Is he selfish or am I stingy? Am I being stingy and selfish?

I can understand your mood very well, I want to let go but I can't completely let go, and you feel uncomfortable when you see him in a bad mood. This man is really selfish, and I guess he's the kind of doted on at home. Since he cares so much about his girlfriend, why should he be entangled with you, have you ever thought that maybe his girlfriend quarreled with him because of the ambiguity between him and you, and no one will allow his other half to have an affair with others.

You're doing the right thing, it's time to give him a slap in the face, or he'll never grow up.

Leave him, give him a chance, and give yourself a chance!!

I think he's a kid who doesn't grow up, he's too headstrong, and you're doing the right thing! Why should I pester you? Just because you love him?

I think he just thinks you care about him, he thinks you're going to wait for him, you're going to give everything for him, you have to let him know, he's wrong!

You're right, since he still cares about his girlfriend, he shouldn't have a messy relationship with you. But as a friend, you should give him some comfort.

If you are selfless to your enemies and hurt yourself, please consider yourself.

You're doing the right thing.

Such a man is not mature enough to think, and he has no sense of responsibility, so I advise you to give up...

Selfish, find a backup, you can follow her if you can't do it.

If you want to be with him, just explain it directly, and everything that should be broken before must be broken.

But feelings can't be forced.

Yes, if you don't say that, he will never care what you're thinking

Because stingy people are narrow-minded, selfishness is also caused by a variety of circumstances. A person who grew up in a selfish and loveless environment does not know how to love others, and is very likely to become stingy, selfish, and mercenary when he grows up. In fact, such people are not really stingy and selfish, but their nature has been cultivated since childhood, and it is difficult to change.

For example, a thief who is used to stealing, it is really difficult for you to let him change, and it is easy to change his nature, and many of his nature are not born, but developed from childhood.

People who are both selfish and lack of love are the least able to share, whether it is material sharing or spiritual sharing, they don't understand, they only care about themselves many times, they don't give easily, even if they come back, they want to get a greater return.

Many people say that suffering losses is a blessing, if you keep suffering losses, it will make people doubt life, people who suffer too much losses will not easily trust others, and they will also learn from it stinginess and selfishness. To be stingy is to tighten one's own belt and not let anyone "succeed", even to be wary of one's own relatives, and to be selfish is to learn to cheat others in this way and get other people's hard-earned money into one's own pocket.

In an environment, if many people have been suffering losses at the beginning, then these people must have learned something from the losses, that is, the abduction of the people who let them suffer. No matter how kind a person is at the beginning, after suffering too many losses, he will become stingy and selfish, although it will be annoying to become like this, but he can protect his pockets.

Therefore, there are many reasons for the formation of selfish people, there are environmental factors and social factors, as well as various other factors, and there are very few natural ones. People live in the world, although no one is perfect, but people can also become more and more perfect, after all, we are social animals, stingy, selfish people are difficult to integrate into the social crowd and achieve something.

Stinginess is selfishness in a way.

Stinginess refers to not being generous and not generous, in fact, it is for one's own selfish interests.

I am greedy for a small advantage and stingy with others.

Selfish people also only care about themselves and do not think about others.

What you asked is inexplicable, it should be said that selfish people become stingy, because he is very selfish, so he is reluctant to give his things to others? It doesn't have that atmospheric measure, so it looks stingy.

Thinking more for yourself, then thinking less about others, so selfishness arises, and you must overcome this shortcoming, so that you can have friends by your side.

Because he is stingy, he only thinks about himself, and he is also very selfish.

Only when you are selfish can you make yourself more stingy

Isn't selfishness just stinginess?

I don't think you're being particularly selfish, but you're just thinking a little bit more. You are afraid that after the notes you have compiled are used by others, your grades will improve more than yourself. It's understandable, so let's take a look at my experience.

There are many manifestations of selfishness, the most common of which is not caring for others when eating. When I was in my first relationship, when my boyfriend went to dinner with me, he never took care of me, never asked me what I wanted to eat when he ordered, but would gobble it up as soon as he ordered it.

I remember one time I wanted to eat spicy food, but the other party felt that I couldn't eat spicy food, I wanted to put some chili peppers on my own, and the other party thought I was hypocritical. I know that the other party can't eat spicy food, I should understand, but why don't you buy two servings when you buy food, one is spicy and the other is not spicy.

Later, the two of us also broke up because of the meal, and in the end, this person became more and more excessive, and it didn't matter if I was full or not during the meal. When the two of us eat, we often pay for the AA system, but every time I always can't eat, because after the meal comes, the other party eats half of it, and the remaining half, and the two of us are half of each other, this kind of life makes me feel particularly aggrieved.

Once I went to eat Malatang with the other party, I went to get the soup, but I didn't expect the other party to eat all the dishes, and ate all the dishes I liked, at that moment, I felt that this person was really not suitable to live together, because it was too selfish.

With a selfish person, you may not even have enough to eat, which is not an exaggeration at all, because I have experienced it myself. Therefore, if a person is particularly selfish when eating, don't be with this person, because after being with this person, you can't even solve your own stomach.

Clause. 1. Speak harshly.

The most important characteristic of a selfish person is that he always thinks from his own point of view and never takes into account the feelings of others.

Therefore, they will say whatever comes to their minds, regardless of whether their words are objectively realistic and logical, nor will they consider the emotions of others, they will always spit out, and they will always think that they are a manifestation of their straightforwardness, and that they are always right.

It's very painful to get along with this kind of person in your life because you can't communicate with them properly because they are always self-centered and have a hard time taking care of other people's thoughts.

If you go against their will during the conversation, they will say something more mean to contradict you.

They don't talk to you about things, they just want people to respect their ideas and choices and think they're right.

Of course, the popularity of this kind of person will not be so good that it will not be good, even if it is a close relative, they can't often endure such mean words.

Clause. 2. Double standards.

In dealing with others, we often say: be strict with yourself and be lenient with others.

But extremely selfish people will not do this, their standard of life is just the opposite, and they have become "strict with others and lenient with themselves".

Treat others very harshly, even if others make a small mistake, as long as their interests are touched, they will infinitely magnify and make the situation serious.

As for themselves, even if they make big mistakes, they will always find all kinds of excuses to excuse themselves.

For example, if your child makes a mistake, they will say that the child is still young and ignorant.

If someone else's child makes a mistake, they will accuse them loudly, saying that the child is young and ignorant, aren't you adults also ignorant?

You say it's not annoying.

So, they're always asserting their own rights and not respecting the rights of others.

This kind of person must stay away, and this double standard of extreme pursuit of advantages and avoidance of disadvantages will only hurt the people with whom he gets along.

Clause. 3. Be scheming.

Extremely selfish people always calculate the gains and losses of their own interests, and think only about their own one-third of an acre.

It's right to be a little calculating and strategizing when doing things, but blindly calculating for your own selfish interests, even at the expense of others' interests to satisfy your own interests.

In addition, such extremely selfish people are often suspicious by nature and are afraid of losing their interests, so they are calculating and scheming.

It's a pity that selfish people like this often don't have high emotional intelligence, and their selfish nature reveals selflessness, and a little judgment can identify this kind of person.

Therefore, in life, it is not difficult for us to know whether there are extremely selfish people around us, and the key is not to entangle with them.

Unless your aura is very strong and can deter them, you can't tell if you are justified, and it is you who is hurt.

Therefore, it is necessary to keep a certain distance from such people.

There are several manifestations:1. You can owe others, but others can't owe yourself, even if others take advantage of him, he will ask for it back.

2. He will often complain about life and others, and when he encounters a little difficulty, he will feel that God or society is unfair to him.

3. I can't bear a little hardship and don't want to pay, but I always want to get something for nothing.

First, the mind is particularly narrow-minded, and he is suspicious by nature. Always don't understand, and don't tolerate women, the second only cares about their own enjoyment, but they don't care about the life or death of their wives, and the third takes women's efforts for granted.