As soon as I graduated from college, I lost my job, fell out of love, lost time?? Good confusion 10

Calm, calm down.

Analyze, why did she say that you would not give her a sense of security? What type of boy are you? The lively extroverted kind?

Or is it a steady introvert? Regardless of the type, the girl said that insecurity refers to the insecurity of men and women, that is, you look like you are very, and you are very good to her, but you have a strange feeling when you look at the eyes of other beautiful girls, which is the kind that is a little obsessed. No matter how nice you are to your girlfriend, see the infatuation in your greedy eyes.

Girls don't say it to each other, their eyes are very bright, because their brains have programs to interpret subtle body language.

So it's very good to get rid of your bad habits and have sex with girls in the future and leave them with a good impression, that is, a sense of security.

In fact, boys have a lot of bad habits that mean restlessness. For example: love to tell lies, the mouth is too sweet, men need to be sweet, but they need to master the skills.

Talking is shaking your head. There are also boys whose legs are shaking when they speak, and they don't even know it. Too many of these stinky problems mean that men are restless.

It doesn't give people a sense of security.

Maybe you're not like this at all, you're excellent, but you may not be suitable for her, if you really love her, giving up is also a kind of love! If she really loves you, she will come back to you after calm thought. But everything takes time.

Continue to love her seriously, the most important thing is not to lose yourself, see her well, see clearly what she is dissatisfied with you, change it if you can, and break up if you can't.

You work hard first. Good 2004. Time is not too late. It may be that they know too well to separate. It doesn't matter. When she encountered all kinds of difficulties in society. She will be very nostalgic for your kindness to her.

Forget about her and start a new life. There is no grass in the world.

Since what he said, it means that she doesn't love you anymore, so you don't have to have unrequited love, let go of some friends, why bother?

Together for a long time, it must be divided. Put it when it's time to put it.

A new beginning.

You have to work hard to regain your self-confidence, you have to believe in yourself, you have to find a good job, and you have to study hard.

The first is useful: the threshold for finding a good job is low.

When fresh college graduates are looking for a job, the threshold will indeed be lower. Generally, students are employed in the university recruitment fair, because the companies that come to the school for campus recruitment are either well-known companies in the field or well-known companies in the region. Students have the opportunity to recruit directly with them, and you are only competing with your classmates.

The higher your grades, the higher your acceptance rate.

The second is useful: the threshold for settlement in large cities is low.

At this stage, the competition for talents in major cities is also fierce, and many first-tier cities and second-tier cities have introduced good policies to assist students to settle down. For example, in a certain first-tier city, a rental subsidy for several years is provided for fresh college graduates who settle in Hengkaihu; In second-tier cities, we will directly take out the establishment positions to attract high-quality undergraduate or graduate students to settle down and work. Therefore, when our students choose urban development after graduation, they should check these good policies for settlement.

The third good use: enjoy a special subsidy.

Fresh college graduates will get a lot of special subsidies when they are developing, such as entrepreneurship subsidies, such as rental transportation subsidies and so on. If students are starting a business, they can apply for a start-up subsidy to see if they give an interest-free loan or provide a free venue. If entrepreneurial college students can access these resources, it will undoubtedly accelerate the progress of their own entrepreneurship.

The fourth good point: participate in a special program.

There are many special programs in the state that are only available to fresh college students, and these programs bring many dividends to students, such as direct research after the expiration of the service period, such as direct entry into the system after the expiration of the service period, etc. At this stage, special programs such as the Three Branches and One Support Program, the Special Post Teacher Program, and the College Student Volunteer Service Program in the Western Region are all very suitable for fresh college students.

Many people often have too high requirements for college students, thinking that college students can't get a high salary after graduating from college, and if they can't find a good job, it means failure. First of all, we must objectively realize that the current college students are no longer as rare as the college students twenty or thirty years ago, with the continuous expansion of universities in recent years, the number of college students enrolled and graduated has increased year by year, therefore, the society can provide college students with fewer and fewer high-paying positions, for college graduates, if you want to let yourself really get a high salary, you often need to have real talent and excellence, to be able to achieve. Not all college students will be able to get high after graduation, after all, most college students are relatively mediocre, and we can't demand most college students with the standard of a few. Secondly, even if it is a well-known college, college students with excellent quality and ability in all aspects may not necessarily find a high-paying job after graduation, because the current enterprise is also very realistic, in the recruitment process, it is often difficult to judge the actual work ability of a college graduate, so it will not provide a high salary for the college students recruited by themselves in the early stage, only when the college student creates real results in his own job, he will, Gradually increase the salary of this college graduate, so that this college student can enjoy the treatment of high salary, so for college students, it will take a while to prove themselves if they want to get a high salary.

Another reason is that for college students, it is not that getting a high-paying job is a sign of their success, in fact, it is more important to be able to find a job that they really like and can realize the value of their life. So we can't use the level of salary as a sign of success for college students.

First of all, what you learned in college with the teacher's ppt class, and what you were forced to participate in the school's forced organization, meaningless, and completely formalistic activities, do not match the rules and regulations mentioned by the company's recruitment, have you ever thought about it?

Second, in the past two years, universities have not cared about the employment of college students at all. If you are a tertiary student, is your teacher always encouraging you to specialize in the book? If you are an undergraduate, have your teachers been encouraging you to go to graduate school? But they didn't tell you how difficult it was to take the book and how difficult it was to get into graduate school.

In addition to these, think about whether your teachers let you see that your major has a 98% employment rate when you first entered. It is this information that misleads everyone, directly or indirectly leads to the fact that students do not prepare the corresponding employability skills before graduation, which leads to the result of unemployment after graduation. I have been in contact with too many students, and many of them have said that if the freshman knows what I said, he will definitely make some efforts and preparations in advance, so that he will not be in this embarrassing state now.

No one at the school told them that these things had been misleading, or even deliberately trying to hide the fact that the employment rate was low. The employment rate is too easy to fake, and some teachers even force students to sign employment agreements, otherwise they will not be given graduation certificates.

Do you think that college students can't find jobs because there aren't enough job fairs? The fundamental reason why college students can't find jobs is that they simply don't learn the employability skills that companies need in colleges and universities, not that there aren't enough job fairs. The fact is that there are enough job fairs, and job fairs solve the problem of information chain.

The school brought companies over through the job fair, but the gap between the students' resumes and the needs of the companies was too big, and they couldn't ask anything. If schools do not reform the recruitment mechanism and training plan of teaching teachers, what is the use of holding more job fairs? Second, encourage college students to find their own employment and start their own businesses to earn their own livelihood.

I don't comment on that. If you want to release jobs by letting college students start a business, you go to see how many college students have achieved results in entrepreneurship, or he has at least survived, and released a certain number of jobs, solving the employment problem of Dashu Xian Xuechang Qingsheng, you go to check the above is completely my own understanding, I really see the situation will not necessarily let everyone see, pay attention to me, let the university live a little clearer.