I can t give birth to a son and my mother in law blames me, how should I deal with it?

As a mother-in-law, I think you can persuade her from three aspects, the first is to start from the perspective of the son, the second is to eliminate her concerns from the perspective of the daughter-in-law, and the third is to arrange a plan to take care of the child.

In my village, I have a lot of friends who have played with me since I was a child, and they didn't go to school because they didn't go to school, so they got married early in their 20s.

After getting married, in order to support their families, most of the young people in the village choose to go out to work to earn money, some will bring their daughters-in-law, but some will leave their daughters-in-law at home to take care of their mothers.

Because the son goes out to work and only comes back a few times a year, mothers are generally very anxious to have grandchildren, but this kind of thing is not counted when the mother-in-law says, and it can only be up to the daughter-in-law to decide whether she wants to give birth.

I remember this was the case with a lady, I called her son brother, and her daughter-in-law was my sister-in-law. The sister-in-law has been married for nearly a year, but she still hasn't given birth to a child, although the eldest brother is relatively young and is not in a hurry to have a child, but the eldest mother can't wait for a long time.

When she chatted with us, she often said that she wanted a grandchild, but her daughter-in-law just didn't want to give birth, but she couldn't worry about it.

may have listened to her too much, and a grandmother next to her couldn't stand it anymore, so she gave her a few tricks and told the eldest lady to keep it working.

The first way is to contact the son, after all, the son and daughter-in-law are husband and wife, and it is naturally better for the son to come forward when it comes to the issue of having children.

Only when they reach a consensus with their son and the two of them work together to find a way to persuade their daughter-in-law are more likely to succeed.

The second way is to find an opportunity to ask your daughter-in-law what she thinks about having a baby, and ask her if she has any concerns, such as whether her husband is not at home and it is inconvenient to take care of the child, or if she is afraid of having a child or worried about postpartum problems.

Only by asking the daughter-in-law's concerns can we find a way to find a solution. For example, the eldest mother told her daughter-in-law not to be afraid of having a child according to this grandmother's explanation, and when the time comes, she can find a good doctor to deliver the baby to ensure that she will suffer less, and she will also do a good job of postpartum repair to dispel her daughter-in-law's concerns.

The third method is also the most critical problem, the eldest mother directly told her daughter-in-law not to worry about taking care of the child, she can help take care of the child, and the child's expenses can also be paid by herself, so that the daughter-in-law does not have too much psychological burden and economic pressure.

Sure enough, the eldest mother said so much, and the daughter-in-law finally agreed. So, the eldest mother hurriedly called ** to call her son back and prepare to have a child.

The rest of the matter is naturally a matter of course, the child was born smoothly, and the eldest mother also helped her daughter-in-law and took care of her grandson as mentioned before, not only the family was very happy, but she had not wronged her daughter-in-law.

Therefore, I think that if the daughter-in-law is unwilling to have children, she must learn to use these three methods to dispel her concerns, and the daughter-in-law will agree if she has no worries.

If she doesn't want to, she doesn't want to, that's her own body, you don't have the right to interfere, she is qualified to make her own choice.

The daughter-in-law is reluctant to have children, and the mother-in-law had better not persuade directly, she must also have her own ideas, you can communicate with your son, let your son understand the reason, or maybe you don't want to have children at this stage for the time being.

As a daughter-in-law, I didn't want to have children when I first got married to my husband, and I didn't want ...... until a year or two laterNow it is not easy to work hard in the workplace, she may be busy in her career, and she can't take care of having children, women are always different from men in the workplace, once a woman is pregnant, it is more or less inevitable that it will delay the work, and it will also affect the development of the career. Like a friend of mine, she was pregnant before the company had plans to give her a promotion, but she was pregnant before the promotion, and the position that originally belonged to her changed the state, which is really a very real problem, women give birth to babies and take maternity leave for several months, and each company also has its own considerations.

Of course, your daughter-in-law may have other reasons for giving birth to a baby, and you can communicate with each other, but there is no need to persuade you, which will not only affect your relationship, but also cause her to be more stressed......

Getting married and having children is a very normal life trajectory for a broken individual.

When a person gets married, his parents want them to have children as soon as possible, so that the family can enjoy family happiness.

However, some people are reluctant to have children after getting married......At this time, how to deal with it is a very important issue.

In this kind of thing, the daughter-in-law is reluctant to have children, and for the mother-in-law, how to deal with the bad judgment is more important.

The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to get along with, so when the daughter-in-law is unwilling to have children, the mother-in-law should deal with it properly to avoid unnecessary conflicts between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

Specifically, at this time, the mother-in-law should pay attention to the following aspects:

1. Understand the real reason why your daughter-in-law is reluctant to have children.

If you want to solve the problem, you have to figure out why it happened.

Therefore, when the daughter-in-law is reluctant to have children, the mother-in-law must find out the real reason why the daughter-in-law is unwilling to have children.

Only by clarifying this problem can we find a way to solve it.

2. Find a solution based on the real reason why the daughter-in-law is reluctant to have children.

After understanding the specific reasons why the daughter-in-law is reluctant to have children, the mother-in-law should discuss with her son to find a solution.

If your son has the same point of view as you, he can persuade him.

If the son and daughter-in-law have the same opinion, think about how to deal with it.

3. Choose the right way to cope.

For mothers-in-law, if the daughter-in-law is reluctant to have children, appropriate measures should be taken to deal with it.

In this way, we can solve the problem most appropriately, and make the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and even between family members harmonious.

4. It is best to let your son come forward to persuade you.

When the daughter-in-law is reluctant to have children, the best way for the mother-in-law to deal with it is to ask her son to come forward to persuade ......Communication between them will be smoother as a couple, so this is the best solution.

If the daughter-in-law insists on her choice after communication, then the mother-in-law should respect her and find time to communicate later. ......It's better to deal with it this way.

The daughter-in-law is unwilling to have children, as a mother-in-law, don't mix too much, let alone care whether to have children or not, it is a daughter-in-law, the affairs of the husband and wife have nothing to do with the mother-in-law, as a mother-in-law, don't force to persuade, this will have a bad effect, and you should go with the flow.

Now young people are reluctant to have children, they have their personal considerations and ideas, whether it is financially or mentally and physically, they have independent thinking and thinking, as a mother-in-law, as long as they try to take care of their daughter-in-law's life, care for gentleness and considerate and understanding, when they are relieved of the knots of life, they will naturally be willing to have children.

Nowadays, young people's reluctance to have children is a common problem, both social and economic factors, and their worldview and way of life are not like the old people in the past who have the concept of passing on the family lineage.

So if the mother-in-law wants to open it or not, Coco is careful, and she should not be forced to nag, which will have a bad effect. Philistine self-disturbance may hurt feelings and seek trouble. Therefore, as a mother-in-law, as long as you live your life well, your children and grandchildren will have their own blessings, and don't be a cow and horse for your children and grandchildren.

Understand the reasons why they don't want to have children too early, and don't rush blindly. It has to be said that the pressure on young people nowadays is not ordinary. The cost of marriage is too great, the house, car, wedding bride price, the same add up to enough to empty a family's savings.

Most of the post-8090s are only children, and once they get married, they will have four old people on top of them, and they are also carrying mortgages and car loans, as well as the daily consumption of two people.

Many young couples around me pay off their mortgages and car loans every month, and their lives are tight, sometimes they can't even make ends meet, and they still need to rely on the pension of the elderly to make up a little. If this is the case, I don't recommend that parents push to have children too much, because there is no ability to raise children at all, and having children will only put a family in a more difficult situation, which is not good for both adults and children.

Maybe the daughter-in-law plans to be a dink and plans to use the money to raise children to travel around the world. And both the young husband and wife are only children, and the old people on both sides are also eager to hold their grandchildren. In this case, parents can be appropriately urged, after all, getting married and having children is also a task, and it is the responsibility of children to spread the branches, and they can't just want to be happy, which is too selfish.

However, it is also necessary to communicate well, know the benefits and disadvantages, and persuade them slowly, not to be too tough or cause frequent disputes, which not only fail to solve the problem, but also easily cause irreversible contradictions. But if the young couple insists on dink or having children after a while, they can't be persuaded to do so, and they can only respect them, after all, everyone has the life they want, and at any time, they cannot be deprived of their freedom of choice.

First, we must respect the choice of the daughter-in-law.

Many people don't understand that in a family, the relationship between husband and wife is the family relationship.

The focus of other relationships, like the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

The relationship between parents and children, etc., should be compromised in the relationship between husband and wife, and should not affect the relationship between husband and wife. However, in many Chinese families, especially for the more conservative, backward and traditional families, the most important relationship in a family often becomes a parent-child relationship, which is a deformity belonging to the Chinese family. People may think that the parent-child relationship is the most important, and two people must have children when they get married, so if the daughter-in-law does not want children, the mother-in-law will definitely come out to intervene.

But you must know that this is the life of a young couple, whether to have children is also the life choice of the young couple, as a mother-in-law, she has no right to interfere too much, and she must respect her daughter-in-law's choice.

2. Understand that a daughter-in-law is not a fertility tool, and she cannot be divorced because she does not have children.

Nowadays, there are more and more voices for women's rights.

Speak out, but what is the so-called feminism? Feminism does not refer to the domination of women over men, but to the pursuit of equality between men and women. In people's traditional concepts, women are always dependent on men and exist, people say that women are pleasing to themselves, that women are to please men, and women are envied as a tool for men to inherit or give birth, no matter what kind of pain women need to endure in the process of childbirth.

But for a woman, whether to have children or not is also a choice for her. Therefore, the mother-in-law cannot let her son divorce her daughter-in-law because she is not childless, but should respect the feelings of the two people.

You have to first figure out why your daughter-in-law is reluctant to have children? What is the reason for Lu Hao?

Did the two of them discuss Dink? Are you worried about getting out of shape? Is there economic pressure? Or is there no one to help with the kids?

Nowadays, many young people are reluctant to have children, because they still have room for growth, so why waste time to have a child without certainty when they can improve themselves and invest in themselves?

Giving birth to a child is a waste of time, energy and money, and if you don't cultivate a good education, you can still be half angry when you grow up. So too much uncertainty.

If you really want to hold a grandchild, you need to find out why your daughter-in-law is reluctant to give birth first, and don't put too much pressure on her. The pressure is great, and the more she doesn't want to give birth. On the contrary, you can do your son's ideological work a little bit more.

On the one hand, let the son knock on the side to see why the daughter-in-law is reluctant to have children, and on the other hand, what if your son does not want children? Your daughter-in-law can't do this kind of thing alone.

After all, there is not much pressure and generation gap between two couples to communicate together. Many mothers choose to have a baby, not simply because they like the baby, but because the mother loves the father, they will want to give the father a baby.

You get the idea, right? Besides, don't put too much pressure on your daughter-in-law, otherwise it will not only affect the relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but it will even backfire.

Good luck soon!

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