Is it really so miserable to marry without the blessing of your in laws?

The generations that have lived together, in addition to their own parents, even the best mother-in-law and father-in-law will have opinions. After all, a mother is a mother, and a mother is a mother! Seriously, many families directly affect the relationship between husband and wife because of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, even if the deep feelings will be wiped out little by little by the helpless family affection, so, if you want to make a "big family" harmonious, either respect each other separately, occasionally visit the door, avoid unnecessary friction, or endure it, it is rare to be confused!

If your relationship is good, try to stand on the same line, don't mention divorce, discuss with your husband and mother-in-law to see if you can live separately, and promise the two old people: We who should be filial must be filial! At the same time, I also hope that our little family can be happy and beautiful!

Say to your husband: You are my husband and the father of the children, we all need you! Our parents are filial together in our lifetime, but our small family of three is a lifetime!

Let's stick to it first, treat it in a different way, take care of the children, care for the husband, and don't make comparisons, because there will never be a balance between giving and receiving. We don't hear all the picks on my mother-in-law, we don't fight with them, we don't get angry with them, we think differently: they are all old!

Do what you have to do, talk less, smile more! Another thing is to shift your emotions and eyes to the things that can make you happy, make more friends, participate in more outdoor sports, cultivate some small interests in life, and so on. Don't let your world be filled with only prickly mothers-in-law and uncomfortable men, be kind to yourself as a woman!

Discuss with your husband to live separately from your in-laws, the distance should be able to solve a lot of problems, at least there will be no chance for your in-laws to find scum, it's a big deal to live a small life in your own family of three!

In fact, my family is also somewhat similar to your situation, my wife is rural, I work in the town, my father and stepmother disagreed, after the two met, I called the matchmaker to talk about the matchmaker, and two months after I got married, I offered to live separately and eat separately. Before, during, and after we got married, my stepmother was looking for scum and went to my own relatives and friends to lobby us for not. Of course, I don't have more than these small problems, my current house was bought with my brother-in-law, which is considered to be shared, and now he is going to sell it 10 years later, but he refuses to sell his half to me (in another way:

If all my relatives and friends are on my brother-in-law's side, no one will help me say a fair word, and they will doubt me and accuse me of secretly not buying and refusing to let my brother-in-law sell (which I did not do), I feel that life is meaningless, but I don't think divorce can solve these problems.

So I can understand your situation, if your husband still has feelings for your mother and son, and he says that he can't get along with you anymore, and he says that he is tired, it shouldn't mean that you don't put pressure on him, but that he feels that life is meaningless. You should enlighten him to separate your home for you and your children, and live a small life.

If your husband has no feelings for your mother and son, then divorce! If he thinks that divorce can solve these problems, it means that he doesn't love you, is it still necessary for you to like and care about such a man? Is it necessary for you to maintain such a marriage?

Stay away from his parents.