Is it difficult for mother in law and daughter in law to get along, or is it difficult for concubine

Updated on society 2024-05-14
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  1. Anonymous users2024-02-10

    I feel that in terms of the comparison between the two, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more difficult to get along with, and there is a sentence that can be used here: good is the small era, and bad is Zhen Huan's biography, because these two relationships are problems left over a long time ago.

    My grandmother just looks down on my mother a little, because my mother comes from a poor family, even if she gave birth to my brother, she can't get a little relief, but my grandmother is still very good to my brother, because my dad is the youngest, my grandmother was born when she was in her 40s, and she is considered to be an old man, and my dad has a brother and four sisters, which is a relatively large family, but she is only dissatisfied with my mother, and I don't know why I look down on it.

    My grandmother is a strong person, so everywhere is aimed at my mother, my mother is also heartbroken for this family, but still can't get my grandma's approval, when it comes to I have an aunt, she has never been said by my grandma, because her family is relatively wealthy, and is also relatively arrogant, one is her appearance, the other is her character, no one can be better than me, so my grandma will not look at her unpleasantly, even if she is dissatisfied, she will not say it clearly, she will tell my uncle. Therefore, it is not okay to say that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is only one person who compromises everything, both parties have to compromise, and they can only get by with one eye open, and I admire those good mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law who have a good relationship, and it is for this reason that the relationship between my sister-in-law and my mother is very good, and it can be regarded as having nothing to say.

    When I was young, I didn't know things, and when I grew up, my mother told me that my grandmother once went back to her parents' house angry, and my grandmother didn't allow my dad to look for it, or my grandfather called my mom back, and my mom had no one to complain about but to talk to me, and I understood my mom better, and I couldn't tell my dad about it, so I could only tell me, so I made up my mind to find a boyfriend on the premise that he had to have an empathetic mom.

    As mentioned above, my aunt is a relatively strong person, so she always shows off the clothes or things she bought in front of others, intentionally or unintentionally, and my mother will have different differences with my aunt on some issues, but my mother is a more honest person, so she will not compete with her for you to be high or low, so there will not be so many problems, and naturally there will not be a big problem between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

    So the conclusion is that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more difficult than the relationship between concubines. I can only support this relationship, my mother-in-law is not a mother, so don't pray that she will treat you like a mother, it's best not to make mistakes, everyone likes to listen to good words, so try to say good things, praise your mother-in-law more, have a little eyesight, see what to do and what not to do, this will alleviate the misunderstanding between you, but it still depends on personal practice.

  2. Anonymous users2024-02-09

    The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law and the relationship between concubines can be said to be two very important relationships in interpersonal relationships. These two relationships can be said to have had many influences throughout the ages. It has directly influenced some aspects of Chinese culture.

    And now, these two relationships are still very common but important in every family. If these two relationships are not done well, it will directly lead to the breakup of the family, so the importance is self-evident. But from ancient times to the present, many families will stage mother-in-law and daughter-in-law wars and concubine wars.

    Of course, there are good mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who care about and have a relationship with each other. Therefore, it is necessary to deal with these two relationships. But in this process, there is a problem, that is, it is difficult for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along or for concubines.

    For this problem, I will make an analysis below.

    I think the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more difficult than that of a concubine. First of all, the contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is one person, the father's son. Both of them are vying for the love of a family master.

    But between the concubines, the contradictions have less in common, which is nothing more than fighting for the family's property, but with the improvement of people's living standards, this issue is not important.

    Second, secondly, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law spend a long time together. This lays the groundwork for possible contradictions. Because most of the time mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will live together, there are inevitable conflicts.

    And because the concubines have their own things to do, there are few opportunities to meet, so there are many fewer contradictions.

    Third, it is a problem of concept. The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be said to be two generations, so the concepts will be very different. One is a person from the old era, and the other is a person from the new era, and they must have different views on things when they deal with others, so there will be a lot of contradictions.

    However, the age gap between the concubines is generally small, and the way of looking at the problem is similar, so there will not be many contradictions.

    The above are the three aspects I listed, from these three aspects, we can see that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is more difficult than the relationship between concubines. I hope you can pay more attention to it in the future.

  3. Anonymous users2024-02-08

    Love me, it seems that mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are difficult to get along with. It's not as difficult as the one between the shafts. Because you still have a certain relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and there are at least two outsiders between the main forces.

  4. Anonymous users2024-02-07

    I don't think it's very difficult to get along with, as long as you get along with them with sincerity, then they will know your sincerity and treat you with their own sincerity.

  5. Anonymous users2024-02-06

    In fact, I think it's more difficult for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along, because after all, they don't always have contact with each other.

  6. Anonymous users2024-02-05

    This question must be the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law! If you don't get along, you can stay away, but it's impossible for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law! Anyway, it's also an elder, a person who raised her husband! As long as the mother-in-law is not too excessive, I think a sensible daughter-in-law will generally be humble to her mother-in-law!

  7. Anonymous users2024-02-04

    Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are difficult to get along, what does it have to do with the concubine, not all of them are in the same hospital, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not good, so they will split up and stay away from them.

  8. Anonymous users2024-02-03

    It's hard to get along with the seat, and it's hard to get rid of beating you, and it depends on the specific situation.

  9. Anonymous users2024-02-02

    There are also relationships such as eldest sisters and sisters-in-law who are not easy to get along with, and it is very easy to get along with each other without involving the money of the elderly

  10. Anonymous users2024-02-01

    There are two husbands and brothers, and the eldest brother is five or six years older than us, so we are more decent than them in all aspects of marriage, and this is the bane!

    My sister-in-law is a more powerful person, I just don't say anything, and I don't have a temper, I joked with my husband before marriage, "I will definitely not be able to play her in the future" My husband said that I didn't talk to her again, and the relationship between concubines and concubines is not so important!

    She has not had a good relationship with her mother-in-law, and I have heard that she has fought with her mother-in-law or something, she always dislikes her mother-in-law for being dirty, not liking cleanliness, and doing things that are not pleasing to the eye! also said that the in-laws are oriented towards the younger son in everything.

    She is out of town, and the wedding room is in his mother's house! We both worked in other places and shared a house together, and she took the children to school at her parents' home. Maybe it's really my little heart, his brother lives with us here alone, sometimes he eats at my house, occasionally it doesn't matter, but often I will be unhappy, although I am unhappy, I am also the kind of person who can't speak, only sulk, will nag with my husband.

    My husband said to his brother, "It's troublesome for you to eat alone, so you can give 300 a month to buy vegetables, eat here" The eldest brother said that my cooking was not to his taste.

    Last year, my sister-in-law came to take the child for the summer vacation, and his youngest son always bullied my girl, so I scared him and said, if you beat my sister again, I will beat you, and then her sister-in-law said that I yelled at his child, and then I cried, I was quite useless, and then I ignored my sister-in-law anymore.

  11. Anonymous users2024-01-31

    Of course, it's difficult for the concubines to get along with each other.

  12. Anonymous users2024-01-30

    The mother-in-law relationship is the most difficult relationship between family members. If you want to maintain the harmony of family relations, you must handle the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law well. ......In the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, both parties will think that they are the weaker party, but in fact, this issue cannot be generalized.

    Specifically, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law must be analyzed from three aspects: the family status of both parties, the voice of both parties in the family, and how many supporters both parties have.

    1. Judging the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law needs to be analyzed from the family status of both parties.

    Judging who is stronger in the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law needs to be analyzed from the respective status of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in the family......Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the party who is in a higher position than the scumbag is bound to occupy a stronger position in the relationship between each other, so the other party becomes the weaker party, so that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are in a weak position.

    2. The right of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to speak in the family also determines the relationship between each other.

    The key factor that determines a person's status in the family is their right to speak. ......The party with a higher voice will have more advantages in their interactions with each other, and the other party will also become the weaker party, and once the two sides have a conflict, the weaker party will be hurt more. ......In real life, it is generally the mother-in-law who has a higher right to speak, so most daughters-in-law will be in a relatively weak position.

    But there are also some daughters-in-law who are very strong, so that the mother-in-law is in a weak position.

    3. The number of supporters of each mother-in-law and daughter-in-law ultimately determines the status of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

    Although family members are generally close, there are differences in the level of support between each other for various reasons. ......Relatively speaking, the party that can get more support will be more advantageous, and when there is a conflict between two people, it will be more powerful. ......The other side will become a weak existence because there are fewer supporters, and when there is a conflict, it will be more vulnerable to Liang Jue.

    As for who will be the weaker party between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, there is no fixed answer, it all depends on the specific situation of the individual.

  13. Anonymous users2024-01-29

    In my family relationship, the relationship between my daughter-in-law and in-laws is the most difficult to close to each other. However, in many families, the daughter-in-law and the in-laws get along well because the daughter-in-law and the in-laws can respect each other, tolerate each other while reserving differences, and can resolve conflicts through communication. 1. The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can live in harmony because of mutual respect.

    The mother-in-law and daughter-in-law were not originally a family, and it was indeed difficult to get along like a biological mother and daughter. ......However, this does not mean that it is impossible for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to get along well. In fact, as long as the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can respect each other, they can achieve a harmonious coexistence mode.

    In today's life, those mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law who respect each other and respect each other can get along like biological mothers and daughters and achieve a harmonious relationship.

    2. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can tolerate each other, seek common ground while reserving differences, and close the bridge to live in harmony. It is very normal for mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to have a gap in the year and a difference in their concept of life. ......However, if not properly handled, this difference has the potential to affect the relationship between the two parties.

    Therefore, in order to achieve the goal of harmonious coexistence between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is necessary to tolerate each other and seek common ground while reserving differences, which requires both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law to respect each other's differences and retain their own views, so as to achieve a harmonious relationship and intimate coexistence. 3. Resolving conflicts through negotiation and communication is the key to harmonious coexistence between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. For mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, it is normal for some conflicts to occur between each other, but if the conflicts cannot be resolved well, the relationship may not be harmonious with each other.

    Therefore, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should have contradictions with each other.

    Only by adopting communication and consultation can we effectively resolve the contradictions, so as to achieve a harmonious relationship and a state of harmonious coexistence. ......This is a key factor in getting along with mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and it must be done if you want to get along with each other like a biological mother and daughter.

  14. Anonymous users2024-01-28

    1.Both mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are in a passive state.

    Between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, one of the two people must take the initiative first, if both people are passive at the beginning, then the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is difficult to handle. The key to handling the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is to take the initiative. When she first became a family, her mother-in-law felt that her daughter-in-law should take the initiative to please herself, and her daughter-in-law felt that she should marry into the man's family and be loved by her mother-in-law.

    Only if the mother-in-law loves herself, she will take the initiative to give to her mother-in-law. The starting point of the two people is not good or bad, but they ignore the most important point in the relationship, that is, the initiative. If both people are waiting for the other to show affection, then such a relationship will be difficult to sustain.

    One of the most important reasons for a bad relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is that everyone is not active, and being too passive and unwilling to give is not a way to increase feelings. Only by treating each other as a family and not caring who pays first, can the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law be harmonious.

    2.Treat the other party as an imaginary enemy.

    Many mothers-in-law feel that the existence of their daughter-in-law is to rob their son of love and care for themselves, so they are always hostile to their daughter-in-law, thinking that their daughter-in-law is here to collect debts. Once the mother-in-law has such an idea, she naturally treats her daughter-in-law with no good face, but she ignores that love and family affection are not the same thing. A daughter-in-law is not an enemy, she will not snatch your son, on the contrary, as long as you treat her well, you will have one more person who is filial to you.

    And daughters-in-law are often afraid that their husband's love and dedication will be shared, so they have no good impression of their mother-in-law. In fact, these problems do not necessarily exist, and most of them are just subjective thoughts. If they all regard each other as imaginary enemies, then the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will not be handled well.

    3.I don't understand the importance of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

    Many mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law feel that since the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is so difficult to handle, then simply don't deal with it, and it's okay to go with the flow. All those who think that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can be okay without dealing with it are always unhappy in the end because they ignore the importance of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. Not understanding the importance of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the beginning of unhappiness.

    The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an important part of family relationships. The quality of the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will only directly affect the relationship between husband and wife and the relationship between mother and child. If you want a harmonious family and the man you love the most to be happy, then you should handle the relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.

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