definitely for your good, but why exactly you do it really depends on what kind of impression you yourself have made on your parents in your life.

Your parents are genuinely good for you, but you may be a little unacceptable in your approach. There are many such things in life, and after all, there are huge key differences between us and our parents, whose arrangements seem impeccable to them and are full of holes in our eyes.

I arranged to go on a blind date at the age of 20, maybe because my parents really didn't have much confidence in you, or maybe they wanted you to get married earlier. But this incident is indeed a big blow to you, and you may have some resentment towards your parents in the rest of your life.

But I think when you really step into marriage and have your own children, you can understand what it means to "pity the hearts of parents in the world". I'm sure your parents are genuinely interested in your good, but what exactly made them make such a decision, you really have to ask yourself.

It is your freedom to accept or not accept your parents' arrangement. But parents are for your own good, there is no doubt about that.

Your happiness is your own decision, and everything your parents do is also to make you happy.

For parents, it's really good for you, but it's a bit too hasty to go on a blind date at the age of 20, and it's better to go on a blind date with an older one.

They just do it according to what they want in their hearts, not for your good, you have to know how to refute and know how to maintain your own relationships, so as not to become the oppressed one.

I think yes, your parents also want you to get married and start a family quickly, maybe you think you are still young when you are 20 years old, but in the eyes of your parents, you have grown up.

Parents may feel that it is hopeless to expect you to find a partner by yourself, parents all over the world feel sorry for their children, so they just want to help you solve some of your things, so we have to treat them well.

Your parents must be genuinely good for you, how difficult is it to get married now? It's really not easy to find a partner, and your parents should definitely trust them.