How do I accept my physical impairment???

Low self-esteem is not learned, it is one's own view of things. By the same token, if you see someone with a scar on their head, will you laugh at it? And there are not a few people with scars after the ** in Sichuan, so what should they do?

There is a ** little hero who is missing 2 fingers in order to save his classmates, which affects his life, and there is no beauty, and his home is gone, so what should others do?

Your head scar only affects the appearance, the beauty and ugliness are in your heart, and you yourself care a lot, so you care about other people's opinions. There used to be a story of a neighbor stealing an axe, a person lost an axe, just before the neighbor came to borrow but could not, when he lost it, he felt that the other party was a thief who stole the axe, the other party also spoke like a thief, and did things like a thief, no matter how you look at it, the neighbor stole it, after 2 days when he was working in an inconspicuous place after finding it, then look at the neighbor did not have the previous feeling.

What do you think of your flaw, from your description, I don't see it as a flaw, because it's not on your face, you still care about it with long hair, it shows that you are not particularly beautiful or a perfectionist, and you feel that this destroys your perfection.

When you always feel that you can't change a problem, leave it to time, you will always have some understanding in the process of growing up, the problems that bother you now are insignificant in the future, and you feel that the troubles are not your fault, but that you need more time to grow.

You're okay, I'm hit a scar on my face, I'm 15 now, I'm in junior high school, I was playing a game when I was six years old, and I still attract attention when I walk on the street, I'm in school, and my interpersonal relationships are not good, maybe it's because of this, a few days ago, someone said that I wanted the ugly classmate in the next class, and I immediately felt very inferior, but I still tried to do my best, go my own way, and let others say it, not to mention that my mother said that I would take me to plastic surgery when I grew up, and I saw the hope, I secretly swore that I would grow up to be richer than them. In today's metropolis, people don't pay much attention to your appearance anymore, not to mention that now that technology is so developed, you will definitely be able to do it well, believe in yourself, they are their business, as long as you do better than them, then you are successful. Well, we can be friends

People live without hands and feet. Since God has made you like this. Just accept it.

You don't live to please others, you have to like yourself first, and then think about whether you want to please others! You are just a scar, so what about those who lost their hands or legs in Wenchuan University, don't they want to live, be optimistic. Cheer for yourself!

What about what other people think! Can't you stand what people say about you? Do you live for someone else's word?

Then if people say that you are going to die, you will die!

It's just that you think so in your own heart, and I don't see you in a different light. In real life, many times it is just that we put pressure on our own family, you might as well try to pretend to be stupid, you think like this, even if others want to laugh at you, he generally won't show it, you just treat him as if he didn't see anything, anyway, he won't say anything about me positively, and over time you will gradually forget and let go of your mind. Of course, this is just my personal opinion.

Is it so easy for others to see? Who's going to pay attention to that.

I persisted for more than 60 days, and the articles of these few days were always written and sent out in the evening, and I knew that I was a little tired.

It's normal to think about it, people's emotions and states will always change and fluctuate, just like the moon is cloudy and sunny, and the tide has its ebb and flow.

Yesterday the article told a stuttering joke, and the reason why I can remember the experience many years ago is because yesterday I watched a movie "The King's Speech" on the Internet, which is a relatively simple film, and the protagonist of the story is King George VI of England in the last century.

When he was a child, he began to stutter at some point, and as he grew up, his stuttering became more and more severe, and sometimes he stammered and couldn't even speak.

Originally, this was not a big deal, and there were not too many important occasions for him to speak publicly, but his own brother, Edward VIII, who had inherited the throne for less than a year, gave up the country because of his love for beauty, and he became the king, so it became his unavoidable responsibility to make a public speech.

In this case, as a veteran stammerer who has stuttered for decades, the pressure on him can be imagined. Fortunately, the new king is a man of great ideas and perseverance, and he tries hard to change this situation.

After the diagnosis and treatment of many so-called authoritative experts, his stuttering did not improve. Just when he almost no longer had any hope of correcting his stutter, he was lucky enough to find a doctor who didn't have any qualifications.

It was this wandering doctor, who was a bit of a wanderer, through his vast practical experience, who helped the king to accomplish the almost impossible task - he finally delivered a near-perfect pre-war emergency mobilization speech at the most important moment when the Nazis were about to attack Britain, and summoned the courage of the British people to fight resolutely against fascist Germany......

The story is a presentation of the real history of the past, and this ** brought me an inspiration, that is, we must face our weaknesses with a positive attitude, face the reality and not avoid it, no matter how big the difficulties are, we all need to work hard to find a way to solve it!

In addition, I was deeply touched by the "Jianghu Doctor" Lionard, who treated both the king and ordinary people equally, had his own principles and bottom line, and did not bend to flatter just because the customer was a powerful person.

This is a very self-respecting person, but also a very warm person, he is very appreciative of his demeanor!

At first, I was also very devastated, and I cried late at night, but fortunately my best friend was always with me to enlighten me. Later, after the college entrance examination, I entered the university and separated from each other, and I could no longer rely on them, I could only rely on myself. What I can do is not to feel sorry for myself, complain about others, hold my head and cry, but to rest my eyes regularly, take eye drops, do eye exercises, apply eye masks, etc., and I have to be responsible for myself through my own actions.

Third, wait for fate to come. After all, I love you, and if I don't love you, no matter how perfect you are, I don't love you.

There are no two leaves in the world that are exactly the same, people also have all kinds of differences, everyone is different, they are all unique, everyone has their own strengths and weaknesses, no one is perfect, we can treat our flaws as our own unique place, it is also a part of our life. We always have a lot of differences between our bodies and others, some are different to make us proud, some are different to make us inferior, as you grow older, you will slowly find that in fact, the body is just a carrier of thought, spirit and soul, no matter how ordinary life, it will also shine dazzlingly, such as kindness and sincerity. These rays may not be appreciated by others, and they may not be known to themselves.

Therefore, we must forget about our physical defects, study hard, and radiate our own light.

Physical defects are often external, but they will bring some inconvenience to our lives, and the real defects lie in our spirit and soul. You must know how to modify your own defects, so that others can see that your first sight is not your physical defects, and your thoughts and personal charm, let yourself shine in other aspects and have advantages, it is useless to care, it will only make you waste your youth and become inferior, why bother yourself? Why not use other advantages to cover it, relieved life, care about your own shortcomings is actually to care about other people's eyes, don't care about other people's eyes, the future life has to rely on yourself to be wonderful, don't take others too seriously, only if you let go of these, a good life will make others have a sense of awe for you.

Learn to accept your imperfections, don't always compare yourself with others, see your own advantages, comparison will only make people feel inferior, bravely face reality, face life, and believe that self-confident people are the most beautiful. Those who look glamorous on the surface, perhaps they have the devil in their hearts, and although they do not have physical defects, they may have psychological defects, and psychological defects are more difficult to accept than physical ones. Don't worry about boldly doing what you want to do, learn like those who are disabled and strong, when you are successful, others see your success, not your flaws.

To learn to recognize and accept yourself, loving yourself is also an ability, when others despise you, you must know how to tolerate others, but also know how to tolerate yourself, as long as you can tolerate yourself, you will not be so hurt. When we have physical defects, we are really like this, the status quo is like this that cannot be changed, we must know that we are not only in the past, but also the present and the future, the past can not be changed, the future is in our own hands, take advantage of the opportunity.

Only when your heart and self are integrated with each other, will you forget your own flaws, adjust your emotions well, learn like those who work hard, never give up, and believe that you can also reach the other side of success.

There will always be a lot of imperfections in life, if you limit your eyes to these unbeautiful things, and see all the imperfections, won't you feel that this person is tired of life? Everyone is the same and different. The same thing is that we all have imperfections, but the difference is that your imperfections are just enough for everyone to see.

Some people's problems may not be noticed by others for a while, but that doesn't mean anything.

I was like this for a while, I was very dissatisfied with myself, and my eyes were full of my own unhappiness. I have a dark complexion, and I often talk about these issues with my friends in the course of my interactions with others. Even my parents sometimes joke with me about it.

Although I know they don't mean to, I'm more glassy, sensitive to the things around me, and very concerned. Although I know their unintentionality, I can't convince myself of the contradictions in my heart. Slowly start to hate yourself and keep yourself straight all day long.

But will this solve the problem? No, it just made things worse. Because I was in a bad mood, it naturally affected the people around me, and gradually, everyone didn't like to talk to me very much.

I also really felt extremely depressed during that time.

Later, it was some words I read in a book that made me understand. People live in this world, first of all, we must learn to accept ourselves, even if you have a lot of bad things, but you still have time, you can change, this road does not go through we can choose other roads, why let yourself block yourself, do not leave yourself a way back. Yes, I admit that some things are innate, and we can't refuse them, but they are not your own choice, and you have no reason to make yourself suffer the consequences that seem unpleasant to outsiders.

Look elsewhere, there are so many interesting things, all of them are worth seeing. Wake up, time is not waiting for you to squander. Happiness and happiness are given by yourself, and so is sadness, you have the right to make yourself happy, why should you suffer to embarrass yourself?

I'm really sorry for this kind of thing like physical defects, this kind of thing everyone doesn't want to happen to them, people with physical defects often affect their normal life, and there are a lot of physical inconveniences. Not only that, but most importantly, the psychological trauma caused by physical impairments to patients has a huge impact. So let's discuss how to make yourself less concerned about your physical defects.

Another solution is to improve your psychological capacity, or find more real people and real things in your life that can encourage you. It's a psychological comfort method. You can watch more news, movies and other ** information, there are many touching stories, many of them are seriously ill, and they are not willing to give up their ideals, give up their families, and are still working hard for themselves and desperately living.

In this way, you will have a lot of psychological comfort, and when you see so many people and things that are more tragic than your own experience, you will feel a lot of relief in your heart, and you will feel that others are not easy than yourself, and you will see very little of your own flaws, and you will not care so much. This kind of psychological suggestion, which can be said to be a psychological comparison method, has a significant effect!

The body is its own and innate, and many times, each of us will have one physical defect or another, but it is just a big or small difference. But since you already have physical defects, there is no need to always be obsessed with them, and keep your eyes on your own defects, so that your life will not be so happy.

I think the first and most important thing is what kind of defect your physical defect is, whether this defect is small or large, because many small defects can also be said to be physical defects. If you are dissatisfied with your facial features and think that it may be a physical defect, then I think you can choose to have plastic surgery to make yourself more perfect. Don't feel that plastic surgery has anything, because your physical defects completely affect your whole life state, and it is inevitable that you will not be confident, in this case, it is better to choose the right way to make yourself more perfect, and also make yourself more and more confident, there is no need to feel inferior for your own defects.

But if you can't change this physical defect, it's the kind of physical defect that must accompany you for the rest of your life, so I think you need to do something else to divert your attention and not let your eyes become obsessed with your defect. There are so many interesting things in life, why should you always be obsessed with your own shortcomings, why don't you look a little farther and look at the world, there are so many people in this world who are more unfortunate than you, there are so many people with more physical defects than you, but others can still live a very happy life, you can still live with a smile, maybe you are the object of envy of others.