After a month of breaking up in a long distance relationship, my heart still hurts

Because you're so young, that's why you don't understand so much.

If you think about this relationship 10 years later, you will definitely explain it like this.

Let an outsider tell the reason: Quite simply, you are not true love.

True love is not so simple, it is a very suspenseful, very difficult, very dependent on fate and character.

Actually, there are so many things that can tell you, but then it's not interesting.

A lot of things, a lot of feelings, to be experienced by oneself, summed up is the most meaningful.

Think of it as a lesson, and you'll figure it out in the near future, absolutely.

But what you need now is to find a place to cry or find someone to talk to (which you have already done), and you do it right.

You and your girlfriend are in a different distance and don't have any mutual friends, so you will find out that this is a very fortunate thing in the future.

First love is unforgettable. It's a factI've been in a long-distance relationship for more than 5 years, almost 6 years. There is no talk of getting marriedAnd you'll forget about him slowly. You'll start to like other girls.

I also have a girl who I love as much as you do, and she can be said to be my real first love, and she is very dependent on me. After half a year with her and half a year away, I missed her more and more. But feelings are not unilateral to give, without good feelings, if you are bored, you can't do anything!

It is said that the strength of love is inversely proportional to time. Long-distance relationships can be very painful and discouraged from relationships. Consider it! (Look).

It's another road, and there is no one at the end....I'm afraid that I will continue to be blind like this, without a goal, without a dream, everything will seem so natural and logical. I don't know if this is ordinary. I didn't want my feelings for you to become a burden and a hurt, so I chose to be submissive and obedient to all your arrangements.

God has given us the opportunity to fall in love, but why did I have to go through so many tribulations. But I didn't know that I was about to be tested, and the years of tempering made me almost unconscious. Love that used to be so weak should not have been made hastily decided, so now I almost have no faith in love.

It's only been a month. It's been more than 4 years.,I haven't looked for a partner yet.。。。

In either case, the biggest threat to intimacy is usually derived from the word "long-distance", so what are the specific reasons for breaking up?

1.Separation anxiety triggers a lot of negative emotions.

Many people will have a certain amount of separation anxiety when facing separation, which is actually a huge negative energy, which will be quickly transmitted to the other party through words, writings and other channels, bringing great pressure to the other party. And this kind of pressure often becomes the last straw that crushes the emotional camel.

So where does this separation anxiety come from? In fact, this thing has to do with the family of origin, and it depends on whether you have formed a healthy dependency relationship with your mother before the age of 3.

For example, if your mother is by your side every day before the age of 3 and gives you enough companionship and protection, then this kind of person's separation anxiety is relatively weak, because his own psychological safety factor is very high, and he will not resist and fear separation.

On the other hand, if your life is turbulent before the age of 3 and you have fewer opportunities to meet your mother, such as common left-behind children, divorced parents, etc., then this kind of person is very prone to separation anxiety, because he does not have a sufficient sense of security, and the distance will stimulate his negative emotions such as uneasiness, loss, and anxiety.

Therefore, for couples who are not long-distance at first, but later develop into long-distance couples, emotional pressure often becomes the essential reason for the breakdown of the relationship.

2.The lag in information exchange cuts off the channel of empathy.

What do we say is the biggest problem posed by being off-site? It's a communication problem. On the one hand, the exchange of information is not timely enough, which often produces lag; On the other hand, I don't have time to participate in your life, and you don't have a chance to get familiar with my life, and in the long run, the communication between the two sides is less and less on the same channel.

Take my own relationship as an example, when I was in a long-distance relationship, my ex and I were in a different city, and we only saw each other once in three months. Sometimes she texts me and I'm in a meeting, and by the time I come home in the evening and remember to reply, she's already asleep, and we always argue about it for a while, and she thinks I don't care enough about her, and I think she doesn't understand me.

Later, the two of us agreed to concentrate the communication time until 9 o'clock every night. It was really good at first, and the relationship eased a lot, but after a long time, it slowly became speechless, do you understand?

It's just a few words back and forth, what you eat, what you eat, whether you're busy today, whether you're tired or not, and if you talk about other topics, the other party can't get your point, because he didn't participate in the things you said, and he didn't understand.

Then the phone call was like completing a task, I could feel that we were both actually quite tired, but neither of us was willing to give up, what about six years, are you willing to change you? But in the end, she still proposed to break up, and to be honest, I actually had a hunch for a long time.

It is this kind of untimely communication that completely cuts off the empathy channel between two people, and I especially want to understand.

Of course you will be sad, unless you have a new love, you won't be sad.

As long as you really love each other with your heart, then the breakup will be sad, of course, if you don't love each other to the heart, you won't be sad.

<> separation of a long-distance relationship should be a little better than the separation of those who are often together, delete any social interactions, and eliminate all information about him. If you have time, you can go out with your girlfriends, and if you want to play, you can talk to your friends. In a word, avoid being alone and spend a month or two.

I'm two people who are often together, and I really have his shadow everywhere. There is a shadow of his concern and consideration in life, a shadow of his answers at work, and a shadow of his company when he goes out, which takes more time to come out! Life still has to live, life has to go on, instead of wandering in the past and being sad, it is better to enrich and improve yourself, you become better, and you will meet a better TA in the future.

I think the most important thing is to really see and let go of this thing in your heart. I think it's a better way to write down this experience, the time and details of the two people together, and the emotions of falling out of love. Although it can be painful to recall all the good things together again in the process of writing, you can face and sort out your emotions.

It is also a summary and farewell to this relationship. You can also write a letter to the other person that will not be sent out as a closing ceremony.

Time is the medicine for everything. Some pains and memories, if there is enough time, will indeed be calmer, and some will go through a long process. You still have to learn to come out of it yourself and take it as a process of your own growth.

Anyone who falls out of love will hurt, mainly depending on how the individual adjusts his mentality, and what about the pain? Will life take special care of you, or will she change his mind? Or is it that I have arranged one for you immediately, everyone has a growth process, that is, a book, only these kinds of joys, sorrows, and sorrows are intertwined, is a complete life, there is no perfection in life, only no regrets, so learn to control yourself, this is the best way out.

Any kind of separation in love is painful! To truly get out of a broken love, then learn to let go and adapt slowly. No matter how beautiful and tangled the past was, it ends with a breakup now!

Even if we are very reluctant, reluctant, and even cruel, we must face reality! That's the reality. May the beauty of each other remain in the memories forever.

There is an option to find a new partner. Only in this way can we get out of the pain as quickly as possible. And you can also make your emotional life relatively satisfied.

You can communicate more with your friends to distract yourself, or you can let yourself focus on your career, so that there is no time to suffer.

Divert your attention and focus on work, or you can go out to travel and relax, and start a new relationship as soon as possible.

When you are separated, you must tell yourself that the current separation is for the next reunion, and in this way you can hint at yourself, believing that you will not feel particularly sad in your heart.

You can do things that you are more interested in, and when you can be particularly fulfilling, you will definitely not have the time and mind to think about such things, and it will definitely be alleviated.

True love can't be alleviated at all! Every time I am separated from my boyfriend at the train station, it is very uncomfortable, and if I really want to alleviate it, I will try to change the status quo and end the long-distance relationship.

We can divert our attention and devote ourselves to the work, so that we don't have so much energy to think about it.

Yes, long-distance relationships can be very painful, long-distance relationships will lack trust, lack understanding, lack of tolerance, and eventually break up.

It will indeed be very painful, it will feel more difficult, it will take a lot of energy, and it will take a lot of time to maintain the relationship.

Yes, because two people often don't see each other, they will miss each other very much, and it will become very painful.

A long-distance relationship can be a bit painful, first of all, two people can't see each other every day.

But due to the fact that it is now sold by Huaizhou for a lot of work reasons, or there are some people like soldiers who have a long-distance relationship, but as long as you communicate well, the long-distance relationship can also be successful.

Anyone who has experienced a long-distance relationship knows that long-distance relationships have some sadness and pain that they don't know for an eternity. The most painful thing is the loneliness in the heart, sometimes it feels like a long-distance relationship is like talking about a fake love, there is no warmth of wind and snow, no company after tea and dinner, no low and lost relief, no sad and sad hug. can only bear all this alone by looking at the ceiling, and many times the long-distance couples are more like Tu has a reputation as a non-single dog, but lives the life of a single dog.

Obviously, a hug can solve the problem, but the reality is that people are very fragile when they are sick, and when one party is sick, the other party cannot be by their side. Give her enough warmth and care, you can only remind him to pay attention to his body by **, drink more hot water, and go to the doctor if it is serious, and there is nothing he can do if he is anxious, after all, far water can't save the near fire, and he can only say some self-comforting words. Since she chose a long-distance relationship, Nahaibi expected that this situation would happen, and no matter how painful it was, she had to hold on.

Boys are most afraid of girls crying, in one sentence it means that you don't cry, because I can't hold you, I hate myself for having more than enough heart and not enough strength, so I can only secretly vow to work hard, give the woman I love a stable future, and end this painful long-distance relationship as soon as possible. A long-distance relationship is like a mirror, two people are obviously separated by a screen, but they can't touch each other, this kind of sadness and helplessness is really unbearable and makes people want to cry. Long-distance relationships are more dependent than others, mobile phones or computers can often only express their lovesickness to each other through the Internet, tell their grievances, share the pressure of their life and work, and hope to convey happy things to each other through the screen.

I hope to share this joy with each other.