Two people quarrel, and one person doesn t want to quarrel and leaves first, is it an escape?

Not an escape. There are two possibilities for going first, one is that he is so disappointed that he is no longer willing to say more to you, and the other is that he is a more rational person, hoping that both parties can calm down first, and when they are calm and calm, they can solve the problem. It can also avoid quarrels that can cause problems to become serious.

And I believe the latter is more likely. This requires you to calm down and judge later.

This should not be an escape, it may be that you don't want the contradiction to continue to expand, resulting in a greater contradiction between two people, which is a manifestation of unwillingness to continue to quarrel.

Being able to restrain yourself when arguing and then walk away is either because you attach more importance to another person and are willing to give in for the sake of the other person, or this person is smarter and wiser and knows how to tolerate.

No. Because.

1. The word is poor. I can't go on.

2. I found that the other party could not be reasoned. Besides, it's a waste of energy and time.

3. Discover your own problems... Dog-bit-dog hair. That's it for oneself in the down. No one got anything good)

4 Other. There may be something. I don't plan to be delayed by these things for a long time.,Don't be swayed by feelings.,I thought about things before (very rational and strategic.。。 Such people are really amazing)

I don't think it's an escape, it's probably because I don't want to quarrel with the other party.

Maybe it's trying to escape.

Or maybe you don't want to be noisy.

The feelings are gone.

Things will always figure it out.

The more so, the more unwilling to bow to each other, the longer the stalemate, the deeper the degree of injury, if there is a person who can take the initiative to compromise and admit his mistakes, he can save the feelings between husband and wife in time, and turn the conflict into a jade silk.

In life, it is common for husband and wife to have a cold war due to quarrels, and they all think that the fault lies with each other, and I have no reason to bow to him, why should I say good things to him and admit his mistakes? Even the party at fault is the same, always blaming the other party for the fault and never thinking that he is wrong. Of course, the injured side is even more aggrieved, because it is clear that the war was started by TA, and I will never surrender to TA until I die, so the result of such a stalemate will inevitably be a defeat for both sides.

I remember a sociologist once said: "In the quarrel between husband and wife, the truth is often in the hands of the one who speaks less." Many examples in life have verified this point, the more unreasonable the side, the more impassioned and unforgiving; Even in the Cold War, it was stubborn and unwilling to admit defeat.

When this happens, the Cold War tends to become more protracted and troublesome. What should I do?

In fact, the quarrel between husband and wife, no matter who caused it, or who is the main party at fault, it doesn't matter, there is no need to be so serious, both parties should consider from the other party's point of view, don't think that the fault is on the other party, I will never compromise, I have to wait for the other party to admit my mistake, this is actually a misunderstanding. The more you are reasonable, the more generous you should be, use your magnanimity to tolerate the other party, and use your tenderness to resolve the other party's grievances; Because everything is divided into two, the reason why the other party has so much anger, you must be responsible, don't push six, two, five, and completely push the responsibility to the other party;

Being a little smaller, taking the initiative to show weakness, taking the initiative to compromise, and taking the initiative to admit mistakes (even if you are not at all wrong) does not mean that you are cowardly, nor does it mean that you "surrender" to the other party, but it is precisely a manifestation of wisdom. In the cold war between husband and wife, this spirit of taking the initiative to compromise and magnanimity is more needed; Endure the calm wind and waves, let the sky be high and wide; Standing and being a man is arrogant, and bowing your head for a while is the scenery, let alone the person who gets along with you day and night?

Personally, I think that if two people are unwilling to compromise with each other after a quarrel, then we can think about the problem for each other from the other person's point of view, and then take the initiative to apologize.

At this time, you can choose to avoid this topic and change to another topic, as long as the husband and wife have a tacit understanding, then the quarrel will not hurt the feelings.

Sit down and think about it calmly, calm each other down for a while, let each other know what is wrong, and make corrections.

At this time, you should give each other a step, calm down, and don't say impulsive words. The feelings are mutual, there is no right or wrong, it's just that two people have different views so they will quarrel. Don't try to force others to accept your point of view, you should communicate well in the future.

Some people say that cold violence is more terrible than domestic violence, domestic violence can be counterattacked and prosecuted, and cold violence can only make people helpless and at a loss. As soon as this sentence was said, many people's voices came out. Recently, I met a girl who suffered from her husband's cold violence, she never understood why there was a contradiction, no matter what she said with scum, the other party was always silent, like a stone without reaction, her temper was already very good, and in the end she was forced to become more and more anxious.

One wants to solve the problem, the other wants to avoid the problem, the other tries to deal with it actively, and the other is indifferent. Ignoring the existence of the other person will only make people feel more and more depressed and painful. Marriage is not the whole of life, in addition to marriage, you can also choose your career, job, friends, hobbies, etc., right?

Don't revolve around your husband and children all day long, if you have time, you have to change yourself, improve yourself, and impress them.

Although cold violence in trying to get out of the family is not something that happens overnight, in fact, except for narcissistic and introverted spouses, cold violence in general is not unsolvable. First of all, you have to learn to control your emotions, discover more joy in life, use your emotions to influence each other, and then, calmly think about the root cause of each other's contradictions, and analyze the causes of cold violence. Secondly, we can also adjust the mode of getting along, through temporary separation, to create a feeling of being newlywed, and it is also okay to use new spaces and environments to crack cold violence.

Of course, these are routine operations, and there are many ways to crack the cold force that need to be adapted to local conditions.

I've summarized them into a more systematic and comprehensive course to help you deal with all kinds of cold violence. If you are experiencing cold violence and don't know what to do, you can click on the course link in the lower left corner, maybe he can help you resolve conflicts and rebuild intimate relationships, what are you waiting for?

I don't think you can ask for such a significant other, because he is a relatively uncourageous person, and he will run away when he encounters things.

The other half who runs away as soon as he quarrels, I think it is very unreliable, and such a other half shows that he is very irresponsible, and he is not responsible for the judgment, so you should break up with him as soon as possible.

I don't think it's suitable for you, it's better to break up as soon as possible, and this mode of getting along is very tiring, emotionally unstable, and has a big impact on your love life.

Summary. Dear, it's really what you said, which means that he doesn't love you anymore and doesn't take you to heart.

As long as the two of them quarrel together, he will ignore me when he talks about it, and even quarrel on Hanxiaodan Street, you can go directly by yourself, throw me in place, and don't let me quarrel, and won't coax me, I will coax me at the beginning, and now I don't coax me, after living together, I have a ** disease, she cried that he owes me, I want to break up, every time he readily agrees, he will not keep me at all, I want to reconcile, he will also reconcile, but now that they live together, break up or not, I don't know, But I don't think that's what I wanted.

Dear, it's really what you said, which means that he doesn't love you anymore and doesn't take you to heart.

Today's New Year is going to his house to meet his parents, in the summer because he didn't pick up something and his mother broke up, now Kichafu is in contact with his mother, but I think it's quite superficial, I'm only 18 years old, and he doesn't have a regular job.

Dear, how long have you been together?

Living together for one year and online dating for two years.

Dear, he didn't keep you at all, which shows that he is really average to you.

I don't feel as good as I was when I was in pain before, although I'm very good now, but it seems that the feelings are light, and he doesn't care much about my feelings, that day the chili water entered my eyes, and I shouted and cried when I was young, and he shouted to shut up, and didn't care about my feelings, and his temper was particularly stubborn, but he was usually really good to me, cooking for me, massaging me, and paying my salary.

It's okay if you think he's good to you. Did he ask you to meet your parents at his house?

I have been talking about the amount of travel and going to his house for the New Year this year, because I spent the New Year at my house last year, so I went to his house early this year for the New Year, I just feel that if I get married now, how can I do it.

Because he is young now and is not sensible, maybe after he gets married, he will grow up and become mature, and he will slowly know how to care about you.

He is 26 years old, he knows how to care about me, but he doesn't care, I also think it's not interesting, the two Bixiang are used to each other, and they want to break up and live together, it's really difficult to break up.

As long as he knows how to care about you, because you have been together for two years and are very familiar with each other, try not to break up if you can.

I want to break up how to break up unforgettable.

If you want to break up, just talk to him about it. He will definitely keep you, and you don't agree. In this way, it can be unforgettable.

It's not easy for people to come together, and it's even harder to cultivate a relationship!

That's why you always quarrel, there must be a reason. So each of you should calm down and think, why are you arguing on the heel, and is the reason really serious enough to quarrel a lot?

**: Pond after rain (

Everyone's personality is different, and people who love each other should know each other's character better, so you have to learn to tolerate each other, don't always use quarrels to solve problems, then you will hurt each other! After a long time, there is also the possibility of being diluted in deep feelings! Let's talk about me, part of the reason why I broke up with him is that I often quarrel with him, either in person, or in sending messages, he said that he can't stand my character, and he said that if one day I wait until the day I get married to you, and you suddenly pout, then I will not be miserable soon!

**: Pond after rain (

I feel very heartbroken when I think of this, and I'm also thinking, oh, is there really a need to quarrel, why don't I learn to be tolerant, some mistakes are obviously caused by me, but I don't even have a word of apology, but in the end, he can't stand it and apologize to me, thinking of these, I really feel unreasonable, two people together need each other's tolerance, but I didn't do it together, I regret it now, but it's useless! I want to tell you this, if you still love him, you must learn to tolerate each other, don't do this to me, I am a lesson from the past.