What s it like to not get what you want?

If I don't get what I want, I'll be upset and lose my temper.

I am a very stubborn person, in my cognition, I feel that my parents should listen to me, and they should buy me unconditionally for what I want. I think I'm their daughter, and it's natural to spend their money, otherwise why would they work so hard to make money.

Of course, these are not for nothing, and I will naturally pay it back when I grow up. But these are all my personal selfishness, so they won't buy me everything as I think, they won't buy me everything as I think, and I have things that I can't get.

As a girl, the requirements for dress are naturally very high, and my usual hobby is to buy clothes, pants, bags, etc., among which bags are my favorite to buy. I have a compartment in my closet, and it's full of bags that I put in my heart, and each one of them is my sweetheart.

Once, when my mother and I went shopping, we passed by a bag shop and saw a particularly beautiful bag inside. I was so excited that I couldn't wait to take it home right away. So I asked my mother for money to buy, my mother flipped through the tag, and saw that the ** on it was more than 200, and I saw that her face changed immediately.

And there are two words of thanks on his face, that is, "don't buy". She also said that you already have so many bags, why do you still buy them, I really think the money is so easy to make. At that time, I was very unhappy in my heart, and I said why can't I buy a new one if I have a bag, this bag is really good-looking.

I kept begging my mom there, but my mom just didn't want to buy it for me. However, I don't have a penny on me, and my mother won't give me money, so I naturally can't buy that cute baby. Although we are very fateful, I have no fate to buy you.

Along the way, my heart was full of unhappiness. Whatever other people's children want, their parents buy for them, why don't you buy me what I want, am I really what you picked up?

Don't say anything about other people's families, even my brother's status in the family is above me. Which time my brother wanted something my mother didn't buy for him, and which time the thing he bought was not very expensive. The same child born to a mother, why is the difference so obvious?

Some time ago, my brother wasn't going to participate in the competition, and my mother bought him a pair of sneakers for a few hundred dollars. Oh my God, why are you doing this to me? Watching my mom walk in front, I kept glaring at her with sharp eyes from behind.

When I got home, my face was so bad that I even fell when I closed the door. Because I didn't get what I wanted, I wanted to vent all the anger in my heart. Even when they knocked on my door at night and told me to go to dinner, I ignored them.

The "unfinished events" or complexes of childhood or the past will often accompany us throughout our lives, and no matter how crazy we are to make up for them when we grow up, we will find that it is like a black hole, and we will never get that satisfaction.

Literally, it is easy to understand that the so-called complex, the "knot" tied by "love", is depressed in the heart and cannot be dredged.

Those unfinished events, unsolved emotions, and stuck energy can't flow, and they are blocked in the subconscious like a block of blood.

Unfinished events in childhood are often not caused by the event alone.

The stationery box that didn't arrive, is it really just a desire for a stationery box? Of course not.

Behind these "unfinished events" is the background of our relationship with our important caregivers (parents) at the time.

These relationships are made up of countless rolling events that eventually erupt in one event that allows us to experience strong emotions.

Suppose that at that time, our parents satisfied us, then our subconscious will receive a positive belief: my parents love me, and I deserve it.

If not, it may make us think: they don't love me, I don't deserve this.

No matter how many stationery boxes you buy yourself now, you can't make up for that relationship, and you can't make any changes to your past parents.

If the incident is directed to the love and hate of our parents, then even if we buy ourselves 100 stationery boxes, we can't modify the missing image in our hearts.

Consciously, we know that we can't go back in time. But the subconscious mind is very strong and quickly dismantles and creates a past for you.

Some clothes that you didn't get in the past are now desperate for clothes. The closet is full of clothes, and I buy them one by one, but I always feel dissatisfied;

When I was a child, my family was not rich, I had to save everything, and when I grew up, even if I was already an adult with abundant materials and earned enough money for myself, I always felt that it was not enough;

When I was a child, my parents didn't approve of me and didn't love me well. When he became an adult, he found a partner, although he loved each other very much, but he always wanted him to constantly see himself and recognize himself, no matter how much he recognized, it was not enough!

When I was a child, the kind of dress that was very fairy, that is, the kind that was spinning, at that time, for us, only those girls with better family conditions could wear that kind of skirt, and I basically didn't see many people wearing it, I don't know why the skirt was so expensive when I was a child.

Then I've always wanted a dress like this, especially when I see a friend wearing a particularly beautiful dress, and I'm even more impatient. I went home and talked to my mom for a long time, and she finally agreed to take me around. After going around a few children's clothing stores, I finally fell in love with a pale green dress, with small green leaves printed on the bottom, and a few layers of yarn on the outside, fluffy, like a skirt of an elf.

I immediately said I wanted it, so my mom hesitated after asking the price. Then I looked at an ordinary dress next to me, so ordinary that I don't remember what it looked like now, in short, my mother coaxed me and said, this is not bad, the clerk echoed and said that this is cheaper, but it is also very good, let me try it. I was very disappointed, but I didn't argue with my mother, I said no, I don't want to buy it, let's go home.

My mom knew I only wanted that dress, but it was expensive, and my mom still didn't buy it for me. Later, I was aggrieved for a while, so that later I had a kind of dislike for not being able to have it, until now, I don't like to wear skirts very much, since I was a child, my wardrobe is basically pants, occasionally buy a skirt, wear it a few times to my sister. My mom is very disgusted with my clothes now, and every time I buy clothes, I dislike them all kindly, saying that I don't dress up, and I wear stupid skirts or something, saying that I didn't like skirts when I was a child.

I said that this is not when I like it the most, and I don't have the ability to catch up with it, and when I have this ability, I don't like it anymore.

The thing you want is far away from you for too long, and when it comes to you, you find that in fact, what you want is just the initial temptation.

According to the description of the problem, it is often a contradiction in mentality.

People are different, for some people, for the things that can not be obtained, often have a great interest, and a strong possessiveness, when they do not get, chew their brains and try their best to try to make efforts, once they get often lose part or all of their interest, this is not a disease, it is a kind of mentality on the conquest of psychology.

The importance of mindset.

In real life, people can't control what happens to them, but they can control their mentality; People can't change others, but they can change themselves. In fact, there is not much difference between people, the real difference is in the mentality. Therefore, whether a person is successful or not mainly depends on his mentality.

There are good times and bad times in life, and it is impossible to be adversity everywhere; There are peaks and valleys in life, and it is impossible to be at the bottom everywhere. Being arrogant because of good times or peaks, and being depressed because of adversity or troughs, are all shallow lives. In the face of setbacks, if you just blindly complain and get angry, then you are destined to be a weak person forever.

It's as if you can never get what you want, and you can't buy anything.

Hello, this sentence probably means that sometimes we are very hopeful to get something, hail but the source of the royal has not been able to buy and can't get it, which makes people feel very frustrated and disappointed. It may be because that thing is very precious or everyone is pursuing, and you are not lucky enough or do not have the conditions, or it may be because your expectations are too high, and unnecessary expectations bring more loss. This happens from time to time, but we need to calmly analyze our needs and realities, as well as adjust our attitudes and expectations to find new opportunities and possibilities.