Talk about how to save a boy with low emotional intelligence?

For example, if a girlfriend has a temper tantrum because of one thing, at this time, many people will follow their own emotions and have to reason with their girlfriends, which means that they will not give up and will not be flexible, because women are emotional animals. They don't like to listen to big truths, what they care about is your attitude, if you quarrel with her, if you win, she will only get more angry and exacerbate your conflict, and a man with real emotional intelligence will do this at this time. Say a few words to coax girls, and then send a few innocent emojis, at this time, even if the girl wants to trouble you, she can't find a point to quarrel with you when she sees your attitude, and then say a few jokes, and the atmosphere between the two people will naturally be good.

When your girlfriend is happy, come and tell her about the previous incident and be reasonable, at this time the girl will be easy to accept, this is the difference, because a person with high emotional intelligence knows his purpose very well. It's to relieve your girlfriend's antagonistic emotions with her, not to quarrel with her.

To improve emotional intelligence, I think the first thing is to learn to control your emotions, a person who can't even control his emotions, how high is his emotional intelligence? The second is to empathize more in ordinary times and put yourself in the shoes of things or people. Reading more books (this is not a joke) is really useful, and some good books really help to improve emotional intelligence.

Improving oneself requires organizational skills (which is also important), and a person who can talk, obviously his emotional intelligence is already very high. It is difficult for many people to do this perfectly, but sometimes you can see or hear something from the words and deeds of many people.

I have a friend, he was chasing a girl at that time, and the girl had a good impression of him, and once the three of us had dinner together, and I went to talk to the girl while I was chatting. My friend used to do some more powerful things, and then praised others for being very good, very good to friends, and very caring, and used to help some stray kittens and puppies. As a result, the girl had a good impression of her friend, and after eating, her friend said to me, yes, thank you for helping me so much today, a friend like you is really worth making, he is very happy and I am also very happy.

Because I've developed this habit, as I've said before, my mom has always done this, learning to say good things about others behind their backs, learning to satisfy other people's vanity and emotions. This will make your popularity very good, see it, this is the wisdom of getting along with people, easy to understand.

Perceiving the emotions of others: This is the trait of high emotional intelligence recognized by many people, that is, empathy, which is very prominent in the ability to pay attention to the behavior of others, and at the same time perceive the feelings behind their behavior, and make the most appropriate behavior for this feeling of others. Dealing with interpersonal relationships:

When the ability to manage one's own emotions and sense the emotions of others is perfected, it is much easier to manage interpersonal relationships, because it means that you begin to enter the stage of the ability to regulate the emotions of others, and the ability to regulate the emotions of others is the core of interpersonal relationships.

When you want to speculate about other people's psychology, just put the same event on yourself and see if you will be happy or angry, this is universal thinking. Human beings are all "more or less the same", with most of the things in common, but also some of the differences. The universal thinking of "do unto others as you would have them do unto you" can help you solve most interpersonal problems in the simplest steps, while for each different person, you need to "observe more, summarize more".

Emotional intelligence is really not something you can improve by reading a book and listening to someone talk about it. Only when you have experienced it yourself and learned a lesson, can you realize it and slowly improve. This requires empathy and the ability to constantly reflect.

Otherwise, some people will find their own problems after experiencing the same thing, and they will be able to realize that they should change. Some people just think it's someone else's fault.

I have seen many people who are gentle and polite when dealing with outsiders, giving people a very comfortable feeling. But when he returned home, he treated his family unreasonably, yelling, as if the whole family was the biggest, and there was no filial piety at all. People with real high emotional intelligence regard family affection as a hundred times more important than everything in the outside world, and can still take into account the feelings of their family members when dealing with their own relationships with their families.

I think that's something that a lot of people don't do.

Many people think that people who are sleek, outgoing and humorous are people with high emotional intelligence, but in fact, they have a great misunderstanding of emotional intelligence. It's great to be able to adapt to your surroundings and be flexible, but it's really emotional intelligence to be able to make people feel honest while being tactful.

Emotional intelligence is the ability to manage emotions, and there are many books about this in bookstores.

To put it simply, there are only two aspects to controlling your emotions: one is to use your body to control your emotions. The second is to use the focus of consciousness to control emotions.

Now pretend that you are a very confident person and observe what changes are made in your body, and this is the basis of control. Winners use their bodies to control their moods, while losers do the opposite. ]

The focus of consciousness is where your brain's thoughts lie. For example, when something bad happens, do you forget the many good things around you?

And have you ever had a little happy thing that made all your unhappy things disappear? Our brain is like a camera, if you focus on the good things, your mood will be good, if you put it on the bad things, the mood will naturally be bad.

It is really not easy for boys to improve their low emotional intelligence, after all, this is nature, but as they get older, they can improve a lot with more and more energy things. But it can't be done quickly.

Guys can use these 6 tips to improve their emotional intelligence.

1. Listen more and talk less: In fact, in the process of communication, listening is more important than expressing, many times, interpersonal relationships are not harmonious, or family relationships are not harmonious, because we do not listen carefully, but blindly blame and express. A true master is one who listens more and speaks less, and will speak carefully, and once spoken, it will be crucial.

2 More praise, less right and wrong: There is also a high performance of emotional intelligence, that is, everything is more positive and less right and wrong, many people like to talk about people behind their backs, which will make internal relations tense, and everyone will guess each other in gossip. And the more we praise others, it will make people like us more and make our relationship better.

3. Read more and precipitate: Reading more will allow us to improve our thinking, so that we can grasp the balance in expression, communication and getting along with others, and it will also make us become a person who is good at observing and thinking. It allows us to see the story behind each person, and we understand others.

I remember that in the first year of junior high school, my emotional intelligence was a bit low, my memory was often poor, and I couldn't remember the language I memorized, which led to my poor academic performance. It wasn't until I passed a 'Tesla Potential Course' that allowed me to develop my wisdom that I was in a better situation. It has awakened my IQ, I am no longer sleepy in reading, and my academic performance in all subjects has improved.

These experiences may help you, and I think you can achieve your goals too, don't give up!

1. Learn to forgive.

For some words, it may hurt you intentionally or unintentionally.

If it doesn't really touch your bottom line, you should learn to forgive, turn a blind eye, and pretend not to understand.

Improving endurance is a necessary quality to improve emotional intelligence.

2. Learn to be calm.

When your emotions are a little out of control, you can choose to leave or pause the conversation, and try to calm your mind by taking deep breaths and exercising.

Only by controlling one's emotions is the key to improving emotional intelligence.

3. Learn to listen.

Many people, the reason for low emotional intelligence is mainly because they can't learn to listen.

Because only by being good at listening can we understand the true intentions of others, grasp the hearts of others, and know what the other party likes to hear the most and what the other party really needs.

4. Learn to be tolerant and accept some innocuous criticism.

When you learn to be tolerant and be able to accept some criticism, your emotions will not fluctuate much, and you will not be able to act impulsively.

It is very important to have a tolerant heart.

2. Don't be a good person: We must have a certain bottom line to do things, we don't need to be a good person, things prove that such people often live unhappy!

3. Do things in order: remember not to do things irregularly, we must do the important things that must be done first, so as to be able to give others a sense of stability.

Boys have low emotional intelligence, so they should read more useful books, get out more, get in touch with society more, and socialize more!

Low EQ is a very disappointing thing, but people's habits are like this, if you can't change it, you can change it, and if you can't change it, there is no need to change it for others, and go your own way.

3. Hello, low emotional intelligence, do the following things can be improved, self-motivated.

In normal times, you have to give yourself confidence and have confidence in yourself, and you can do a lot of things well. Don't always feel that you can't do this way, that you can't do that badly, it will hit your self-esteem.

4. Learn to read all kinds of hints.

Generally speaking, people with high emotional intelligence can read other people's emotions or other people's hints in a short time, so learn to let yourself know how to express themselves according to their body language and expressions, especially when discussing family work with others, don't let yourself be open-mouthed and have something to say.

5. Read more.

Reading more books can improve your emotional intelligence, and when you don't have to work or have free time, you can let yourself read for half an hour, so that you can accumulate language, and learn some knowledge from books, so that your emotional intelligence can gradually increase.

6. Have more contact with happy people.

Generally speaking, happy people's emotions are in a peaceful state, they are not easily affected by negative emotions, and they can also transmit happiness to others when they are socializing with others, so they should let themselves have more contact with happy people in normal times, so as to improve their emotional intelligence.

I think this is a difficult problem to solve, just like saying that a person's personality is difficult to change! It is impossible for others to teach him to increase his emotional intelligence!

Learn from respected people, learn from their excellent morality, learn from books, learn from colleagues in the unit, learn from the society, first consider from the perspective of others when encountering problems, and then consider your own feelings, after exercise, I believe that your emotional intelligence will be high! Come on!

That's if you haven't met the right person, you can also have high emotional intelligence when you meet it, but it's not that sweet words can talk or anything, but the details.

Talk more, practice more, learn more speaking skills from others, and you can participate in more parties and socialize more.

Learn more, get in touch with people with high emotional intelligence, and learn their way of doing things.

If you have low emotional intelligence, you can read more books to improve your emotional intelligence.

1.Empathy.

People with high emotional intelligence are always able to take care of everything and take care of everyone's feelings, and the reason why this can be done is empathy.

Everyone is from a different perspective, from a different position, so they have a different perspective on things. Only by empathizing and standing in the shoes of others can we understand others more clearly.

Especially in front of girls, most of the boys suffer because they don't understand girls and are often rejected.

Many times, thinking from a girl's point of view can find a lot of mistakes and avoid too many detours.

When a boy is able to understand the "empathy" way of thinking, that is, empathy, he transforms his "original fixed thinking" into "girl thinking". It is equivalent to being able to see through the "woman's heart", which is of great help to boys chasing girls.

2.Compliment others.

Many people ignore the value of language. The ancients said: "Good words are warm in winter, and bad words are cold and hurtful in June." "People with high emotional intelligence are good at complimenting others, and this praise is sincere from the heart.

Especially girls, they like to listen to sweet words, usually don't be stingy, praise her more.

3.Learn to listen.

Listening is the act of respecting others, listening is the premise of better communication, and listening is the best way to communicate between people.

People with high emotional intelligence are good at listening, listening to what others say, listening carefully to what others say, listening more and watching more, rather than talking about themselves.

Talking to a girl, you have to lead her to say, listen, and the more she reveals to you, the more naturally you will get to know her, instead of constantly looking for topics.

4.Stay in a good mood.

People with high emotional intelligence maintain a good mood every day, get up every morning, give themselves a smile, cheer themselves up, say the best, say the best, and the friends around them love them very much.

A good mood can infect others, especially girls, who are easily influenced by you and have a good impression of you invisibly!

1. Learn to be respectful and patient, always know how to cherish the people around you, and be patient enough with anyone, which is the reason why they have super good interpersonal relationships.

2 know how to tolerate others, especially those who care, no matter how much he wants to defend himself, he will also retract words that may hurt the other party.

3Learn to love yourself, and when you are in the worst mood, you will still eat on time, add clothes, and still love yourself. 1. Control your emotions, know yourself, and think twice before you do things and speak.

2. Learn to praise others, be warm and respectful to people, transmit positive energy, communicate calmly with people, and make people feel polite and comfortable.

3. Read more books and summarize more, you can list the things in your life that consume your energy, and then solve them one by one.

4. Learn from people with high emotional intelligence, and when you are confused in your own life, you should calm your mind and think before doing things.