What is it like to have a new love just after a breakup?

It feels very good, the new love at this time is like a sharp spatula to scrape the sticky old love cleanly, super perfect, no scars, no pain, we are still beautiful.

With a new love, you will be glad that you are lucky to break up with your old love in time, sadness and loneliness have long since run to Java, and the heart that has been quiet for a long time is alive again.

Just like when you just fell in love a few years ago, the mood is always gurgling with pink bubbles, eating, shopping and watching movies are repeated, even if you go to a restaurant with your new love to eat at a restaurant that you used to go to with your old love, or even sit in the same position, you will not feel a trace of sadness.

At this moment, eating the same thing in the same place, the only difference is that the opposite position is a different person, maybe there will be a moment when the previous picture will appear, but it will not affect you to continue to look at the person in front of you affectionately.

The new love is your terminator and my guide, he completely ended my relationship with my old love, and guided you to a new world, with him only to find that there can be someone in the world who is so good to me! I really regret that I didn't meet him sooner.

At this time, I suddenly realized that the reason why I broke up with my previous person three times and twice was because no new person appeared to divert my attention.

If there is someone who chats with you every day when you are ready to break up, cares about you and cares for you, then the success rate of this breakup is basically more than 90%.

Having a new love when you just broke up is definitely a special medicine for the sequelae of a breakup, but if the medicine is too strong, it will inevitably make people lose themselves, which is quite dangerous, and you have to control the amount!

I didn't break up with my ex because I had a new love, we were in a different place, and we were very far away, and he didn't come home on vacation, so maybe we didn't see each other for two years; After we became far away, we always quarreled, especially fierce, and often had a cold war, and once during the cold war, he actually had a good chat with a sophomore elementary school student!

I forgave him because I cared about him a lot, and then I couldn't bear the pressure of always arguing, and I really broke up. I cried for a long, long time, I was really reluctant, and I really couldn't hold on anymore. Not long after that, my current boyfriend showed up. <>

He was my former junior high school classmate, I haven't been in touch for several years, I don't know why he appeared, I heard that after I broke up, he comforted me very warmly, accompanied me every day, he coaxed me when I cried, and he listened to complaints, and I felt that he was very good at the time, and then repeated listening to my nagging every day.

Later, I talked about the future, and I felt that the more I talked, the more I got along, and I felt that he was the one waiting for me. It didn't take long for him to pursue me, but I didn't agree, because I really couldn't let go of my ex-boyfriend in my heart, and I didn't want my feelings to be mixed with other things, and then I kept refusing like this.

It's been a few months before we're together, but I can always see the shadow of my ex-boyfriend, and then sometimes we will quarrel because of this, and then I feel more and more that he is different from before, it's not that he lied to me, it's just that the contact is deeper, and the things I understand are different.

This new love of mine helped me get out of the pain of the breakup, and also gave me another relationship, now we are still together, he is him, it will not be anyone's shadow or spare tire, I also got to know him again, and looked down on the previous things, and longed for the future life.

I can accept that my ex fell in love for a short time after breaking up, but! If you have been deliberately hooking up for a long time before we break up, you decide to dump your ex, and you will be seamlessly connected to the next family. That is undoubtedly a betrayal and injury to the ex.

This behavior is no different from splitting legs. In my heart I condemn such people.

Mu Mu walked into the consultation room with her head down, her eyes a little red. Her boyfriend has only been breaking up for a month and has a new love, and she feels that her previous relationships are all fake and she has been deceived.

has been in love with her boyfriend for two years, and although there are constant quarrels, Mu Mu always feels that she can get married. But in the quarrel two and a half months ago, my boyfriend left a sentence, I've had enough! Then, I moved everything out.

After a month of soft grinding and hard bubbles, all the good and bad words have been said, Mu Mu feels that he has not done everything he can do, and he can only accept the facts and come out of the shadows.

Unexpectedly, Mu Mu inadvertently logged in to the account and saw that her boyfriend's circle of friends posted a ** holding hands with other girls.

At that moment, Mu Mu completely collapsed.

Why did he find a new love just after they broke up, what the hell is going on?! ”

With such a desire to hold Nafa, Mu Mu found us, and we wanted to know if my boyfriend didn't love him at all, and what he thought.

One. What is the psychology of a person who finds a new love immediately after a breakup?

Mu Mu said indignantly, "I just broke up for more than a month and had a new love, which means that I hooked up before." Blame yourself for being blind and not seeing it! ”

But in the subsequent consultation, we learned that in the two years they got along, they often had conflicts. It can be said that there will be a quarrel every few weeks.

In terms of new love, Mu Mu's boyfriend is a designer and is usually busy. Combined with other situations, it is more likely that they will only meet after a breakup.

But Mu Mu always felt that even if they didn't know each other until they broke up, they were together that month, which means that they don't love themselves at all. The past two years have been fake, and I have been deceived.

In the eyes of the consultee, events are often black and white. One thing to do right is to love yourself. If something doesn't go your way, it's all deception.

However, when people make a decision, they are often influenced by many aspects, but they only end up choosing the direction of the resultant force.

Mu Mu's boyfriend, who met other girls after the breakup, and held hands, is also a very common psychology.

In the tens of thousands of cases received in the past 7 years for love emotional counseling, there is a new love after the breakup, which is often the following three psychology:

1.Completely let go of the past.

We always feel that others should think the same as we do. I feel uncomfortable and can't get out. Then others should also be uncomfortable and can't get out.

But in reality, we are uncomfortable, and the other person may feel that it is a relief. Especially when there was a lot of pressure in the past, separating was even more of a relief.

If the other party is holding such a mentality and looking for a new lover, it is completely understandable.

2.A new love replaces an old love.

There is no law that says that after a breakup, one year of mourning is mandatory. Maybe he still has you in his heart, but he thinks it's impossible between you, so he contacts others.

If this person happens to be a good fit, he may also be with someone else.

Even if I think of you occasionally, I can only sigh.

3.In order to heal or anger the ex, deliberately find a new love.

There is also a situation where the other party is very unable to let go, and deliberately finds a new love in order to be angry with his ex, or to let himself come out.

The difference from the previous case is in.

People who find a new love quickly after bending the front hand generally have the following psychology:

One is loneliness. After the breakup, I feel empty, lonely and bored, and I am anxious to find someone to solve it, and this loneliness is bitter and empty and boring.

The second is the psychology of revenge. Take revenge on each other and show each other that I can still live a good life without you; It is also possible to find another confidant.

The third is inferiority complex. When breaking up, it is often the disadvantaged party, thinking that it is more difficult to find a stool to accompany in this life, as long as there is an opportunity, you will catch one, and you will be over.

Fourth, the psychology of showing off. Prove that you are capable, attractive, able to attract the opposite sex, the only one among thousands of people, she is a master, and this kind of person will quickly find a new person after breaking up.

After breaking up with my ex-girlfriend, my heart was actually filled with sadness. But with the passage of time, all emotions slowly fade in time. When I learned that the other party had a new relationship, I was a little nervous, a little sad, but more relieved.

Although the relationship has been broken, I am still a little unwilling in my heart.

I had been in a relationship with my ex for a long time, and I used to think that the two of us would make it to the end, but in the end we chose to break up for various reasons. For a long time after the breakup, I was haunted by this failed relationship.

I was a little unwilling to end like this, but I didn't know how to save time, so I kept passing in this entanglement until I almost forgot what the other person looked like.

I don't know if I still love her, but I know I still have her in my memory. That feeling is really simple and tangled, and people don't know how to face their current life.

When I learned that my ex-girlfriend had a new relationship, I was sad and relieved, but I also wished them happiness.

I think the reason why the two of us have come to this point is not because we don't love each other anymore, but because we are thousands of miles apart, and there is really no way to give each other warmth and the hug we want.

After choosing to separate, I had long expected that sooner or later she would have a new relationship. It's just that when I really knew the news, I still felt a little sad in my heart, mixed with a little relief. Maybe I can finally let go of each other and finally find the love I want.

After all these emotions slowly faded, all I had left in my mind was blessings. I hope she met the right people this time, and I hope they can walk into happiness.

In fact, after breaking up with their ex, many people can't let go of it in their hearts. But knowing that it is impossible for the two people to have another future, whether they are willing to accept this ending or not, separation has become a foregone conclusion.

She has found his happiness, and I should also use my heart to find my life.