How can I communicate with people so that I don t feel aggrieved?

It's really hard to write so much upstairs I personally think that since I communicate with each other, I must learn to adapt to each other! Adapt to each other, narrowly speaking, that is, to wronged yourself! There is no way there is an answer to your question.

The first thing to do is to change your subjective thinking!

Communicate this simply to death. It's good to be enthusiastic, don't be rigid and adjust your state to be a little excited, the most important thing is enthusiasm Enthusiasm is invincible.

It is a very wonderful thing to get along with people. Some people can be familiar at first sight, and some people are familiar but still look like strangers. In the process of dealing with people, the following three states are the most comfortable state.

1.Not jealous.

Some people often feel jealous of the people around them. Some people will be jealous of their colleagues' promotions and salary increases, jealous of their friends' beauty and good work, and jealous of the happiness and ...... neighbors' familiesAs everyone knows, jealousy is actually a kind of self-torture.

When it comes to interpersonal interactions, it's important to adjust and set your mindset right. Affirm and appreciate people who are stronger than ourselves and then analyze our own shortcomings, when we feel that others are better and luckier than us, in fact, subconsciously, we have admitted that we are inadequate.

So, first we can affirm and appreciate people who are stronger than ourselves, and then analyze our own shortcomings and take reasonable actions to catch up, so that "jealousy" becomes the driving force to move forward.

After we are not jealous, we will find that there will be fewer troubles, more friends, more emotions, and better life.

2.Not pandering.

Pandering to others is hard work. Because we want to change our true thoughts in our hearts, we will be careful for fear of saying the wrong word, and we don't even know how to refuse, and we often suppress ourselves and ignore our own feelings.

In fact, catering to others doesn't mean that we will gain a lot of genuine affection. Because when we are catering to other blind people, we have actually put on our own personality and put on a mask of camouflage, in exchange for nothing more than a general defeat and a partner in interests.

In fact, there are many advantages of not pandering, we don't have to wronged ourselves, we can talk to people with the most comfortable attitude, and we can find like-minded partners.

It is impossible for us to please everyone, so, when it comes to getting along with people, we can appropriately abandon pandering and just be ourselves.

3.Not embarrassing.

In the process of interacting with people, we can feel embarrassed for many reasons.

For example, when chatting with friends, there is no common topic and there is nothing to say; When you don't want to lie but can't tell the truth; When I go out, I meet someone I know, but I don't have ...... makeup

In fact, it is more comfortable to be in the relationship with people, which means that you will not feel embarrassed no matter what, and you will not feel embarrassed no matter what.

The most comfortable state to get along with people: no jealousy, no pandering, no embarrassment.

Even if you don't speak, the atmosphere won't be strange; Even if it is unkempt, it will be very calm; Even if there is a mess, you will not be ashamed.

It is not awkward to get along, to a certain extent, it requires both parties to have a high degree of tacit understanding, they need to open their hearts to each other, deepen mutual understanding and trust, and they need to be tolerant and sincere. In this way, you can really be natural and calm.

1. Regulate emotions and avoid negative energy swallowing up yourselfOne of the things that Amin does better is to know how to regulate his emotions. If you can't sleep well for a few days, in the long run, it will definitely seriously affect your physical and mental health. I think it's the right thing for him to be able to reach out to his friends and talk to him and regulate his emotions.

Many times, we have suffered unfair treatment in the workplace, and the most terrible thing is not that the "treatment" itself is unfair, but that our negative emotions have taken our heads, and there is no way to look at the problem rationally and objectively, and finally let the negative energy swallow ourselves and make some extreme moves. The consequence of this is likely to be that some things smaller than the scumbags Sakura have been infinitely expanded, causing more bad effects. Therefore, once things do not go well at work and you feel wronged, the first thing you have to do is to adjust your emotional state and find a way to cool down first.

That's the first step to solving the problem.

Second, to find out the ins and outs of the matter, we think that we have been treated unfairly, so is this really the case? In my opinion, not necessarily. In some cases, we subjectively feel that we have suffered a loss and been wronged.

If we remove the onion and restore things to their original appearance, we may not be the ones who have been wronged. Judging from Amin's internal competition, he feels that he is the one with the best conditions. But from the perspective of the company's leaders or inspectors, his conditions may not be the most ideal.

In particular, people in business positions don't care much about the criteria for competition, and they think that this should be the case based on narrow performance data. Therefore, it is necessary to have some more communication to understand what is the real reason for the failure of the competition? On the one hand, if it is true that we have suffered a grievance, at least we have confirmed it; On the other hand, if your previous understanding is biased, there may be a chance to correct it.

3. Actively fighting for one's own interests and unfair treatment is difficult to accept on anyone. As a social person, respect is a very important value appeal. Once it can be confirmed that we have indeed been wronged, I feel that we must also take some necessary measures to fight for our own interests.

First of all, you should communicate your ideas with the relevant departments of the company. Only when you say it will others know that you care about it; If you don't complain about injustice, I'm afraid there will be more grievances waiting for you in the future. Secondly, it is also necessary to manage upwards and actively communicate with leaders.

If your leader has some influence, it may be able to help you recoup some of your losses in the reach area.

In the end, even if this time it is not treated reasonably. Through your communication and appeal, the next time you encounter such a situation, you may "find a way to make up for it" and come back to balance, which is also beneficial to your future career development.