Netizens are entangled in whether to escape from the circle of friends

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In an interview with reporters on this issue, Liu Meilan, a national registered psychological counselor, believed that there are about three negative effects of the circle of friends on people's psychological level, and she suggested that netizens pay selective attention to promote a virtuous circle of friends.

The circle of friends is derived from people's social communication needs, which can timely and conveniently understand the movements of friends, and at the same time give feedback to friends, which can better enhance the relationship between friends, but now with the increase of WeChat friends, a large amount of information is coming, and the circle of friends has become a platform for negative and pessimistic people to vent.

The communication function is gradually being eroded by the display and marketing functions, resulting in three negative effects: 1. Changes in psychological expectations; 2. Negative information disturbs the mentality; 3. Lack of sincere interaction affects the development of interpersonal relationships.

Suggestion: Keep a normal mind, selectively follow, let the circle of friends be used by us, selectively retain WeChat friends, and let yourself have a better pure land to talk and communicate. If it is someone you care about, please give positive attention and feedback, so that the circle of friends has a virtuous circle.

Don't care too much about other people's eyes and comments, the days are your own, can't you go out if others say you're ugly? I think basking in happiness is a right, you can bask if you want, you don't need to go through other consent, as for whether others comment or not, it's their business, we have no right to interfere, there is nothing to be ashamed of. There are only three possibilities for others not to comment: one.

Although WeChat has now become popular all over the country, more and more people have felt disgusted with WeChat, the most complained about is the circle of friends, the typing function is similar to the QQ space, but it has reduced the public's **, limited to friends, increasing privacy.

Previously, a survey of 20,000 respondents conducted by the Social Survey Center of China Youth Daily showed that people want to close the circle of friends, and some of them are planning to close the circle of friends, and some people have closed the circle of friends, and those who have closed the circle of friends. of people don't close the circle of friends.

Why is this happening? I analyzed the reasons carefully.

First, there are too many micro-businesses and information flow advertisements in the circle of friends.

According to statistics, there are more than 16 million employees in China's micro-business industry, and these people occupy most of the content of our circle of friends.

Second, there are too many likes.

What's more, they will ask for the number of likes, like, it's really annoying, don't like it, and you can't get over it.

Third, the quality of the article is too low.

It's nothing more than how hard my mother works, why others are so successful, and what kind of person I want to find a partner in the future. It's really not interesting.

Fourth, it violates the original intention of the circle of friends.

When the circle of friends first came out, it was intended to shorten the distance between the circle of friends, but the large amount of happiness also made some people who were not your friends "be" happy.

Now WeChat has become a tool used in work and life, and many people have added WeChat just for work relationships. Many people may not know that WeChat has a function called "setting up groups", in fact, many times you can show the circle of friends to different people, and not everyone wants to participate in your life.

Imagine, if you are Party A and I am Party B, I come home from work and see you posting on Moments to say how Party B is doing today, what expression should I use?

The emergence of the circle of friends seems to have shortened the distance between people. We can always show our friends our lives, and we can also like and comment on others' lives at any time. But many times it alienates everyone, what can be more reliable than meeting each other?

In the past, it was a long time, and I could only write letters if I liked someone, and I could only meet if I wanted to be alone, but now? To open the circle of friends is to participate in the life of a friend, such a way to participate is too simple, too slight, and maybe, your friend may not know at all.

So, looking at the long contact list, we found that when we were in a bad mood and wanted to talk to someone, when we wanted to ask someone to go shopping and eat together, we would always call only those few people. The circle of friends gave us the illusion that "I have a lot of friends", but in the end we found that "I am still alone". The life of the circle of friends is very lively, while the real life is very lonely.

We need friends in our lives.

But what we need is the kind of friend who will cry with us, laugh with us, complain with us, and drink with us all night.

And not just a friend who likes it in the circle of friends.

Don't want familiar people to know.

1.Some of the circle of friends are illusions.

2.Merchants and micro-businesses often swipe the screen in the circle of friends.

The circle of friends is a good place to publicize, many businesses and micro-businesses find this good place, and spend all day in the circle of friends to brush their own products, coupled with some chicken soup that is not nutritious and get rich overnight and a lot of photos of Grandpa Mao. These unnutritious circles of friends are annoying to watch, so some people will choose to flee from the circle of friends.

3.Circle of friends votes for likes.

Recently, I looked through the circle of friends and found that many people have disappeared. At first, I thought if I had offended my friends somewhere, so that they all deleted me. In the end, I found that escaping from the circle of friends is an energy and trend that is accumulating and forming.

More and more strangers are in the circle of friends, we don't know who they are, and we haven't had time to block them, but they can see our every move, eat, drink, lazar, joy, anger and sorrow, it's a little scary to think about.

It's not all because of the relationship between the disguised cultivation and the middle branches, it's just that people are becoming more and more mature, and they don't want to amplify their lives and feelings, and they don't want to be misunderstood.

I think part of it is because the shirt is too tired to disguise the silver, because the circle of friends is full of people who are familiar with them, and they can usually meet, so if you disguise yourself under the **, then the online must be synchronized, plus the current circle of friends is full of advertisements and sales, and there is no feeling of being able to speak freely before.

In this era of network key clusters, mobile phones have become more and more inseparable from our bright Zen. I don't know when the ** shakura is used less and less, more people choose WeChat voice calls, and the circle of friends is where we share and communicate. However, there are also many hypocritical things in the circle of friends, and people will yearn for real life more when they are immersed in the virtual world.

It's not that I'm pretending to be particularly tired, but I hope that what the circle of friends hopes for can come true in reality.

Yes. Many people will create a false life in the circle of friends, all for the sake of face, which is too tiring.