How to deal with scheming superficial friends?

I think that what kind of person you get along with should grasp the scale and be measured. As the saying goes, if you see through it or not, friends will see each other. If you want to make friends with the other party, then no matter how scheming the other party is, as long as you treat each other sincerely, you will be able to exchange the other party's sincerity.

If you just have to deal with the other person, then you can't hurt others, and you can't have the heart to defend people. Say less and do more, but don't appear to be superior to the other person in every way. Lower the other person's vigilance and feel that you are insignificant, so they will naturally not use their thoughts on you.

A scheming person is a very defensive and cautious person, and usually tries not to joke with him. The centrifuge is a little heavier, such a person is generally not able to calculate him, if because of the work must come and go, seek common ground while reserving differences, do their own things. However, a scheming person is more or less beneficial, for himself, he can get immediate benefits, but he has no friends, because this kind of person is selfish, and no one wants to get along with such a person.

One should be wary of not being taken advantage of, not having too high expectations, and not asking for some kind of opinion or judgment. When he really needs help, give yourself the help you can. The road knows the horsepower, and the people will see it for a long time.

Be honest with others, and one day he will open up to you.

Personally, I don't like to be around scheming people the most. Because of your unintentional words and actions, he can silently interpret a hundred versions in his heart. It's tiring to communicate with scheming people!

When you get along with scheming people, you can keep your original intention and do what you should do. Don't tremble for fear of offending others, think about everything you say, get along well if you can be friends, and forget if you can't do it.

Since you have to get along with scheming people, sometimes you are too careful, and she will also know about them, so it is easier to communicate with them. If the scheming person is everywhere for the purpose of bullying you and betraying you, then you should not be too polite, no matter what, we must not lose ourselves, don't let him think that we are weak and can be bullied, sometimes it is appropriate to ring the alarm bell for him She will also be the lubricant for getting along.

At work, it is inevitable to meet scheming people. If there is no interest, it is nothing, if it is directly involved, then you have to be careful. Treat this kind of person:

In the work, you should stick to your own principles, and the handover of work is best by email or in the case of a third person; Don't discuss other colleagues and leaders in front of him.

When you meet a scheming person, when you interact with him, don't say anything stupidly, leave some bottom for yourself, scheming people are also more selfish, and tend to focus on themselves in front of interests, calculate this and that, guard against a little, and get by on the surface.

Get along with this kind of friend and do your job. Keep a certain distance, but you don't have to be too direct, just get along as an ordinary colleague, as the so-called "more flowers, less thorns".

There is a sentence in Jin Yong's "Heaven and Dragon Slayer" in the Nine Yin True Scripture: He is strong, he is strong, and the breeze blows the hills; He is crossed by him, and the bright moon shines on the river. It is about maintaining one's own principle, not following others and the environment, and losing one's own nature.

You can brake with static; Respond to change with the same.

It is the most complex animal in the world, therefore, in daily life or in the workplace, we will inevitably encounter some headache scheming, get along with such people, to borrow the words of Confucius, that is: the near is not inferior, and the far is resentful. In order to get along with them with ease, we must first understand their personality traits and prescribe the right medicine to crack their scheming and avoid being harmed.

The first personality trait of a scheming is "jealous". In response to this trait, when dealing with scheming, we need to learn to show weakness from time to time and praise each other often. Otherwise, when she thinks you are better than her in some way, or she thinks that you look down on her, her strong jealousy will suddenly explode, and you will inadvertently become her enemy, and she will start looking for opportunities to harm you.

The second personality trait of a scheming is "greedy for small gains". The reason why she is so scheming, the ultimate goal is to make a profit, whether it is material or nominal profit, she can't wait to own it all to her. In view of this personality trait, when getting along with a scheming, we must not have money or other material dealings or transactions with her, and we try our best to solve the problem in the social entertainment situation as a last resort.

The third personality trait of a scheming is "a penchant for juggling right and wrong". The purpose of the scheming is to kill people with a knife, and the root of her motive is because of "jealousy" and "greed". The best way to crack this trait is:

Don't reveal your secrets and privacy (such as your own family affairs, social relationships, home address, etc.) to the scheming, and don't tell other people's rights and wrongs in front of the scheming, so as not to be used by the scheming to borrow a knife to kill people.

Of course, when dealing with scheming, we have to have a kind heart, neither to draw the line between her as a heinous bad person, nor to try to befriend her with the idealism of "save her", but to see her as a sample of complex human nature. In this way, we can not only understand the "people" from it, but also protect ourselves in the process of getting along.