Longevity of Marriage 5, Longevity of Marriage

Of course, marriage should be married for a lifetime, and of course I hope to be together for the rest ......of my life when I find someone I love and love me deeply(I don't think anyone will object.)

With the beloved, share the joys and sorrows, share the weal and woe, "hold the hand of the son, grow old with the son", and live a happy life together, what an enviable thing......

But in this society now, some people don't seem to think like this about "marriage" anymore, and you can't say anything, after all, people have their own aspirations, everyone's ideas are different, and their pursuits are different, as long as they can strengthen their beliefs, go their own way, and live their own happy life is enough......

The reason is that the divorce rate in the current society remains high, and they are all only children, and they are used to being self-centered, and they are separated from each other, so they feel that it is difficult to achieve it in a lifetime.

Now 99 percent of marriages are for life.

It should be, exactly, but according to current marriage surveys – it is not permanent.

Live this life well, and take care of the next life.

It depends on how you run it? Marriage is a matter of two people working together and reaping the harvest. A long-lasting marriage depends on the efforts of both parties to have a perfect ending.

Yes, it is precisely because it is not easy for husband and wife to stay together for a lifetime, so the old people especially emphasize this point, because, in general, the more they lack something, the more they emphasize it. Therefore, a hundred years of harmony and a good sleep together, these are all guiding people in this difficult direction. Because everyone knows that this is quite difficult to implement, and there are many tribulations and setbacks to go through in between.

Therefore, it is not easy for husband and wife to stay together for a lifetime.

Yes, but people are not satisfied.

People's worldview is formed by their own feelings about reality, not by imagination, but by reality. It's hard to be satisfied in this society, and it's a society that teaches people to keep taking. When people take it for granted, what is wrong becomes right, and what is immoral becomes moral.

For example, when a normal person walks into a population full of rickets, he is seen as abnormal by others. If he is not strong-willed, he will gradually think that he is abnormal, and there are very few people who can really insist that he is normal.

Therefore, it is difficult for some people to persist for a lifetime.

A long-term marriage requires tolerance and change, but it must be based on love. If marriage is to make ends meet, then marriage is a long-term sale.

Let me tell you a story! When I got married, my husband was very poor, and my wife was even willing to cut off ties with her family and marry her husband because of love, regardless of everyone's obstacles. After getting married, the wife realized that she thought about marriage too simply, and found that marriage is not a very happy life by falling in love, on the contrary, talking about love in marriage, Sun Mao is a very ridiculous thing.

Because of the trapped money, the wife quarreled with her husband every day, a small quarrel for three days, a big quarrel for five days, and then simply lost the relationship, so the wife retreated and thought of divorce, but the day the wife made up her mind to divorce, she had a car accident on the way home.

In order to see a doctor for his wife, the husband borrowed a lot of money outside, and almost sold the only property of the two people, the house, from beginning to end, the husband did not hesitate at all, and even directly told his wife, even if the family is bankrupt, I will give you a doctor. The wife lived in the hospital for a year, and this year, the husband took care of him every day, and then the wife confessed to her husband because of guilt: Actually, I was going to divorce you that day.

But the husband told his wife indifferently: "I know", and then there was no follow-up, but when he wiped his wife's face, he was still so gentle, until that moment his wife was glad that marrying love was the world's greatest wealth. Love in marriage, may seem so insignificant, but when the wind and rain come, it is definitely the strongest reliance, love, is always the strongest relationship in the world, but sometimes we regard money as too important, so it seems that love is so worthless.

Love is not how rich I am, how much wisdom and achievements I have, but how much I give it to you. At critical moments, protect you from the wind and rain.

The most important considerations when getting married, I personally think the following are the following. The first point is whether your marriage partner has given you enough security to make you want to marry him. Security is the most important thing in a marriage.

You believe that a person understands a person to feel that person is safe, and you want to live with him, and he can give you enough security, so that you are willing to live with this person. The second point is what to live on after marriage. To put it bluntly, it is the economic ** of two people, and marriage should not be impulsive, but should be a deliberate decision.

Everyone is an adult, and the firewood, rice, oil, and salt after marriage, and the plan to have children after marriage must be put on the agenda, and these need to be based on the economy. Therefore, it is also very important to consider whether the two people have the ability to live after marriage. The third point is whether the parents of both parties agree.

When getting married, you must get the consent of both parents, and the marriage with the blessing of both parents can be longer. The recognition of both parents shows that both families value each other, so in the life of two people, there will be no family burden, which will make life easier and more comfortable.

A marriage that tolerates each other, in which we can easily have some quarrels, and tolerating each other's bad temper will make this marriage go better.

First of all, a marriage, whether a relationship can last for a long time, depends on the couple, whether the two people can be highly compatible in terms of the three views, and for couples who have not been together for a long time, for two people, it is difficult for each other to have a real understanding of their respective three views. will feel that the ominous chaos brought to you by this marriage is real happiness, but a kind of torment, which is likely to cause a rift in the relationship between two people, and even very likely to lead to the final breakdown of the marriage of two people.

So I personally think that for two couples, from the moment they just realized that they decided to get married, two people should get along for at least 2 to 3 years, as the so-called road knows the horsepower, and sees the hearts of the people for a long time, only two people can understand each other for a long enough time, and can finally determine whether each other can achieve general agreement and agreement in terms of three views, so as to slowly run in the feelings between the two people during this time, and see if the two people can really make each other feel comfortable, especially after such a long timeAfter all, no one is perfect, and no one will have their own shortcomings and shortcomings, and only if they can truly tolerate each other and accept each other, it is one of the important conditions for two people to live for a long time after marriage.

Marriage is based on love, so a marriage without love will not last long, but marriage is also managed by two people, in the process of running-in, sometimes although there is no love, but there will be feelings, which will also make the marriage of two people have a new turn and become long-lasting.

This depends on the management of two people, relying on two people in real life to continue to create some of the environment that has a good effect on the high marriage, with a good environment and atmosphere will make your marriage long-term and even white-headed, and beautiful.

On the contrary, there are some marriages that even if the love is dead and alive before marriage, no one can separate the two parties who love each other, but when they really enter the palace of marriage, accept the baptism of real life, and encounter such and such problems in life, they cannot stand the test, so that some marriages that seem to have sweet and mythical love fall apart in an instant. Therefore, the question of whether the marriage can last sometimes does not depend on whether there is love at that time.

Since you don't like each other, in the case that you can push it off, it is recommended that you do not choose to marry a person you don't love, marriage is a matter of two families, if you don't love each other, how can you seriously care for and take care of each other's family? When the time comes, it will not only be emotional discord between the two of you, but also emotional discord among other members of the family!

If you have to choose to be with the other person due to some special circumstances, you should talk to the other person first, at least let him know what you have in mind. If he still chooses to marry you without hesitation, it means that this person loves you very much, and he will tolerate your mistakes because he loves you, then I suggest that you cherish this feeling, sometimes you will always fall in love for a long time, and because he loves you, you will enjoy the feeling of being loved.

Personally, I don't think that if I have been tolerating and changing in my marriage, I can make the marriage really last, because if I have no principled tolerance and change in my marriage, not only will I not let myself be happy and happy, but I may let myself suffer too much pressure in this marriage, and I will be bruised all over my body, and I will not be able to get the happy life I want in the end.

The premise of wanting to make the marriage last is that the husband and wife can go in the same direction, and they can understand each other, respect each other and tolerate each other, and the most important key point is that the husband and wife can be roughly close in terms of three views, otherwise, even if one of the parties blindly tolerates the other party in the marriage, they can not let the other party be truly satisfied with themselves, nor can they let the other party really have a satisfied attitude towards this marriage, and for the husband and wife, In the process of getting along with each other, we should run in with each other, and promote the feelings between two people through effective communication and exchange between each other.

Of course, changing oneself moderately in marriage, especially changing one's own shortcomings and deficiencies, can indeed make the marriage more long-lasting, because everyone will have certain shortcomings and deficiencies, if we turn a blind eye to these shortcomings and deficiencies, it will make our partner dissatisfied with ourselves, which will make two people emotionally rift, and marriage also needs to tolerate each other, so in the marriage to tolerate and change yourself, It will play a certain positive role in promoting the long-term relationship between two people, but this kind of forbearance and change also has a certain premise and a certain degree.

Marriage can last a long time, and in real life, you can see that many people's marriages can last a lifetime. That's why marriages can last.

Whether the marriage lasts long depends on how to manage it and whether it can bear it.

When you meet, you need fate.

With the opportunity to meet, can two people become a couple, and one day in the future, will they become husband and wife?

In the future, we will still face countless tests.

Only people with sincere emotions can constantly bring their two hearts closer together in the process of overcoming obstacles along the way. Under the witness of time, the two people went from admiration to admiration, from love to a beautiful marriage.

Even if one day, they get along with each other as husband and wife.

In the long married life, the couple will also encounter unexpected challenges.

This means that true love for both parties is not enough.

Two people have the will to love each other, if you want to achieve a good story of marriage in the long river of time, you must not only have strong love, but also need to have enough patience and wisdom.

1. What does marriage mean?

There are many differences between love and marriage.

In fact, in everyone's cognition, there is such a consciousness. However, after really holding hands in love and entering the palace of marriage, many friends cannot really change.

When we confuse love and marriage, it's easy to get into trouble.

For example, when you are in love, the relationship between two people is often romantic. And when they get married, both parties must be based on reality and understand the true meaning of "half joy, half fireworks".

So, what does marriage mean to many people?

There is such a sentence that may help us find the answer we want:

Marriage, freedom of representation will be reduced, and responsibilities will be increased.

I have to admit that marriage needs to be pragmatic. When two people come together, they are going for the purpose of happiness, and if they are separated from reality in their interactions with each other, it is easy to be confused and go against happiness.

2. Respect reality in order to pass the test.

When in love, couples make their vows.

When two people succeed in holding hands in a natural way, with the blessing of their relatives, they form a new family. In the next time, whether the couple can keep the original intention of love needs to be proved with actions.

In this case, the first thing for two people to do is to start a change in mentality.

Everyone must understand that marriage is not only romantic, but also has responsibilities and obligations, and understanding this, husband and wife can be truly targeted when managing their marriage.

Many feelings start with appearance but fail in reality.

The sense of responsibility, embodied in action, requires two people to respect reality. Only by doing this, can both parties escort love and marriage for the rest of their lives.

Will the marriage last? One behavior can be seen, that is, whether the husband and wife can manage the love of two people based on reality. In fact, how many people don't understand, don't know it later.

After getting married, how do you get along, which shows that two people are based on reality and manage the happiness they want? We can say the key to a happy and long-lasting marriage from three perspectives.