What should I do if my bear child is unreasonable? What should I do if my bear child is disobedient?

To be good at observing the child, you also need to chat with the child after the child is emotionally calm to understand why the child has emotions and what he thinks, which is more like a process of collecting information for you, after collecting these information, you will learn a very important information - which problems the child can not handle. Next, you need to think carefully about how you can learn to understand and deal with these problems that your child cannot handle. Don't expect any expert to solve the problem for you or come up with a solution for you.

Even for the same problem, different children will have different approaches; Even if it's the same child, the same problem, different approaches will be needed at different times.

If you think that there is something wrong with your child, then you stand on the opposite side of your child and criticize his behavior, and the result is often rebellion and resistance; If you think your child is having a problem, then you can use your empathy to understand your child's dilemma and help him solve it, and then you will become your child's guide and can take him where you want to take him. The difference between these two mentalities or ways of thinking will lead you to look at the child from a completely different perspective, and the results achieved in the educational process will be completely different.

When children start to be "unreasonable", it is often the time when they need understanding and help the most. Usually when we see children "unreasonable", "crying and yelling" or "asking all kinds of so-called annoying questions", the first reaction of many people is usually "again", "how to do it", "really annoying", because this is the first reaction, so we usually learn how to try to suppress their emotions to discipline children, I have also seen a lot of parent education training is doing this, so that parents learn how not to yell or not to scream.

When a child cries unreasonably, it is necessary to find out what causes the child's mood swings. And then make the right guidance based on these situations. It will help the child's growth.

I'm 22, and I have a younger brother who is 20 years younger than me, and he has a small bench at home, and when he makes a big fuss (even when he is unreasonable, which is not usually the case), he will be punished to sit on the small stool and not allowed to get up. Watching him cry, waiting for him to finish crying and telling him what to do, and then rewarding him with little things, now the lad is very polite. It is not known whether this method had any effect on his psychological development.

But I didn't beat him, I didn't scold him, at least it wouldn't become violent.

When a child is naughty and unreasonable, parents can adopt the following methods to guide and educate their children:

What to do if the bear child is unreasonable1

1. Listen to children's voices: Parents should listen to their children's voices, understand why their children do what they do, and then understand their thoughts and feelings from their children's perspective.

2. Adopt a calm attitude: Parents should stay calm, not too emotional or impatient, and avoid disputes with their children.

Lead by example: Parents should lead by example, set a good example, be a role model for their children, and guide their children with their own behavior.

3. Help children understand the truth: Parents can help children understand some basic truths, so that children understand why they do this, so as to guide children to make the right choice.

4. Give children appropriate rewards and punishments: Parents can take some rewards and punishments to guide children to abide by the rules and correct bad habits.

The bear child is unreasonable2

In short, in the face of children's naughtiness and unreasonableness, parents need to stay calm, understand the child's psychology, and take appropriate methods to guide and educate the child from the perspective of the child, so that the child can gradually correct bad habits and become a sensible and obedient good child.

The baby should be actively adjusted if he is disobedient

1. Be more patient and tolerant, not because you are disobedient to scold the baby or even scold loudly, these behaviors are not okay, but to give the baby more warmth and tolerance, because disobedience may also be to pursue the attention of parents, at this time there should be more warm words, so that it feels a sense of support and security.

2. Carefully analyze the reasons for the baby's disobedience, such as whether it encounters difficulties, frustrations or feels uneasy, has a small temper, or may be because of the hungry stomach and wants to drink milk, etc., if it is caused by these reasons, the disobedience should be actively dealt with, and the inducing factors should be solved in a timely manner, and the performance of disobedience can not be just seen.

3. It should be guided, especially to communicate and communicate with the baby, tell it that if it is disobedient, there is no way to achieve the goal, and positive communication and expression can better let parents understand the psychology of the 2-year-old baby, so that it can be satisfied faster, which is good for themselves and parents.

4. Ignoring the baby's disobedient behavior also has a certain effect, and it is possible that these behaviors will subside after ignorance.

Children are sensible, which is what every adult looks forward to. But the development of a child's personality is not born with him, and the things that he comes into contact with the child are related to others. Adults also have a lot of influence, so some children have a bad personality, what if the child is very disobedient?

1. Teach children to learn respect.

No matter how big or small the child is, you must learn to respect, the child also has ideas, if you reason with the child from an early age and tell him the merits, the child will definitely be sensible. Generally, children are more stubborn and disobedient, and they may be unreasonable with their families. When the child loses his temper, he must not scold, but communicate with the child and let the child express what he is dissatisfied with.

After saying it, you can tell him about **right and wrong**, and avoid wronging the child.

2. Use both grace and power for children.

For children, when they are disobedient, they will not listen to anything at all. Therefore, it is necessary to use both grace and power for the child's situation, and you must not pay attention to the child directly when he loses his temper and cries. When the child's emotions are almost cathartic, he will calm down, and if he keeps ignoring him, he will find it useful to cry, and he will express it in this way in the future.

You can wait for the baby to calm down and feel that this way is not good, you can reason with him.

Many babies' personalities are influenced by the people around them, and adults often live with their babies. Therefore, in ordinary life, we should also reason with our children and develop a good habit and good character. In this way, when the child grows up, he will be liked if he has a good personality.

The education of disobedient children should also pay attention to methods, and we should do the following when educating children:

1. Relationship equality.

Many times parents can't do it, thinking that I am a parent, the child should listen to me, and then condescendingly talk to the child, this is not communication, this is an order. The child can only obey and cannot resist, so this kind of communication is ineffective, and the child hears not the words you communicate, but the words of command. This will lead to a lack of follow-up communication, and your child will not want to listen to it as soon as you speak.

2. No emotion.

Communicating with emotions will make the child very uncomfortable, I don't know what to do, because we have emotions, we can't control the tone of our speech, the way we speak, it may be very uncomfortable, and you have emotions, the child can't communicate with you at all, as long as you disagree with what you say, you may be even more angry, and if it continues, the child will directly see you and ignore you directly.

3. Without evaluation and accusation.

These are complementary to each other, the premise of communication is the exchange of information, so if the content of our communication is to evaluate him, or accuse him, the subtext is that he is wrong, we are preaching him, he has no reason to resist, can only listen, then for the child, he can't accept the accusation all the time, we all know that if we face the accusation, we may take the action is to resist or run away!

4. There is no preset purpose.

In many cases, parents already have a purpose before communicating, which is to let the child accept what I say and do what I say. This kind of preset purpose communication is meaningless, because the child hears the end and finds that you are trying to make him accept your views and ideas, or you talk about other topics that he is interested in, and you finally return to a certain point, which will make the child not communicate with you in the future, because he knows what your purpose is.

If the child is disobedient, parents can try these three methods!

1. Walk into the hearts of children.

To solve the problem, we must find a way to solve the problem from the root, and blindly suppress the calm on the surface, in fact, it cannot prevent the recurrence of the problem at all. If you want to correct your child's mistakes, you need to go into your child's heart and understand what your child really thinks. In case of trouble, look at the problem from the perspective of the child and communicate more, so as to achieve a happy education.

2. Parents should learn to control their emotions.

Sometimes if something happens to the child, the parent will "erupt" and spill all the emotions on the child, which is easy to make the child rebellious.

It is recommended that parents must separate work and life, especially when facing their children, they must learn to control their emotions, and only by maintaining a good way of communicating with their children will children choose to listen to their parents.

3. Give your child time to express their thoughts.

When many parents are faced with different opinions on their children, they subjectively think that there is no part of their children's ideas that can be adopted, and then it is easy to show an attitude of ignoring or contemptuous, hindering the expression of children's ideas. This can easily lead to limited children's ability to express themselves and misunderstandings about their parents' education.

There is no particularly good way to call the police to deal with it. Educate the bear child to restrain his temper, don't quarrel with him, let alone do it, after all, he is not his own child, and the parents of the Xiongzhou sedan chair child will not be a reasonable parent.

1. To change the bad behavior habits of "bear children", parents need to set an example.

As adults, parents should be in awe of social rules and consciously improve their self-cultivation and moral quality. When educating children, parents should actively learn scientific education methods and take the trouble to give positive guidance to their children, rather than just trying to be easy for themselves, allowing their children to "grow wildly" and eventually go out of control. When a child behaves against social rules, parents should avoid indiscriminately "protecting their shortcomings" and exculpating them on the grounds that "he is just a child", but face up to the child's non-impulsive behavior, and give corresponding punishments to reduce the frequency of his mistakes, cultivate his sense of rules, and improve his basic moral quality.

Second, in the face of bear children, society should also respond.

Minors are the flowers of the motherland, and they naturally need to be watered and cared for by the public. When faced with distress caused by the child's misconduct, the person concerned should give the child an appropriate verbal warning and actively communicate with the child's guardian so that the child is aware of his or her wrongdoing and sincerely apologize to the offended person. If parents let their children's behavior go unchecked, they need to contact relevant staff to criticize and educate parents, so that "bear parents" are aware of their own educational problems.

3. Instead of correcting the behavior of the "bear child" after the problem has arisen, it is better to prevent it at the root.

Schools should undertake the responsibility of teaching and educating people, and while imparting knowledge, they should not forget to carry out moral quality education, so as to establish a correct view of right and wrong for children, so that they can have a sense of morality and shame. The community should also actively carry out publicity and education, create a good moral atmosphere, so that parents and children can imperceptibly bid farewell to the "bear" characteristic.

Fourth, "bear children" should not be let go, and "bear parents" should not use age as a fig leaf for their own failed education.

Only when the whole society improves their sense of self-morality and realizes the harm and problems behind the behavior of "bear children", can "bear parents" have no excuse for exculpation, and children can have good behavior "references" and receive healthy education and guidance.

Finally, whether children can grow up healthily is not only a personal issue of children, but also related to the later life of parents, so I hope that parents must pay attention to their children's education to avoid children from making some wrong behaviors!

To deal with bear children, these two aspects must be "ruthless" 1, there are no rules, and the reason why they are bear children is because they have no rules. When children are unruly, parents must be ruthless, not only to urge them to obey the rules, but also to protect them. Rules, in a sense, are external protective circles.

With rules and strict observance of the rules, children can live a healthy life in the protective circle. You can formulate a corresponding punishment method, but you must not beat and scold, it is easy to backfire. 2. Do your own thing, and be ruthless when the child's self-psychology is serious, which is a manifestation of selfishness, remember to be ruthless.

In this world, children who go their own way are the most terrible, they never think about the feelings of others, and they are likely to make a big mistake because of this. And being selfish will make children lose a lot of opportunities and friends, which is really worth the loss. Life has just begun to set sail, and everything is in time.

If you want them to know how to be grateful, in addition to being a good example for their parents, they also need to constantly "call" their children to let them know that life is not easy. Tips for educating "bear children" to make them more obedient1. Positive communication is more recommended than scolding. Try to talk to your child, get into their hearts, and get to know their truest thoughts.

In many cases, becoming friends with children is more conducive to parent-child education. Based on their actual situation, tailor the rules that suit them. The purpose of communication is not only to understand what the child is thinking, but also to draw in the parent-child relationship.

If the child is allowed to develop, sooner or later, someone else will educate the parents for them. 2. Learn to let go The next key point is to fully leave trust and space to children. Since there are rules, it is completely possible to act according to the rules, instead of urging thousands of times behind your back.

If the child does not do well, then the type of stimulus can be punished accordingly. The original intention of letting go is not to let it go, let alone let the child develop. It's about letting your child know what to do and what not to do in the right way.

The next time you do something, you think about it first and don't act rashly. 3. The most important point to bear the consequences is to teach children to bear them. All the "bear children", they have made mistakes in life, but for different purposes, some parents are reluctant to let their children be disciplined.

In the end, these "bear children" have intensified and done more hurtful things. Instead of this, parents are ruthless, and no matter what wrong things their children do, they will bear the consequences. This process can just cultivate children's responsibility and let them be responsible for themselves.