How to deal with friendship and relationship problems

I've had similar questions before, and it was: Possibly!

And now, after a lot of experience, I would like to say: no way!

Pure friendship between men and women can only exist at an age when they have no feelings for feelings, and once you understand the feelings between people of the opposite sex, pure friendship is basically impossible, why do I dare to say that? Because as long as the boyfriend and girlfriend are built on the basis of friendship, there will definitely be a good feeling, and the good feeling is to yourself or to the other party to like their own hope, the heart is always looking forward to living with the other party in the future, even as long as they can stay with each other will feel satisfied, many people, including me, will want to maintain a friend relationship with the other party after the other party refuses, because they don't want to give up on each other, or imagine that one day, the other party will be moved by themselves, can accept themselves again.

At first, I felt that it was very possible to have only friendship with the opposite sex and no love, but after I persevered for 5 years, my mind changed, because my heart has been silently longing for her to accept me one day, because I have been rejected several times, and each time it is back to the original relationship, so, this friendship-like relationship has dragged on for so long, and I also know that this friendship is actually just a perfunctory desire for the future.

Pure friendship is nothing more than an excuse for procrastination between two people who like the other, and if you've been through it enough, you'll know it too.

I'm just talking about my opinion, of course, everyone must have different opinions, and I don't rule out that there are very few real confidants in life.

I suggest you, in the case that both parties do not affect their studies, you can encourage them together, for example: the two of them meet in college, etc

Yes xybawdh said what was in my heart I originally thought so, it seems that I always have him in my heart, and I can't let go But after so long, I understand a lot, understand a lot, and realize a lot Some things are not as simple as we imagined

The way you feel right now is something that everyone will have.

But that's just how you feel in your heart, just like it.

Liking and loving are completely different.

You only have to experience it now, only if you experience it yourself, you will understand that feeling, and everybody will only understand it after experiencing it.

When you grow up, you will find that the idea at that time was very stupid, really, but if you don't have that experience, you won't understand the different feelings, so you have to go through it, even if it's bitter, but it feels beautiful.

It was once the most beautiful. Happy to you

Hehe, what the big brother said was right, I let him say what I wanted to say, hehe every time I can't see her in class, I feel very depressed, I have also had such a situation, and I will worry about him if something is wrong if I don't see him for a long time. I became friends with him later, but I liked him more and more, and I didn't know how to face him later, you can be friends with her first, but you must open your eyes to see clearly, is she someone you deserve to love, if it is to say the following, if not, turn back to the shore, in a word, understand and talk about it.

Treat a little happily, and everything is solved.

You can start with friends.

In my heart, friendship and affection do not exist!

I feel that after getting married and starting a family, I have more responsibilities, and I am no longer the need in the eyes of my parents. It's a kid who cares about this and that. It is the real growth, for adults to support a family independently.

So you're in. Some of the problems you face in your life and work may need to be considered more. A little more detailed, then.

As a result, your circle of friends will also undergo some changes.

Because friendship is also a very important part of our lives, we must cherish friendship and learn to have good communication with friends, so that life will become better

1.Learn to understand others more.

When you communicate with others, it is best to learn to understand others, if the other party's personality is more sunny and cheerful, then we don't have to be too serious, and if the other party is a more serious character, then when we communicate with others, we must fully understand and respect them, to communicate carefully and carefully, if the other party is a friend who doesn't know much, it is best to maintain respect and appropriate communication on daily topics.

2.Treat others with respect.

When we encounter problems that we don't understand, we should ask others for advice, respect others when communicating, don't talk endlessly, but learn to remain silent, let the other party express their opinions more, and when we encounter things we don't understand, don't rush to express them, we should learn to listen carefully, and give people a humble and serious attitude.

3.Communicate more about topics that the other person is interested in.

When communicating with others, everyone likes to communicate their own topics of interest and like to express their knowledge to others, so we must first learn to understand and listen to others' opinions, so that the other party can feel your sincerity and feel that communicating with you is a very pleasant process, because everyone hopes that they can be understood and respected by others, and more exchanges of each other's expertise and knowledge are precisely to understand each other and have a common language with each other.

4.Learn to listen carefully.

When communicating with others, it is necessary to learn to listen carefully and carefully, do not interrupt others, and listen more patiently, so as to understand and respect others, and only in this way can we reflect our sincerity and modesty and courtesy, so as to gain true friendship.

5.Learn to praise each other.

Praise is a kind of respect, but also a kind of recognition of the other party's performance, when communicating with others, if we can properly express praise for the opinions expressed by others, this is undoubtedly to give the other party a feeling of respect and recognition, the other party will also very much agree with our understanding and respect, at the same time the other party will also have a new understanding of us, effectively promote the happiness and smoothness of communication.

In fact, friends are impossible to lack in our lives, if you want to define it, then friends are the objects you confide in, are the people who give you help when you need help, when you are helpless, you may think of friends, but you must know that friends are also mutual, he is good to you, you should also give him good.

1) Provide new emotional sustenance. As individuals enter adolescence, as their emotional and family attachments to their parents and family fade, they slowly transfer their emotional energy to their peers.

It can be said that friendship is the new emotional sustenance of young people after they get rid of family dependence. They seek to find sympathy, understanding and support among their close friends. Especially when you encounter all kinds of difficulties, setbacks, and even serious blows in your life, study, work, and career, you are more eager to get the greatest comfort and comfort from sincere and pure friendship.

Such requests are always granted, which is why young people in the midst of wandering, distress and adversity are especially hungry for friendship.

2) Promote self-development. Youth friendships tend to take place between friends who are very close to their "ideal selves".

On the one hand, young people inadvertently project their ideal image onto their friends, making them role models for themselves. On the other hand, young people will use their friends as a mirror to compare, dissect, and even shape themselves. It can be said that young people often develop and improve in this kind of mutual encouragement, mutual influence and mutual learning. As the Japanese psychologist Tsuruhiro points out:

Such a friendship is extremely influential. I am afraid that this is the period in my life when I am most influenced by my friends in terms of personality. ”

3) Deepen the beautiful feelings for human beings.

In human emotions, only a few emotions such as family affection, love, teacher-student affection, friendship, etc., can be regarded as pure, sincere, and even selfless.

Friendship is the emotion of friendship. It is completely free from any blood relationship or interest, and is the embodiment of the beautiful heart of human beings. A young man who is bathed in such an atmosphere of friendship always feels that the world is beautiful, so that he has a positive yearning and optimistic pursuit of the world; On the other hand, a young man who has lost his friendship or has never experienced any friendship will feel that the world is "miserable and miserable", and thus he will have a sense of indifference to the world, and even breed pessimism and misanthropy.