What kind of psychology is generous, stingy ?

I feel that this kind of person always does things more than he gains, and it is easy to offend people, anyway, I don't like that kind of person who cares.

This kind of person is very good, because he can let you know that you have to rely on yourself for small things, and only if you really encounter something big and can't solve it, you can ask for help from friends.

Anyone who needs help, he stands up, money, materials, and time are willing to dedicate to you, but sometimes, when you borrow a small thing from him, he is reluctant to urge you to pay it back.

Great generosity, little stinginess. I think that's a good quality. At least when you're in trouble, you remember me as a friend (and of course, I want you to be a friend). I'm sure I'll get there to the end, even though I'll complain.

I think it's not important to explain the small things, that is to say, you don't want to borrow this thing from him, he urges you, he may want you to be self-reliant, don't rely on others for small things, form a bad habit for your own growth, and solve the problem yourself.

Hypocrites, not worth handing over, people who always worry about the trivial things of sesame seeds, will never have true heroism, of course, provided that you yourself are a gentleman, otherwise don't blame others for treating them in the same way.

I think, I'm such a person, generous, not everyone can enjoy this kind of treatment, the reason why I'm generous is because you really can't help this thing that happened, you really need help, who made me unlucky to be found by you, and what about a little stingy? Maybe it's a normal habit, because I don't like people to trouble me, and I don't like to trouble others, so I don't want to get involved too much.

In a word: it is your duty to help others, and it is your duty not to help. The question is not what the psychology of "being generous and being a little stingy" is, but in you, why can't people ask you to return things?

I've been through so many things like this that I can never get back what I borrowed. Sometimes it is just a habit to take the generosity of others, and one day when he is not happy, you start to think about it.

I've always thought of myself as a generous person because I love to give things to people.

I bought new clothes, wore them a few times or didn't wear them at all, and gave them to my cousin if I didn't like them. For Christmas and birthday parties, I received a lot of toys and accessories, picked out my favorite, and gave the rest away. Almost all of my relatives and friends around me have received my little gifts, and they must have liked and thanked me, I thought.

However, my father did not think so. In his opinion, this is ostensibly generous, but in fact it is stingy. He repeatedly warned me not to give things to others, especially things that I used or didn't like.

I don't think so.

One day, my father took me to visit his boss, who had been friends in the past.

Because we were friends in the past, he was very enthusiastic about us, and because he is now a boss, this enthusiasm is a little more reserved. My father probably sensed it, and after chatting with him for a while, he got up to take his leave. He politely kept us, and when he saw that we insisted on leaving, he turned to his wife and said, "

Bring them some apples from home. My father politely declined, but they insisted on giving it.

The couple went into the pantry, and my father and I stood at the door and waited for a long time, and they came out with a box of apples.

When we got home, my father and I opened the box and found that there were crumpled apples that were bigger than duck eggs. I couldn't help but shout, "What! Not as good as ours! No one wants to throw it away! ”

The father pointed to the apples on the ground and said, "These apples tell us at least two things: first, they were given by someone else, and if they had been bought by themselves, they would not have been left for so long." Second, they couldn't eat the leftovers, and they felt pity when they threw them away, so they gave them to us by the way, trying to make us thank them, but the result was the opposite.

I didn't look at the apples, and snorted through my nose: "Hmph, what a!" ”

My father looked at me and said, "What did you just say?" You repeat it again! ”

I said, "What! I looked at my father and didn't understand what he meant.

yes, what! You have to always remember this sentence. When you give something you don't like, you don't need, that's what you get!

My face flushed. I think of the worn clothes, leftover toys, and accessories that I used to give to others, and when they came home and opened them, they must have said the same thing.

My father looked at me and said, "Remember, don't take others for fools. He'll know the value of this thing just like you. Either you don't give it, or if you want to give it away, you give it to someone else what you think is the best, the most like, and the most reluctant. ”

To this day, I vividly remember what my father said, and it has benefited me for the rest of my life. Now, I don't just give things to people anymore.

Miserliness is not to help others when they are in need (I personally think that they are thrifty and don't count), and now there are also people who advocate being stingy in a small way, generous, for example, they have a lot of income, but when the mall is on sale, you can always see this group of people flocking to it, there is no shortage of them in the roadside ** store, bargaining has become the fun of shopping, and half an hour can grind 10 yuan is like a victory in a battle; However, it is not difficult to see valuable brands such as Armani and Boots in the wardrobe; Those who have time to take the bus will not take a taxi, those who can cook by themselves will not go to the restaurant, the free supplies in the hotel will not be in the bag, and the complimentary paper towels in the hotel will also enter the ranks of "walking around without running out"; However, when you invite guests to dinner, you will pay generously, and you will definitely be the fastest to get a friend party; They would pay four or five hundred yuan to watch a ballet, and five or six thousand yuan to sign up for a business English training class. Stingy 2. Meaning:

1.[stingy;mean;nigardly;tight-fisted;narrow-minded pelly] stingy, not broad-minded: ghost.

2.[Fang] gas volume is small. 3。

Related words 小气鬼 xiǎoqìguǐ (1) [scraper; Niggard] the man who saves money bit by bit (2) [penny pincher] see "miserly" microclimate xiǎoqìhòu (1) [microclimate] (2) a given place or place of magnitude ranging from a very small crack to a large area of local climate (3) also a metaphor for a situation on a small scale (4) Stinginess also has character stinginess and material stinginess (some people, you say a word you don't like to hear, he remembers it in the bottom of his heart, talking about narrow-mindedness, but some people are materially stingy, but the character is very good, materially it can be said that the reasonable allocation of resources is stingy, so some people's material stinginess is some irresistible factors. ） 4。Words appear The word stinginess mostly appears in the mouths of girls, and when they are not satisfied, but they are very angry and want to vent, they will desperately say the word "stingy" to each other.