All the conditions are fine, but I can t find a girlfriend I like, what should I do?!

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Our colleagues have girls chasing me these days, I look pretty handsome, my family conditions are not bad, why can't I get a partner. My friend said that I was in too much of a hurry, and I felt the same, but this shouldn't be an important factor, or was my vision too high? I don't like chasing me, and I reject what I like.

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Toyoki Seko replied:

Men should get married, and women should get married. In many remote areas and rural areas, early marriage and early childbearing are still more popular, and the concept of starting a family first and then starting a business is deep-rooted. If you are in a big city, especially as a man, you will think more about working hard first and then going to plan your life's events.

As for why you can't find a girlfriend, to be precise, why can't you find a satisfactory girlfriend you like? Almost everyone will have this experience, and those who like them often look down on them, because most of the girls like them are relatively good, and those who have many suitors may not be able to get their turn; I like myself often feel not very satisfied, because the other party's conditions may be worse than their own, the so-called people go to high places, water flows to low places, people are always in such a more embarrassing situation. So, to find someone you like and who happens to like you is a bit like the probability of winning the jackpot.

It's hard to be in love.

So since it is so difficult, how to adjust yourself is the key. Some people would rather have less than abuse than lower their standards for choosing a mate, and some people have to lower their standards again and again in order to get married as soon as possible, and get married for the sake of getting married. If you choose the former, it may be more difficult and you will find the right person later, but it doesn't mean that you won't have the opportunity to show up; If you choose the latter, naturally that person is easy to appear, but even if you get married, it is possible that you are still not willing to be unhappy, because you always feel that she is not what you want very much, and it may bring hidden dangers in the future.

In addition, you should also examine yourself, whether you are too fantasizing or too ambitious, things are like people, people are grouped, is the type you want suitable for being with you? Sometimes, we just think she's good, but it may not be suitable for living together, love and marriage are two different things, you have to think clearly about what kind of life you want, and what kind of life can you provide for each other?

It may be that you are too eager to pursue love, which makes it difficult to meet a suitable girlfriend, and secondly, your requirements are too high, which will make the other party feel that they are not suitable

Because you think it's all for you and others don't, you're not good enough to attract the attention of others.

Because you have no responsibility, no responsibility, and no financial strength, you didn't find a girlfriend.

The vision is too high. The vision is too high, and I always feel that other girls are not worthy of me, so I will miss the marriage.

Find a girlfriend to have fate. Can't force it, as long as there is nothing bad in the family about the quality of the person, I believe you will find a good girlfriend 1 friend.

The reason why you can't find a girlfriend must be your own reason, self-examination to see if the positioning is too high, or you meet your favorite and do not take the initiative to pursue, the most important thing in interacting with people is to treat each other with sincerity. I wish you the happiness that belongs to you as soon as possible!

The main reason: the individual owns, the root reason: the heart of the ego. The combination of two causes is: the value of personal existence!

From the perspective of personal ownership: the derivation is broader and more refined, including yours, appearance, personality, wealth, height, knowledge, conversation, emotional intelligence, IQ, handling things, and family background. It's all the reason, maybe just because one of them is missing or inferior, you may not be able to find a girlfriend; Not to mention when all the factors are bad.

Self-view of the heart: Even if a man loses many of the above favorable conditions, it is not difficult for a man to correct his mentality, return to his true self and work hard, and live in the present to find a woman who is old and white. (Rick Hochul, the author of "Life Without Limits", used to be such a handicapped friend who did not meet the conditions, but he also found his love, his girlfriend, and now his wife.)

In a word, it is everything that involves the personal possession of this male friend. The heart is the first, the actual action is the first, and other conditions are supplemented. (Of course, if you go after a pure gold worshipper or something, you can only say that the money is done, and a man's other deficiencies or none, can be ignored.) ）

Best wishes to the friend who asked the question.

There are too few girls now, you haven't met them yet, maybe you're too introverted to talk to girls. When you meet a girl, you have to say what you like.

The reason why I can't find a girlfriend is that I don't have a car, I don't have a house, and I don't have a handsome person, in a word, I don't have money. If you have money, it will be natural.

Concern is that our country is facing a very important problem now, that is, under the influence of traditional thinking, we are now facing a situation where there are more men than women, and the ratio of men and women is very unbalanced. And the occurrence of this phenomenon means that many men cannot find a girlfriend. I once read such a passage on the Internet, there have been many men when others ask them what they want to find a girlfriend, they say that there are only two requirements:

If a woman lives, it's fine.

We all know that it is the responsibility of men to start a family and carry on the family lineage. It means that people have to get married when they reach a certain age, but in this era of imbalance between men and women, it is very difficult for some people to find a girlfriend, let alone start a family. In fact, have you found a very interesting thing, that is, some men can't find a girlfriend, and some men do change girlfriends one after another.

We can't rule out objective factors, but if we think about it, do we have problems with ourselves? I think most of the questions are the main ones.

1. Thin skin.

In fact, some men obviously like a girl very much, but because of their thin skin, they cause the girl they like to throw themselves into the arms of others. When you meet someone you like, you don't take the initiative and don't dare to say what you think. How can such a person find a girlfriend?

When we meet a girl we like, we must boldly say our thoughts, and we must take the initiative, after all, there is a good saying: the first strike is strong, and the second one suffers. If you don't take the initiative, the girl won't understand your mind, then you will only have unrequited love, you must be brave to take the first step, because only when you take the first step will you know the result.

Everything needs to be actively fought for. If you miss out on someone you like because of your thin skin, then you can only hide in the bed and cry secretly.

2. "Warm man".

The so-called warm man means that he is very good to all people and cares about all women, and such a man has an advantage that there will be a lot of friends of the opposite sex around him, but there will be no girlfriends. Because love is selfish, they both want their boyfriend to be good only to themselves, and if he is good to everyone, he will not feel special about himself over time, and he will not feel that he is special as his girlfriend. There used to be a very popular sentence on the Internet:

If what you give me will also be given to someone else, then I'd rather not. In fact, this sentence sums up everything about Nuannan. There are also too many friends of the opposite sex around him, which will make his girlfriend feel insecure, so friends of the opposite sex will only be friends with him, and they are not willing to develop into a relationship of lovers.

3. No money and no motivation.

In fact, all love needs a material foundation, because everyone wants to live a better life, we are not people who live in fairy tales, but real reality. Therefore, whether you are in love or getting married, you need a material foundation. But I think most women are not just money worshippers, they are not afraid that their boyfriends have no money, they are just afraid of their own boyfriends.

There are various reasons. Whether it's a work reason, or a family reason, or a personal reason. The reason for work refers to whether you have a job, whether you have a good job or not, and whether you have a good income.

Family reasons refer to whether the parents are in good health, what their income is, and what their personality is. Personal reasons refer to whether there are bad habits, how to talk and behave, how to behave, how to deal with people, and how to look. Judging from **, you look popular, not ugly, it shouldn't be a matter of appearance.

Is it because of poor words, or is there something about your personality and mannerisms? Is it due to family conditions, or is it work? Only by finding the cause, prescribing the right medicine, aiming at the problem, and improving it, will it be solved.

The main reasons: 1, you are not good enough, you are not rich enough, and you are not potential enough. (Root cause) 2, it is not good to be too rigid in interacting with people, and it makes girls feel too cowardly and introverted. Interacting with people is too lively and jumpy, which makes people think that your personality is not stable enough.

3, you can't get too high-minded, if you don't look back, maybe some female classmates like you.

Guidance: Read more books to improve your inner self.

When interacting with people, be steady.

The main reason is that there is not enough money; The root cause is still not enough money.........Just kidding! Not everyone looks at money!

The devil knows, how can you find out the main cause and root cause with just one avatar? Maybe fate has not arrived, don't rush it.

Here are a few reasons why.

First, I am more introverted. I don't like to talk, I won't take the initiative to chat, second, I haven't met a good girl, I still have feelings, and third, I don't pay enough.

The main reason is that there is a serious imbalance in the ratio of men and women in China, and on the other hand, it is difficult for people with poor economic conditions and no stable income to find a girlfriend.

The main reason is that some additional conditions are not enough, and the fundamental reason is not to dress up and whether you are physically and mentally healthy.

The main thing is that there is no money, and it can only be for this reason ...

Low self-esteem, I won't take the initiative when I meet a girl I like, so where is my girlfriend.

The fundamental reason for not finding a girlfriend is not only the appearance but also the personality and other reasons, if you lower the requirements, or you take the initiative to communicate with others, etc., it is easier to find a girlfriend.

The main reason why a guy can't find a girlfriend is because of his personality and financial ability.

Maybe the way you date girls is wrong, some girls like the type that shouldn't be you. When you meet a girl you like, start talking with the basics, and don't be too eager to express your heart.