I m 20 years old and I have a big conflict with my dad

Different people have to get along in different ways. Not every daughter is natural to be spoiled with her father, the most important thing is feelings.

Whether a person succeeds or not, there is really no way, you can't just say how the parties are, the success of a thing often requires the cooperation of various factors. If you've ever failed, you'll know that.

People are trying to take on their own responsibilities, and everyone's abilities and luck are different.

I don't know if you think every fight you have can be avoided, if you think it can be avoided in theory, but in the end it is not avoided, it may be that you are not in a good state of mind - you think that your father owes you. This subconscious mind leads to all sorts of actions against your will.

Think about it, he used to be as ambitious as you, ambitious, proud and dignified. It's just that thinking about what blows he has experienced, as a man, after experiencing all the hardships and hardships of life.

The first thing to avoid conflict is to reduce it. Don't do anything that makes him angry, talk more about nothing, and buy gifts for him during the holidays. People have feelings, and everyone needs love.

Every family has a scripture that is difficult to read. When you have conflicts and quarrels with your parents, you don't have to pay attention to what you say when you are angry.

Usually pay more attention to the communication and understanding with your parents, long live understanding.

May we be happy and happy and live in harmony with our families.

Actually, it's just a little quick-tempered. Father's love is like a mountain, and it is heavy; Father's love is like a cup of coffee, you won't find his charming fragrance if you don't taste it. Why is it easy to be tolerant of others and to your own family?

This is a mistake that many people tend to make. Relatives do not have an overnight feud, they should face it and face it. It's just that you need to be calm, control your emotions, and slowly get better.

You're 20 years old, right, and if you're a gentleman, you wouldn't ask such a question at all, because you know what to do.

My advice to you is:

1. Be financially independent as soon as possible, and if you are not financially independent, all your arguments in front of him will be pale and weak.

2. Train your muscles, not to fight with anyone, but to protect the people you deserve to protect (such as your mother) in the event of a conflict.

3. Experience more in society, judging from your question, you have a soft personality and obviously lack courage.

Fourth, it is not to say that you are opposed to anyone, but only if you are strong enough, you are qualified to sit at the same table and negotiate with others, I wonder if you can understand this?

As juniors, how can we preach to our elders, you and your father are full of estrangement, that is you digging a ditch between the two of you, having a father is a blessing, don't wait until you lose it to regret it.

I understand your feelings 100% because I'm just like you. I'm 23 years old and I'm still like a kitten in front of my dad. Your mom is right, you can't fight him.

Their kind of person is just short-tempered, and when you lose your temper, you'll be fine, and you try not to take it to heart. I didn't say a word when my dad threw a tantrum at me, and after a while he laughed and talked again.

When I was a child, I wanted to leave this home, I felt that he was like an alternative charity to me, and I would rather not accept it, but I still have to smile at him with gratitude, and I want to throw it aside when no one is around.

I wrote in my diary: I'm just a small fish, the storm is coming, quietly hiding in my own nest, in the days of no alarm, I will swim to the sea ** turn, just lucky to meet the happy great white shark, but also in a certain limit carefully let it have fun, and sometimes when the great white shark is not there, I seem to be the king here, even if it is just that moment of fearful happiness. (I think that's a fitting metaphor!)

Daddy loves you for sure, it's just that he can't control his temper. I think sometimes he himself realizes that he is wrong, but that strong self-esteem is troublesome, and he will not admit his mistake at all, and he will think afterwards, next time he will not be like this, but he can't pull it when his temper comes up. (Think about it, isn't it, is he sometimes extraordinarily nice to you?)

Try not to take it to heart, you may feel unbearable at first, slowly get used to it, and it hurts your body. I think your mother will suffer no less grievances than you, they are all a family, bear with it. You're going to be 20 years old, and maybe you'll have your own family in a few years, and then he won't do anything to you anymore, and it's too late for him to go home and see him, and he'll be happy to be nice to you, and this kind of thing rarely happens again.

The love of parents is unmatched.

Listen to my sister, don't conflict with him, bear with him, don't sulk anymore, if you're still unhappy, you can find me, I believe we have a common language. Be happy, or it won't be pretty.

In fact, life is like this, tired, the outside world is more annoying, you will understand later.

It should all be for life, and you also have to understand your father. Maybe he's getting angry about making money outside and he's in a bad mood when he comes home!

Love Daddy. If you care about him, the relationship will be fine.

In fact, he loves you, but in order to support his family, he has to be busy with work. In front of outsiders, no matter how much suffering he has, he will not say anything. , but when he comes home, he is the real one, and he can only vent his bitterness to you. So you have to weigh your father too.