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Meeting is not just about whether to accept or not to accept money...
First of all, ask your boyfriend about the general personality characteristics of his parents, and it is best to bring two gifts to the two elders when they meet.
Second, pay attention to your dress, don't be too fancy, revealing, and it is best to be a lady.
After all, the older generation is more conservative and likes virtuous and dignified daughters-in-law.
Third, when you meet, you must bend down and call your uncle and aunt, so that it can reflect you.
He is a good boy who is polite and respectful of his elders.
Third, pay attention to your words and deeds, smile more, don't speak too loudly, and shout more during conversations.
Uncles and aunts, be sure to address each other with "you", greet the elders about their physical condition, or others.
situation, but don't dig deeper, otherwise the other party will think that you are looking into the bottom of the house.
The most important thing is not to be too close to your boyfriend in front of his parents, the elders are the most.
I was taboo about this.
Fourth, seeing that parents can't avoid having to eat together, at this time, wait for the elders to sit down before you sit.
Let the other person order first, if the other party insists on letting you order, you have to ask the other person what he likes to eat, and then order according to what he says, and say that he basically eats and is not a picky eater. Give it to the other person at the right time.
Use chopsticks to pick up the dishes.
Fifth, when you say goodbye to them, say that uncles and aunts should pay attention to their bodies, you have to work too hard.
I will visit my home when I have time in the future. If necessary, send the elders to the car, wave goodbye, and leave only after the car is out of sight.
About Elder Gift-giving:
If you give money, you have to excuse yourself a few times, and say that we should be the younger generations to honor you, how can we ask for your money? You take the money, and I get the heart of you and your uncle (usually the man's mother gives the money). If the other person is very firm, take it and say thank you.
There are very few things to give, and it is usually money. If it's clothes or something, you must excuse yourself first, then accept it, and thank the other party.
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I think you can accept it, how to put it, in terms of our customs, parents will always give something when they see their girlfriend for the first time, if you don't want it, then your parents will tell you to leave the girl, which means that the woman's family does not accept the pursuit of my man's family. So I still hope that you will accept it well, not to mention that you are not a money-greedy girl, and it is not said that you must marry him after you accept it.
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Don't let people think that you elevate yourself to sell, you don't know how to be interesting!! If you want it, say a few nice words like thank you. It's good, but if you want it, it doesn't mean that you are greedy for money, and it doesn't mean that you have to marry that man!! There is a lot to learn about getting along, get used to it first and take your time.
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Relax, that's how it all comes.
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Many girls will suffer from gains and losses in the face of love, worrying about this and worrying about that, and always feel insecure. When I meet my boyfriend's parents for the first time, it doesn't matter if the other party likes me or not, what matters is how sincere my boyfriend is to him.
1. Parents are not the key When a boyfriend can bring himself home to meet his parents, he must hope that his girlfriend will be recognized by his parents, and hope that the two of them will have a good result. Generally, you can reach the point of seeing your parents, and you will only see your parents when you consider getting married, which shows that your boyfriend really likes you. In fact, it's okay to be yourself, whether the other party's parents like it or not is not the most important thing, because in the future, it is you who live with your boyfriend, not with his parents.
Second, love is the dedication of two people, and the boyfriend who brings him to see his parents is a respect for himself and an emphasis on this relationship, so he will take it home. Love is a matter of two people, as long as you like each other enough, you will overcome all difficulties. Many times parents think about things from different angles, but they will respect their children's choices, as long as two people are sincere, then there will definitely be good gains.
3. Have confidence in love, boyfriend's parents like you and deserve to be happy, but don't be discouraged if you don't like yourself, after all, the other party doesn't know enough about you. If you love your boyfriend, you should choose to believe in him, believe in the relationship enough, and face it together, so that you can overcome the difficulties. Love that has experienced wind and rain will make people know how to cherish it more and make people happier.
Love is a matter of two people, don't think too much about other things in love, many times everything falls into place. The opinion of parents is not important, as long as the individual is firm enough, it will infect parents, parents are not rigid people, they all want their children to be happy, we must always believe that happiness will come.
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If you encounter this situation, you should take the initiative to ask your boyfriend, who will tell each other whether his parents will like him, either directly or indirectly.
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If the other person's parents are particularly enthusiastic about you, it proves that they like it very much, and if they are cold, it proves that they hate it.
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The first time you meet your boyfriend's parents, then you can see the attitude of his family towards you. If you go to your boyfriend's house, his parents show a more enthusiastic attitude, which means that they like you.
You can also ask your boyfriend for his opinion afterwards.
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You just need to do what you have to do and be dignified and generous. A gentle way of communication and strive to show the best side of yourself. Don't care if your boyfriend's parents like you or not, just do a good job.
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It's just the first time we've met, and they're just looking at you and won't disagree with you or dislike you, so you can rest assured. If you're really worried, you can also ask your boyfriend later, ask him? What do your mom and dad think of me?
Do they agree that they can ask their boyfriend privately, and the other is that they should take the initiative to be diligent for the first time, to clean up the dishes and chopsticks, and wash the dishes, although they won't let you wash them, but this attitude is to have.
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This can be seen, if you go to the woman's house, her parents are cold and indifferent to you, ignore you or have a bad face, etc., you are not satisfied, and you think that it is okay for your father-in-law to nag and drink with you.
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Don't worry too much about this, because since your boyfriend has asked you to meet his parents, it means that his parents also agree, so you just have to go with the flow and put your mind at ease.
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What if I see my boyfriend's parents for the first time, and I don't know if the other party likes me, does that represent his business, do it well? You are the first and the most deeply responsible for love! I'll just fill in the gaps.
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No matter what attitude the other person has, you are going to meet anyway. Don't be too formal. Be generous and natural, and what is is what it is.
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Don't worry about whether the other person will like you, just be your true self. Don't push yourself too hard, even if others don't like it.
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Ask your boyfriend directly, if your boyfriend is very hesitant and his eyes are flashing, it proves that he doesn't like it.
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The boy takes the initiative to see the woman's parents.
1. He is anxious to settle down with you.
Generally speaking, the boyfriend is anxious to see the woman's parents, which means that the girl is very important in his heart, and he is eager to carry out the next step of development with the girl, and may want to marry the girl and start his own small family as soon as possible.
2. I want to know about your family situation in advance.
It is also possible that the boyfriend is in a hurry to see the woman's parents and just wants to know the girl's family situation in advance, so as to plan ahead, in case your family really makes him feel bad, then he may take corresponding measures.
3. Being urged to marry.
In addition, the boyfriend may be being urged to marry by his family, so he is forced to ask the girl to meet his parents in order to fulfill his parents' wishes.
2. What does the boy want to see the woman's parents represent?
1. The man is very casual and thinks that it doesn't matter if he meets his elders.
Many post-90s boys think that meeting their parents is a very ordinary thing, and they think that they can meet each other's parents even if they are ordinary friends, which is just to meet their uncles and other characters, just to respect their elders, and does not represent their own position.
2.I really like the woman and want to get married.
He really wanted to meet the woman's parents and wanted to get their approval as soon as possible. He will show some traces of love for the girl in front of the woman's parents, and he doesn't mind letting his parents see it, because he knows that when the parents see him treating their daughter like this, they will feel more comfortable giving their daughter to him.
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If your boyfriend isn't doing well with your parents for the first time, here are a few things you can consider:
1.Understand the reason: Find out why he is not performing well, whether it is because of nervousness, discomfort, or something else. If he is not behaving well because he is nervous, comfort him and tell him that it is normal.
2.Communication: Communicate openly and honestly with him, asking him how he feels about the meeting and if he has any concerns or questions. Let him know that you are willing to help him and offer advice and support.
4.Ask for advice: Ask your family what they think about your boyfriend's performance and listen to their advice. If they make some constructive suggestions, you can share them with your boyfriend and help him improve.
5.Be patient: Change takes time and effort. You need to give your boyfriend some time to adapt and improve his performance. If he really wants to improve, you should give him support and encouragement.
Ultimately, the key is to communicate openly and honestly with your boyfriend and work together to improve his performance.
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You don't need to be too nervous, you don't need to be too pretentious, just show yourself, because if they don't even accept the most real dispersal of you, how can they accept you in disguise? Remember to understand the most basic etiquette and etiquette, don't be too lazy, don't be too restrained, be natural, don't go with the empty in your hands, buy a little more, as for what to buy in the mess, you have to discuss it with your husband, ask your boyfriend, if his parents don't like it.
Behavior, those behaviors must not be done, remember to smile more, but to laugh to the limit, not to make them think that you are too cold, and not to make them think that you are impetuous, that's all, right? It should be fine.
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Yes, there are more opportunities in the future, so take your time and change it
Nor can your parents conclude based on this contact alone.
But as you said, there is a difference between the North and the South. But in fact, what parents are most concerned about is whether they can take care of you in the future, so that you will not be angry and live happily. So, as long as you can find a way to let your parents know that he can do this, then it's not a big deal.
After all, the rest of life is still a matter for the two of you. Of course, you must honor your parents and respect them, when your parents are happy, your marriage will be happier!
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