Is it better to work with your heart? Handling of contradictions

The root cause of your situation is a lack of self-confidence. Don't force some things, manpower is exhausted. Zhuge Liang is a talented person, but he is not successful in everything. Don't put too much pressure on yourself, it's up to people to make things happen.

Of course, planning first and then doing it is a little slower. But that's right. Do more naturally, and you will get better and faster.

That's the result of you caring too much about the problem, a sentence called "planning is in people, success is in the sky", no one can predict what kind of changes will be in the end, as long as you take a good step by step, don't care so much about the result, it should be yours after all.

Relax! Don't have too much pressure, just relax on the weekend, don't always stay in a depressing atmosphere, watch movies, listen to **, go for a walk or something is good! Better be in a good mood!

If you ask this question, you won't believe it yourself, so let's talk to a professional psychological counselor.

There is nothing difficult in the world, only afraid of those who have a heart.

Let's take a sentence to illustrate, it may be easier to understand a little: "Serious work can only do one event right, and only by doing things hard can one thing do a good job"!

So what is the difference between "seriousness" and "intentions"?

Seriousness can be understood in this way, when things appear, we have the ability to solve things! It is a thing that can be done beautifully according to its characteristics, in accordance with the process, and in accordance with the standard!

But what should I do after the thing is done, is it all over? The perfect result of this thing needs to be completed by all links, standards, and processes in the middle, and who will maintain it after it is completed? So as to achieve this perfect standard no matter how much time passes!

So this requires "heart"! Take a long-term view and regard the later maintenance of this matter as a topic that must be overcome!

In order to solve this problem, we must convey our process awareness and standard awareness to everyone, so that everyone has a flawless maintenance consciousness for this matter! No matter ten days, half a month, half a year, or a year--- this thing has always been in a perfect state!

Unless there is --- innovation in this matter

Focus, do not be distracted, start and finish well, even if there are difficulties, do not be afraid of difficulties, do not complain, use known favorable conditions and resources, transform unfavorable factors, coordinate various relationships, unite the surroundings, and create good conditions for doing things. Even if you don't succeed in the end, you can say to yourself that you have worked hard and tried your best, and you have a clear conscience.

Take this to heart and think that it is the most important thing.

Keep your mind clear when doing things! Do things with questions, think with your head, and use your heart!!

It is suggested that there are three points, one is to pay attention to observation, two is diligent in thinking, and three are persevering.

It means always being serious and persevering to the end. There is ( ) There is ( ).

There is a (beginning) and there is an (end).

Are you interested in learning to dance? In fact, as long as you focus on one thing, even if you are distracted, it is easy to adjust. And if you want to concentrate on one thing, you have to be fully interested in that thing, think about the fun when you dance, think about being beautiful when you dance, in short, make yourself like dancing, and that's it.

Think about why you want to do it, so that you can pay attention to it, make things interesting, and increase your interest, I think practice makes perfect, and take more time.

Use her as air, and she'll be out of gas in a few days! Eat when you should eat, drink when you should drink, play when you should play, and have fun every day. That's how I treated my little sister, and she was honest in a few days!!

Turn a blind eye.

You're older than her after all.

Or your relatives are too nice to you.

He may have been jealous.

So don't take it personally.

Hehe, brother, to be honest, I sympathize with you, it is really helpless to have such a quirky cousin, you know, she is still young, and she is not sensible, alas, let her do everything, and when she is tired of playing, she will know to stop when she is tired of playing, and give full play to the tolerance of our men, so that your mother and they will also think that you are a sensible child.

Ignore her and don't talk to her no matter what she does!

After a few days she'll be bored

You're so cute, and so is your sister. Your family should be having a good time. Get along.

What to do if you don't have to do things --- develop perseverance and overcome inertia.

Perseverance refers to the ability to overcome difficulties with perseverance and perseverance in action. People with good perseverance qualities are able to persevere in activities, do not hesitate, do not waver, do not stagnate, and start well in the face of difficult and difficult conditions. Persistence is very important in daily study and life, it is not difficult for people to do something, the difficult thing is to persevere in doing it, "people are precious and constant" is said to be this truth.

The anticlimactic phenomenon that often occurs in daily life is a manifestation of lack of perseverance. If you want to succeed, you can't do it without persistence, and only by persevering to the end will victory be yours. Here are some ways to develop your perseverance.

1. Be good at cultivating, protecting, and using existing learning interests. Interest can stimulate your enthusiasm to participate in activities and prompt you to show greater willpower in activities. Therefore, add interest and vividness to the activities and learning content, and carefully design activities and learning methods, such as games, competitions, performances, quizzes, storytelling, etc., so that the learning and activity process itself can attract you, which can promote them to do something well.

2. Identify specific, achievable goals. The goal is the desired situation or standard, which restricts the direction of behavior. For himself, only specific and feasible goals can motivate him to persevere in achieving this goal.

The so-called specific goals refer to what should be done and how to do it, and the goals and requirements must be clear. The so-called feasible goals mean that the goals set should be suitable for your age, experience, and ability level, and can be achieved through your own efforts, that is, the goals should not be set too low or too high. When they accomplish a goal, the joy of success will strengthen their entrepreneurial spirit, arouse their enthusiasm to determine the next goal, and thus develop the habit of continuous improvement.

3. Learn to self-monitor. It is necessary to be persistent in a certain activity and rely on one's own conscious behavior, so it is necessary for oneself to learn to check and monitor whether oneself is working towards the set goal. To learn to self-examine and self-supervise, you can start with the teacher's inspection and encouragement, for example, after determining a certain activity or a certain goal with others, check your own completion every day, and let them self-evaluate, encourage their good performance, and guide them to correct if they are not doing well enough.

After that, you can draw a self-appraisal for them**, let them score the completion of the learning plan, good behavior habits, certain activity goals, etc., and regularly hand over the self-appraisal form to the teacher, so that parents and teachers can understand and praise their conscious behavior, and check their self-supervision. Only after learning to self-evaluate and self-supervise can we urge ourselves to persevere in engaging in certain activities.

This is a psychological problem, and the fastest and most effective adjustment method is professional psychology, through professional psychology, which can make the person concerned concentrate and dedicate himself to work.