How to let others see their own strengths more deeply

What is the purpose of letting others see your strengths? To get praise? To attract others?

Or is it to improve your self-confidence? I think it's all very passive, passively letting others control your self-confidence, and I think it's going to get you into the next problem.

To communicate better with others, then learn to empathize, and consider your feelings from the other person's point of view, so that you will know what to say and what to avoid. And I don't agree with saying that if you treat each other with sincerity, you will definitely get a corresponding response, so don't always expect to leave a deep impression on others or something, so that you will be very relaxed, you will be at ease in a relaxed state of mind, your thinking will be quick, and everything will slowly change for the better!

Reading books will enrich your experience, but combining theory with practice requires your understanding.

I wish you a confident and knowledgeable person.

Your own advantages are not for others to see, but for your own survival, but your advantages can be recognized by everyone through your work and behavior.

The basis of dealing with others is sincerity.

Of course, one's good demeanor and habits are not to see that the bad is to make up for the evil, but to constantly exercise in life, summarize oneself, and be good at listening to the opinions of others.

First of all, please learn to overcome your own shortcomings or hide your shortcomings, otherwise no matter how good you are, others will only turn a blind eye.

Manifest in the bits and pieces of life.

1. Learn to think from multiple perspectives.

It is easy for us to see the shortcomings of others and turn a blind eye to the strengths. Therefore, avoiding a single inertial way of thinking and looking at others from multiple angles can often find the shining points of the other party, and even many shortcomings, from another point of view, it is the excellence.

2. Get along for a long time.

Don't just look at each other based on first impressions or one-sided relationships, but look at each other through long-term relationships and long-term observations, so as to have more opportunities to feel the other person's personality and discover the advantages of the other party.

Psychology in life: No one feels like they're wrong. If you tell the other person that ** is doing something wrong, he will definitely deny it or even go against you.

So, to make someone willing to do something for you, first put the other person in the right place, and then tell him "you can do better".

In other words, you must first affirm what the other party has done well, and then let the other party see his own shortcomings, so that he is willing to take responsibility for what he has not done well.

If we can put people in the "right" position, we can not only avoid a lot of unnecessary quarrels, but also make the people around us happy. The members of the team, your loved ones, and your children will also feel a sense of accomplishment, willing to take responsibility for them, and listen to your opinions. When the people around you take the initiative to take responsibility, you can enjoy life with ease.

First, make it a habit to see the good in others. If you are a mother, even if you see your child only score 60 points in the exam, you should tell him: "60 points, you have passed, it means that you have worked hard, but I believe that you can do better next time."

If you are a boss or a manager of a company, when your subordinate's performance is not good, you can tell him: "Your performance in the first few months is good, which means that you are a capable person." As long as you do it with your heart, I will burn the great faith that you will slowly come to the trillion!

Second, tell the other person that they can do better. Through the previous recognition, you have opened the "heart door" of the other party, and the other party is willing to listen to your opinions and requests. At this point, you can tell him that he could do better, or that he needs to do something.

Finally, you can start with something less difficult. We can train ourselves through WeChat Moments, you can give comments to your friends in Moments, give your friends affirmation and hope, and make the people around you feel accomplished. For example, you can comment like this:

Seeing you so busy at work, I really admire that you have such good energy! Or, "Today's ** is very good-looking, you are really a person who can live!" "If you develop this ability, you will find that there are many people who are willing to do things for you, and many people who are willing to follow you.

Many people find fault with others. And among the many picky people, if you can see the good in others and are willing to affirm each other, then you can easily attract everyone's attention. If you're the leader of a team, you can have more time for other things because your subordinates have already taken the initiative to help you get things done.

If you are an ordinary clerk, as long as you are willing to do this exercise, you will have a large number of supporters around you, and they will also get a sense of accomplishment from you. In time, you'll become a great leader.

In fact, everyone has advantages and disadvantages, which is already a well-known thing, but in fact, many people's advantages from childhood to adulthood are inconspicuous, and even many people do not know where their advantages are when they reach their 20s, but feel that they are full of shortcomings. There are two kinds of human strengths, some people have advantages in ability, some people have advantages in character, and usually the advantages of character are the most difficult for people to see, because you can never show your advantages by action.

Don't compare yourself with others and feel that you are worse than others, everyone is unique, you may feel that your strengths are worse than others and lose confidence in yourself, and get yourself negative energy.

Let me give you an example, if you are in the service industry, some people may be much more capable than you, can do good works and get recognized by many people, but you can't catch up with many people, you can do good works and get recognized by many people, but you can't catch up with others. Then you can think about your own character, and if you dig up the flesh of others later, then you can think about your own character, and it is possible that the advantages of others are better than you in ability, but your own advantages are better than others in character, then you can try to do everything more carefully and delicately than others to highlight your own advantages.

In fact, the advantages and disadvantages are not important, the important thing is that you only need to know what your shortcomings are from the mouths of others or your own perception of yourself, then you will work hard to improve your shortcomings, and the rest is your advantages.

There are many people who will say that whoever is born is the best material, yes, there is a genius, but genius will also have a lot of character shortcomings. This is not chicken soup, but the reality is that you must give yourself the greatest confidence to do what you want to do, so that you will find that your advantages will be more and more, in fact, you are not as bad as you think.