How to deal with emotional problems rationally, and how to face the problems encountered in feelings

You don't have to have someone to love, but you have to love someone well!

When you have experienced loving and being loved, and learned to love, you will know what you need, and you will find the most suitable person for you and be able to get along for a lifetime.

But sadly, in real life, people who truly love each other for various reasons may not be able to be together;

The one you love the most often doesn't choose you;

What loves you the most is often not what you love the most;

And the longest-lasting, it's not what you love the most, and it's not the one you love the most.

Only the person who appears at the most suitable time will really be with you forever!

No one deliberately wants to change his mind, he really loves you when he loves you, but he really doesn't love you when he doesn't love you, and there is no way to pretend not to love you when he loves you;

In the same way, there is no way for him to pretend to love you when he doesn't love you.

When a person doesn't love you and wants to leave you, you have to ask yourself if you still love him (her), if you don't love him (her) anymore, don't refuse to leave for the sake of poor self-esteem;

If you still love him (her), you should want him (her) to live happily, hope that he (she) is with the person you really love, and will never stop it, if you prevent him (her) from getting real happiness, it means that you no longer love him (her), and if you don't love him (her), what right do you have to accuse him (her) of changing his (her) mind?

Love is not possession!

You love the stars, and it's impossible to take them down and put them in the basin, but the light of the stars can still shine into your room.

In other words, if you love someone, you can also have it in another way, so that the lover becomes an eternal memory in your life, and if you really love someone, you have to love him as he is, love his good, and love his bad:

Love his strengths and his shortcomings, and never want him to become what he wants because he loves him, and if he can't change, he won't love him.

You can't tell the reason for really loving someone, you just know that no matter when and where, good or bad, you want this person to be with you;

The real relationship is that the two can stay together in the most difficult situation, that is, without the slightest requirement.

After all, feelings must be given, not just wanted to be gained;

Separation is an inevitable test, and if your relationship is not stable enough and you have to admit defeat, true love will not turn into resentment.

When the two are in love, they like to make each other swear and make promises, why do we swear to each other, it is because we don't believe each other, we don't believe in lovers at all, and these mountain alliances and sea vows are very unrealistic.

The sea is dry and the earth is barren, but it can't change my love for you!

knowing that the sea will not wither, the stones will not rot, the earth will not grow, and the sky will not be barren;

Even if he could, he wouldn't live until then.

When making a promise, be careful, don't make promises that can be fulfilled, it is better to promise what you can't do, anyway, it doesn't matter if you can't do it, remember that "impossible promises are the most moving".

In love, one thing is said and another is done;

The speaker does not believe it, and the listener does not believe ......

Who have you met in the vast sea of people? Who met you again.

Think about ...... from a different perspectiveDon't get emotional.

To face the problems encountered in the relationship more rationally, you can try the following:

1.Stay calm and sane. When experiencing relationship problems, many people lose their minds due to being too excited or anxious, which can have a negative impact. Try to stay calm and rational and don't get dominated by emotions.

2.Objectively analyze the problem. It is necessary to examine the problem with an objective and peaceful mind, sort out the ins and outs of the problem, and analyze the cause and impact of the problem. Don't jump to conclusions.

3.Efficient communication. Learn to communicate effectively with your partner, express your own views and feelings, listen to each other's opinions, and reach consensus and understanding. Avoid unnecessary arguments and internal friction.

4.Learn to be inclusive and compromising. Disagreements will inevitably arise in any relationship, so learn to tolerate each other and make appropriate compromises on non-principled issues. The establishment of interpersonal relations is inseparable from tolerance and concession.

5.Problems turn into opportunities. Learn to look at problems from a positive perspective and see them as opportunities to improve relationships and increase understanding. In many cases, the problem-solving process is just as important.

6.Advance in the face of difficulties. It takes effort to face feelings, so be patient when you encounter problems and be able to "move forward in the face of difficulties". Acknowledging the importance of the relationship and taking proactive action to resolve it requires faith and perseverance.

7.Seek outside help when appropriate. If the problem is serious to a certain extent, you can also seek help from relatives, friends or professionals if necessary to make a more rational and correct choice. Outside opinions are sometimes more objective.

In short, rational emotional problems need to maintain a calm mind and rational judgment, strengthen communication and quarrel with Richard, stimulate positive emotions, have tolerance and determination, and seek external help when necessary.

Think of problems as an opportunity to improve your relationship and approach them with a positive and optimistic attitude.

Usually there is more rationality in the face of principled issues, and more emotion in the process of getting along well, and sometimes a combination of the two. Let me talk about some of my own experiences.

A matter of principle is a question that is a great threat to the relationship as a whole, such as the disagreement of the three views, a party is not motivated, a party is disloyal to the relationship, etc., these issues are directly related to whether the relationship is long-lastingSo rational consideration is needed

Take the disagreement of three views as an example, one party believes that career is the whole of life, while the other party believes that family is the most important, both people want the other party to understand themselves and accept their own views, but both parties are not willing to sacrifice themselves, which will cause endless quarrels. Once this happens, it is necessary to carefully consider the importance of the relationship and your own pursuit, which is the case where reason is greater than emotion.

In ordinary relationships, what both parties need more is each other's love and support, and they can't be too rational at this time, otherwise it will make love tasteless.

For example, if an anniversary is approaching, one party thinks that the day is important and meaningful, and wants to make a little ritual to commemorate it, but the other party may not value these daysAt this time, in fact, the best thing to do is to accommodate the other party, rather than simply rejecting the other party based on your own ideas, or even reasoning and analyzing the pros and cons. The other party wants to commemorate it becauseIt was indeed a meaningful day, can indeed be commemorated with some sense of ritual and get some pleasure in the busyness,Even if you don't like it, you can't let the other person down and ruin the other person's good mood.

It's like my partner likes to eat egg tarts very much, and always asks me to eat egg tarts with him, in fact, I don't like to eat that at all, but I still accompany him every time, and then symbolically eat one, and then praise it for being delicious, then my partner is very happy, and I feel that what he likes has been affirmed.

Sensibility before rationality – one party makes mistakes

When one party makes a mistake at work or study, is scolded, and comes back to confide in the other party, listen to the other partyThe first thing to do is to comfort the other person's emotionsWhen the other party is in a good mood, the two of them will analyze and solve the problem together, instead of throwing a lot of truth at each other as soon as they come up. Originally, the party who made the mistake already knew that he was wrong, and he just wanted to vent his emotions and get some comfort, but when he heard those big truths, the mood was even worse, after all, who doesn't understand the big truths? What really works is the "I'm with you" attitude and the wisdom of "let's analyze it together".

Anyway, every time I talk to my object, he brings out a bunch of big truths, I'm really annoyed, one day he scolded him severely, and then one day he was unhappy, I showed him the first emotional and then rational approach, he thought it was really good, and then when I encountered a problem and was in a bad mood, he would first comfort me and then analyze my problem with me.

That's all my thoughts on this issue, I hope it helps!

In many things in life, we can be very emotional; But when we encounter some things, we need to be more rationalFalling in love will also come acrossThese questions. So how should the relationship between sensibility and rationality be dealt with in love?

--- sensual time

Everyone has a sensual side, and this isIt must be unavoidableTarget. Bumped intoHappyThings at the time、Two peopleQuarrelsWhen、EncounteredDisagreementWhen it happensContradictionsThese times are very emotional, that is, to become emotional. feels that when the other party doesn't let him when he quarrels, he doesn't love himself; When two people share joy and happiness together, they feel very happy at this moment, and they feel that they like each other more.

In love, these situations will happen often, and they are inevitable, and these times are emotionalIt's normal, feel aggrieved, feel sad, want to be coquettish to each other when you are happy, etc. But it should be noted that when there is a conflict or quarrel, although it will be very emotional, butDon't be overly emotional, don't say something hard to hear, irreparable words, etc.

--- rational time

There are also many needs in a relationshipRationalityWhen, for example, after a quarrel, the problem of facing a quarrel should beHow to fix it；When there is a problem in the relationship between two people, whether to stick with it or give up; At the end of college, one has to go to graduate school and the other has to workYesHave a long-distance relationshipStillOne accommodates the other; When you fall in love and are ready to get married, how to solve the problems of the house and car, what to do when you have something to do with your life and parents, etc., on these issues related to the future and development of two people, you mustThink rationally, two people wantDiscuss carefully and make a serious decisionOtherwise, it's easy to make a decision that you'll regret.

--- personal experience

I usually don't have a good temper, especially in front of my boyfriend, I will find him to comfort when I am wronged, I will ignore him when I am angry, and I want to share everything with him when I am happySmall emotionsI can express it very directly, and I don't need to hide myself all the time and feel uncomfortable, at this timeIt's very emotional。But encounteredSome questions, for example, about the future of two people, or some questions about learning, both of them willVery rational and seriousto discuss the best way to solve it. Dealing with it in this way will not hurt the feelings of two people, but also help two people to make better progress.

<> love is neededWell run

Love needs to be managed, which also means that it is also controllable, just with a lot of blood, in the end it became the first love. People are constantly growing and maturingYou will have a lot of people you like, and you will be heartbroken countless times, but liking does not mean that you have to be together, and heartbeat is not necessarily love.

Then the one next to you, why are you together, and why have you been together for a long time? These are all things that need to be done by two people who get along with each other, that is, from sensibility to rationality, and then be able to comprehensively adjust sensibility and rationality to make getting along more natural, more interesting, and happier.

First, the first sensibility

In the initial stages of love, you can be carefree, and it is estimated that you will not think too muchIt's okay to do something adventurous, romantic or boring, the important thing is that the two of you are together, which is also accumulating memories and laying a good foundation for a small life in the future. If you feel that your request is a bit unreasonable,Don't hold back, just say it, two people decide together, maybe the plan works, and your unreasonable request can also be a baby.

Of course, you also have to accept the other person's emotional decision, don't just look at yourself, empathize with what you have to do, or you can come up with some "bad ideas".Just do what you like. In short, if you are happy, I am happy, and if there are conditions, of course, two people are happy together.

Second, be rational again

In fact, according to normal time, when you play crazy for a while, you will naturally be tired, calm and quiet. Now the time has been given to you, calm down and think about the two of you, how is the run-in, the bottom line is in **, is there anything unacceptable?

People always have to reflectWhen you're emotional, you can ignore the big and small issues, but at this momentPeople who have time will think about this and that, which is also a manifestation of rationality, don't feel that you are thinking nonsenseYou have to understand that there is no wind and no wavesIf you have an idea, you have a problem, and if you have a problem, you can solve it rationally.

3. Balance between the two

When a relationship starts to flatten, you can start playingIf you are bored, you will be emotional, such as creating a little romance, or showing weakness and coquettishness, and being rational if you have a big problem, don't be impulsive, don't be cruel, push yourself and others, but don't compromise.

In fact, sensibility and rationality should be free, and sometimes it doesn't come naturallyDon't always think about how to deal with it emotionally and rationally, it will only get more and more troublesome, and you don't know what to do. Be yourself and play normally.

Most people will only get carried away for a while, at this time you just slow down, wait for those smart and wise to come back, don't resist, don't be hypocritical.