Why don t you always get what you like??

A lot of people have had the experience of not being able to get something they liked in the end, and there can be a lot of factors involved, here are some possible reasons:

1.Economic conditions: Sometimes, the items we like may be more than we can afford to afford.

2.Time and place: Some things may not be available due to time and place constraints. For example, a tourist attraction may not be accessible due to time or place, making it impossible to experience it in person.

3.Personal factors: Sometimes, we may not be able to get something we like because of our own reasons. For example, it may not be available due to personal health issues, psychological conditions, personality traits, low self-confidence, communication skills, etc.

4.The influence of social **: Social** is often filled with all kinds of displays of wealth, luxury, and perfect life. This can lead people to pursue material desires too much and neglect what they really need.

Faced with the problem of not always getting what you like, the following measures are recommended:

1.Think deeply: Think hard about whether you really need the item and whether it's worth the time and money.

2.Make a plan: Make a specific plan, including goals, steps, and timelines, to help you achieve your goal of getting something you like.

3.Accept reality: If you still can't get what you like in the end, learn to accept the reality and don't get too entangled and sad.

That means the thing doesn't belong to you yet. There is such a saying: if you like something, let it go, if it can come back to you, it means that this thing really belongs to you, no matter how much others grab it!

There is also the possibility that the time has not yet come if you don't get what you like, and you can't be in a hurry or panic, I believe that one day you will definitely get what you like and want!

If you get it, it's not what you like, you have to pursue it, and if you get it easily, you will feel that it is meaningless.

Hello dear, I'm glad to be able to answer this situation for you, I will often appear, sometimes I like this kind of thing, every day I think about it, thinking that he is trying to get him, but after getting it, I really don't like it as much as before.

Because people always have this feeling, they can't get it, and it's always the best to get it, and then they find that she doesn't think so well, people have the psychology of liking the new and hating the old, and for those who live frugally, they know that money is not easy, and this kind of thing will be more cherished, if it is comparative, easy to get it, and what can be bought with money will not be cherished, and it is easy to dislike it.

But I think people still have to have the right values and consumption concept, if you spend a lot of money to buy it, even if you don't like it, I think you should cherish it, not just throw it away.

Because people are possessive, you feel that you have special expectations for unknown things, for example, you don't have money now, you especially want to get money, if you have money, then you think this thing is not so rare, people have things are not cherished, whether it is emotional things or material things, I think it's like this, just like when you buy a piece of clothing that you like very much, you may cut back on food and clothing to buy it before you buy it, but after you get it, you feel that it's just that. It's just an ordinary piece of clothing, and after a while you slowly forget about it.

Because as the saying goes, what we don't get is always in turmoil, and once we get what we like, the sense of expectation in our hearts will decrease, and the liking for him will also decrease, I think this is not good, since we get what we like, we have to cherish it, because it is not easy to come by.

What you can't get is always the best, and if you get it, you don't know how to cherish it. When you don't get what you like, you try everything you can to get it, and if you don't get it, you won't forget it. Once you get it, I think that's the same thing, but that's it.

Everything will be aesthetically tired, and after a long time, it will be put aside and disliked.

Because no matter what we treat, we have a certain amount of enthusiasm, and when our enthusiasm is worn out and we can't get it, then we will give up, because there are many other things to do in life, so we can't put all our enthusiasm on what we can't get.

Because the novelty is gone or there are other things that they like more, many people have a certain degree of freshness about a thing, and when a thing comes to their hands, after understanding, they will feel that this thing is not what they like very much, not what they imagined, and then they will not like it.

Because there will be more pleasing ones, and this one will not be liked in comparison.

I used to fancy a two-meter-tall bear in the mall, I like it very much, every time I pass by, I will involuntarily turn my eyes to it, and then on my birthday, a friend gave it to me, I was really happy at first, and after a long time, I began to feel that it took up space, and slowly I didn't like it.

Sometimes we like a thing, but we only like its outside, and then we slowly find that it is different from what we imagined, and we don't like it when the enthusiasm fades, and it is normal for many of these things to happen.

When they don't get it, people always cherish it and crave it, so they have been pursuing.

But when they get it through hard work, they feel that they have worked hard for a long time and finally get it as their own, so they will relax their sense of pursuit, and think that it is already their own, and they will not lose it anymore, and they will not be as precious and cherished as before.

Because I never had it, I will feel good, and what I can't get is always the best, in fact, this is the same reason as always looking at other people's things better than my own, and it doesn't mean that I don't like it after I get it, but I don't want it as much as before, and I have it and experience the taste and fun, so I naturally feel that it is not as novel as before. It's like watching our roommate eat an apple in the morning every day, and I think the apple is very delicious, and I want to buy it myself, but when I actually buy it, I forget to eat it, and it is moldy.

It is also in response to that sentence, what you can't get is always the best, because when you can't get that kind of thing, you will often think about the goodness of such things, and then you will become more and more eager to have such things, and when you really have such things, you will feel that this is already your own property, and there is no need to put all your likes on such things. After a long time, you will forget why you like such things in the first place, and naturally you will have feelings of dislike.

It's very simple, because you already have it, you have it, it's all yours anyway, so you don't care so much. On the contrary, the more you can't get something, the more you want to get it, and the more you will be interested.

For example, if you don't have a favorite piece of clothing before, you want to save money to buy it, and then you will cherish it after you buy it. But after wearing it a few times, it doesn't feel fresh, so it doesn't matter how much you value it, and you usually wear it casually, and it doesn't matter if it gets dirty. His eyes turned to the other new clothes.

1. The impact of "unfinished events" In Gestalt psychology, there is a professional term called "unfinished events", which refers to the fact that people linger in the subconscious because some emotions are not fully experienced, always thinking about them, and feeling that they like them from the heart. For example, in a first love, because you don't really feel the other party's love for yourself, because you miss a beautiful relationship because of your youth and ignorance, so in the years to come, when you think of your first love, you will feel extremely beautiful, because you don't get it, when you meet each other again in real life, you will still feel like each other very much. When an unfinished business hangs in the balance, the individual is in a state of incomprehension, inability or lack of support, and that regret is constantly asking to make amends, so that this liking persists, knowing that the individual is brave enough to face the past and accept the fact that he or she cannot get it.

Second, the psychology of beautification and fantasy The more people like what they can't get, the more they like it, the more they often beautify what they can't get too much, and the subconscious thinks that what they can't get is really good. Because what you can't get, you can't find its shortcomings, and what you get always feels that it's not good or that's not good, so when you compare, you prefer what you can't get.

Love is a kind of fate, we will always be smashed by sudden fate at some point, and these are indispensable themes in life. But some fate is just a dream of Nan Ke, and the instant disappearance has become Ping's past. And the fate that truly belongs to oneself is never forced, but comes together naturally.

1. Don't deny yourself because you're rejected.

In love, when you have a good impression of someone, so, you have the courage to confess to the other person, express your love and like, and hope that the other party will establish a relationship with you, but you are rejected. It is obvious that being rejected in this situation will cause you harm and pain, and then you start to wonder if I am not good enough to be worthy of the other person.

When you don't love someone, even if he gives you infinitely, even if he gives his life for you, it is difficult for you to fall in love with him. In the same way, if the person you love doesn't love you, but reluctantly stays with you because you are nice to him, it will only end up making both of you miserable.

Second, feelings cannot be forced.

The end of fate means that the two are separated for some reason, and there is no room for turnaround; The fate is not over, which means that the two have gone through a series of tests and finally ended in reunion. Many times, in the face of fate that does not belong to us, we need to learn to let go, rather than hold on.

In the relationship, we also need to "do our best and obey the destiny of God", only in this way will we get out of the shadow of love faster. No matter which occasion you choose intentionally or unintentionally, as long as you don't sleep alone in a narrow and lonely corner and lick your wounds to punish yourself, as long as you step out, you will naturally meet people of different colors on the left and right.

3. Learn self-pity and self-love.

People who lose confidence in love because they are rejected are slaves to love. Yes, in a person's life, love is necessary, but if it reaches the point where you can't live without love, it will be too exaggerated and selfless. After all, when a person has low self-esteem and even looks down on himself, who can be expected to pity himself?

When a person is confident, he has a strong personality, so when you say that love doesn't knock on your door, can you ask yourself "how attractive am I"? Don't pour out your pain with sighs and tears. We didn't come into this world for sighs and tears.

Meditate on this rejection and find the power of self-love.

Because often the more you can't get something, the better it is, people will always be more eager and obsessed with what they don't get, because they have never had it, so they will beautify the image in their brains.

This is a very common phenomenon, just like when we were children, we always saw other people's food and thought it was delicious, and we wanted to buy it in our hearts, but when we bought it and ate it, it was completely out of our taste, and we didn't even judge that ordinary things were delicious.

Everyone is curious about things that they have never been exposed to, so when they don't have them, they always want to get them. I often get it and only then do I find that it is so ordinary.

Have you ever liked someone so much, like to be righteous, like to work hard?

So you remember how much you used to like that person. "I used to like him and liked him, but I forgot that I was a very proud person, and I was also a person that my parents loved very much, but I had no dignity in him."

After a long time, when I saw this problem, I still thought of him."

and all the chat records with him are screenshots, and then I know that I will save them and read them often."

Looking forward to meeting him, but also afraid to meet him, afraid of all the embarrassments and small situations that may arise, worrying that I am so eager to see him, what I want to say is typed and typed, deleted and deleted in the dialog box".

He laughs when he thinks of it, laughs when he sees him, and wants to give him all the good things".

It seems that he has been giving up on him, and it seems that he has been waiting for him all along. Seeing these, do you also think of yourself who once liked to work hard, every time this kind of question will be the first thing that comes to mind, always singing in "Little Half" like "I dare not look back, looking left and right for unnatural secret liking", and also chanted "The mountains have trees and branches, and the heart is happy and you don't know", I always like it so seriously, so without hesitation, even if I know that I can't get anything in the end, I can't control my liking.

Like a person is like this, knowing that there is no match, but still have to like it so without hesitation, even if it hits the south wall, it is not willing to turn back.